I just asked my husband for a divorce and he is in complete denial about it. It's like I never asked. How do you tell someone you want a divorce when they won't listen to you?
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posted by anonymous
on May 29, 2012 -
17 answers
I'm trying to convince my wife to attend marriage counselling with me, but I'm having a hard time doing so. Her opinion of marriage counselling (based on what she's read online) is that it's a waste of money and that a marriage counsellor would "only tell us what we already know." When I've pointed out that a marriage counsellor is there to help facilitate communication, her response has been "if we need a facilitator to help us communicate we're fucked anyway."
Reasons for needing counselling + bonus snowflakery inside. Apologies; it turned into a bit of a mind-dumpy wall of text.
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posted by anonymous
on May 21, 2012 -
21 answers
How do I deal with an emotionally charged email from my (semi-estranged?) father? Is it time to cut ties? Crazy snowflake wall of text inside.
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posted by anonymous
on May 18, 2012 -
15 answers
My fiance's parents moved back in together after almost 17 years of being divorced. I know it's really none of my business, but still I'm curious: has anybody else had parents that got back together after a long time apart, or has anybody done this themselves? How'd it go?
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posted by Rocket26
on May 16, 2012 -
19 answers
I need a recommendation for a GREAT divorce attorney in Northern Virginia. And by great, I mean: a strong advocate for me and my kids, a strong sense of fairness and the ability to go toe to toe with the ugliest attorney my spouse might dig up.
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posted by anonymous
on May 14, 2012 -
9 answers
Wife wants "space" -- but we're supposed to move to a foreign country in a week. Give her "space" and potentially end the relationship, or try to compromise? There's more to it than that, so here goes:
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posted by anonymous
on May 4, 2012 -
29 answers
Did you maintain a relationship with a stepparent after your biological parent passed away? What was it like?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 29, 2012 -
9 answers
Husband's mental health problems led him to compulsively spend over £27,000 (about $44,000) while I supported both of us for three years. I know he'll work hard on therapy, but I don't know if I should divorce him. Should I try and forgive? [warning, long!]
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posted by TriparteGoddess
on Apr 29, 2012 -
62 answers
I am attending the wedding of dear friends at which I will have to see my ex-husband and his new partner—a one-time close friend of ours with whom he cheated while married to me. I am now very happily married to someone else, in a relationship far better in every way than my first marriage. Nevertheless, I absolutely dread seeing my ex-husband and my old friend, and the prospect of seeing them is something I’ve dreaded since I first learned of their, erm, relationship. At the same time, I’d REALLY like to be to defuse the emotional power this has over me, and simply enjoy the wedding and the get-together with many other old friends that comes with it. How to work through this? Any advice from people who have navigated these turbulent emotional waters successfully?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 25, 2012 -
35 answers
I've been separated from my wife for over six months. During that time I got involved with someone else, but now I'm thinking about going back to my wife. Please tell me I'm not making a mistake.
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posted by quoth_the_raven
on Apr 23, 2012 -
53 answers
My in-laws engraved a silver bowl, with our names and wedding date, for our wedding. We're divorced. What the heck do we do with the bowl?
My ex-husband doesn't want it. It's not my style. I feel like there must be something better that I can do with it than give it to Goodwill. It's Oneida and silverplate (looks like only the exterior was plated). Ideas?
posted by rednikki
on Apr 22, 2012 -
17 answers
My wife & I have decided to divorce. It's totally amicable, we don't have much to split. What's the cheapest, easiest way to do this?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 15, 2012 -
14 answers
Need a top-notch Seattle area divorce attorney recommendation for handling a post-divorce settlement dispute. Bonus points if the attorney accepts Microsoft employee legal insurance (ARAG).
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posted by joan_holloway
on Apr 9, 2012 -
4 answers
I'd love to get some advice on my relationship. It's complicated and I'm starting to think about ending it, despite being pretty heavily invested. This is a "do I stay or do I go?" question or a "too good to leave but too bad to stay" question. But it's complicated so be prepared to read on.
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posted by runflats
on Apr 6, 2012 -
50 answers
I am a soon-to-be-divorced UK citizen (soon-to-be ex-wife is American) with a permanent resident card (expires 2019). Married in May 2007, came here September 2010, divorcing either this month or next. I'm moving to San Francisco end of May 2012. What, if anything, do I have to tell INS regarding my marital status? And which forms to fill out?
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posted by slater
on Apr 2, 2012 -
8 answers
We're getting a divorce. We live in a rent controlled San Francisco apartment. We both refuse to leave and it's hell. Hivemind, please help me.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 30, 2012 -
34 answers
I'm recently divorced and just hopping back into dating. I feel like I'm calibrated all wrong and have no idea what passes for normal. I want you to tell me! Plenty of special snowflake details inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 30, 2012 -
17 answers
I'm lost. I'm facing divorce of my wife of 5 years. I've been with her for longer than that, 10, 12 years. We have a 3 year old son. I need help. How can one survive this?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 21, 2012 -
37 answers
Asking for a friend. I need a recommendation to a GREAT divorce attorney in Los Angeles, California. And by great I mean: Knowledgeable, Strong Advocate, Fair-minded, and with an excellent "bed-side" manner. The last bit is most important. Please Memail your suggestions, or provide resources in-thread! Snowflakes inside....
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posted by jbenben
on Mar 16, 2012 -
0 answers
DivorceFilter Colorado: I have been told that there are guidelines for introducing children of a previous marriage to your a new romantic interest.
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posted by TauLepton
on Mar 11, 2012 -
11 answers
Is it illegal to post photos of children on the Internet without both their parent's permission?
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posted by doomtop
on Feb 27, 2012 -
30 answers
Is this a Short Sale dream, or nightmare?
I put an offer on a house back in September, a short sale. It was approved by the owner in September and selling bank in December. 10 days before closing, the loan officer I had been working with discovered that his bank doesn't write mortgages for anyone that has had a loan modification in the past 4 years. I modified under making home affordable in 2009.
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posted by bricksNmortar
on Feb 25, 2012 -
2 answers
Very shortly, I will have the once in a lifetime opportunity to sit down with my soon-to-be ex-wife and discuss between ourselves the terms (and therefore set the tone) of our final divorce (married about 15 years). If this conversation fails to get us on the same fundamental page, it’s off to a mediator or even a trial. And I’d love to avoid that, but I don’t know the best approach for having the conversation I want to have.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 21, 2012 -
37 answers
Best way to get a law office to stop nickel-and-diming us to death, long after our case has been settled?
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posted by Rykey
on Feb 17, 2012 -
18 answers
I am moving in with my boyfriend next month, who has partial custody of his ten-year-old daughter. She and I get along wonderfully, but I still want to make this the easiest transition possible for her (and all of us). What possible issues or problems should I be prepared for?
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posted by Neely O'Hara
on Feb 10, 2012 -
11 answers
I made my alcoholic husband of 10 years leave a couple weeks ago. How to I be supportive, civil, and not lose my newly found sanity?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 5, 2012 -
27 answers
How can I exert some influence over my ex-wife, who is not making the financial and other decisions I wish she would?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 2, 2012 -
32 answers
Date filter: When do I tell my date that I'm in the middle of a divorce? Also, how should I go about telling?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 1, 2012 -
34 answers
I'm looking for movies in which the main character is a divorced father.
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posted by Ratio
on Jan 25, 2012 -
40 answers
How do I become comfortable with how my father chooses to be involved in my life (minimally, not of his own initiative) as an adult? What are the limits between healthy and compassionate effort on my part and a realistic acknowledgment of both of our limitations?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 24, 2012 -
8 answers
I went to a counseling session at the employee assistance program at the midwestern U.S. state college that I work at, and the handout that I received is religious. I'm not, and it made me uncomfortable. How do I approach this?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 17, 2012 -
33 answers
My partner was not invited to my friend's wedding yet my ex-husband and his new girlfriend are. Bride and Groom to be were both invited and attended ex and my wedding previously. I live with my partner and its a serious relationship. My ex-husbands gf is now pregnant. I find this all upsetting. How should I respond?
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posted by Under the Sea
on Jan 13, 2012 -
67 answers
What do you wish you knew before you committed to a relationship with a divorced person who has a child?
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posted by JoannaC
on Jan 12, 2012 -
21 answers
I’m recently divorced and confused about an online situation that resolved amicably. I’m not sure how to think about it; however, I want to know if I made some obvious mistake so I won’t repeat it in the future.
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posted by Fierce clam
on Jan 11, 2012 -
15 answers
My ex-wife is making up lies to take away my visitation time with my son. Do I need to consult my lawyer right away?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 3, 2012 -
18 answers
What is the standard way that divorced parents with new partners (who also have children) organise their wills?
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posted by cincinnatus c
on Dec 28, 2011 -
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