I dated someone who harmed me. What can, or should, I do to prevent him from hurting others the same way?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 24, 2013 -
43 answers
My ex has sneaked back into my life during a difficult time. I'm appreciative of his support but I'm nervous about backsliding emotionally. How do I set the right boundaries? Or is this just the "being friends with your ex when you're ready" thing I've read so much about here on the green?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 26, 2012 -
17 answers
I recently broke up with my boyfriend of three and a half years. In the time we were still living together but broken up I found out he was starting several relationships. Should I let these women know?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 27, 2012 -
88 answers
First time round, he got his heart broken. Five years later, we meet again. I really like him but he’s not long out of a relationship.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 23, 2012 -
10 answers
Travelling to a country where someone that I was involved with fairly recently and parted on amicable terms lives. Shall I visit him - and risk either rekindling a relationship that doesn't really have a future, or becoming even more heartbroken? Snowflakes within.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 17, 2012 -
18 answers
I am happily married, but I'm having trouble dealing with an ex who dumped me and now regrets it. Please help me not put my marriage at risk.
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posted by anonymous
on May 12, 2012 -
38 answers
I am attending the wedding of dear friends at which I will have to see my ex-husband and his new partner—a one-time close friend of ours with whom he cheated while married to me. I am now very happily married to someone else, in a relationship far better in every way than my first marriage. Nevertheless, I absolutely dread seeing my ex-husband and my old friend, and the prospect of seeing them is something I’ve dreaded since I first learned of their, erm, relationship. At the same time, I’d REALLY like to be to defuse the emotional power this has over me, and simply enjoy the wedding and the get-together with many other old friends that comes with it. How to work through this? Any advice from people who have navigated these turbulent emotional waters successfully?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 25, 2012 -
35 answers
[WeddingDramaFilter] My fiance wants his best friend, my ex, who may still be in love with me, in the wedding party. And it gets more complex from there. Help me figure it all out!
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 20, 2012 -
36 answers
My long term relationship has ended. It was so long overdue. Even still it didn't happen the way I would have hoped. My partner raged at me for hours over who knows what. It wasn't the first time. Things turned physical and it was the ugliest scariest situation I can remember experiencing.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 26, 2012 -
18 answers
How do I deal with an out of the blue tweet from my most significant ex (girlfriend/fiancee) without upsetting my wife, her and to some extent me.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 7, 2012 -
60 answers
I think I may have been sexually assaulted in the past by my best friend in the whole world. I'm conflicted about this and I'm wondering if it's possible for us to still be friends? And if so, how?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 1, 2012 -
26 answers
Should I tell my (potential) new boyfriend about my marriage and divorce? Or can I keep this secret like I want to?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 28, 2011 -
53 answers
Considering a restraining order against an ex, but I have a lot of questions about the logistics and just generally whether it's going to make the situation better or worse. For example, I don't think he knows where I live- so how would it even work? Many more questions inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 26, 2011 -
23 answers
This is yet another contacting-one’s-ex question. I will try to avoid cliches as much as possible and will do my best to jump to the marrow of this somewhat complicated tale.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 2, 2011 -
23 answers
Divorce & Custody Filter: I think my husband is trying to buy my daughter's affection. What can I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 26, 2011 -
27 answers
Met up with ex-girlfriend six months after the break-up. Things went well, and then they didn't. Am blaming myself a lot and need to know what, if I anything, I can do.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 11, 2011 -
31 answers
I'm having a difficult time trying to mentally process an ex's recent wedding because I'm hung up on the sex/religion aspect of it all. I need advice on how to stop thinking about him.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 21, 2011 -
33 answers
Should I see my ex-boyfriend (who has a girlfriend, and who I'm still in love with) when I'm in his city in September? And if I do... how?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 4, 2011 -
50 answers
I've accepted that I likely won't be completely over my ex until after we both graduate. Considering that, how can I deal with being around her?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 24, 2011 -
12 answers
Utterly delusional letter sent from my ex to my current partner (stating I belong with the ex, am being kept from him, and am currently in love with him). Here is our plan; what do you think?
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posted by anonymous
on May 27, 2011 -
58 answers
I just found out a guy I have been corresponding with on OKC works at the same law firm as my ex. The new guy seems like someone I might want to get to know. How should I handle this situation?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 3, 2011 -
15 answers
How should I respond to my ex's request for a domain name I purchased when we were together?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 12, 2011 -
53 answers
My ex-fiance has topless photos of me, we are still on good terms but I'm not sure how to proceed.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 18, 2010 -
22 answers
How do I stop my obsession of stalking/thinking of my ex so that I can start liking myself again?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 28, 2010 -
25 answers
I’m looking to buy my first (used) car, but feeling kind of overwhelmed by the process. I don’t really have anyone in my life who is car-savvy. Is it a bad idea to ask my ex for advice or help?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 24, 2010 -
11 answers
I don't want to see myself through my ex's eyes anymore. I don't want to compare myself to how I was then, because how I am now is healthy. I don't want to be afraid of my ex seeing what I look like now. Help! (Long)
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 6, 2010 -
22 answers
An old conversation is still bothering me and I'm wondering how to bring it up with with other party, who has been very hostile in the past.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 18, 2010 -
19 answers
How do I approach the prickly subject of money owed to me with someone who doesn't want to have anything to do with me? A couple of years ago I was heavily involved in a "I'm in love with my best friend but she doesn't love me" scenario and I lent her some money. We now don't talk, I'm in a new, great relationship but she hasn't paid me the money. What are the most effective tactics to get it back?
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posted by anonymous
on May 16, 2010 -
25 answers
How do I get over the difference in our levels of experience with respect to relationships?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 3, 2010 -
9 answers
I broke up with my (now ex) girlfriend five months ago. (The breakup surprised her) She went back with the b/f she had before me one or two months after our breakup; if I have the time line right she has now been with her current b/f for about three to four months. I'm still in love with this girl and regret not giving our three month relationship more time before I broke things off... How do I contact her to tell her this and what do I say? Looking for success stories...
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 22, 2010 -
38 answers
Dated my ex for a year, split up for 1.5 years. Recent developments re-awakened my feelings. How to explore this while being considerate to him and our friendship?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 5, 2010 -
10 answers
