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When/do I tell my ex about my new partner?

Earlier this year, my partner of 4 years and I broke up amicably. I'm seeing someone new. Ex and I both frequent some of the same territories in my city. Should I pre-emptively tell him about the new guy so that he doesn't find out from the grapevine, or seeing us out together? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 15, 2014 - 28 answers

Break-up apps that keep you from looking at exes on Facebook/Instagram?

Does anyone know of an app (or apps) that block you from looking at a particular Facebook page, or a particular Instagram feed? I've heard of Break-up Apps that recently have come about where you can 'erase' someone's photos, tags, etc. from your Facebook, as if they were never there, and I also know of chrome extensions which block you from a site altogether, but I can't find a good app that blocks only a particular PAGE on the site (i.e. www.facebook.com/ex'susername). I would like to be able to continue being 'Facebook Friends' with an ex, as not doing so will be disruptive. I also need to use Facebook for my job. I've already blocked them from appearing on my newsfeed and in chat, but I can't seem to stop myself from, fairly regularly, checking their Facebook page, or their Instagram feed. Any good solutions you've seen online? If not, I may have to team up with a programmer to create one because I think it'd be a very useful service! I sure could use it ASAP.
posted by anonymous on Aug 2, 2014 - 4 answers

You can't be friends with your abuser.

Help me accept that I can't be friends with my ex-boyfriend. The relationship was abusive but we've had to maintain contact while we disentangled our lives and I got on my feet. Now that time is over and I have to move on. I am finding it very hard. How can I start moving on towards my future? [more inside]
posted by misspony on Jul 15, 2014 - 19 answers

the one left behind

I've been seeing a lot of stories from people who left their relationships so that they can go on to be better versions of themselves, because they felt their ex held them back. Is there anything from the perspective of the ex that got left behind? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Dec 3, 2013 - 40 answers

How does an isolated person heal from a breakup?

I need tips on how to handle/distract myself from a break up when I'm low on the friend count and the money count and don't really leave the house. Ever. [more inside]
posted by biochemist on Oct 30, 2013 - 25 answers

hurting over past relationship now more than when the break up happened

I feel like I'm going backwards with the break up over my past relationship which occured over six months ago. I was fine for months afterwards and, in the past couple of weeks, I've been feeling increasingly guilty over my behaviour toward my depressed ex and it hurts to think about memories together and him in general much more than it used to. Is it normal, could it be because our one year anniversary would have been in a few days? Why is it happening, when I feel like I care more about my current bf than I did him? Am I betraying him? What should I do? [more inside]
posted by opalshards on Sep 3, 2013 - 5 answers

If I don't miss my ex, then why do I care that he has a new girlfriend?

Hi. I dated my ex for three years and we broke up a little over a year ago. At first I was very hurt and depressed, missed him terribly, was counting on getting back together, and couldn't imagine ever being attracted to or dating anyone again. Now I don't miss him at all and have no desire to be with him, and no longer compare every guy I meet to him. I thought I was over everything, but then last week I found out he's finally dating someone else and I can't help but feel hurt, like I've been replaced. I keep thinking about what she's like and why he likes her even though I do not want to be with him at all. To make matters worse my ex and I work together, so it's possible we might all run into each other, and that makes me want to vomit. I feel like I'm moving ten steps backward in my healing process. How do I proceed?
posted by thank you silence on Jul 28, 2013 - 10 answers

What are some hacks to not crave my ex?

I am already doing no contact and no exposure to my ex. Still, I get very regular cravings, thoughts, and dreams about them. It takes time out of my day, and disrupts my other relationships. I don't imagine I can make this stop, maybe ever, or for a long time. It's already been about a year. What are some practical, concrete tips to make this impact me less? [more inside]
posted by htid on Jul 19, 2013 - 17 answers

Why am I getting crazy/threatening phone calls from my ex's new girl?

I've started getting threatening phone calls from my ex's new girlfriend and I'm trying to figure out what's going on. [more inside]
posted by Autumn on Jun 10, 2013 - 25 answers

Looking for advice on how to remain friends with ex

What might I do or not do in order to help us move from relationship to friendship? [more inside]
posted by fishingforthewhale on Apr 8, 2013 - 12 answers

How to stop pining, take action, or get over it?

What should I do about the ex that haunts me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 1, 2013 - 19 answers

Help me deal with a (crazy?) ex.

LTR ended without a word. We're going to have to see each other a lot. How should I handle this? [more inside]
posted by sevensnowflakes on Jan 13, 2013 - 34 answers

After a breakup, how do you deal with the rejection?

After a breakup, how do you deal with the rejection? [more inside]
posted by thank you silence on Nov 15, 2012 - 23 answers

Help me stop e-stalking my ex

Will you share some practical tips on how I can stop e-stalking my ex. [more inside]
posted by feastorfamine on Nov 8, 2012 - 20 answers

How can I win his heart back?

please help me gain back his trust and love - i feel like i'm dying [more inside]
posted by canadiantuxedo on Nov 1, 2012 - 65 answers

Help! I have to interact with my ex while I'm still hurt and angry.

One week after our (non-mutual) breakup, I have to work with my ex at an event. How should I carry myself? [more inside]
posted by feastorfamine on Oct 22, 2012 - 38 answers

Is this a new friendship or a ticking timebomb?

My ex has sneaked back into my life during a difficult time. I'm appreciative of his support but I'm nervous about backsliding emotionally. How do I set the right boundaries? Or is this just the "being friends with your ex when you're ready" thing I've read so much about here on the green? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 26, 2012 - 17 answers

Don't want drama but don't want other girls being lied to

I recently broke up with my boyfriend of three and a half years. In the time we were still living together but broken up I found out he was starting several relationships. Should I let these women know? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 27, 2012 - 88 answers

Makeout Romance to Friend Zone--Do I go to party now?

Should I go to a party even though I've been downgraded to "friend zone"? [more inside]
posted by LemonGardot on Jul 13, 2012 - 37 answers

My options are limited

My long term relationship has ended. It was so long overdue. Even still it didn't happen the way I would have hoped. My partner raged at me for hours over who knows what. It wasn't the first time. Things turned physical and it was the ugliest scariest situation I can remember experiencing. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 26, 2012 - 18 answers

How do I ask him to try again?

My ex broke up with me at the beginning of January. I want to give our relationship a second chance. Should I? How? Wall of text within. [more inside]
posted by fight or flight on Feb 15, 2012 - 49 answers

Was this (ex)relationship problem properly handled?

Recently, I said some harsh things to an ex whom until recently I had remained very good friends with. These things had been boiling inside me for months and I had to say them at this point. However, ever since I said them, she has disappeared from her online profiles (which she updated multiple times every day), I have no way of contacting her, and I'm worried. Obviously there's a lot going on, and some of it may be serious. [more inside]
posted by marriedtotacos on Dec 18, 2011 - 33 answers

I'm ready to be over my ex. What's taking so long?!

The ex and I broke up a year ago. I've been seeing someone else and am extremely happy, but it still bothers me that the ex's new relationship is going well. I don't understand why he's treating this other person so well when he treated me so poorly. [more inside]
posted by Pericardium on Mar 30, 2011 - 45 answers

Can I stop thinking mean thoughts without saying them?

I keep writing devastating (and true!) letters to her in my head. This makes me sad, because I don't actually want to be mean to her. I want to stop being sad. [more inside]
posted by peripatetic007 on Feb 4, 2011 - 35 answers

How should I respond to my ex?

How should I respond to my ex's request for a domain name I purchased when we were together? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 12, 2011 - 53 answers

How to deal with confusion related to important things?

An ex, mixed signals, and dangerous times. How do I proceed? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 22, 2010 - 14 answers

How do I remain friends with my ex when he's with someone else?

How do you keep your self-esteem level high and your unhappiness level low while remaining friends with your ex who has a new girlfriend? [more inside]
posted by biochemist on Sep 9, 2010 - 44 answers

How to be ok with my boyfriend's feelings?

Crazy card alert? Please, help me sort out my relationship, MeFi world! [more inside]
posted by LemonGardot on Jul 6, 2010 - 15 answers

This is me. For me. F*** him!

I don't want to see myself through my ex's eyes anymore. I don't want to compare myself to how I was then, because how I am now is healthy. I don't want to be afraid of my ex seeing what I look like now. Help! (Long) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 6, 2010 - 22 answers

Delayed conflict resolution with an ex.

An old conversation is still bothering me and I'm wondering how to bring it up with with other party, who has been very hostile in the past. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 18, 2010 - 19 answers

De profundis clamavi ad te

Ghosts-of-relationships-past-filter: How do I forget an old girlfriend, years gone by? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 11, 2010 - 20 answers

How do I undo a breakup?

I broke up with my (now ex) girlfriend five months ago. (The breakup surprised her) She went back with the b/f she had before me one or two months after our breakup; if I have the time line right she has now been with her current b/f for about three to four months. I'm still in love with this girl and regret not giving our three month relationship more time before I broke things off... How do I contact her to tell her this and what do I say? Looking for success stories... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 22, 2010 - 38 answers

Wait, what, we're back together now?!

Getting back together with an ex-girlfriend while living long distance: is this a tenable situation? Have you successfully mended a relationship with "interesting" history under difficult circumstances? (yes, much more inside - it is a relaxnFilter question, folks) [more inside]
posted by Gaeacon on Feb 4, 2010 - 14 answers

Breakup = :-(

Help me cope with my loneliness and pain a month after getting dumped. [more inside]
posted by mesha steele on Dec 25, 2009 - 40 answers

How to mend a broken heart

HeartbreakFilter: Help me come to terms with the end of my relationship and quit being in denial. [more inside]
posted by mesha steele on Dec 1, 2009 - 24 answers

How to stop wanting my ex back?

How can I stop viewing my ex with rose-colored glasses? Everyone thinks he was a bad boyfriend except me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 8, 2009 - 24 answers

The exgf wants pics of when we were together, what do I do?

So the ex-gf wants the pictures from when we were together, what do I do? [more inside]
posted by althanis on Feb 26, 2009 - 92 answers

How can I get my ex to leave me alone?

My ex is still contacting me and begging for another chance more than a year after the breakup. A restraining order is apparently not an option. I can't become unreachable. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 21, 2009 - 44 answers

How do I deal with a vengeful ex?

I don't know how to deal with my boyfriend intimidating me and making it impossible for me to move out my things. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 13, 2009 - 49 answers

What to do when you have left someone shortly before an anniversary and birthday....?

Two weeks after my girlfriend treated me to the most thoughtfully-indulgent birthday weekend imaginable, I broke up with her. Just a week has passed since we went our separate ways, but that means two weeks until what would have been our three-year anniversary and three weeks until her birthday, upon which I would otherwise be reciprocating her generosity. Is there anything I can do or say or give to mark the occasion appropriately? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 1, 2008 - 45 answers

How do I get a second chance?

Lovelifefilter: I have a chance to reconcile with my ex, how can I not blow it? [more inside]
posted by Sianion on Apr 17, 2008 - 33 answers

I hate my ex-girlfriend. How do I deal with her presence?

My ex-girlfriend humiliated me, now I'm obligated to attend social events with her presence. Avoidance has worked wonders, but I can't keep it up forever. How do I 'move on' or 'just forget that it happened'? [more inside]
posted by chrisbucks on Nov 22, 2007 - 54 answers

How to mentally and emotionally re-break up with someone?

Loved him, resented him, detached from him, hated him, but I'm back to loving him: How to re-ex someone you loved, lost, and loved again? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 12, 2007 - 13 answers

Don't tell Scotty.

Friends' exes are off-limits, right? Aren't you supposed to clear it with your friend before you make a move on his ex? [more inside]
posted by emelenjr on Oct 17, 2006 - 49 answers

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