Mom had rotator cuff surgery and really needs to keep her arm immobilized and then even more so take it slow and easy during recovery. I'm far away and can send flowers or something, but a neat, fun, or especially practical gift item that would help her would be really nice. Suggest away! Have you had to deal with going one-handed for a while? What helped the most? Snowflakes (of course) inside. [more inside]
My friend Jenna (alias), a 62-year old woman, very smart and capable, lost her cashier job of 30-some years about a year ago. She's freaking out and has asked me for help. Now I'm freaking out! [more inside]
I am negotiating to buy the former home of a person who has recently gone into assisted living on a permanent basis. The price is set at the tax-assessed value, which apparently is what Medicare requires for such a sale. Is this a hard and fast rule (no use trying to negotiate) or would negotiating a lower price (say, in anticipation of repairs on this old home) be possible?
Can anyone suggest mechanisms to stop an elderly person from flushing inappropriate objects down the toilet? Like, I dunno, a toilet lid that only opens up when you sit on it? Or some DIY thing? (He needs support while walking and transferring, so there'll be another human around when he goes.) [more inside]
My mom is elderly. She and her husband support my mostly unemployed brother in his 30s. I live far away but talk to her daily. My sibling and his father are into racist, misogynistic ideas and believe the end of the world is coming. They stockpile supplies and make my mom read David Icke (anti-semitism thinly veiled as "reptile aliens" taking over the government) as well as how vaccines and GMOS are poisoning us. I tried to talk to her but she thinks what I say is hard to understand (academic language) so maybe science is hiding something. [more inside]
The fabulous Momquat lives alone and has requested a health monitor service of the "help, I've fallen..." variety to give her some peace of mind. She doesn't need assisted living or a roommate, just the ability to summon help in the rare emergency. Help me select a good system, taking into account her snowflakes. [more inside]
My Mom is 78, has and can use a laptop and Google Voice but is not particularly tech adventurous. She walks about 5 - 7 miles a day and is really self-sufficient, but we'd like to procure and use a mobile phone for her at the very least for coordinating emergencies about other people, and maybe so she can coordinate her own, if needed. I am having trouble formulating the problem and finding solutions with Google, and could really use your help and advice! [more inside]
Any advice on how to convince my active, aging parents to slow down a bit and find that right balance between being active and overactive? [more inside]
Our schizophrenic neighbor appears to be emotionally abusing his elderly mother. When do we step in? [more inside]
Where in the SF Bay Area (including the South Bay) can I find Pliny the Elder on tap? I know about Bobby G's in Berkeley, but they've been out of it the last few times I've gone. (Is there a particular day of the week when you have to go?) I also know about this list, but it doesn't really help that much, since you can't tell which of those locations sells Pliny on tap.
I have a day or so to try and straighten some problems with my 97 year old grandmother's computer. I need some advice on how to set it up to encourage stress free computing. [more inside]
Caring for elderly relatives: What is the best brand of lift-chair? [more inside]
Worried about elderly father... [more inside]
Grandmother in a nursing home. Elderly grandfather caring for her and denying help from others. Grandma not getting the care she needs. What can we do? [more inside]
I have to put my mother into a care facility (and wow, they're expensive!). How do I thoroughly check out whether or not one will be good for her before allowing my mother anywhere near the place? I live about 2 hours away and plan to check it out but want to do as much legwork as I can beforehand. Thanks for the help.
Recommendation needed for quality elder attorney in New York City area ( willing to travel a bit to save money). Areas of expertise would be asset management to meet requirements of assistance programs, irrevocable trusts etc, Medicaid, SSD, and Pooled Income Trusts. Any recommendations from personal experience or leads to a decent referral source would be much appreciated. [more inside]
Nonagenarian-and-kitty-filter: Would a deaf kitty be an OK match for an older lady with possibly-limited mobility? I can imagine problems, but am not sure how serious they are. [more inside]
I need recommendations for computer games suitable for my mum, who is getting on in years. [more inside]
Any good books on old-aging? [more inside]
Does anyone here have any experience with nominations for conservatorship in the state of California, either as a potential conservator, an attorney, social worker, psychiatrist or anyone else who plays a role in the process? [more inside]
Nursing home horror, involving the skin of elderly people - (disturbing description inside) [more inside]
Will this computer run Oblivion? [more inside]
GamesFilter: Can this gamer with a physical disability play Elder Scrolls IV? [more inside]
Quitting my job and moving 1800 miles to be with my grandmother while she dies...Crazy? Possible? [more inside]