Help me, etiquette mavens of AskMe!
Fiance and I are in the midst of planning a wedding for this fall, but we just found out that he's losing his health insurance
soon. How ok is it to have a courthouse ceremony now, but still hold a "real" wedding in the fall?
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posted by badgermushroomSNAKE
on May 21, 2013 -
6 answers
We've decided to get married. Yay! I am the female half of a straight couple, if that matters. In the near future, we want to go to our local (US) courthouse and have a civil ceremony with just a judge and our immediate families present: his parents, my parents, his sibling+partner, my sibling+partner+child. Later this year, we'll throw an informal party and invite our extended circles to that as a larger celebration/reception. Our immediate families are supportive of this plan and just want us to be happy, but I have already gotten some pushback from friends and it gave me pause. So I guess I have questions about the practicality and etiquette of our plan and... whatever else we haven't thought about. Neither of us has been married before.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 26, 2013 -
53 answers
We are very, very late with our wedding thank-yous. Over a year. We
know we are horrible people, okay? Now what?
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posted by Madamina
on Nov 6, 2012 -
32 answers
How should I address wedding invitations to significant others of friends?
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posted by mai
on Sep 25, 2012 -
14 answers
We live in a tiny Manhattan apartment and have everything we need. What do we register for?
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posted by alicetiara
on Sep 19, 2012 -
37 answers
I'm getting married - yay! I'm having a simply civil ceremony at the NYC wedding bureau and then plan to have a party a few days after. My dear me-fi'ers- What do you think is the best way to word an invite to a post-ceremony celebration?
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posted by carmenghia
on Jul 26, 2012 -
12 answers
What is an appropriate amount to spend on a wedding gift for myself and my guest, if I am a bridesmaid?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 26, 2012 -
16 answers
I just received a wedding invitation to a friend's wedding. The invitation itself was addressed to me only. In the RSVP, there are two blanks... one where I'm to fill in my name, and another labeled "Number attending". I'm not sure if this means I'm allowed to bring a date or not.
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posted by ohmy
on Apr 18, 2012 -
26 answers
When I asked my brother if there was something in particular he would like for his upcoming wedding, he told me not to give him anything unless it was cash. I have a few issues with this request.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 14, 2012 -
79 answers
My partner was not invited to my friend's wedding yet my ex-husband and his new girlfriend are. Bride and Groom to be were both invited and attended ex and my wedding previously. I live with my partner and its a serious relationship. My ex-husbands gf is now pregnant. I find this all upsetting. How should I respond?
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posted by Under the Sea
on Jan 13, 2012 -
67 answers
We're currently addressing wedding invitations. For reasons both personal and political, I really really hate the practice of addressing things to Dr. and Mrs. John Doe. Will it be stupid or scandalous or silly if we go with Dr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe? Or just John and Jane Doe?
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posted by Hwaet
on Aug 19, 2011 -
36 answers
My wedding was almost two years ago, and I never sent out official thank you cards, because apparently I suck. I want to go ahead and send them out now, but would that be even more awkward?
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posted by crowyhead
on Jul 11, 2011 -
41 answers
Is it a bad idea to propose the day before (or the day of) my girlfriend's good friend's wedding?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 30, 2011 -
70 answers
My fiancé refuses to let his parents help pay for our wedding. Should I say anything, or am I walking into a minefield?
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posted by anonymous
on May 25, 2011 -
33 answers
Plate o' wedding beans: We're starting to receive early wedding gifts, both from people attending and not attending the ceremony in 3.5 weeks. Should we open them? Acknowledge their receipt? Send proper thank-you notes? Help me, Emily-Post-i-fites.
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posted by supercres
on Feb 22, 2011 -
19 answers
Despite my profile name, my wife and I recently celebrated our two year anniversary. Yay! We recently received an engagement party and wedding invitation from a couple that didn't give us a gift for our wedding. Now, we're not sure how to handle the gift situation. Do we get them a gift as we would any other wedding, do we scale down the size of the gift, or do we not give a gift at all?
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posted by love is a murderer
on Oct 19, 2010 -
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YetAnotherWeddingGiftQuestion: A month ago my husband and I attended a friend's wedding. We took our gifts to the reception (a cookbook and a set of pots and pans, wrapped in the same distinctive wrapping paper). Today we received a thank-you note - for the cookbook. Do I ask the bride and groom about the cookware? My motivation isn't "we got you this nice gift, and we want you to acknowledge it." When we got married, we received one set of china that we couldn't ever attribute to anyone, and it bugs me to this day that we couldn't properly thank the gift-giver.
So, do I ask? Or just let it go? These folks are friends, but not close ones.
posted by killy willy
on Sep 8, 2010 -
20 answers
Prickly wedding etiquette question: We got married a little ways back, had a wonderful wedding, an unforgettable honeymoon, and are now back in the real world again. We're ready to sit down and write our thank-you cards, and have run into a slight... hiccup.
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posted by anonymous
on May 19, 2010 -
43 answers
Wedding Invitation Etiquette - my husband and I are hosting and paying for my stepdaughter's wedding and she has just ordered the invitations without involving us in any way - shouldn't the invitations be sent from the hosts - her father and I? I'm not concerned about the style or cost but I thought we would have the honor of extending the invitations or at least reviewing the contents before they are sent out. Or am I being hopelessly old-fashioned? Thoughts?
posted by anonymous
on Mar 4, 2010 -
53 answers
All my recently married friends said that most of their wedding drama came from their parents asking to invite friends. My parents have begun campaigning for a few of their friends to be invited. What's the correct response?
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posted by valadil
on Dec 4, 2009 -
42 answers
New baby, new etiquette: A couple with a new baby (< 6 months) receive a wedding invitation addressed only to the couple. Is baby presumed invited (portable lapsitter)? Is baby presumed not invited (potentially noisy)? Is it variable (call and ask)?
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posted by xo
on Aug 26, 2009 -
80 answers
My husband and I will be attending the wedding of his nephew next weekend. The wedding is at 12:30-the reception is at 5:30. My husband wants us to wear one outfit for the wedding and another for the reception. I say no one else is going to change, and we should not. He says he is right and this is what we should do. Any thoughts on this?? Thanks
posted by JAD'E
on Jul 10, 2009 -
31 answers
I've received a wedding invitation and I'm clueless on a point of etiquette. The invitation and reply cards are made out to "Mr. Indyz", not "Mr. Indyz and Guest." Does this imply that I am not expected or allowed to bring a guest?
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posted by indyz
on May 27, 2009 -
33 answers
According to the google, I have up to a year after someone's wedding to get them a gift. Then why did I get an email that asks about my "unaccounted for gift" and how should I respond?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 27, 2009 -
34 answers
Emergency last-minute wedding gift etiquetteFilter! Invite sort of says don't really bring gifts, but sort of says do. What do I do?!
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posted by paultopia
on Mar 19, 2009 -
22 answers
I received an invitation to a wedding for me "and guest". I'm not seeing anyone. What should I do?
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posted by rwatson
on Feb 21, 2009 -
36 answers
Bad wedding etiquette: Got married in May. Haven't sent the thank-yous out yet. Aside from being ashamed of ourselves, what should we do?
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posted by bristolcat
on Nov 11, 2008 -
39 answers
Asking for desjardins: My maid-of-honor (MOH) invited her parents to the ceremony, which is fine since they can watch her young son, but she also asked if they could stay for the dinner, and share her hotel room (which I'm paying for). I reluctantly said OK, but I'm wondering if I should ask for recompense from the parents?
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posted by salvia
on Sep 25, 2008 -
27 answers
Miss Manners Filter - I have been invited to a post wedding 'celebration' for a couple of friends through a Facebook events listing. Am I expected to bring a gift? If I can't attend should I send a gift anyway? (details inside)
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posted by Toto_tot
on Sep 8, 2008 -
12 answers
Wedding Etiquette filter: Who pays for what in a traditional wedding? Specifically I am looking for anything to back up the claim of my future parents in law that the costs for the reception is split between the two families.
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posted by remthewanderer
on Aug 23, 2007 -
71 answers
My boyfriend and I are heading to an outdoor wedding this weekend. It's expected to be hot, so I am questioning the appropriateness of a suit. The poor man will roast. What should/ can he wear that is acceptable?
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posted by brinkzilla
on Jun 19, 2007 -
39 answers
How do I avoid a "wedding" list (or gift registry as they're called here) without upsetting people?
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posted by tonylord
on Nov 1, 2006 -
38 answers
How rude is it
really to use a printer and a nice calligraphy or script font to print addresses on wedding invitation envelopes?
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posted by tastybrains
on Aug 5, 2006 -
54 answers
I've been invited to an "open house" in celebration of a wedding between two Mormons and have no idea what the etiquette is for such a function, particularly considering my past relationship (and current lack thereof) with the groom.
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posted by DyRE
on Feb 3, 2006 -
15 answers
My sister recently refused my wedding present on the grounds that I'm a cheapskate. She wants another one. What should I do?
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posted by rwhe
on Aug 14, 2005 -
74 answers
I'm going to a wedding where the bridesmaids are wearing all black. Is it bad etiquette for a guest to wear a black dress also?
posted by brighteyes
on Jul 29, 2005 -
26 answers
We're getting married in June at the courthouse. Our parents, and anyone else who's around and wants to go, is welcome to come along but we're not formally inviting anyone. We are, however inviting people to the reception, and I have questions about what the invitations should say.
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posted by jennyb
on Apr 15, 2005 -
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