Join 3,425 readers in helping fund MetaFilter (Hide)

25 posts tagged with exes and relationships. (View popular tags)
Displaying 1 through 25 of 25. Subscribe:

The ex is reaching out...

A few years ago, my ex started avoiding me due to his new girlfriend not being okay with us hanging out. We have a lot of mutual friends, and this created a very awkward social dynamic for the last three years. He recently reached out to me via email and I'm not sure how to respond... [more inside]
posted by ohmy on Dec 13, 2013 - 32 answers

By the way, I have a new boyfriend

Ex is now a neighbor and attempting to establish civility...how to let him know I'm happily in a new relationship? [more inside]
posted by Valkyrie21 on Sep 23, 2013 - 23 answers

Is continuing to sleep with an ex ever not a bad idea?

TL;DR: The guy I'm dating non-exclusively is still sleeping with his ex. I can't decide if this is a red flag or not. For the record, I have been the one insisting we keep things open. [more inside]
posted by krakenattack on Feb 28, 2013 - 36 answers

Like the old Twinkie mystery, but with sex.

Got a message out of the blue on a social network the other day from an ex; mentioned it to my partner (we're both big believers in transparency when it comes to random messages from exes) and we're each taking a different read from the message, so we figured we'd turn to the hivemind for input. [more inside]
posted by MarchHare on Jan 10, 2013 - 60 answers

How to preserve my friendship with an ex now that I'm involved with a new person?

We dated for quite a while, but it didn't work out and we've ended up as good friends. But now I'm entering a serious relationship for the first time since it ended, and the shift in my attention seems to be rattling her. How can I handle this gracefully? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 12, 2012 - 39 answers

I broke up with him years ago, but we stayed friends for the dog.

Please help me to break up with someone I've already broken up with. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 5, 2012 - 43 answers

Did I make a mistake in how I handled this?

Help me understand my boyfriend's reaction to this relationship issue. While you're at it, help me figure out mine. I'm desperate. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 13, 2011 - 34 answers

Boyfriend reconnecting with an ex, good or bad idea?

My boyfriend is catching up with an old girlfriend and I want to be okay with it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 4, 2011 - 37 answers

Abandon ship, once and for all, or fight for what I have?

Seven months ago I cheated on my partner. Six months ago I came clean to him. Three months ago we broke up. This past week we have begun to spend some time together, and I feel like we both reached a breakthrough last night. Am I crazy to have this renewed faith in/willingness to work for our love? Do I need to finally let it go? Much more inside. [more inside]
posted by fignewton on Apr 21, 2011 - 23 answers

Would you like to be friends again?

How (and should) I platonically re-connect with an ex? [more inside]
posted by ohsnapdragon on Apr 11, 2011 - 22 answers

Friends with your ex?

Why is being friends with your ex supposedly a good sign to future dating prospects? [more inside]
posted by DisreputableDog on Feb 20, 2011 - 65 answers

Green eyed monster strikes again

Practical advice for dealing with jealousy towards one particular person? Or, how does one move from love to friendship? Sorry, whole plate-o-beans inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 28, 2011 - 8 answers

Friendly? Sure. Friends? No thanks.

My ex wants to be friends. I don't really. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 13, 2010 - 41 answers

My girlfriend contacts her ex every day

My girlfriend feels sorry for her ex. He contacts her several times per day, she replies because she feels sorry for him. I am paranoid... should I learn to relax? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 7, 2010 - 56 answers

How do I overcome jealousy and lack of trust in my relationship?

Before my now-boyfriend and I decided to go exclusive, we had a long uncommitted period where we were just besties who had great sex. At the time, his other flings and involvements didn't bother me. Now that we're actually together, I am retrospectively jealous. Very jealous. How do I overcome my jealousy and lack of trust? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 25, 2010 - 13 answers

Do I tell my ex how I feel?

My ex-boyfriend is moving out of the state and things feel unresolved. I don't want to regret not expressing my thoughts, but am worried my unloading on him pre-move is unfair. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 4, 2009 - 24 answers

Should I be jealous?

Relationship Filter: I dated this guy for a month. We broke up a few weeks ago mainly because I am moving this summer. We have overlapping friends and hang out at the same places, which was fine until last week. He hooked up with a girl that I also know. Since we aren't together, I really don't care, but I think he does. Am I wrong not to be jealous? [more inside]
posted by xyla2000 on May 7, 2009 - 26 answers

How do I deal with my ex-boyfriend's (who I dumped) new girlfriend being everywhere?

I dumped my boyfriend about a year ago and even though things are amiable, I can't help but be annoyed by his new girlfriend. We haven't ever had a conversation, but for whatever reason, it boils my blood to see her all over Facebook, tagging him in photos and friend-ing all of our mutual friends. I don't think this is jealousy, but I'm not sure how to deal with my absolute annoyance. Is this normal behavior?
posted by patientpatient on Feb 16, 2009 - 38 answers

Exes and D'ohs.

Last night my girlfriend became moderately upset with me because I didn't want to meet her ex-boyfriend. So what? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 28, 2008 - 30 answers

Post-Breakup Friendship Battles

My girlfriend of four years broke up with me. We're stuck in the same small clique for a while. How do I manage to still see all of our mutual friends? Do I just give up on seeing "her" friends? [more inside]
posted by FuManchu on Dec 3, 2006 - 21 answers

Should I give back a ring that my ex's mom gave me?

Relationship Etiquette Filter: I had forgotten that I still have a gift that an ex's mom gave to me several years ago. It supposedly had sentimental value, and I feel weird about keeping it. Will I offend by trying to return it? Oh boy, there's way [more inside]
posted by wejones on Aug 16, 2006 - 43 answers

Let's not be friends

My ex-boyfriend wants to be friends. I don't. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 29, 2005 - 22 answers

Breaking the news to your ex(es).

What is the kindest way to tell an ex (or exes) that you've gotten married? [more inside]
posted by veronica sawyer on Mar 31, 2005 - 16 answers

Fantasizing About an Ex

How do you ween yourself from fantasizing about an ex? I'm a twentysomething female who was in a long distance, long term (4+ years) relationship that recently went sour. Basically, the biggest problem had to do with sex (I still wanted my partner but he apparently lost interest in me physically). Now, I'm good when it comes to making a clean break in the manifested-social-interaction sense; I don't stalk or google exes or call them up randomly just to be "friends" or initiate contact ever after break ups. But in this case, I can't stop myself from wanting this person in my head. When I daydream/fantasize sexually, he is always my partner and everything is what I wished it had been but wasn't in the last month or so of our relationship. I would prefer it if people offered me constructive ways to stop doing this rather than telling me I should just accept it--it is painful for me and I just want to move on through and through, inside and out. Dating (rebounding to forget him) isn't really the answer either--I have made a well-thought-out decision to remain single for a while as I get myself together on my own terms. I'm hoping there's something besides just the whole "time heals all wounds" adage that can help me get through this.
posted by anonymous on Nov 8, 2004 - 28 answers

Friendship with an Ex?

Friendship with an Ex? (added wrinkle: 17 year age difference, and of course, more inside) [more inside]
posted by amberglow on Oct 22, 2004 - 16 answers

Page: 1