We dated for quite a while, but it didn't work out and we've ended up as good friends. But now I'm entering a serious relationship for the first time since it ended, and the shift in my attention seems to be rattling her. How can I handle this gracefully?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 12, 2012 -
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Some twenty years ago, I fell pregnant and had an abortion. Now my former partner has contacted me wanting to know more details.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 6, 2012 -
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Someone I dated years ago obsessively visits my blogs and leaves messages. The messages aren't threatening, but they're starting to annoy me. Can I do anything about it? Should I?
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posted by anonymous
on May 21, 2012 -
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I think I need to tell my ex-FWB that I can't hang out with him anymore. I do, right? How do I... do that?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 29, 2011 -
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Should I tell my (potential) new boyfriend about my marriage and divorce? Or can I keep this secret like I want to?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 28, 2011 -
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Help me understand my boyfriend's reaction to this relationship issue. While you're at it, help me figure out mine. I'm desperate.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 13, 2011 -
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Why does my girlfriend still mention her ex-boyfriend and the life they shared together?
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posted by anonymous
on May 30, 2011 -
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Practical advice for dealing with jealousy towards one particular person? Or, how does one move from love to friendship? Sorry, whole plate-o-beans inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 28, 2011 -
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Why won't my ex talk to me? And how can I be okay with this? Give me
insight based on your experience.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 15, 2010 -
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At baseline, I'm terrible with keeping in touch even with uncomplicatedly good friends. This situation is far from uncomplicated, though.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 9, 2010 -
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My girlfriend feels sorry for her ex. He contacts her several times per day, she replies because she feels sorry for him. I am paranoid... should I learn to relax?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 7, 2010 -
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Before my now-boyfriend and I decided to go exclusive, we had a long uncommitted period where we were just besties who had great sex. At the time, his other flings and involvements didn't bother me. Now that we're actually together, I am retrospectively jealous. Very jealous. How do I overcome my jealousy and lack of trust?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 25, 2010 -
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My ex-boyfriend is moving out of the state and things feel unresolved. I don't want to regret not expressing my thoughts, but am worried my unloading on him pre-move is unfair.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 4, 2009 -
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Last night my girlfriend became moderately upset with me because I didn't want to meet her ex-boyfriend. So what?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 28, 2008 -
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How do you ween yourself from fantasizing about an ex? I'm a twentysomething female who was in a long distance, long term (4+ years) relationship that recently went sour. Basically, the biggest problem had to do with sex (I still wanted my partner but he apparently lost interest in me physically). Now, I'm good when it comes to making a clean break in the manifested-social-interaction sense; I don't stalk or google exes or call them up randomly just to be "friends" or initiate contact ever after break ups. But in this case, I can't stop myself from wanting this person in my head. When I daydream/fantasize sexually, he is always my partner and everything is what I wished it had been but wasn't in the last month or so of our relationship. I would prefer it if people offered me constructive ways to stop doing this rather than telling me I should just accept it--it is painful for me and I just want to move on through and through, inside and out. Dating (rebounding to forget him) isn't really the answer either--I have made a well-thought-out decision to remain single for a while as I get myself together on my own terms. I'm hoping there's something besides just the whole "time heals all wounds" adage that can help me get through this.
posted by anonymous
on Nov 8, 2004 -
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