I am drinking more than I want to be drinking. I don't know that it meets the criteria for a "problem" ... except that I can't seem to cut down. I live in a closed, orderly community where I don't have control over the availability of alcohol, or access to an AA meeting. I need help with a) some strategies to cut down or cut off my drinking and b) online support. Details inside. [more inside]
What (good, tested) cocktails are made from shelf-stable components only? [more inside]
Friend called expressing concern about my recent drinking habits. Not sure if she has cause to be legitimately concerned or if she's overreacting. [more inside]
I've decided to give myself the challenge of no alcohol (I don't do drugs or anything else) until my 39th birthday in late November. What's the best way to go forward? [more inside]
I volunteer for an annual event that's close to my heart, but don't fit in with my fellow volunteers. Should I go back next year or give up this part of my life? [more inside]
How do I balance my need to save a little money right now with an unethical and unpleasant workplace that is really draining my mood and energy? [more inside]
I gave my problematic-drinker boyfriend an ultimatum to stop drinking for at least 30 days, and he accepted the challenge. Which is great... except I have no game plan for what comes next. [more inside]
In Code of the Woosters (PG Wodehouse), reference is made to a "tooth bottle," apparently containing liquor. Anyone have any idea what a "tooth bottle" might be?
I work a late shift at my job, which usually gets me home around midnight or later and in bed by 3 a.m. or later after I manage to relax. What's an alternative to pouring a drink and sitting by myself? [more inside]
For the new year, I'm going to give up drinking for a while. I need some encouragement. [more inside]
I'm sure this has been asked before but the answer is always changing. Please suggest your favorite places to meet for a drink and conversation at normal volume in Manhattan, places that (a) don't play loud music and (b) don't get too crowded. Thanks!
My 58 year old husband who is soon to retire from a CEO job(ie high stress) loves alcohol and drinks each night. When we are at home, he offers it to me. I have a love/hate relationship with it and seem to get pulled into drinking with him and then regret it when I get sleepy during a movie or feel somewhat impaired reading a book. [more inside]
I'm home for the holidays and seeing many friends after years apart. I have five days, each consisting of brunch, lunch and dinner with others, and am looking forward to unimaginable quantities of free alcohol. I am a seasoned (pickled?) drinker that does not normally get hangovers but never have I been on such a social whirlwind with so many opportunities to celebrate. Does anyone have advice for overcoming the potential weaknesses of the flesh to rise to this challenge? Or, how to pace myself when offered so much free deliciousness? Details below [more inside]
New guy I'm seeing came over completely wasted and seems to drink quite a bit. I have alcoholism/drug addiction in my family so I feel like sometimes I can be too judgmental about things that others deem normal. I also am petrified of vulnerability and have a tendency to push people away. How do I know what's normal and what's not when it comes to drinking and dating? [more inside]
I'm a super lightweight (even if I've eaten) who sometimes goes out drinking with new colleagues, in small groups, often as the only female in the group. I'm a happy melty drunk who gets dreamy and quiet rather than more social -- not the worst of all possibilities, but clearly not right for these important professional contexts. Any strategies for always being the non-drinker or less-than-one-drink-er in occasionally competitive and/or macho drinking cultures?
I had 4 drinks on halloween night - over the course of 4 hours - which resulted in ten hours of serious vomiting the next day. This is not the first time this has happened. Why can't my body tolerate alcohol? [more inside]
I am in my early thirties, and I am finally facing the fact that I have a substantial drinking problem. Like a lot of people, I drink to mute my feelings--I have been through an awful lot of trauma, so even as I work on things there is still more hurt to feel. I am trying to formulate a recovery plan that works within my own idiosyncrasies and values, but I am not sure what is out there. [more inside]
I'd like to give someone a bottle of strange/rare/gross booze (it will be appreciated, I promise!). Do you have any suggestions? I'm NOT looking for unusual versions of standard spirits, like rare vintages of bourbon or gross-flavored vodkas, but rather liquors or liqueurs that are themselves weird or unusual. The recipient is very well-versed in booze, so things like genever and Fernet are not quite weird enough. I'm in a major US city and willing to go through some effort for this, so don't hold back!
Am I overreacting to my partner's occasional drinking when trying to get sober? It makes me angry and I don't quite know exactly why. Should I ask him to stop drinking around me altogether, or is that unfair and unrealistic? [more inside]
I prefer drinking alone, the problem is I tend to overdue it - what is the zen of drinking alone? [more inside]
Like this questioner here, I too am a grown-ass woman who fails at hydration. However, I do find that I am more willing to guzzle down creamy drinks, such as milk or hot chocolate. Are those enough to hydrate me, will I die from too much milk, and what other drinks will help fulfil both the cream craving and the hydration? [more inside]
What are your favorite drinking-related puns in popular music? [more inside]
Hi guys I live in us and my mom in Romania. We talk on the phone quite often- everyday being that I am the only child. But it hurts me so much when I talk to her to know that she drank, or that she is drunk. The way I suspect it is by speech. She is not that fluent, the words come out harder from her mouth. I know her, and I know if she drank just by listening to her speech. Obviously she denies like any addict. This thing kills me because I know it kills her. How do I deal with it? I told her repeatedly that I hate it. I was thinking to stop talking to her. Basically I was thinking that if one night I call and she is drunk then don't call for a week. Hopefully she can link her drinking to me not calling which she freaks out if I don't call. It might not work but at least I keep my sanity because after I see her like that my whole day is ruined.
I'll be spending this Sunday (the day before Memorial Day) in NYC with a friend who is flying out the country on Monday midday. This friend loves Memorial Day, the parade, the patriotism, the pageantry, etc., and is sad to have to miss it. I'd love any suggestions for events, activities, bars, sights, etc. that we can do or attend or visit on Sunday that have a Memorial Day/Patriotic theme in or around NYC. I've looked briefly online, but nothing really leaps out at me from event calendars for the weekend. I'd be happy with one-off suggestions (particular play, performance, concert, parade, etc.) as well as sites that can be visited year-round (memorials, bars, cemeteries, etc.). Ideally, we'd like high energy, drinks, crowds, but can also bring that to the table ourselves if needed - but inherently quiet and contemplative places like the 9-11 Memorial for example are probably not what we're looking for this time around. Thanks very much in advance!
My moderate-drinker husband has twice in the last month drank to the point of repeatedly vomiting. These binges are out of character and deeply concerning. Should he see his doctor? What can I do? [more inside]
Tapioca balls in drinks. Also known as boba. I recently saw a bar advertising alcoholic drinks WITH boba in them. And I said "Well that's dumb. Anyone can do that. Why not put the booze IN the boba?" To which a friend said "well that's impossible." And I said, "Oh yeah? Well I'm going to do it." And then I realized I know nothing about this. So to you. Can booze be injected into a tapioca ball? Can they be soaked in booze? Would that work? Would they soak it up? What would be the best way to make booze filled bobas?
I need to glue a better aerator on to the old aerator in my kitchen tap. I want a glue that's safe for potable water, gluing metal to plastic, but all my searches bring up US results that I can't find in the UK. Can anyone recommend one, preferably from experience? [more inside]
What surprises me is that I didn't drink too much, I only drank 2 glasses. It was my first time drinking Vodka, so my question is : Is it normal that I threw up and had the spins? Does that mean that I have a very low tolerance for it? I mixed the second glass with some orange juice. Not sure if that's relevant.
Will having a beer (or maybe two) affect the efficacy of a course of methylprednisolone? There were no alcohol warnings on the pharmacy packaging, but of course the Internet says not to combine them, as it says for everything. Thanks! If it matters, this is day 4 of the course.
What happens to the drinking water I swallow? All I know is that it goes down my throat to my stomach, and then my body does its thing. Can you go into greater detail for me? For example: What positive effects does the water I drink have on my mouth, my throat, my stomach and other parts of my body? How does the stomach process the water? Where does the water go after my stomach? How does what's in the water get from my stomach to the necessary parts of my body? What's in water that my body needs? What parts of my body benefit the most from the water I drink? Feel free to answer other relevant questions that I've overlooked.
I can idly finish a bottle of wine. How do I not? [more inside]
I don't drink at all and I'm happy that way. What I don't like is the strong aversion I have to other people drinking. Help me understand why people drink and why it needn't be all that evil! :) [more inside]
I am a grown-ass woman who fails utterly at hydrating herself. I would love any and all suggestions to help me drink more water regularly. [more inside]
Asking for my son, who has confided in me. I am unsure of the best way to proceed, so I am turning to the hivemind. My son needs help in assertively turning down social events that he would not like to attend. Details inside. [more inside]
My wife is very early into her first pregnancy (4/5 weeks). We are very excited and nervous and overjoyed and terrified. We also know it's extremely early, and as such at the moment we aren't telling anyone anything (not even family or close friends), other than her doctor. The issue is that my wife is going on a business trip soon for 4 days, during which time her small group of coworkers (including her boss) will be going out every night for dinner and drinks. My wife is typically a social drinker (glass of wine or a cocktail), and with no typical excuses available like, say, being the designated driver, it will be noticeable with her small group when she's the only one to decline a drink every night. [more inside]
I'm starting a book club and need to come up with a name. [more inside]
I prefer not to drink alcohol and can't figure out how to tell this to people without them wanting to discuss my reasons. [more inside]
I have friends who enjoy basic card games like poker and Gang of Four but are interested in trying something new. The catch is the place we're most likely to play games is out at bars with friends in various states of intoxication, and sometimes we have a bunch of people. What are some good games that work in this situation? [more inside]
I'm going to not drink alcohol for the next week, and I'm looking for advice on making the transition as smooth as possible. [more inside]
Hi. My mom really lives far away- when I am talking far away I am saying in Europe and she comes to visit twice a year in us. I love her, she is my mom but she is an alcoholic. This hurts me extremely hard because I wish I could fix her but I don't know how. So it hurts me when she drinks very high amounts of vodka. Today it was the apogee. She drank and then she started cursing me. I don't know how to deal with this. I know I am not in charge of anyone else's happiness that myself. I know I can't fix her but I am trying. I am codependent. I grew up with her being drunk all the time and I am sometimes codependent and clingy in my relationships. Do you think that has something to do with why I am clingy and needy with my bf? What should I do? Please help me cause I am lost. Should I tell my bf about my mom? I am scared he might break up with me thinking that I am part of a bad family. I am only dating him for 4 months.
My boyfriend is german and I am spanish. We are both in our early 30s and are together for 2 years. Our relationship is good and in general we deal quite well with the fact that we come from very different cultures. However, there is a topic where we always fight. In my opinion, he drinks too much and too often beer. In his opinion, he is doing what all his friends and family are doing and he even drinks moderately compared to them. He doesn't like to get drunk every time he drinks but he likes to get boozed. [more inside]
A dear old friend is losing friends through drinking, drug use, treating partners badly and borrowing money never to pay it back. She's had anger and anxiety issues for years as well as eating disorders that come and go in severity. She won't consider therapy and things are getting worse. [more inside]
Let's say you're in an unfamiliar area and walk in to a bar you have never been in before. You appreciate a nice cocktail, but don't know anything about this bar's bona fides. What do you ask for? [more inside]
I'm meeting a friend in Minneapolis to help celebrate his birthday. Neither of us are familiar with the area. Help me find some places that he would he like. [more inside]
I know I have a problem drinking. I am a binge drinker that drinks once a month just before my period. Alcoholic Anonymous is the only answer I am getting. It has been helpful in the past, as I had 7 months of sobriety. As a binge drinker one or two nights a month, what do you think I should do, as I have found AA not the exact solution to my problems right now? Let me explain when, how, and why I drink. Please help! [more inside]
I've got three new baby kittens with no mother, and I need to feed them. I don't have access to any good pet stores or veterinary clinics, but I do have lactose-free baby formula and a plastic syringe with the needle removed, which I've been using to feed them so far. But is there a foolproof method of holding them or something to get them to drink from it? I can usually get them to drink, but only about half of the amount recommended. More details inside. [more inside]
My husband drinks too much, and I just attended my first Al-Anon meeting. I have some questions about it. [more inside]
About 6 months ago my partner told me he had stopped taking his Prozac. He was on a low 'maintenance dose' and had been feeling better. Now things have gone belly up and going back on the meds hasn't helped. He's drinking heavily and can barely function. How can I find him the help he needs and also help him myself with little money and no support network whilst looking after our young daughter? [more inside]
This question opened my eyes up. I now realize that I'm an alcoholic. Yeah, I'm highly functional, but an alcoholic nonetheless. [more inside]
So. Either my boyfriend's drinking or my anxiety about his drinking is going to ruin our (extremely awesome, otherwise very solid) relationship. I can't tell if I'm being crazy or not. [more inside]