I used to live with my dog and (now) ex-boyfriend. I moved out. Dog now lives with him. I live in apartment that doesn't allow dogs. Ex is abusive to dog. She can't stay with me, she can't stay with him, even though he wants to keep her. If I find her a new home, she'll be safe, but I won't get to see her again and my ex might retaliate against me. If I leave her there, I'll get to see her more often, but my ex could flip out and hurt her. I'm not sure how to do what I need to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 15, 2009 - 37 answers

Last night, a close friend of ours was the victim of a domestic dispute. Her live-in boyfriend became convinced of infidelity in the relationship (a relationship that was headed to the dumps anyway), came back to their apartment, violently pulled her off of the couch screamed at her and repeatedly punched her in the stomach. Police were called, no charges filed (Red flags here). Now she and the daughter are staying with us, but are afraid to return home. Where do we go from here? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 15, 2008 - 10 answers

RelationshipFilter: Do I move out to a new city with my new boyfriend where the old boyfriend lives? Long back story inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 17, 2008 - 11 answers

Why do I continue to have dreams about my ex-boyfriend from 10 years ago? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 20, 2007 - 33 answers

LongDistanceFilter: Ok, well technically we're broken up but its purely for strategic reasons. But we both believe that we both have serious long term potencial, the only problem is that circumstances are against us. [more inside]
posted by apfel on Sep 24, 2006 - 17 answers

To what extent is it okay/normal to have feelings for one's ex? What if you're in a new, very serious, relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 18, 2006 - 20 answers

I can't understand why I'm still thinking about a very ex-boyfriend. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 25, 2006 - 27 answers

ExFilter: I recently (approximately 5 months ago) initiated a breakup with a guy who now lives in another city. We are still in touch and I hope to stay friends with him. I also recently (approximately 4.99 months ago) started dating another guy; that whole situation is going amazingly well and I am going on vacation with him soon. I have told the ex about the vacation but not about the company and definitely not about the dating. I am sure that he would be upset.
The question: is full disclosure (about the timing and everything) required if I want to consider myself friends with the ex? Even if it might make us not friends anymore? How about partial disclosure, not including the timing, or not including the intensity of the new relationship? I don't like feeling like I'm lying, but I don't think I actually am lying at this point, I'm just omitting information. Obviously partial disclosure would be lying. But is it justified lying? (Is there such a thing?)
posted by anonymous on Dec 8, 2004 - 45 answers