58 posts tagged with eldercare.
Displaying 1 through 50 of 58. Subscribe:

Am I Doing Enough For My Elderly Parents?

Inspired by this recent ask I would like to ask you all if you think I am doing enough for my elderly parents and if not, what I can reasonably be expected to do. Details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 3, 2017 - 13 answers

Therapy cat home visits in Austin?

I'm looking for a service or individual person who is willing to bring a therapy cat into a home where a senior is receiving at home hospice care. So many snowflakes. [more inside]
posted by mrcrow on Dec 18, 2016 - 2 answers

Help me navigate a potentially depressing Thanksgiving

A parent fell ill 5 months ago following complications from surgery. My friend was just killed in an accident. Three days after the funeral was the election. The day after the election I found out this parent may not walk on their own again and may need to be in long-term care indefinitely. My Thanksgiving visit will be spent planning next steps for the parent. I have more emotions than I can process right now. [more inside]
posted by good lorneing on Nov 15, 2016 - 13 answers

What to do about Dad? (International edition)

Our increasingly elderly father has survived another health crisis, but is going to need more care than we can afford or provide. Difficulty level: he's an ex-pat on the other side of the world, but wants his kid(s) to take care of him. Wall of text and some Whiskey Tango Foxtrot-ness inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 15, 2016 - 12 answers

Talk to me about elder care & power of attorney in Seattle

Asking for my husband: Dad is dealing with a recent heart surgery, new bipolar diagnosis, heavy grief, and loss of his primary support. Who do I talk to and what do I ask them when it comes to power of attorney, and making sure his needs are taken care of? Details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by polymath on Sep 21, 2016 - 6 answers

How can I help keep my delusional, elderly parent off the streets?

I am the sole support person for one of my parents. They have no contact with any family members or past friends. In general, my parent is friendly and decent; however, they keep fleeing and/or being kicked out of housing due to their paranoid delusions. How can I help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 4, 2016 - 9 answers

Elderly aunt died, now what? Difficulty: Mass Health & pooled trust

We're a little stumped about what to do and in what order. I've had my aunt's power of attorney for many months, but now since she has died I'm told that that no longer applies. She left a will leaving her belongings to be split evenly among her remaining siblings. However! Medicaid/Mass Health complications. [more inside]
posted by clone boulevard on Jul 18, 2016 - 11 answers

How do I get my Dad off these horrible scam mailing lists?

My dad gets a dozen mailers a week from horrible scam companies promising to "renew his manly vigor". How to stop them? [more inside]
posted by suelac on Jul 7, 2016 - 13 answers

How to find legal advice if short on funds in Westchester Cty, New York?

A neighbor, an unemployed male over 40 with no employment prospects and very limited funds, needs legal advice in two areas: (i) family law, concerning a disabled mother (i.e., dementia) under the control of a questionably honest attorney-in-fact, and (ii) real estate law (and possibly commercial law), concerning the intent of the attorney-in-fact to evict said neighbor from a cooperative apartment owned by the mother. You may not be a lawyer; your are not my or his lawyer; you will not be offering legal advice. [more inside]
posted by cool breeze on Feb 4, 2016 - 5 answers

Elder abuse and dementia resources in NYC metro area

There appear to be numerous governmental and private resources to consider as we start dealing with an elder abuse situation. Do you have region-specific experience or recommendations? [more inside]
posted by maniabug on Jan 13, 2016 - 2 answers

Have you cared for a dementia sufferer who hasn't accepted their illness?

This month the progress of my father's dementia came to a decision point, as his drivers license was suspended on Halloween. Getting him to give up driving has been fraught, as one might expect. I've been kicked out of his house twice now, but have ultimately managed to get him to stop driving. I don't blame him, as I know it's his illness, but I'm left wondering if I have to accept that he is incapable of cooperating at all in getting him the care he needs. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 18, 2015 - 15 answers

Diet for elderly post-surgery weight gain

My father (in his 80s) has just finished a series of joint-related surgeries. His appetite has been diminishing for years, but between the surgeries and some problems with his meds -- now resolved -- he was nauseated for a period and his weight plummeted. He's got his appetite back, more or less, but we can't seem to put weight back on. YANOD, but his doctor's advice is appetite and med-related, and we'd like to know what foods (or meals?) would be best for sustained, healthy weight gain. Thank you!
posted by Stevia Agave on Nov 13, 2015 - 15 answers

Toys For Grandpas

Visited my Grandpa last night, and he's bored. He has very poor eyesight, nearly deaf, motor skills are deteriorating, short of breath...but he's still sharp as a tack. What can he do as a pastime, rather than sit on the couch all day? [more inside]
posted by AzraelBrown on Oct 16, 2015 - 26 answers

Home Health Aide in Dominican Republic.

I'm looking for reliable, trustworthy home health services in the Dominican Republic and I'm having ZERO luck. [more inside]
posted by PorcineWithMe on Aug 5, 2015 - 1 answer

Eldercare in-home physical therapy/massage in Montreal

My mother has an advanced form of dementia that includes severe physical deterioration. She holds parts of her body very rigid and her caregivers say she is getting increasingly stiff. I’ve been thinking that there has to be a niche for a practitioner who would come to her nursing home and administer some kind of massage that would help relax and maybe assuage the stiffness of someone who is essentially bed/chair bound. [more inside]
posted by Salamandrous on May 30, 2015 - 4 answers

Mom wants to keep her independence and you can help!

The fabulous Momquat lives alone and has requested a health monitor service of the "help, I've fallen..." variety to give her some peace of mind. She doesn't need assisted living or a roommate, just the ability to summon help in the rare emergency. Help me select a good system, taking into account her snowflakes. [more inside]
posted by jenquat on Apr 29, 2015 - 5 answers

Resouces for transferring a stair chair from one home to another

We have a stair chair in our home that was used by my husband’s parents. They have since passed away, and we have always thought that we’d like to donate the stair chair to somebody or some organization that could use it. Now, we actually have an acquaintance who, due to health issues, could really use the stair chair in their home. [more inside]
posted by molasses on Mar 17, 2015 - 4 answers

Should I accept power of attorney for my parents?

My parents are in their early 70s and have minor health issues, but are generally doing well and definitely of sound mind. They have lately been planning for the future: consulting an elder care attorney, signing up for long term health care, etc. They have asked me to be their health care proxy and executor (along with another of my siblings), which I'm willing to do since I feel confident that I understand their wishes. However, they also asked me to take on durable power of attorney which I feel less comfortable with. [more inside]
posted by ungratefulninja on Mar 8, 2015 - 24 answers

help my friend Alzheimers-proof his house

My friend from this question needs advice and direction caring for his mom in her home. Her dementia is getting steadily worse, and last weekend she went wandering. [more inside]
posted by Koko on Feb 12, 2015 - 21 answers

"Run over by a reindeer" is not an option

My very difficult, very sick elderly grandmother doesn't have a lot of in-family care options left. How do we unpick this mess? Bonus family drama inside. [more inside]
posted by terretu on Dec 25, 2014 - 11 answers

What is the name of that film I saw?

I am trying to remember the name of a film that I saw. It is Australian, made in the late 80s or early 90s, and is about the neighbour and the nurse trying to get an elderly man's family to help with his declining health. My Google- and imdb-fu are not worthy. [more inside]
posted by Multicellular Exothermic on Nov 17, 2014 - 3 answers

Should I avoid supporting my aging father?

My father is aging, with heart problems and developing dementia. I am generally a conscientious person, but I'm staring down the necessity of supporting him like the barrel of a gun. Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 13, 2014 - 39 answers

Dad with dementia has moved aged care homes - how to help him cope?

My dad has multiple health problems and dementia, but since moving into care his mental and physical health have improved. Now we've had to move him to a new place and he's really unhappy there. How can we help him cope? Have you had similar experiences with an elderly relative? [more inside]
posted by andraste on Nov 4, 2014 - 12 answers

Recommendations for a mobile phone for Mom?

My Mom is 78, has and can use a laptop and Google Voice but is not particularly tech adventurous. She walks about 5 - 7 miles a day and is really self-sufficient, but we'd like to procure and use a mobile phone for her at the very least for coordinating emergencies about other people, and maybe so she can coordinate her own, if needed. I am having trouble formulating the problem and finding solutions with Google, and could really use your help and advice! [more inside]
posted by kalessin on Oct 9, 2014 - 12 answers

What should I look for in an attorney for the terminally ill?

I'd appreciate recommendations and suggestions for (and about) elder care attorneys in Portland, OR. Bonus points: not for an elder, but for someone with a terminal illness. [more inside]
posted by geckoinpdx on Sep 11, 2014 - 5 answers

Should My 92 Year Old Father Get A Different Doctor?

My 92 year old father went for his annual physical in May and I have had concerns with the quality of care he has received both during the physical and in several followups. However, I don't know if I should encourage him to go to a different doctor (there aren't many locally who are accepting new patients, and I don't know their quality, but we could try). Details after the jump. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 23, 2014 - 5 answers

How do I get my parents to take end of life care seriously?

Have you been successful at having the End of Life discussion with your parents? Would you please give tips on helping me to convince my parents to take it seriously? [more inside]
posted by schroedinger on Aug 22, 2014 - 17 answers

Forum for caregivers of elderly housebound patients?

What are the good online forums where well-informed relatives of the elderly in long term home-based health care share information? [more inside]
posted by vincele on Feb 16, 2014 - 2 answers

Um, yeah, you are deteriorating.

How can I best support the dear elderly people in my life who can't do what they used to do? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by sockerpup on Jun 10, 2013 - 12 answers

Sick and elderly father is not competent, has crushing debt. Now what?

My father had a profound stroke. He now has severe dementia and delusions. Sibling and I need to get power of attorney and also speak with a lawyer to determine long-term issues and help get rid of his crushing debt. Do I need an elder law attorney or an estate planning attorney, and what else might I need to know? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 17, 2013 - 8 answers

Experience with homecare / seniorcare franchises?

I want to start a business while helping people in my city. One option would be to purchase a homecare franchise, such as Visiting Angels, Home Helpers, Senior Helpers, Comfort Keepers, etc. I understand that these franchises might cost anywhere from $50k - $150k plus ongoing fees. Alternately, I could hang out a shingle and start my own without any outside support. I have financial experience, but I have never done homecare and I have never owned or operated my own business. Does anybody have experience or advice with related to buying or operating a homecare franchise? Does your franchise treat its members well? Does it make sense to purchase one from a well-known provider or start from scratch? I welcome all feedback and advice!
posted by 0110 on Jan 18, 2013 - 8 answers

How to find 24 hour nursing care for a parent?

My father has recently moved to an assisted living residence, but we think he may need more constant care. Is 24 hour nursing or live-in caregivers affordable? How do you find the right person/service? This is in Toronto, Ontario. [more inside]
posted by dripdripdrop on Oct 16, 2012 - 6 answers

Better care for Grandma

Please tell me about your in-home elder care solutions in the US, specifically in the rural Northeast/upper Midwest. [more inside]
posted by Snarl Furillo on May 15, 2012 - 10 answers

Long Distance Elder Care: Are my hands tied?

Long distance elderly care dilemma: Advice on moving my 85-year old aunt to assisted living from a rehab center and out of her dilapidated house in rural upstate New York. [more inside]
posted by captainmickey on Jan 16, 2012 - 16 answers

How to prevent confused elder from dismantling technology components.

An elderly relative, once technically savvy, now goes into fugue states where, in his confusion, he dismantles computer and A/V setups, with no one in the household to reconnect them properly. I'm looking for a way of securing A/V and computer connections while leaving the function of the devices still accessible. The alternative so far is spending endless hours with the cable company to get them to send someone to help, or paying someone else to come by. Phone instructions are no good, and there is no one in the household who can help.
posted by oneironaut on Nov 21, 2011 - 20 answers

Are my dad's doctors making him sicker?

This is my first Ask MeFi question, and I'm asking on behalf of my parents. My father is in reasonably good physical health but poor mental health, which may be related to the meds he's on and the "quality" care he's getting in the American "system". Are there some kind of additional resources for me or them to help make their way through the bureaucrat-ese and get some better care? And maybe some additional health care (or heck, elder care in general) resources I could find for them? [more inside]
posted by no relation on Sep 25, 2011 - 9 answers

Help me perm my gemaw's hair

This klutz needs tips, advice, and product recommendations for giving a home perm to an elderly woman. [more inside]
posted by nita on Jul 26, 2011 - 15 answers

Finding a nursing home in Cleveland

Is there an organization that can provide some guidance on choosing a nursing home? I'm interested in moving my father from the one he is in now. This is in Northeast Ohio. If I'm on my own, how do I go about finding and evaluating potential nursing homes? [more inside]
posted by stuart_s on May 18, 2011 - 5 answers

How do I research assisted living facilities?

How do I go about researching specific assisted living facilities in Florida? My grandparents are considering two of them and want me to find out if they've had any complaints, lawsuits, regulatory violations, etc. [more inside]
posted by desjardins on Mar 1, 2011 - 4 answers

Three's Company Too

Need financial/legal info about buying a house with someone else. I know YANML and YANMA but wanted starting points, advice, and any stories from people who have been through this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 24, 2011 - 5 answers

I'm sorry you're living with my nightmare

Life with (and without) Huntington's. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 22, 2010 - 15 answers

Liquidating Grandma Holdings

My wife and I need to turn my Mother-in-Law's estate into cash to fund her long term Alzheimer's care. Should I plan to call one of those estate sale companies or are there better options (an ebay seller service, maybe)? What should I know ahead of time and what scams should I watch out for? What is fair to pay for a fee or percentage? And any recommendations for the Houston area? [more inside]
posted by cross_impact on Jul 20, 2010 - 9 answers

Making preparations for my parents' future

My parents are currently in their late 50s, and in good health. But given the many threads recently on caring for elderly and sick parents, I want to start making some plans for their future care. What sorts of things should we be talking about NOW? [more inside]
posted by ladybird on Jul 5, 2010 - 13 answers

How can I help my elderly father continue to live alone in a giant house?

How can I help my elderly father continue to live alone in a giant house? [more inside]
posted by suncoursing on Dec 27, 2009 - 14 answers

Activities/tasks/distractions for my grandmother?

I'd like ideas for activities/tasks/distractions for my demented grandmother. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 17, 2009 - 10 answers

How to find a geriatric care manager?

Does anyone have any experience engaging and / or working with a geriatric care manager for an elderly relative or friend? My sister and I need some help (and a little moral support) with respect to dealing with our mother, who has mild dementia (and lives in Nassau County, New York). Any suggestions with respect to finding, evaluating and / or working with one would be greatly appreciated. Many thanks to the hive!
posted by SuzB on Sep 24, 2009 - 6 answers

How do I find accountants and financial advisers for my elderly California Mom and her trust?

How do I find accountants and financial advisers for my elderly California Mom and her trust? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 12, 2009 - 4 answers

Finding housework help for grandmother in Springfield, NJ

How to find someone to do errands/light housework regularly for my grandmother in North-Central NJ? [more inside]
posted by kelseyq on May 6, 2009 - 2 answers

Help & online support while caring for an elderly relative with vascular dementia?

Two questions, really: specifically, how can I get my aunt with vascular dementia to recognize that she needs help and can no longer live alone? And generally, I'm looking for blogs and support forums on dealing with people with dementia. [more inside]
posted by mygothlaundry on Dec 2, 2008 - 9 answers

Need home health care / home aide in NY

Help. Please. (Live-in?) Home Health Care in NY. Really long explanation inside. [more inside]
posted by exlotuseater on Oct 29, 2008 - 6 answers

Page: 1 2