My manager carved a special niche for me... and now I’m not liking it. How can I have a productive conversation about my expectations while acknowledging that he went out on a limb for me?
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posted by anonymous
on May 15, 2013 -
5 answers
I'm looking for insight about what is reasonable or "normal" expectations for a temp worker in an office situation.
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posted by Ouisch
on May 8, 2013 -
22 answers
I'm graduating college, but it hasn't gone 100% how it should have. I struggled both academically and mentally (have been getting help for both, but it's a process without any "magic bullet"). I have had a lot of pressure from all sides of the family to go into medicine, but I have to see how it is first (through an internship). How do I confidently defuse their nagging questions and bring them back to reality?
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posted by anonymous
on May 7, 2013 -
19 answers
Help a gal get some perspective on a relationship that ended as quickly as it began. Things were going very well, I thought we'd spend V'day together, then was disappointed when he was very wishy-washy with plans. It ended up in a huge, unnecessary fight. I'm still having lots of trouble getting past the fallout. Where do I go from here? Wall of text inside.
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posted by couchtater
on Mar 12, 2013 -
25 answers
What are the healthy and fulfilling expectations of what a relationship should be and do for you?
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posted by yeahyeahyeah
on Nov 25, 2012 -
8 answers
Let's say I'm a 5'5", 230lb female. Let's say tomorrow, I start eating very healthy and working out 4-5 times a week. How much can I expect to lose and what physical changes can I expect to see by the end of the year?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 19, 2012 -
55 answers
"You deserve better"...say my boyfriends. What's up with this trend? And if/since that means they won't do it, how can I actually
get better treatment?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 19, 2012 -
119 answers
How did you handle new expectations for checking and responding to your work e-mail outside of normal business hours?
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posted by FishBike
on May 27, 2012 -
30 answers
Help me find an article I only vaguely recall. It involves sailing and unrealistic expectations of travel.
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posted by MillMan
on Apr 8, 2012 -
3 answers
I am so wrapped up in a depressive period, being self-absorbed, self-pitying, self-loathing, that I cannot figure out the fair way to handle this situation, and I need input that I can't get anywhere else. I keep seesawing between feeling completely put-upon and exploited, and then feeling that I am being infantile, lazy, self-indulgent, and irresponsible. I can’t get a realistic hold on the situation.
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posted by primate moon
on Apr 7, 2012 -
46 answers
I'm female in my mid-twenties and due to circumstances have been a late entrant into dating. I've been out with several guys (ages 27 - 33) and am trying to get a better handle on how quickly things move forward in terms of physical/sexual. So while every guy, girl, and experience is different, could someone share what they might consider standard in their experience? I'd be curious to know what peoples' typical natural progressions are (for a person they're dating, not a hook up) in terms of the steps, not necessarily timing. For instance, do you generally do the first base/second base/third bases in order?
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posted by sowrite
on Nov 26, 2011 -
32 answers
I’m a 28 y/o woman who has finally found someone that I admire, who loves me dearly, and isn't a huge pain in my ass --and I'm hoping to make this last! Please help me to not ruin this wonderful thing!
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 30, 2011 -
16 answers
How do I deal with an expectation of perfection at work while receiving little constructive feedback?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 16, 2011 -
13 answers
Yes, sure I'll play piano at your wedding. But now it's a week before the wedding and changes have been made that I'm not musically capable of handling! What do I do?
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posted by kataclysm
on Jul 27, 2010 -
43 answers
How do I motivate myself when studying for my college exams, when all I can think about is not disappointing people?
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posted by anonymous
on May 18, 2010 -
7 answers
I'm having major problems with my girlfriend of 2 years. I want to work through my share of issues but I'm afraid that she won't see or do her part. Is there a way to explain these issues to her without hurting her?
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posted by cman
on Jan 29, 2010 -
32 answers
As a 30-year old who is a part-time grad student and a full-time office worker, are my goals to get control over my life (weight loss, finances, home, work, etc) really unrealistic? Is there a way to just be NORMAL and balanced, or is it really just normal not to really have things together, even as an adult?
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posted by dumbledore69
on Nov 13, 2009 -
27 answers
Please help me nip another parental failing in the bud. I want help my children be more responsible.
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posted by Fairchild
on Sep 21, 2009 -
34 answers
Parenting techniques, insight, and maturity needed before I completely ruin my kid's life.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 8, 2009 -
36 answers
Five interviews in a three weeks...no offers...Am I doing something wrong or is it 'the market'?
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posted by lslelel
on Aug 1, 2009 -
22 answers
I've been dating my current girlfriend for 6 months, recently moved in together (my lease expired and I was at her place all the time so it seemed natural) and we are both early 30's.
As in any relationship, over time things have popped up. Theres been a few things I've raised that she has dissmissed as me being unrealistic about what I should expect.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 15, 2009 -
55 answers
How can I learn to deal with disappointment in a healthy, adult way? or: Help! My boyfriend's babymama is ruining my life!
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posted by kerfuffled
on Dec 26, 2007 -
37 answers
seeking Source for quote - something like 'Beyond Expectations to Surprise'. A friend reports reading some sort of personal growth book with a section or possibly a chapter on this topic. A long time ago. She has no idea of the title or author. It's been a powerful idea for both of us. What's the book? Many talk of letting go of expectations, but moving to surprise?
posted by judybxxx
on Oct 11, 2007 -
2 answers
SlaveryFilter: My girlfriend is attending "mandatory" dinners with co-workers every week, which eats up her entire evening! She isn't being paid for her time, how is this legal?
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posted by emptyinside
on Jul 11, 2007 -
35 answers
