http://ask.metafilter.com/tags/enragement Questions tagged with 'enragement' at Ask MetaFilter. Tue, 12 Jun 2007 14:32:10 -0800 Tue, 12 Jun 2007 14:32:10 -0800 en-us http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss 60 http://ask.metafilter.com/64617/Enragement%2DRing How can I get past my resentment at having to buy an engagement ring? I love my girlfriend and want to marry her, but having to buy a wedding ring upsets me. My objections are nicely summed up in <a href="http://www.slate.com/id/2167870/nav/tap1/">this recent piece</a> in <i>Slate</i>: it's a backwards, sexist, manufactured tradition that begins a relationship that should be based on equality with something that's distinctly unequal. My girlfriend agrees with most of this but wants one anyway.<br> <br> I have credit card debt, so the idea of spending more money I don't really have on something I think is completely impractical and artificial bothers me. Also, my girlfriend makes more money than I do, so it seems unfair that I'm expected to buy something expensive for her and she isn't expected to buy something expensive for me. She said I could use money from our joint account, but that seems emasculating.<br> <br> I suppose I just have to suck it up and get one because she wants one, but that bothers me, too. How can I get past this? I'm not upset enough to not get married, but I need some perspective. tag:ask.metafilter.com,2007:site.64617 Tue, 12 Jun 2007 14:32:10 -0800 engagement enragement ring Anonymous