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What's a good sort-of-host-gift for a first-time house visit?

At the behest of a third-party acquaintance, I'll be visiting the house of someone I don't know, to see a Cool Thing that's relevant to my interests. What (if anything) is an appropriate gift to bring along in these circumstances? [more inside]
posted by yersinia on Jul 10, 2013 - 18 answers

"He swirled his brandy counter-clockwise?! Bah!"

Imagine you are in 19th century Britain and sharing a cocktail and a cigar with some upper crust gentlemen. What are some subtle actions that, while not essentially rude in nature, would still come across as a huge faux pas or violation of etiquette in that time period, specifically among the wealthy? I'm more interested in actions performed incorrectly, rather than spoken statements which are unintentionally offensive.
posted by egeanin on Jun 19, 2013 - 25 answers

Politely parenting my kid's playdates?

My preschooler is getting just old enough to have a proper social life (playdates, birthday parties, etc.). I've got some specific questions about the parental etiquette expectations surrounding these kiddie get-togethers. [more inside]
posted by Bardolph on Apr 5, 2013 - 24 answers

Call before dropping by, is this a regional thing?

My fiance and I have different opinions about visiting and whether or not we should call first. I'm not saying either of us are right or wrong, but I'm wondering if it's a regional thing. [more inside]
posted by patheral on Jan 15, 2013 - 74 answers

Keeping a beard respectable

My friend is growing a beautiful bushy beard and moustache. After several months it's wonderfully luxuriant. But, it's got to the stage where he can't eat without spillage. As for soup, forget about it - he can hardly have a mouthful before he has to wield a napkin and wipe spoonfuls away. My friend is very elegant and finds this sloppiness excruciating, especially in public. [more inside]
posted by glasseyes on Jan 11, 2013 - 21 answers

Share house shower etiquette? (In Japan)

I am a guy living in a co-ed sharehouse in Japan. I may have committed a faux pas, and would like to know proper sharehouse shower etiquette. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by Kamelot123 on Nov 14, 2012 - 18 answers

Letitia Baldrige died for my sins

We are very, very late with our wedding thank-yous. Over a year. We know we are horrible people, okay? Now what? [more inside]
posted by Madamina on Nov 6, 2012 - 32 answers

Bad manners to go to a dinner with casual aquaintances when you have a cold?

It's 3pm now. Going to an event, a dinner, that starts at 6pm hopefully, but I have a cold. Might it turn out that I am unwelcome at the event if I go? Thing is, I know exactly who gave me the cold and don't really thank them for it. Is it bad etiquette to go to something like this if you have a cold? They are not friends or anything that I would otherwise be exposed to. [more inside]
posted by Nish ton on Nov 3, 2012 - 24 answers

How to email strangers who work in your academic area?

[Grad School Filter] “Hello more-established stranger who already did the academic research I wanted to do and my committee is making me email you…” Does anyone have any verbage that seems graceful and appropriate? [more inside]
posted by powerbumpkin on May 29, 2012 - 11 answers

Developing the non-pushy ask

How do I, very much an asker, make it easy and comfortable for an askee if they want to say "no"? or do I need to just not ask? [more inside]
posted by spbmp on Mar 10, 2012 - 29 answers

Am I a total snob for being embarrassed by my friend's table habit?

Am I a total snob for being embarrassed by my friend's table habit? If so, how can I fix it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 29, 2011 - 58 answers

Hey, I don't really want to hug her, either.

Unwilling toddlers and forced social interactions with adults: is it OK to instruct your child to (for instance) hug Great-Aunt Maisie, when she'd prefer not to? [more inside]
posted by Bardolph on Dec 29, 2011 - 46 answers

How can I improve my daughter's table manners?

How can I improve my daughter's table manners? [more inside]
posted by cheapskatebay on Jul 27, 2011 - 37 answers

Is there any way to uninvite someone?

How do you uninvite someone to a party? Is it ever acceptable? [more inside]
posted by Hey nonny nonny mouse on Jul 9, 2011 - 42 answers

Please help me to tell people I will not always be available to them

Please help me to politely tell people that I am not available 24/7 by phone. [more inside]
posted by triggerfinger on Dec 22, 2010 - 62 answers

Is turnaround fair play when it comes to weddings?

Despite my profile name, my wife and I recently celebrated our two year anniversary. Yay! We recently received an engagement party and wedding invitation from a couple that didn't give us a gift for our wedding. Now, we're not sure how to handle the gift situation. Do we get them a gift as we would any other wedding, do we scale down the size of the gift, or do we not give a gift at all? [more inside]
posted by love is a murderer on Oct 19, 2010 - 65 answers

The unwritten code of rock concerts.

Rock concert etiquette: What are the unwritten rules of general admission, unseated shows. re: your spot. [more inside]
posted by windbox on Oct 16, 2010 - 32 answers

So... your husband. Not a child molester, by any chance?

There is a very small, but still nonzero, chance that my brother-in-law might be a pedophile. I have a toddler daughter who is very close to her aunt. How can I tactfully gather more information about this, and how should I handle it with my family? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 5, 2010 - 59 answers

How to ask a prickly question about wedding gifts?

Prickly wedding etiquette question: We got married a little ways back, had a wonderful wedding, an unforgettable honeymoon, and are now back in the real world again. We're ready to sit down and write our thank-you cards, and have run into a slight... hiccup. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 19, 2010 - 43 answers

My obsession with Miss Manners knows no bounds

I need help finding something Miss Manners said about budgets and guest lists. [more inside]
posted by ThePinkSuperhero on Aug 28, 2009 - 7 answers

korean dinner etiquette

Invited to a Korean household for dinner, what do I bring? [more inside]
posted by tamarack on Jun 28, 2009 - 21 answers

Help drafting pet's death announcement

I need to email an announcement about the death of my dog... but I am very emotional about it and do not want people to contact me via telephone with their condolences. I am having trouble drafting a sentence stating this that doesn't sound rude or like it's coming from a robot. Could you possibly help? [more inside]
posted by dobbs on Jun 9, 2009 - 19 answers

Thank you too much!

A friend made a really sweet, but kind of awkwardly generous, gesture. How to respond gracefully, while still giving her an out? [more inside]
posted by Bardolph on May 26, 2009 - 23 answers

Nana would be so disappointed in me.

Etiquette-filter: sending thank-you notes late (like, ridiculously, months-to-years late)? Specific questions within. [more inside]
posted by Bardolph on Jan 21, 2009 - 14 answers

How to be the perfect open-plan worker

I'm about to move to an organisation where I will be working open plan, after three years in the blissful solitude of my own office. If you could create the perfect workmate to sit at the desk next to you, what advice would you give? (Leaving aside the obvious things like no speakerphone, no music without headphones, etc.)
posted by impluvium on Dec 14, 2008 - 23 answers

Cultural expectations in a restaurant?

When I go to a restaurant, am I expected to use their cultural mannerisms and customs or is it ok for me to do things however I want? Is there a limit to how lenient they are about letting me do things my way? [more inside]
posted by alitorbati on Oct 30, 2008 - 18 answers

What would Miss Manners do?

How can I (very politely!) beg off future visits to my boss's house? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 6, 2008 - 12 answers

Saying "no"

Miss Manners Filter: How do I politely say, "Please never contact me again." [more inside]
posted by Sophie1 on May 21, 2008 - 44 answers

Authoritative guide on manners, etiquette, and all that good stuff?

Authoritative guide on manners, etiquette, and all that good stuff? [more inside]
posted by detune on Apr 1, 2008 - 13 answers

Should we invite the class?

Birthday party etiquette question: Would it be in bad taste to invite my son's preschool classmates to his fifth birthday party? [more inside]
posted by LoriFLA on Mar 26, 2008 - 18 answers

Somehow-etiquetteFilter : a question on everything that surrounds it

Related to This post on what defines sophistication, and as a student, i believe there may be people who would be interested in books on the topic (aside of non-verbal language books)... [more inside]
posted by Jireel on Mar 21, 2008 - 7 answers

Ol' Snothead

Is it rude to attend a party when you have a cold? [more inside]
posted by Jess the Mess on Nov 10, 2007 - 18 answers

Help a haole

How do I not be an obnoxious mainlander while vacationing on the Big Island? [more inside]
posted by small_ruminant on Oct 19, 2007 - 12 answers

Having a cold around a lot of people

Etiquette filter: What's the best way to handle being stopped up in a crowed situation such as on an airplane or in a large lecture hall? Is it more annoying if I sit and sniff, or occasionally blow my nose? Also, to imagine the worst possible scenario, what do I do if I find myself in this situation without enough tissues?
posted by martinX's bellbottoms on Sep 19, 2007 - 15 answers

inner circle sushi

I've been admitted to a very exclusive, yet humble, sushi-ya. What should I do and avoid, to become a star customer? [more inside]
posted by cior on Apr 23, 2007 - 23 answers

My refrigerator runneth over

EtiquetteFilter: I had surgery last week and my lovely, sweet friends have signed up to bring a home cooked meal each night until the 29th of December. How do I get them to stop? [more inside]
posted by LoriFLA on Dec 20, 2006 - 34 answers

How do I eat crusty bread?

How do I eat crusty bread or other crumbly items like crackers without getting a big crumbly mess all over the table? [more inside]
posted by grouse on Nov 26, 2006 - 22 answers

Fighting fire with fire?

My cousin's fiancee had a baby last year. I couldn't attend the baby shower, but sent a nice gift anyway. No thank you note. (the relatives I talked to who went to the shower didn't get one either.) More than month ago, I went to her wedding shower and gave her another nice gift. So far, no thank you note. Now, what should I do about a wedding gift, or should I get off my cranky high horse? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 9, 2006 - 77 answers

Baby on Board(room)

My boss just had a baby. It's a small company. She's bringing it to work everyday. How do I tell her that this is bad? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 17, 2005 - 132 answers

Conversations with persons with lazy eyes

How to politely converse with a person who has a lazy eye? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 16, 2005 - 19 answers

Being a New NeighborFilter

Does anyone have any suggestions for a good way to get in good with my new neighbors? [more inside]
posted by softlord on Jun 10, 2005 - 17 answers

Is it misogynistic to use the "C-word?"

Is it considered misogynous to use "the C-word" ? It had never even occured to me that it might be until my sister asked that I never use it as it was "so anti-women." At the right moment, it's SUCH a useful word, but I don't want to appear to be "anti-women", since I'm not . Is my sister's view unusual?
posted by bunglin jones on Jan 17, 2005 - 112 answers

What jobs let you retain your title after you've moved on?

Other than President, Military titles, and Dr. What jobs let you retain your title after you've stopped being employed as such? I don't mean being referred to as 'Former such and such'. I mean actually keeping the title as part of one's name or formal address.
posted by pieoverdone on Dec 7, 2004 - 19 answers

Saying No

What do you say or do when someone out of the Blue - generally a fellow user who rarely comments and so is quite new to you - suddenly e-mails for the first time saying he or she will be in town, is interested in something you could help with and would like to have a drink with you?

It's clearly a friendly invitation but how do you politely decline, without having to lie and/or appearing to be a stuffed shirt?
posted by MiguelCardoso on Oct 21, 2004 - 45 answers

kids Hallowe'en party ettiquette

My 6 year old daughter has been invited to an American child's Hallowe'en party here in the UK. Is a gift required?
posted by Pericles on Sep 30, 2004 - 11 answers

Door holding etiquette

How far behind you does a person have to be in order for you to safely not hold the door for them, and not be considered rude?
posted by adampsyche on Sep 21, 2004 - 23 answers

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