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Should I rock the boat?

I have written a letter to my mother in which I try to show her that her marriage to my father is not what it claims to be, and that the promised happy times that are always just around the corner are probably never going to come. Should I send it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 19, 2016 - 43 answers

Advice/help coping with pregnancy ambivalence

I'm looking for advice/resources/reading materials/words of wisdom/comfort for dealing with the many negative feelings I'm experiencing towards this pregnancy. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 15, 2016 - 45 answers

How to help a 3 year old recover emotionally from hospitalizations?

My kid had 2 ER trips and an overnight hospitalization last week due to his chronic health condition, and he's been an emotional wreck ever since. I would love tips on how to help him settle back into a more level emotional state, or at least as level as a 3 year old gets. [more inside]
posted by Maarika on Feb 28, 2016 - 15 answers

who HATES Pixar's `Inside Out` enough to organize against it?

I was tremendously moved by Pixar's Inside Out and went online to read reviews. While not taken as a pillar of the film community, I noticed on IMDB when you clicked on user reviews, you were greeted by a full page of 1-star reviews. This seemed... suspicious. Are there any groups that would perhaps see the film Inside Out as worthy of a targeted campaign to deter people via imdb? [more inside]
posted by Theta States on Feb 22, 2016 - 34 answers

Emotions for grown ups and toddlers

My toddler is at an age when I should be describing his emotions to him. I am pretty good at happy, shy, excited but I am really bad at describing negative emotions. In counseling, I describe all of my negative emotions as frustrated. The difference between mad and angry is non existent and in my mind those two words are almost the same as frustrated and upset. Please provide resources to explain the differences in these and other feelings. [more inside]
posted by Kalmya on Feb 18, 2016 - 14 answers

If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.

How can I settle feelings of resentment towards someone I can't just boot out of my life? [more inside]
posted by Sara C. on Jan 17, 2016 - 19 answers

Please tell me about ways you have overcome internalized misogyny.

I've always been a nerd/geek girl and as a result I have internalized a ton of toxic misogyny. As I get older I'm finding it difficult to accept (and god forbid love) my femininity. I know I need to learn to be OK with being a woman, but it feels shameful and gross. Help? [more inside]
posted by MetaFilter World Peace on Dec 23, 2015 - 53 answers

Living with a partner who has depression.

We're in this cycle, where the worse he feels, the worse he acts toward me, the worse I feel, the more I need kindness, the less he is able to provide it, the angrier I get, the worse he feels, repeat ad nauseum. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 11, 2015 - 19 answers

Advice for dating someone with clinical depression

Most of the posts I found here were by posters suffering from depression themselves. I'm interested in those perspectives (what a partner can do to help) but primarily those of people who've been in relationships with a depressed person, but aren't depressed themselves. More specifics inside. [more inside]
posted by ism on Nov 6, 2015 - 24 answers

Effective strategies for helping kids deal with runaway emotions/tantrum

What successful strategies have you had for helping a kindergartener/young school age child deal with runaway emotions or prevent tantrums?
posted by drezdn on Oct 6, 2015 - 15 answers

I get frustrated. He shuts down. It gets worse. Please help.

After a minor argument grew into a very stressful situation for both of us today, my boyfriend and I finally figured out a few things that have been contributing to a destructive pattern of behavior (basically, my emotions stress him out, he shuts down, I become more frustrated because he is unavailable to me). At first I felt empowered by our breakthroughs. Now I feel discouraged. Please help. [more inside]
posted by NeverGrowSoOldAgain on Aug 8, 2015 - 53 answers

Navigating the tricky waters of an ever-changing dating status tide.

Dear Mefites, this is my first question! I'm excited to hear from the community i've been reading since forever. Here's an issue I'm facing that's bothering me: someone i'm seeing has a some-what change of heart/mind towards me in terms of how he envisions our future/potential. I've been confused from the beginning as it started sexually quickly, then to possibly serious, to suddenly somewhat possibly just casual now. Grateful if any of you could advise me on what you observe his character/behavior/mindset to be, from the descriptions that I will best try to relate. Please excuse the extremely long post. [more inside]
posted by eustaciavye87 on Aug 3, 2015 - 17 answers

How to cure anger and feelings of bitter entitlement?

I am middle-aged. Without going into my personal history, it is sufficient to say I feel like life is consistently, repeatedly short-changing me over time. I am not exaggerating when I say that I basically have no one available who truly cares about me on a level beyond what I can do for them because I have no social status to speak of and life consistently goes horribly awry for me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 26, 2015 - 21 answers

Short, emotionally-mixed poems/lyrics needed

A colleague and I are starting some new research in which we are interested in whether we can influence people's interpretation of emotionally-mixed music and language. We easily found music of mixed emotional tone (studied in the article linked here; paywalled, but I can share if anyone is interested), but it's been far harder to find mixed-emotion language that meets our constraints. More details follow. [more inside]
posted by anaphoric on May 18, 2015 - 5 answers

What to do about seemingly not justified negative gut feelings?

Are gut feelings ever wrong? I’m currently struggling with the decision about where to go to graduate school. I thought I'd found a pretty good option, but now I’m having inexplicably bad gut feelings about it. However, I can find nothing wrong with the option and there’s no obvious better alternative. I don’t want to randomly just pull out because I “have a bad feeling about it.” What is a rational person to do? [more inside]
posted by cestlavie on May 18, 2015 - 15 answers

My bf always asks if I'm okay, and it's frustrating.

I don't like being asked on such a regular basis (five times or more a day) if I'm okay. I just want to go about my normal activities and feel my normal range of emotions without having to be self-conscious about it. I know he means well, but I feel like if I'm not always smiling and outwardly placid -- like if I'm trying to find something in the house or concentrating intently on writing an email -- then something is wrong, the kind of wrong that I suddenly have to open up and talk about to placate his need to know if I'm okay. 98 percent of the time, I am fine. I'm not a naturally perky person, and I'm a bit introverted so my inner life is important to me. I've mentioned all this to him several times. How do I get him to stop?
posted by anonymous on May 3, 2015 - 42 answers

I'm hitting rock bottom. How do I pull myself back up?

Everything in my life seems to be spiraling out of control. I'm afraid I'll hit rock bottom soon and will need to rebuild my whole life. Help me not go crazy. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 28, 2015 - 17 answers

Help me understand why I'm afraid of creative pursuits

In my heart, I love literature, I love art, I love music...but I think my emotions are sabotaging me from enjoying them? [more inside]
posted by Cybria on Mar 9, 2015 - 8 answers

How do I cope with and process this intense emotional connection?

Dated someone, felt intensely emotionally (but not physically?) attracted to them, but things fizzled out. Now re-connected as friends and those feelings are coming back, but something's still missing. Need some perspective from others who've been here before. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 7, 2015 - 7 answers

Negativity & Negative Thoughts

I was curious what others do to fight off negativity in their life. I am not talking about negative people but rather one's own inner demons. I went on a four mile walk yesterday and instead of relaxing and enjoying it, I was thinking about all the potential things that could go wrong in my life. I don't say this because I embrace thinking in a victim mentality but rather that to point out that I am aware that a lot of really bad things can happen to a person. [more inside]
posted by nidora on Dec 15, 2014 - 25 answers

Anger Management 101

Please recommend materials to help me cope with keeping composure during trying times. [more inside]
posted by chrono_rabbit on Dec 5, 2014 - 3 answers

Book recommendations on how the brain impacts the body

I'm interested in learning more about the science of mind-body connections, especially in the mind-impacts-body direction. For example, I'm curious about how mental exertion can lead to physical fatigue, or how an emotion can trigger physical symptoms in the body (such as indigestion from stress). I'm looking for an interesting and accessible book on this topic, if one exists. [more inside]
posted by ootandaboot on Nov 24, 2014 - 7 answers

How to get over my anger about assault/street harrassment

A couple of days ago, riding my bicycle home from work, a random guy in a van who was passing me whacked me on the bum with his hand from the window of his car. I nearly fell off into traffic, and it was upsetting and rage-inducing, and I still feel really worked up about it. I'm finding myself dreading my bicycle commute now, and spending way too much mental energy on this. Has anyone got any suggestions for ways to deal with those emotions and stop letting this eat me up? [more inside]
posted by lollusc on Nov 5, 2014 - 31 answers

Need help with Emotional Regulation

I'm flailing and feeling like I've backslid on a lot of personal progress. I don't know what's going on, and I'd like some advice for getting myself back on track. I've attempted to keep this concise. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 28, 2014 - 8 answers

Can you explain how feelings work?

I guess I'm 39 going on 9 but I need you to explain feelings please, and what I might be able to to about them. Can I stop/manage/fast-track the negative ones somehow? Illustrative example inside but I'd really like to hear broad principles please [more inside]
posted by Gomoryhu on Oct 24, 2014 - 23 answers

Emotive books for a toddler

I'm looking for book recommendations for books filled with emotions, but not about emotions, for our toddler. [more inside]
posted by lab.beetle on Oct 20, 2014 - 19 answers

How to limit impact of stress/anger from fights/arguments?

I had a fight with a friend through text the other day. It wasn't a huge fight in the great scheme of things, but I got much angrier than the situation called for. The stress from the fight messed me up for the rest of the day, and severely impacted my productivity level. I need advice on how to not have such a powerful reaction to upsetting events, when the reaction seemingly happens before I even have time to think. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by CottonCandyCapers on Oct 13, 2014 - 10 answers

How do find a job or career where compassion, sensitivity are assets?

Are there jobs where having a *thin* skin is an asset instead of a liability? Where being loving, caring, emotional, sensitive are a good thing and you don't have to fight those tendencies, especially as a leader? [more inside]
posted by inatizzy on Sep 16, 2014 - 30 answers

Losing Weight

I have asked a similar question in the past about how to shed the weight, but I am really struggling to do what I need to do. I need to take off roughly fifty pounds and I thought that if I transitioned to a vegan diet that this would help with it. I was cleared by my doctor to workout, he gave me a stress test and said that everything was okay. [more inside]
posted by nidora on Sep 7, 2014 - 37 answers

How to get over something stupid I done

I did something I feel really bad about, it does not sound like much, but I feel terrible. [more inside]
posted by slimeline on Sep 5, 2014 - 32 answers

Healthy Ways to Physically Express Negative Emotions

Asking for a friend: what are some good, healthy ways for an adult to physically express their upsetting feelings? [more inside]
posted by gauche on Jul 11, 2014 - 35 answers

How do you keep your calm when everyone around you is manic?

I work in an office that is highly vulnerable to stress and panic. At the same time, I do my best work when I can focus, exclude distractions and prioritize. How can I keep the tendency to join the panic wagon at bay? [more inside]
posted by Kurichina on Jul 7, 2014 - 11 answers

What turns emotional distress into real physical illness?

I've read that for everyone emotional distress can lower immune function, but it seems that certain people are more susceptible to falling into illness when in distress. I feel I am one of those people. What makes some people more susceptible to this transfer from the emotional to the physical than others? [more inside]
posted by manderin on Jul 4, 2014 - 19 answers

MeFiting

I'm trying to learn more about the phenomenon of meta-fighting between romantic partners. I don't know if there's a better term for it, but what I mean is when a heated dispute becomes less about the original subject matter, and more about the way in which the current dispute is being conducted. For example, you might criticize me for fighting dirty: using a sharper tone than necessary, being mean, reopening old wounds, trying to change the subject, etc. Are there any psychology or self-help books that deal a lot with the dynamics of fighting/arguing/bickering that might discuss this phenomenon in particular? (Bonus for examples of this in movies or books.)
posted by Beardman on May 23, 2014 - 22 answers

I don't know if I like the person I'm becoming.

I've felt a change in my personality and how I handle things lately, and it's making me uneasy. [more inside]
posted by dubious_dude on May 7, 2014 - 15 answers

Staying effective despite caregiver stress

Can any caregivers here offer tips on managing bandwidth (time and emotions)? Looking specifically for practical tricks/hacks to quickly switch mood states when time allocated to productive work is interrupted by big and small worries. [more inside]
posted by cotton dress sock on Mar 24, 2014 - 13 answers

If I could just care less about my work, I'd do a better job.

I'm the kind of person who gets worried enough they'll do their work not well, or make a mistake, that they end up either not starting or working too slowly and filled with dread. Last week, I had to work late on a project. I had two beers in the process, found I cared less about the anxiety and dread and perfectionism, and just did a better, less stressful job. I want to do this without drinking. [more inside]
posted by Ash3000 on Mar 24, 2014 - 14 answers

Can You Help Find the Missing Pieces in These Playlists?

I know there are songs I want on these playlists that I'm not remembering, and I'm constantly aware that I have blind spots that may be robbing me of perfect songs. Can you help me attack either issue by looking over one or both playlists then suggesting songs to add? [more inside]
posted by batmonkey on Feb 25, 2014 - 5 answers

How do I process my emotions when I'm bound by confidentiality rules?

How do I process my emotions when I am bound by confidentiality rules and can't talk with anyone about what happened? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 15, 2014 - 26 answers

Why Am I So Ok After Breaking Up with Someone I Loved?

On Tuesday, I broke up with my long-term boyfriend. I was devastated Tuesday and Wednesday, now I feel pretty ok. What gives? [more inside]
posted by Tall Telephone Pea on Jan 31, 2014 - 23 answers

How to manage emotions when teaching

How do you keep yourself from getting too emotionally invested in your students and your teaching? My day can be made or destroyed by my students and the extent to which this happens makes me uncomfortable. [more inside]
posted by sarae on Dec 31, 2013 - 17 answers

The Memory of Love (no, not the book)

I can't remember my emotions. I can't remember being in love, for example. I have an intellectual memory of the fact that I was once in love, but I can't recall the feeling anymore like I was able to a year ago. [more inside]
posted by Enchanting Grasshopper on Dec 6, 2013 - 12 answers

flipped out!

How do I get better at not ignoring all the positive emotional work I've done when suddenly being triggered in a high-stress low-functioning situation? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Nov 20, 2013 - 6 answers

Why do I have strong emotional reactions to smell and music but not art?

Why is it that people have super-strong reactions to different types of sensory stimulants? Do you have any tales of experiencing strong reactions to visual art as opposed to sounds and smells? [more inside]
posted by fishingforthewhale on Sep 26, 2013 - 33 answers

Fun ideas for a workshop on emotions?

Help me design a workshop about emotions, self-awareness, and coping strategies for 50 queer youth! [more inside]
posted by whalebreath on Aug 6, 2013 - 12 answers

Therapy for trauma: more trouble than it's worth?

I need to decide whether it's worth the trouble for me to go to therapy. I am fortunate to be able to afford it financially, but in terms of time and emotional energy, I am not so sure. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by gemutlichkeit on Aug 2, 2013 - 14 answers

Would this be a deal breaker for you?

If you were a passenger in a car your partner was driving, and the two of you got into an argument, and your partner punched the steering wheel to express their frustration while going 65mph in multi-lane interstate traffic, what would you do? [more inside]
posted by macinchik on Jul 30, 2013 - 58 answers

I'm looking for videos that induce frisson and make you want to explore.

I'm making a list of videos that create a very particular kind of frisson: the feeling that the world is a big place filled with experiences to have and explorations to take part in. Have some good examples inside - would love more. [more inside]
posted by Ash3000 on Jul 30, 2013 - 23 answers

Jealousy over the ignorance of others

I'm a very deliberate, risk-averse individual when it comes to big decisions. I make pro/con lists and spend days researching topics only to be stifled with indecision when I think the future is unpredictable. I see people who make the same decision easily, but when I question them about it, it's clear they haven't even thought about any of the factors I did. They seem to be blissfully ignorant over the possible ramifications of their decisions, and in some ways I am jealous that they can go through life so easily. Does this feeling have a name, and how can I get over it? [more inside]
posted by RobotNinja on Jul 25, 2013 - 41 answers

Physics and Emotions (No New-Age Stuff, Please!)

I need to research physics and emotions in a way that is actually scientific, but most of what I've found while googling is new age stuff. One specific question I have is this: do emotions have wavelengths in any sense of the word? Or other quantitative properties? I would be interested in any general information on the subject as well, especially as it pertains to grief/loss. Book recs, articles, info from your personal knowledge are all welcome. Thanks!
posted by mermaidcafe on Jul 1, 2013 - 27 answers

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