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What's the etiquette for catching up with "exes"?

Specifically if you are in a serious relationship with someone else. I'm sure this varies among couples and the best thing is probably just to talk to each other openly...but before I bring it up with my boyfriend, I wanted to get some unbiased advice to make sure I'm not stepping across a line because I do feel weird about it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 25, 2014 - 25 answers

OK to ask out someone you know through an ex?

I like a boy. I'm pretty sure he likes me back. Great, right? There's one problem: said boy is someone I know through an ex. Is this ever OK to pursue? [more inside]
posted by Sara C. on Sep 30, 2014 - 28 answers

What is the most polite way to turn down a request for a second date?

So, I've jumped into online dating. It's going oddly better than expected, such that I now have a couple etiquette questions: 1) how do I politely turn down a request for a second date? He seems like a kind person and I'd like to avoid hurting his feelings inasmuch as possible, but I wasn't quite feeling that spark of attraction. Is there some equivalent of Miko's breakup talk for this that will help here, something clear but gentle? Also... [more inside]
posted by maggiepolitt on Jun 13, 2014 - 28 answers

That went well, right?

Had a great first date with a woman who seems pretty busy. She cancelled our second date, asked for a rain check, and I haven't heard from her since. What's the etiquette here? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 26, 2013 - 21 answers

I'm dating-challenged and dropped the ball. How I do pick it back up?

Over last weekend I spent a whole bunch of time with a lovely woman--dinners, picnics, walks, wine under the stars etc. These weren't explicitly dates, but it all seemed pretty romantic. At the end of the evening on Saturday and Sunday we had these awkward pauses when my insecurities and my desire to--give a goodnight kiss? Express my attraction? Or something--were warring. I don't know what she was thinking but it was awkward on both sides. Now I won't see her for a month. Do I email her and explicitly say that I'm interested? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 26, 2013 - 25 answers

How to politely decline people on internet dating sites?

What are the best ways to politely decline people on internet dating sites? [more inside]
posted by deern the headlice on May 2, 2013 - 27 answers

Not Quite Jim and Pam

In a dating scenairo, when a girl respond to a guy's request for a date with a nonspecific "maybe some other time," does it actually means "No"? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 29, 2013 - 32 answers

I hear the espresso's really cheap in this joint

Paying for first dates: who should do it? [more inside]
posted by Miss T.Horn on Sep 13, 2012 - 86 answers

JDate, block these creeps already.

JDate Filter: Am I being rude/off-putting by including a semi-terse "I'm not for you if you're older than X" message at the top of my profile? [more inside]
posted by These Birds of a Feather on Apr 13, 2012 - 26 answers

"Sooo... can we have sex now?"

Second hookup/date tips for a girl who likes to pick up guys? (How to encourage said guys to make a move the second time around). [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 15, 2012 - 18 answers

Too sad to be good convo partner?

Ok, so I've been having this problem lately (and I think it's related to my recent depression) where I meet new people and kind of expect that I'll never develop any friendship with them, but then it actually does happen, and I realize in horror that when they bring up previous conversations we've had, I act completely clueless because I didn't bother to remember it in the first place, and they say something like, "Remember we were talking about how my mom lives literally right next door to you?" (seriously, that happened today) and I remember suddenly, but clearly have already made it obvious that I didn't remember it in the first place... That's been happening a lot lately, and I want to know how to recall what I talked about with people more. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 1, 2011 - 8 answers

I don't want to see your etchings.

Help me graciously decline an invitation to a guy's apartment in advance of our date. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 29, 2011 - 39 answers

To use info from a girl's online profile in talking to her offline?

I've recently made chit-chat with an attractive barista at a coffee shop I frequent, mostly about the writing group I meet with there and a band we both like that she was playing over the sound system one day. This past weekend I signed into OKCupid for the first time in awhile, and she's one of the first matches that comes up for me. So now not only do I know that she's single, but that we both like several other bands, authors, shows and movies. We actually have a good bit in common. Do I exploit my new-found knowledge of her to make conversation in person (which is publicly posted, and it's not like I went looking for it), or do I message her on OKC in a "fancy meeting you here" sort of way? Which is less creepy?
posted by Zorz on Jul 26, 2011 - 40 answers

I want to out on dates, not sit at home and write emails

Online dating question for the women of Metafilter : if a guy asks you out in the first email, do you automatically assume that he's a player, a creep, or otherwise undesirable? What if you email him first, and he asks you out in his first reply? [more inside]
posted by Sloop John B on Feb 25, 2011 - 48 answers

Dear Slutty Abby

What's the general opinion on "morning after" etiquette? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 8, 2011 - 57 answers

I didn't realize your girlfriend was okay with us dating, too.

Why do people go on "dates" to "get to know" other people, but not mention that they already have a significant other? [more inside]
posted by patronuscharms on Dec 28, 2010 - 32 answers

Check please?

I went out with a girl twice and she just sent me a Facebook message telling me that she's seeing someone else now and that she wants to take me out to dinner to pay me back for the previous dates. [more inside]
posted by Groovytimes on Oct 26, 2010 - 51 answers

The fine line between 'gentleman' and 'creep'...

How do I offer to escorting my date home without sounding like I'm sleazily trying to invite myself back to her place? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 7, 2010 - 38 answers

What's appropriate in the world of online dating?

OnlineDatingEtiquetteFilter: I'm somewhat new to the online dating scene, opting for free sites such as OKCupid. As a guy interested in women, there's a few points of etiquette that I'm just not exactly sure how to handle. A series of questions after the cut. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 14, 2010 - 30 answers

Can I hang out at the bar if I'm dating the bartender?

Dating a bartender - is it ok to hang out at the bar? (But me and the bar began our relationship first!) [more inside]
posted by teststrip on Aug 11, 2010 - 21 answers

My schedule is totally not interested in you

Mind-reading Filter: What does this mean - "Well, I'm totally booked up this week... I don't know what my schedule is next week." [more inside]
posted by XMLicious on Aug 10, 2010 - 21 answers

She's picked Bachelor No. 2, folks!

Dating Etiquette - gently letting a suitor know someone else has been picked instead of him, without burning the bridge. [more inside]
posted by lizbunny on Mar 7, 2010 - 31 answers

Let's be friends

Ambiguous date requests. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 10, 2009 - 25 answers

What is proper dating etiquette?

What is proper dating etiquette? [more inside]
posted by mintchip on Aug 5, 2009 - 20 answers

Low rent, yet smooth

How can I gracefully take the first date down a notch? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 1, 2009 - 27 answers

Craigslist Etiquette

Is it rude to not respond to someone on Craigslist? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 6, 2009 - 21 answers

When is it OK to start hooking up after a break-up?

If you are living with a recent ex--and you can't move for a few months until the lease is up--how do you handle dating and hook-ups? If you are ready to move on, but they may not be, of course you're not bringing anyone home but at what point in time is it reasonable to, well, not come home at night? What is the etiquette in this situation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 10, 2009 - 24 answers

My Fair Gentleman

My Fair ... Gentleman? Please give me a crash course on being a gentleman for a date with a lady. [more inside]
posted by TimeTravelSpeed on Oct 16, 2007 - 59 answers

How do you gently tell someone you're casually dating that you're also dating someone else?

How do you gently tell someone you're casually dating that you're also dating someone else? [more inside]
posted by thehmsbeagle on Apr 30, 2007 - 33 answers

hey, wanna go out? [silence]

Questions about rejection via non-confrontational means... [more inside]
posted by jetskiaccidents on Feb 8, 2006 - 26 answers

Is there any acceptable way to ask retail staff for a date?

AttractiveRetailWorkerFilter: If someone would like a date with someone they only see at retail/checkout, is there any acceptable way to communicate this, that doesn't impose on the worker or make their job harder/unpleasant if they're not interested? [more inside]
posted by -harlequin- on Aug 26, 2005 - 26 answers

Dating etiquette?

Half-past Thirty Dating Filter: Here I am dating at 34, and it sure is a drag. But online dating sites make it strangely easy also. I'm curious about how people think about dating etiquette. [more inside]
posted by OmieWise on Jul 22, 2005 - 33 answers

Online dating diplomacy.

Online dating diplomacy. If you decide after an email or two that you are not interested in the other person, either because the conversation is uninspiring or the pictures they send are unappealing, should you actually write to tell them "sorry, but I'm not interested?" Or is that worse than falling silent and letting the correspondence die? Some people persist if you don't respond, and ask "what's the deal? you didn't like my pic?" I honestly don't know what's the best thing to say, if anything. Honesty is not the same as full disclosure, and I just feel that random people really don't need to hear that I find them undesireable / uninteresting. I figure if I just stop writing, most people will simply write me off and move on. What do you think?
posted by scarabic on Jan 31, 2005 - 38 answers

What are some good first date questions?

This is for a friend, I swear!

I’ve got a big date tonight and as all of you know from being my friend, though I may be a stellar conversationalist, I don’t have a good sense of boundaries and what are appropriate 1st date questions to ask. So can you all send me a list?  It may also be helpful to give me a list of things not to say.
posted by rschroed on Oct 29, 2004 - 36 answers

Dating at work

Advice for the socially awkward, part three million and two. I've been asked to have lunch next week by a guy I recently met one time through work. I have accepted. I'd like to let him know I'm already in a committed relationship without coming off as cutting. He seems nice, with friend potential. Have I already blundered? Is it a date? Help!
posted by ungratefulninja on Aug 6, 2004 - 36 answers

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