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How do I move on from a bad relationship?

I split up with my horrible ex two years ago and on paper my life is pretty good now, but he still lives nearby and I'm in a constant state of panic about bumping into him and still a complete emotional wreck. How do I move on with my life and stop caring? [more inside]
posted by intensitymultiply on Jun 18, 2015 - 26 answers

Married and having dreams about exes. What to do?

My partner is having mental health problems that prevent him from being a full partner to me right now. I don't know if it's causal, but for the last several months I've been having dreams of (and thinking about) a specific ex. What does this mean and how should I deal? Complications inside. [more inside]
posted by sockmeamadeus on Apr 11, 2015 - 25 answers

Struggling with myself, my feelings, and how to do life

I'm doing everything they say to heal and move on, to get your life together. I try to be as social as I can with good friends who understand the situation and am focusing as much energy into work and school. I'm afraid of burnout though and how to unravel these emotions when I'm lying awake at night and questioning if I did the right thing? [more inside]
posted by lunastellasol on Jan 6, 2015 - 7 answers

OK to ask out someone you know through an ex?

I like a boy. I'm pretty sure he likes me back. Great, right? There's one problem: said boy is someone I know through an ex. Is this ever OK to pursue? [more inside]
posted by Sara C. on Sep 30, 2014 - 28 answers

How do you deal with seeing your ex with their new lady/dude?

Me and my ex are still friends, we still talk and we're friendly with each other but he never gave me a reason not to be anyway. We just started talking again a few weeks ago after being broken up for 2 years. [more inside]
posted by earthquakeglue on Sep 17, 2014 - 22 answers

Break-up apps that keep you from looking at exes on Facebook/Instagram?

Does anyone know of an app (or apps) that block you from looking at a particular Facebook page, or a particular Instagram feed? I've heard of Break-up Apps that recently have come about where you can 'erase' someone's photos, tags, etc. from your Facebook, as if they were never there, and I also know of chrome extensions which block you from a site altogether, but I can't find a good app that blocks only a particular PAGE on the site (i.e. www.facebook.com/ex'susername). I would like to be able to continue being 'Facebook Friends' with an ex, as not doing so will be disruptive. I also need to use Facebook for my job. I've already blocked them from appearing on my newsfeed and in chat, but I can't seem to stop myself from, fairly regularly, checking their Facebook page, or their Instagram feed. Any good solutions you've seen online? If not, I may have to team up with a programmer to create one because I think it'd be a very useful service! I sure could use it ASAP.
posted by anonymous on Aug 2, 2014 - 4 answers

Was I out of line in having this conversation during a bachelorette?

Friend invited her ex-boyfriend to her bachelorette event. During the event, he revealed to a few of the attendees that he still has feelings for her. Bride became angry at each of us for indulging in this conversation. Was I out of line? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 25, 2014 - 31 answers

Do I apologize, or do we all just pretend this NEVER HAPPENED?

I "met" an internet friend over the weekend who it turns out is someone I actually dated in high school. I am really embarrassed and hate that I've been an accidental jerk, and I'm not sure what to do now. You know, other than feel like kind of an idiot. [more inside]
posted by Narrative Priorities on Apr 7, 2014 - 48 answers

The ex is reaching out...

A few years ago, my ex started avoiding me due to his new girlfriend not being okay with us hanging out. We have a lot of mutual friends, and this created a very awkward social dynamic for the last three years. He recently reached out to me via email and I'm not sure how to respond... [more inside]
posted by ohmy on Dec 13, 2013 - 32 answers

By the way, I have a new boyfriend

Ex is now a neighbor and attempting to establish civility...how to let him know I'm happily in a new relationship? [more inside]
posted by Valkyrie21 on Sep 23, 2013 - 23 answers

Is it reasonable to want my money back?

My ex-partner owes me about two grand. Should I walk away from it? [more inside]
posted by Pomo on Mar 12, 2013 - 38 answers

Is continuing to sleep with an ex ever not a bad idea?

TL;DR: The guy I'm dating non-exclusively is still sleeping with his ex. I can't decide if this is a red flag or not. For the record, I have been the one insisting we keep things open. [more inside]
posted by krakenattack on Feb 28, 2013 - 36 answers

Like the old Twinkie mystery, but with sex.

Got a message out of the blue on a social network the other day from an ex; mentioned it to my partner (we're both big believers in transparency when it comes to random messages from exes) and we're each taking a different read from the message, so we figured we'd turn to the hivemind for input. [more inside]
posted by MarchHare on Jan 10, 2013 - 60 answers

Long distance relationship with unattractive boyfriend who knows too many people from my past

How do I get over the fact that people find my boyfriend unattractive, how can my boyfriend and I make our long-distance relationship more romantic and interesting, and how do I deal with/get over the fact that he knows people from my past that I wish I didn't ever have to run into? [more inside]
posted by lilacp on Aug 10, 2012 - 43 answers

Makeout Romance to Friend Zone--Do I go to party now?

Should I go to a party even though I've been downgraded to "friend zone"? [more inside]
posted by LemonGardot on Jul 13, 2012 - 37 answers

How to preserve my friendship with an ex now that I'm involved with a new person?

We dated for quite a while, but it didn't work out and we've ended up as good friends. But now I'm entering a serious relationship for the first time since it ended, and the shift in my attention seems to be rattling her. How can I handle this gracefully? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 12, 2012 - 39 answers

Was this behaviour inappropriate?

Some twenty years ago, I fell pregnant and had an abortion. Now my former partner has contacted me wanting to know more details. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 6, 2012 - 75 answers

Am I being overly sensitive about an ex visiting my blog?

Someone I dated years ago obsessively visits my blogs and leaves messages. The messages aren't threatening, but they're starting to annoy me. Can I do anything about it? Should I? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 21, 2012 - 23 answers

I broke up with him years ago, but we stayed friends for the dog.

Please help me to break up with someone I've already broken up with. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 5, 2012 - 43 answers

The longest cat and mouse game

He's not over his ex. I suppose I just have to go away and wait to see if he ever pursues me... [more inside]
posted by GIRLesq on Feb 19, 2012 - 39 answers

Walking away?

I think I need to tell my ex-FWB that I can't hang out with him anymore. I do, right? How do I... do that? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 29, 2011 - 15 answers

When is it okay to keep the baggage in the bag?

Should I tell my (potential) new boyfriend about my marriage and divorce? Or can I keep this secret like I want to? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 28, 2011 - 53 answers

Did I make a mistake in how I handled this?

Help me understand my boyfriend's reaction to this relationship issue. While you're at it, help me figure out mine. I'm desperate. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 13, 2011 - 34 answers

Boyfriend reconnecting with an ex, good or bad idea?

My boyfriend is catching up with an old girlfriend and I want to be okay with it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 4, 2011 - 37 answers

Mawage. Mawage is wot bwings us togeder tooday

What would be a good poem/saying/verse for a little boy of 8 to read at the wedding of his dad? Mom is trying to help but is stumped. [more inside]
posted by momochan on Aug 17, 2011 - 8 answers

How do I get my engaged ex to leave me alone?

My engaged, passive-aggressive ex continues to contact me, and I continue to let him. Help me cut him off for good. [more inside]
posted by anotheraccount on Jul 1, 2011 - 38 answers

Is she really over him?

Why does my girlfriend still mention her ex-boyfriend and the life they shared together? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 30, 2011 - 47 answers

Abandon ship, once and for all, or fight for what I have?

Seven months ago I cheated on my partner. Six months ago I came clean to him. Three months ago we broke up. This past week we have begun to spend some time together, and I feel like we both reached a breakthrough last night. Am I crazy to have this renewed faith in/willingness to work for our love? Do I need to finally let it go? Much more inside. [more inside]
posted by fignewton on Apr 21, 2011 - 23 answers

Would you like to be friends again?

How (and should) I platonically re-connect with an ex? [more inside]
posted by ohsnapdragon on Apr 11, 2011 - 22 answers

my so-called friends

How do I deal with a squad of unsympathetic friends? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 9, 2011 - 24 answers

Friends with your ex?

Why is being friends with your ex supposedly a good sign to future dating prospects? [more inside]
posted by DisreputableDog on Feb 20, 2011 - 65 answers

Green eyed monster strikes again

Practical advice for dealing with jealousy towards one particular person? Or, how does one move from love to friendship? Sorry, whole plate-o-beans inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 28, 2011 - 8 answers

Ex and "best friend" won't talk to me anymore, why?

Why won't my ex talk to me? And how can I be okay with this? Give me insight based on your experience. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 15, 2010 - 36 answers

Friendly? Sure. Friends? No thanks.

My ex wants to be friends. I don't really. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 13, 2010 - 41 answers

Giving it a second shot?

I've recently reconnected with The Ex and am contemplating a discussion about getting back together with him. I'm looking for your stories about round 2 (or 3, 4, and beyond), how it worked or didn't work out for you. [more inside]
posted by patientpatient on Nov 11, 2010 - 21 answers

Is it possible to refurbish this mess into a more reasonable friendship? If so, how?

At baseline, I'm terrible with keeping in touch even with uncomplicatedly good friends. This situation is far from uncomplicated, though. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 9, 2010 - 21 answers

What to do about slanderous comments?

What can I do about someone from my past writing slanderous things about me online? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 20, 2010 - 14 answers

Is My New BF a Sleazeball?

Older Single Parents Dating Filter: Staying Friends with Exes??? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 9, 2010 - 33 answers

My girlfriend contacts her ex every day

My girlfriend feels sorry for her ex. He contacts her several times per day, she replies because she feels sorry for him. I am paranoid... should I learn to relax? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 7, 2010 - 56 answers

How do I overcome jealousy and lack of trust in my relationship?

Before my now-boyfriend and I decided to go exclusive, we had a long uncommitted period where we were just besties who had great sex. At the time, his other flings and involvements didn't bother me. Now that we're actually together, I am retrospectively jealous. Very jealous. How do I overcome my jealousy and lack of trust? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 25, 2010 - 13 answers

Why won't she go away?

Am I reading to much into the actions of my boyfriend's ex? Beanplating follows. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 18, 2010 - 29 answers

Is it wrong to masturbate to one's exes when in a relationship?

Autoeroticafilter: Are certain self-pleasuring activities not OK? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 8, 2009 - 66 answers

Do I tell my ex how I feel?

My ex-boyfriend is moving out of the state and things feel unresolved. I don't want to regret not expressing my thoughts, but am worried my unloading on him pre-move is unfair. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 4, 2009 - 24 answers

Should I be jealous?

Relationship Filter: I dated this guy for a month. We broke up a few weeks ago mainly because I am moving this summer. We have overlapping friends and hang out at the same places, which was fine until last week. He hooked up with a girl that I also know. Since we aren't together, I really don't care, but I think he does. Am I wrong not to be jealous? [more inside]
posted by xyla2000 on May 7, 2009 - 26 answers

Just fade out?

To piggyback on this previous question, should you let the other person know that you are severing ties? [more inside]
posted by blithecatpie on Apr 13, 2009 - 11 answers

How do I deal with my ex-boyfriend's (who I dumped) new girlfriend being everywhere?

I dumped my boyfriend about a year ago and even though things are amiable, I can't help but be annoyed by his new girlfriend. We haven't ever had a conversation, but for whatever reason, it boils my blood to see her all over Facebook, tagging him in photos and friend-ing all of our mutual friends. I don't think this is jealousy, but I'm not sure how to deal with my absolute annoyance. Is this normal behavior?
posted by patientpatient on Feb 16, 2009 - 38 answers

Being friends with friends of my partner's ex?

Posted a question here about my situation as it stood about 9 months ago and got some good feedback. My question now relates in some way to my previous question and how the situation has evolved. [more inside]
posted by DuckGirl on Sep 8, 2008 - 12 answers

Exes and D'ohs.

Last night my girlfriend became moderately upset with me because I didn't want to meet her ex-boyfriend. So what? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 28, 2008 - 30 answers

Once a cheater, always a cheater

Once a cheater always a cheater? [more inside]
posted by confused1965 on Dec 17, 2007 - 55 answers

Why bother getting back in touch?

Help me figure out the intentions of an ex who briefly got back in touch with me and invited me for a visit. What was his agenda, if any? [more inside]
posted by gov_moonbeam on Oct 8, 2007 - 18 answers

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