TL;DR: The guy I'm dating non-exclusively is still sleeping with his ex. I can't decide if this is a red flag or not. For the record, I have been the one insisting we keep things open.
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posted by krakenattack
on Feb 28, 2013 -
36 answers
I broke up with my then-fiancée in September 2012. What is the appropriate amount of contact after a break-up? I've struggled with finding a good balance. Give me some advice for the next go-round.
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posted by mellosphere
on Jan 8, 2013 -
32 answers
My ex has sneaked back into my life during a difficult time. I'm appreciative of his support but I'm nervous about backsliding emotionally. How do I set the right boundaries? Or is this just the "being friends with your ex when you're ready" thing I've read so much about here on the green?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 26, 2012 -
17 answers
I recently broke up with my boyfriend of three and a half years. In the time we were still living together but broken up I found out he was starting several relationships. Should I let these women know?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 27, 2012 -
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Travelling to a country where someone that I was involved with fairly recently and parted on amicable terms lives. Shall I visit him - and risk either rekindling a relationship that doesn't really have a future, or becoming even more heartbroken? Snowflakes within.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 17, 2012 -
18 answers
how to get over a breakup when you don't want the person back, but feel no closure? (note:very long)
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posted by teaforone
on Feb 24, 2012 -
22 answers
Is it okay for my girlfriend to hang out with her needy ex?
Why she would hide their meetings if there's nothing to hide?
Am I rational or am I the product of being cheated on several times in the past?
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posted by dreamsofhorses
on Dec 21, 2011 -
42 answers
Recently, I said some harsh things to an ex whom until recently I had remained very good friends with. These things had been boiling inside me for months and I had to say them at this point. However, ever since I said them, she has disappeared from her online profiles (which she updated multiple times every day), I have no way of contacting her, and I'm worried. Obviously there's a lot going on, and some of it may be serious.
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posted by marriedtotacos
on Dec 18, 2011 -
33 answers
Met up with ex-girlfriend six months after the break-up. Things went well, and then they didn't. Am blaming myself a lot and need to know what, if I anything, I can do.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 11, 2011 -
31 answers
I have a sort of popular blog and I occasionally blogged about my relationship with another blogger. We've broken up. How do I handle it?
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posted by idle
on Sep 6, 2011 -
15 answers
I'm having a difficult time trying to mentally process an ex's recent wedding because I'm hung up on the sex/religion aspect of it all. I need advice on how to stop thinking about him.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 21, 2011 -
33 answers
I've accepted that I likely won't be completely over my ex until after we both graduate. Considering that, how can I deal with being around her?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 24, 2011 -
12 answers
The friends of my recent ex-bf sent me an email invite to attend their monthly music jam session. My ex will probably be attending. I want to go, but I also don't want to make things awkward.
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posted by chara
on Apr 14, 2011 -
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The ex and I broke up a year ago. I've been seeing someone else and am extremely happy, but it still bothers me that the ex's new relationship is going well. I don't understand why he's treating this other person so well when he treated me so poorly.
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posted by Pericardium
on Mar 30, 2011 -
45 answers
I was looking through the pictures on my BF's iPhone this morning, and I found a few pictures of his ex girlfriend that he had saved recently. He claims that he has no feelings for her. Should I be worried?
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posted by maggymay
on Dec 15, 2010 -
56 answers
I’m looking to buy my first (used) car, but feeling kind of overwhelmed by the process. I don’t really have anyone in my life who is car-savvy. Is it a bad idea to ask my ex for advice or help?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 24, 2010 -
11 answers
College freshman drama: After knowing A. for a week, I dated him for two; I was the one who broke it off. A month later, I started dating D. It's been three weeks since that started and things have been fantastic, except A. still refuses to talk to either one of us. This is awkward because we all live in the same dorm. Is there anything I can do to make things smoother?
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posted by flawsekno
on Nov 24, 2009 -
36 answers
A friend of mine is currently pretty pissed at me because I'm about to hang out with a girl that's friends with his ex's sister. In his mind it's only a matter of time before I'm hanging out with his ex too. Is he being an irrational dick, or will continuing to hang out with this girl only result in me getting a taste of my own dick medicine?
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posted by Venadium
on Nov 4, 2009 -
34 answers
Ex-boyfriend mails crazy letter to my family. Seems to have totally lost it, and concocted a conspiracy theory that they were out to get him, and will somehow end up destroying my life. I. Am. Freaked. Out. Next steps?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 8, 2008 -
23 answers
I don't want to be the bitch new girlfriend, but I also am upset by traces of his ex. What to do?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 31, 2007 -
69 answers
How do I stop thinking about a jerky ex-boyfriend now that I'm with someone really great?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 5, 2007 -
17 answers
Very touchy situation with my ex almost but not quite boyfriend. Any and all insight appreciated.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 29, 2007 -
23 answers
LongDistanceFilter: Ok, well technically we're broken up but its purely for strategic reasons. But we both believe that we both have serious long term potencial, the only problem is that circumstances are against us.
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posted by apfel
on Sep 24, 2006 -
17 answers
To what extent is it okay/normal to have feelings for one's ex? What if you're in a new, very serious, relationship?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 18, 2006 -
20 answers
How do you ween yourself from fantasizing about an ex? I'm a twentysomething female who was in a long distance, long term (4+ years) relationship that recently went sour. Basically, the biggest problem had to do with sex (I still wanted my partner but he apparently lost interest in me physically). Now, I'm good when it comes to making a clean break in the manifested-social-interaction sense; I don't stalk or google exes or call them up randomly just to be "friends" or initiate contact ever after break ups. But in this case, I can't stop myself from wanting this person in my head. When I daydream/fantasize sexually, he is always my partner and everything is what I wished it had been but wasn't in the last month or so of our relationship. I would prefer it if people offered me constructive ways to stop doing this rather than telling me I should just accept it--it is painful for me and I just want to move on through and through, inside and out. Dating (rebounding to forget him) isn't really the answer either--I have made a well-thought-out decision to remain single for a while as I get myself together on my own terms. I'm hoping there's something besides just the whole "time heals all wounds" adage that can help me get through this.
posted by anonymous
on Nov 8, 2004 -
28 answers
