Novel Research Filter: Help me describe phone culture/ etiquette in the 70's prior to the advent of answering machines. [more inside]
For traveling drug dealers (specifically door-to-door marijuana delivery services in NYC), what is the etiquette for tipping? Yes? No? If yes, is there a standard accepted rate?
[EtiquetteFilter] My sister and her new husband are giving me one gift for Christmas. Am I obligated to give each of them a gift, or is it acceptable for me to give one gift to the couple?
De-corking a bottle of wine. Slow and steady or just rip 'er out? [more inside]
I've recently discovered I'm pregnant, but I won't be staying pregnant, especially now that I know that's what's been making me feel so awful for the last several weeks. But I've missed a lot of work and several social events; people are worried about me. Everybody's always asking me what's wrong. What do I tell them? [more inside]
How do you deal with calls from recruiters who are inappropriately rude? [more inside]
Is there a gift that says "thanks for the threesome?" [more inside]
I have a new community blog that is a place for people in my industry to talk shop. I want to get the word out and have a very inviting stack of business cards that I have collected over the years at industry conferences. Is it appropriate to email any of these contacts and ask them to write/contribute or just tell them about the blog? [more inside]
Does an e-mail thank-you note require a response? [more inside]
Is it appropriate for my daughter to send a letter to our family friends soliciting donations to the non-profit she works for? [more inside]
Is it rude to attend a party when you have a cold? [more inside]
What's the etiquette for photos on holiday cards? [more inside]
Is it okay to wear a bridesmaid's dress before the wedding? [more inside]
Advise me on MySpace/Facebook etiquette. [more inside]
How do I not be an obnoxious mainlander while vacationing on the Big Island? [more inside]
I am currently a visiting professor at a liberal arts college. Our department is conducting a search for a tenure track position which I intend to apply for. I need letters of recommendation which address my teaching abilities. The people most qualified to write these letters are my colleagues that are on the search committee. Is it appropriate or inappropriate to ask them to write letters of recommendation for this position?
My Fair ... Gentleman? Please give me a crash course on being a gentleman for a date with a lady. [more inside]
OK, so there was the must I submit to monthly waxing question, which brought out tons of responses from "no, do what you want" to "yes, you should if you're dating" to "you're being oppressed by a patriarchal society" to "it smacks of pedophilia". That being said, what are the opinions of men trimming/shaving their below the belt region? More specifically, women, would you be turned off or disgusted by a guy who trimmed or shaved?
sex-appeal-filter: what's the deal with bikini waxing? Is it necessary? [more inside]
HolyManEtiquetteFilter: If the Dalai Lama and the Pope are in the same room, how do you address them plurally? [more inside]
Someone reproduced the full text of an email from me, including my unique full name, on a Google-indexed forum. My two messages to the forum requesting removal have been fruitless. Am I out of luck? [more inside]
Etiquette filter: What's the best way to handle being stopped up in a crowed situation such as on an airplane or in a large lecture hall? Is it more annoying if I sit and sniff, or occasionally blow my nose? Also, to imagine the worst possible scenario, what do I do if I find myself in this situation without enough tissues?
Is it inconsiderate/impolite to bring a meal from home into a resturant/cafe that you cook and prepare food for?
Is it inconsiderate/impolite to bring a meal from home into a resturant/cafe that you cook and prepare food for? [more inside]
What do you consider to be proper gum-chewing etiquette? [more inside]
How would I tactfully ask people I'm inviting to my parents' 50th anniversary to pay for their lodging? [more inside]
ModernDayEtiquetteFilter: What is the general consensus on returning calls (received on one's mobile phone) based on a missed call log vs. leaving a message? [more inside]
Etiquettefilter -- So me and my girl were at a strip club... [more inside]
Wedding Etiquette filter: Who pays for what in a traditional wedding? Specifically I am looking for anything to back up the claim of my future parents in law that the costs for the reception is split between the two families. [more inside]
One of my best friends asked me to be godmother to her new daughter today. I cried, she cried, I said yes (of course). I'm over the moon about it. But the god thing has got me a bit concerned and I'd like some advice... [more inside]
I am being pressured to make travel arrangements for a conference in October, but I plan on resigning sometime next week. How do I stall or get out of it without blowing my cover? I've already been stalling for a month, it's becoming more and more difficult to put it off. [more inside]
My 'suit' consists of a jacket and pants that are different colours although they are complimentary. Is this not really a suit, but rather just a jacket and slacks? Is there any situation such as an office setting where this wouldn't fly? [more inside]
Over the course of my personal life I have noticed a trend of not shaking women's hands when first meeting them in social settings. What is the proper way to greet women in a first meeting in a public setting? [more inside]
How do I gain rapport with people? (or, should I ditch if I'm being ditched?) [more inside]
What's appropriate behavior in mixed groups of couples and singles? Especially when there's just one single? [more inside]
My boyfriend and I are heading to an outdoor wedding this weekend. It's expected to be hot, so I am questioning the appropriateness of a suit. The poor man will roast. What should/ can he wear that is acceptable? [more inside]
Breakup/Houseguest Etiquette question: How to RSVP? [more inside]
How do you maintain dignity and self-control while being dumped? Furthermore, where do you live? [more inside]
So, I've been invited to a party at my country's embassy later this week. The formal invitation asks me to RSVP, but I don't do this sort of thing very often, and I've got no idea what the right protocol for a response is. Anyone got any idea?
I have a hard time talking to my friends about other people's terminal illnesses and/or deaths. I'd like to get better at this. [more inside]
How do you gently tell someone you're casually dating that you're also dating someone else? [more inside]
How does one gracefully decline eating out when already spending time with a group of people? [more inside]
A question of men's restroom trough etiquette: Do I shuffle down or stay put? [more inside]
I've been admitted to a very exclusive, yet humble, sushi-ya. What should I do and avoid, to become a star customer? [more inside]
My two stepsisters each recently gave birth. Should I get either of them a gift? It gets a little complicated. [more inside]
Friends and I downloaded a copy of a play script written by the Virginia Tech shooter, filmed it, and posted it on youtube. I have since taken it down. How bad an idea was this (and some more specific questions inside)? [more inside]
What is the proper seating arrangement for at home family dinners? [more inside]
Real estate pee etiquettefilter: Is it kosher to use the bathroom in a house that you're viewing for purposes of buying? Does it make a difference if the house is vacant or still occupied? [more inside]
WeddingFilter: Help my girlfriend and I gracefully decline a request to work the reception table. Again. And forevermore. [more inside]
Looking for an etiquette book I read a long time ago. [more inside]
Please point me toward resources to help me cope with my family and their responses to my impending (gay) engagement. My Google-fu seems to be failing me. There's more details on my specific situation inside. [more inside]