Is a man who pretends to be friends with a woman when he is actually interested in more than friendship doing something shady?
Should said woman (myself) drop him as a friend or give him a chance to adjust? He’s a good friend and generally a positive, interesting and charming friend to have (smart, insightful, witty, capable of deep conversation, trustworthy with secrets, understanding…). I’m simply not interested in dating him (for many reasons, the most glaring of which is that he’s sexist in subtle ways that I couldn’t tolerate in a partner), but I value and love his friendship and conversation. I do not want to date him, ever. I don’t know if I should salvage our friendship or let it go, for his sake and mine...I've included the details below but I think this summary captures what I am trying to intellectually and emotionally figure out.
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posted by grassbottles
on Feb 28, 2013 -
54 answers
I'm having difficulty navigating very different cross-cultural (U.S./El Salvador) family dynamics. Can you please offer me books, links or your own best practices on keeping an international marriage strong?
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posted by Coffee Bean
on Dec 14, 2012 -
8 answers
I want to know the minimum thickness for a steel bracket that attaches a table leg to a table top.
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posted by jewzilla
on Aug 7, 2012 -
9 answers
Recommendations for stories about the mentor/protege dynamic that are sexy. Bonus points if both parties are female.
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posted by divabat
on Dec 2, 2011 -
8 answers
How can I dialogue with my boyfriend about some of his friends so that I'm a) not creating unnecessary discord and b) able to stay true to myself and my own needs.
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posted by These Birds of a Feather
on Aug 8, 2011 -
26 answers
Is it normal to be a female and not have many (okay, any) close guy friends? Should I actively pursue friendships with guys?
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posted by sunnychef88
on May 6, 2011 -
33 answers
The VP of my company has made a habit of teasing me about whether I'm smiling. I'm getting to the point where if I don't say something soon, I might blow up one day. How can I communicate my distaste for this kind of teasing without offending and/or alienating him?
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posted by litnerd
on Mar 4, 2011 -
56 answers
How to calculate nozzle orifice diameter for a given fluid flow rate to have a laminar output stream rather drips (orifice too large/ flow rate too small) or turbulent flow (orifice to small / flow rate too large)?
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posted by Long Way To Go
on May 31, 2010 -
9 answers
Is your company as dysfunctional as mine? From the outside looking in, everything seems great. From a customers point of view our product is quite polished. But....if you sit where I am, everything is a mess. Procedures that make no sense. Technology infrastructure that looks like spaghetti. Horrible data. Broken lines of communication. Inability to book a simple meeting room. People bitching about leaving stuff in the refrigerator. Meetings that go nowhere. I have seen this at other companies. Is this par for the course or do I need to get a new job? If this isn't the case in your company, what things ( process / procedure / software / behaviours/ etc. ) have made the biggest positive impact? If your company is as messy as mine, what things make you say WTF? Learn me about what happens in your corporate black box.....for better or worse.
posted by jasondigitized
on Apr 19, 2010 -
24 answers
My company needs simple CRM - we don't need the thousands of bells and whistles that come with other products. Also, we need buy-in. What are my options?
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posted by namewithhe1d
on Sep 24, 2009 -
8 answers
Digital piano recommendations? My priority is
realistic touch and being able to produce sounds for as many
dynamic levels as possible.
I don't want to pay for "pretty" features to have like screens, sound effects, powerful speakers etc..etc..
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posted by neworder7
on Sep 2, 2009 -
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I'm kicking around a concept for a theoretical piece I hope to work on in the near future, dealing with the way "femininity" and the "female" category are conceived of linguistically. Help me find some empirical data!
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posted by parkbench
on Mar 24, 2009 -
24 answers
My father just had a heart attack. I am dropping everything to go and visit him this weekend, but he keeps insisting I do not come and visit. Am I being a jerk for going anyway?
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posted by pazazygeek
on Aug 15, 2008 -
45 answers
I'm having difficulty interacting with Mr. Anonymous. I'm looking for a label to describe how he behaves so I can do some reading and work out some strategies for handling our interactions better. There's
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 4, 2007 -
66 answers
Help me find books on coping with a family that doesn't understand my husband's ethnicity.
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posted by sara558
on Mar 23, 2007 -
10 answers
Recreational physics-filter: I need a solution for a tricky rotational dynamics problem.
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posted by killdevil
on Nov 7, 2006 -
5 answers
This research claims that there aren't any blind schizophrenics. Basically, it says that blindness could protect against schizophrenia, but because of typically later age of onset for blindness (mostly results of glaucoma and macular degenration), I wonder if schizophrenia could somehow protect against blindness.
Does anyone have an opinion on this?
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posted by srs
on Nov 3, 2006 -
15 answers
