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hurting over past relationship now more than when the break up happened

I feel like I'm going backwards with the break up over my past relationship which occured over six months ago. I was fine for months afterwards and, in the past couple of weeks, I've been feeling increasingly guilty over my behaviour toward my depressed ex and it hurts to think about memories together and him in general much more than it used to. Is it normal, could it be because our one year anniversary would have been in a few days? Why is it happening, when I feel like I care more about my current bf than I did him? Am I betraying him? What should I do? [more inside]
posted by opalshards on Sep 3, 2013 - 5 answers

"So, about that thing I did..."

A person from my Past has friended me on fb out of the blue. I haven't seen him in around 15 years. We didn't part on good terms and I've had a lot of regret and shame over the years. He sent me some general messages. Now, should I apologise for the past or leave it alone? Many details below. [more inside]
posted by outoftime on Aug 29, 2013 - 35 answers

If I don't miss my ex, then why do I care that he has a new girlfriend?

Hi. I dated my ex for three years and we broke up a little over a year ago. At first I was very hurt and depressed, missed him terribly, was counting on getting back together, and couldn't imagine ever being attracted to or dating anyone again. Now I don't miss him at all and have no desire to be with him, and no longer compare every guy I meet to him. I thought I was over everything, but then last week I found out he's finally dating someone else and I can't help but feel hurt, like I've been replaced. I keep thinking about what she's like and why he likes her even though I do not want to be with him at all. To make matters worse my ex and I work together, so it's possible we might all run into each other, and that makes me want to vomit. I feel like I'm moving ten steps backward in my healing process. How do I proceed?
posted by thank you silence on Jul 28, 2013 - 10 answers

What are some hacks to not crave my ex?

I am already doing no contact and no exposure to my ex. Still, I get very regular cravings, thoughts, and dreams about them. It takes time out of my day, and disrupts my other relationships. I don't imagine I can make this stop, maybe ever, or for a long time. It's already been about a year. What are some practical, concrete tips to make this impact me less? [more inside]
posted by htid on Jul 19, 2013 - 17 answers

Dealing with The Ex (who isn't mine).

Before meeting me, my boyfriend was involved in an intense LDR which ended in a dramatic and painful breakup. His ex will be visiting our city for work next week. I've just found out through the grapevine that she will also be attending a show that we have had tickets to -- and been looking forward to -- for a long time. Do I tell my boyfriend and potentially put him off from going to the show? Do I keep quiet and hope we don't run into her? HALP. [more inside]
posted by fight or flight on Jul 9, 2013 - 23 answers

Why am I getting crazy/threatening phone calls from my ex's new girl?

I've started getting threatening phone calls from my ex's new girlfriend and I'm trying to figure out what's going on. [more inside]
posted by Autumn on Jun 10, 2013 - 25 answers

How can (or should) I stop a bad guy?

I dated someone who harmed me. What can, or should, I do to prevent him from hurting others the same way? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 24, 2013 - 43 answers

Looking for advice on how to remain friends with ex

What might I do or not do in order to help us move from relationship to friendship? [more inside]
posted by fishingforthewhale on Apr 8, 2013 - 12 answers

How to stop pining, take action, or get over it?

What should I do about the ex that haunts me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 1, 2013 - 19 answers

The ex is moving on, I thought I was but I'm not. What do I do?

My head is a mess after seeing my ex tonight for the first time since we broke up, kissing her, and finding out she had a thing with another girl that never went anywhere. I'm hurt but doing okay, but I'm afraid that if I don't take some kind of action I'm going to get incredibly more hurt in the near future. But what do I do now? [more inside]
posted by Pericardium on Mar 20, 2013 - 23 answers

How to become friends with my ex while I'm still working out my feelings

How do I stay in loose, friendly, honest contact with my ex (from a short relationship) to build a friendship while I still have some residual feelings for him? I know we are only friends now, and I want to respect my boundaries and also his. There's no chance we'll see each other in person for a long time, so this is all about communication and not about sex. [more inside]
posted by zettoo on Mar 14, 2013 - 18 answers

Dealing with passive-aggressive ex 'losing' kids stuff on visits.

Title says it. Passive-aggressive ex ' accidentally loses' my sons stuff on every.single.visit. Meaning I have to replace one or more of the following: toque, mitts, socks, hoodie, pullups, footwear, etc. every week and I just can't afford it. I can't send my toddler naked. Is there anything I can do about this lame game?
posted by tenaciousmoon on Mar 12, 2013 - 30 answers

Is continuing to sleep with an ex ever not a bad idea?

TL;DR: The guy I'm dating non-exclusively is still sleeping with his ex. I can't decide if this is a red flag or not. For the record, I have been the one insisting we keep things open. [more inside]
posted by krakenattack on Feb 28, 2013 - 36 answers

Friendships after relationships

I'm trying to figure out the best way to understand and handle the relationship between myself and a good friend who is also my ex. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by jlibera on Feb 4, 2013 - 20 answers

How to get an ex off the mind.

How much thinking about your ex is too much, and how do you control it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 17, 2013 - 13 answers

Help me deal with a (crazy?) ex.

LTR ended without a word. We're going to have to see each other a lot. How should I handle this? [more inside]
posted by sevensnowflakes on Jan 13, 2013 - 34 answers

How much contact is appropriate after a break-up?

I broke up with my then-fiancée in September 2012. What is the appropriate amount of contact after a break-up? I've struggled with finding a good balance. Give me some advice for the next go-round. [more inside]
posted by mellosphere on Jan 8, 2013 - 32 answers

How to behave around your ex

What should I wear and how should I behave at a dinner, where my ex will be with his new gf? [more inside]
posted by artystar on Dec 5, 2012 - 58 answers

Repeating old relationship patterns

Still not over the same old guy? [more inside]
posted by bookgirl18 on Nov 20, 2012 - 12 answers

After a breakup, how do you deal with the rejection?

After a breakup, how do you deal with the rejection? [more inside]
posted by thank you silence on Nov 15, 2012 - 23 answers

Feeling like a lame duck in the dating pond

How to make sense of dating? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 14, 2012 - 12 answers

Help me stop e-stalking my ex

Will you share some practical tips on how I can stop e-stalking my ex. [more inside]
posted by feastorfamine on Nov 8, 2012 - 20 answers

Why can't I get over my ex?

Why can't I get over my ex and why is my self esteem so low? Will him and his new gf work? How do I behave around them? [more inside]
posted by artystar on Nov 8, 2012 - 26 answers

How can I win his heart back?

please help me gain back his trust and love - i feel like i'm dying [more inside]
posted by canadiantuxedo on Nov 1, 2012 - 65 answers

Is he flirting? Trying to get my attention?

Is he flirting? Trying to get my attention? [more inside]
posted by femmefatale123 on Oct 28, 2012 - 43 answers

Help! I have to interact with my ex while I'm still hurt and angry.

One week after our (non-mutual) breakup, I have to work with my ex at an event. How should I carry myself? [more inside]
posted by feastorfamine on Oct 22, 2012 - 38 answers

Should I move to San Francisco?

Should I move to San Francisco? Every reason in the world to move, and one reason not to. [more inside]
posted by blue rare on Oct 8, 2012 - 35 answers

Is this a new friendship or a ticking timebomb?

My ex has sneaked back into my life during a difficult time. I'm appreciative of his support but I'm nervous about backsliding emotionally. How do I set the right boundaries? Or is this just the "being friends with your ex when you're ready" thing I've read so much about here on the green? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 26, 2012 - 17 answers

Don't want drama but don't want other girls being lied to

I recently broke up with my boyfriend of three and a half years. In the time we were still living together but broken up I found out he was starting several relationships. Should I let these women know? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 27, 2012 - 88 answers

I really like my ex. Help!

First time round, he got his heart broken. Five years later, we meet again. I really like him but he’s not long out of a relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 23, 2012 - 10 answers

I told a girl that I still have feelings for her and now she has stopped talking to me

I told a girl that I still have feelings for her and now she has stopped talking to me. I feel like such a loser right now, I'm not sure what to do next. [more inside]
posted by johnx on Aug 20, 2012 - 30 answers

Should I be worried about my bf's relationship with his ex?

I accidentally read an email from my BF to his ex GF, who is getting married on Saturday, which he closed with "I will always love you." Should I be concerned about his feelings for her? [more inside]
posted by eliseb on Jul 27, 2012 - 80 answers

How to stop my ex from breaking my fiance's heart?

My ex-boyfriend is on a path to platonically breaking my fiance's heart similarly to the way he broke mine, possibly because of me. How can I stop this, mitigate it, or support him through it? Is there any way I can give insight from my previous relationship, or is that too weird? [more inside]
posted by corb on Jul 26, 2012 - 26 answers

Shall I visit my kind-of-ex or not?

Travelling to a country where someone that I was involved with fairly recently and parted on amicable terms lives. Shall I visit him - and risk either rekindling a relationship that doesn't really have a future, or becoming even more heartbroken? Snowflakes within. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 17, 2012 - 18 answers

Makeout Romance to Friend Zone--Do I go to party now?

Should I go to a party even though I've been downgraded to "friend zone"? [more inside]
posted by LemonGardot on Jul 13, 2012 - 37 answers

How do I move on from an ex boyfriend and meet new people?

How do I move on from an ex boyfriend and meet new people? [more inside]
posted by enantio on Jun 12, 2012 - 13 answers

What is normal and how do I minimize any discomfort?

Are my boundaries "normal" or oversensitive, and should I apply them to this person I am soon to meet? Supersnowflakery within. [more inside]
posted by thrasher on Jun 3, 2012 - 18 answers

I don't need this.

I am happily married, but I'm having trouble dealing with an ex who dumped me and now regrets it. Please help me not put my marriage at risk. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 12, 2012 - 38 answers

What do I tell my ex?

What do I tell my ex? [more inside]
posted by Strumpf Marionette on May 2, 2012 - 34 answers

How to be at a social event with people I’ve dreaded seeing for the past ten years?

I am attending the wedding of dear friends at which I will have to see my ex-husband and his new partner—a one-time close friend of ours with whom he cheated while married to me. I am now very happily married to someone else, in a relationship far better in every way than my first marriage. Nevertheless, I absolutely dread seeing my ex-husband and my old friend, and the prospect of seeing them is something I’ve dreaded since I first learned of their, erm, relationship. At the same time, I’d REALLY like to be to defuse the emotional power this has over me, and simply enjoy the wedding and the get-together with many other old friends that comes with it. How to work through this? Any advice from people who have navigated these turbulent emotional waters successfully? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 25, 2012 - 35 answers

How to stop being friends with an ex

I need to stop being friends with my ex. How? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 25, 2012 - 16 answers

Help! Fiance wants my ex, his friend, in wedding party.

[WeddingDramaFilter] My fiance wants his best friend, my ex, who may still be in love with me, in the wedding party. And it gets more complex from there. Help me figure it all out! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 20, 2012 - 36 answers

My options are limited

My long term relationship has ended. It was so long overdue. Even still it didn't happen the way I would have hoped. My partner raged at me for hours over who knows what. It wasn't the first time. Things turned physical and it was the ugliest scariest situation I can remember experiencing. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 26, 2012 - 18 answers

how to get over an ex completely?

how to get over a breakup when you don't want the person back, but feel no closure? (note:very long) [more inside]
posted by teaforone on Feb 24, 2012 - 22 answers

How do I ask him to try again?

My ex broke up with me at the beginning of January. I want to give our relationship a second chance. Should I? How? Wall of text within. [more inside]
posted by fight or flight on Feb 15, 2012 - 49 answers

Get it out of here

How do I ship my ex-fiancee's stuff across the country? [more inside]
posted by TrialByMedia on Feb 14, 2012 - 33 answers

Help me deal with my past.

How do I deal with an out of the blue tweet from my most significant ex (girlfriend/fiancee) without upsetting my wife, her and to some extent me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 7, 2012 - 60 answers

My brain isn't very nice to me.

Why do I still care about how my ex treated me when I don't have any feelings for him? How do I stop caring that he's getting married to his pregnant girlfriend? [more inside]
posted by biochemist on Feb 1, 2012 - 31 answers

Not Petty to Me.

Am I over analyzing or should my SO have handled this differently? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 26, 2012 - 64 answers

Should I say something? What?

I don't like how my ex talks to me and I want to say something. Weird/crazy/what should I say? [more inside]
posted by amodelcitizen on Jan 19, 2012 - 38 answers

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