My husband of 8 years and I have come to an impasse: he wants a free-love, open relationship because he stifled his sexuality as a religious person before we were married, and I want...well, not that.
How do I move forward when it means breaking the most important bond I have?
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posted by SarahBellum
on May 7, 2013 -
28 answers
My wife and I separated a few months ago (which was my choice, not hers) and it seems that many of the things that I left over may have been addressed, but I still feel cagey about it all. How do I square this circle in my head and in my heart? Blizzard inside.
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posted by six sided sock
on Feb 26, 2013 -
40 answers
I split up with my wife a couple of months ago, and have been doing really well since then. Recently I've been feeling a little bit like she's been stalking me on social media, and today I've woken up to messages asking me why I'm in contact with someone from my past. How do I handle this?
(I've tried to anonymise this as best I can)
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 24, 2013 -
45 answers
I'm ready to leave my unhappy, borderline-abusive, caretaker-y marriage (details in a series of posts, most recently
here). Do I just wait until I've got all my ducks in a row and then go, or should I be kinder, and give my spouse some kind of notice period.
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posted by six sided sock
on Nov 23, 2012 -
69 answers
Hoping for advice on setting boundaries within a co-parenting relationship following a marital separation.
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posted by justonegirl
on Nov 9, 2012 -
27 answers
What can I do to stop insecurity from boyfriend's from seeing into our relationship? The divorce isn't final, and it's placing a strain on our relationship. I'm afraid that my anger/confusion/fear may sabotage the relationship.
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posted by lastcall17
on Oct 28, 2012 -
14 answers
My sister is separating and likely divorcing her husband after 15 months of marriage, and my family strongly disagrees with her decision. Do we tell her this?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 21, 2012 -
65 answers
Asking for a very dear friend, YANAL/YANHL/TINLA/OMG/WTF: my friend wants to divorce her emotionally-abusive husband. He doesn't want a divorce and intends to fight her tooth and nail. They live in MD. What to do?
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posted by julthumbscrew
on Sep 27, 2012 -
15 answers
Please help me buckle down and survive the 16 months I have left before my husband abandons me and our kids.
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posted by justonegirl
on Aug 29, 2012 -
142 answers
Family law in Mumbai? Wondering if anyone has recommendations for lawyers practicing in Mumbai/Bombay... An older (60s) Indian couple I know appears to be heading for divorce, and I am trying to help the woman as best I can. Unfortunately, there are a number of complicating factors, and I do not personally know any lawyers in Mumbai, so I thought I would ask here. I realize it's a long shot, but it's worth a try...
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posted by aramaic
on Aug 12, 2012 -
4 answers
I think it's time for my wife and I to separate, but I have no idea exactly how to go about it. Help me out, hive mind.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 5, 2012 -
18 answers
I have a sister about to go through a separation and likely divorce while in a foreign country. Would appreciate any comments/advice on the impact of the separation on the visa of the dependent husband, and how to prevent the husband taking the child out of country.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 20, 2012 -
5 answers
I'm increasingly certain that my marriage is dying, and I need some help negotiating the time between now and my first realtionship counselling appointment. (Apologies for the long post)
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 24, 2012 -
27 answers
Post-separation/divorce depression...need a good therapist in Vancouver, BC. And also just general advice on getting back on my feet.
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posted by wutangclan
on Jun 17, 2012 -
5 answers
I've been separated from my wife for over six months. During that time I got involved with someone else, but now I'm thinking about going back to my wife. Please tell me I'm not making a mistake.
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posted by quoth_the_raven
on Apr 23, 2012 -
53 answers
TL; DR: I think my marriage is at an end, and I need some coping strategies. May be the victim of visa fraud. No money for an attorney or another place to live. Help? Suck it up?
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posted by book 'em, danno
on Sep 7, 2011 -
39 answers
My wife and I married over 27 years ago when she and I were 25; we’d known each other for three years. Our marriage has had its ups and downs--in many cases, the "downs" were provided by her unwillingness/inability to communicate honestly and openly and by my anger at same as well as my on-and-off depression. That said, we always had fun and shared love. In particular, I always stuck in there during arguments in order to try to get her and us to a point of honest communication.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 13, 2011 -
38 answers
Need advice on handling finances during a separation. I will be seeking the advice of an attorney/mediator in the near future, but want to hear how others have handled similar situations.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 5, 2011 -
6 answers
My husband treated me unfairly for a long time, I got emotionally set to divorce and ... now he's doing all the right things. Internet, is it already over?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 1, 2011 -
43 answers
How do I stop myself from second-guessing my decision to get a divorce? Does the little bit of doubt mean that I'm doing the wrong thing? Are there any books or resources for people in my situation?
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posted by catfood
on Feb 16, 2011 -
43 answers
My SO of 13 years and I just broke up. It was mutual and amicable but we feel numb. How do we process this and oh god, logistics? What do we do now?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 21, 2010 -
9 answers
We are visiting my wife's parents in another state. Suddenly my wife wants me to leave without her and to leave our son in her custody. Can she do this?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 27, 2010 -
25 answers
I am no longer with the father of my child and he treats me like crap. In person, over email, on the phone. We've got a long way to go here - our kid isn't even three yet. I'm trying to not take it personally and to let it go, but I am struggling...
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posted by voneil
on Nov 18, 2010 -
28 answers
How can I be most helpful & supportive to my wife as her parents go through a trial separation?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 8, 2010 -
7 answers
My brother's wife is leaving him, and it is hitting the whole extended family hard. None of us seem to know how to support him or how to deal with the depression that has resulted. Can anyone point us towards resources like books or websites to help this close extended family deal with this painful time and learn to support him and the young kids?
posted by anonymous
on Aug 21, 2010 -
3 answers
My partner and I are ontemplating separation and I am thinking of moving several towns over. I have read stories of parents separating and the benefits of the two homes being close as in a few blocks. But what should I know about making it work for myself and my kid when the homes are further apart?
I would like to hear positive advice from parents and kids who have negotiated two homes with a little distance between them . Were their plusses to this distance to balance out the minuses? How did you make it work?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 7, 2010 -
14 answers
My girlfriend recently found out her parents will be getting a divorce. She just graduated undergrad but still lives at home. She also has college debt that she's trying to pay off so she could move out. However the mother is looking to move out of state and she doesn't want to go with her.
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posted by PetiePal
on Aug 3, 2010 -
30 answers
What should I do with my mortgage amortization following separation from my husband?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 2, 2010 -
3 answers
What should we as a couple be aware of when letting our friend come to live with us during his separation?
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posted by lilyflower
on Jun 1, 2010 -
15 answers
I'm married. I left. Intellectually I think this is a mistake. I KNOW I'm being selfish and short-sighted. That doesn't change how I feel right now though. I could really use some perspective. Some advice. Let me bore you with my story.....
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posted by anonymous
on May 18, 2010 -
76 answers
When is it ok for recent ex to introduce new boyfriend to young children (1 and 3)??
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posted by gnash
on Apr 11, 2010 -
32 answers
I’m in the process of divorcing, and starting to date seriously again. The catch: I’m absurdly young to be in this situation. How and when to break the news to dates?
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posted by ripley_
on Oct 20, 2009 -
24 answers
My husband of 17 years had an affair and left me for someone else. Three years later, I’m still feeling bitter and vengeful. Please help me cope.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 3, 2009 -
38 answers
We are recently separated (with lots of drama), and our families and friends don't know. How do I deal with my brother in law asking to stay with “us” for a while, since he suddenly got a job in our town?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 2, 2009 -
45 answers
Is it possible to get started on an amicable divorce or separation agreement while still living together?
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posted by anonymous
on May 19, 2009 -
16 answers
