I need help in staying true to myself, avoiding self-pity and being naive as I try to conclude my divorce following a long, drawn out separation. Long story below. [more inside]
How can I forget the powerful romance that I had with someone who has left me... when I see her daily? It was the most passionate relationship in my life and lasted only five months. It was more powerful than my ten plus year marriage. How do I get over this? [more inside]
Recently divorced, I filed. Having so much trouble dealing with how I lost financial security, a decent place to live and general happiness. Looking for help/ideas on how to recover and want to go on through life. There are days when it's dragging me over gravel to get up and get going. Sidenote, treated for Bipolar I and medicated. Likely going to adjust. Seeing therapist. [more inside]
Over five years ago I (male) decided to separate from my wife. We’ve been married for 16 years. The dam burst of emotion that fueled my decision to separate was spent before going all the way to divorce. She hasn’t divorced me either. Neither of us has dated anyone else. Things have simmered to an uneasy state of limbo, where we’re technically married, yet more like just friends and co-parents. How do you break out of an indecision so powerful that any choice feels like dying? Warning: tsunami of text inside! [more inside]
If you get a divorce, is that automatically reported to the IRS? [more inside]
Divorced for a decade. Ex-husband still lives in our formerly-shared house. Recently discovered that he has been racking up property violations... under my married name. Do I have any recourse? [more inside]
What is the best way to go about achieving an amicable, no fault divorce in CA? [more inside]
I have been dating a man with three children (10, 6, & 3). His ex-wife relies on him tremendously. Should he continue to pick up her slack, or allow the kids to suffer/force her to pull her weight? [more inside]
It's been a long year for Draccy. I've separated, started divorce proceedings, had a huge mental health scare and am currently battling loneliness, shame and desolation. My hand aches where my wedding band used to be. I used to fidget with it. I miss it. So here's the scoop. [more inside]
I've been separated from my wife for two-plus years. We both have lives in different parts of the country and are in serious relationships with other people. There's no way that we could or should be together, but we're both having a hard time accepting the idea of getting a divorce and I'm not sure why. [more inside]
I need a legally-enforceable, semi "public" method for my abusive ex to communicate to me evidence of his compliance with his legal responsibilities. We are in dispute over previously shared property but I have insisted on no contact and do not wish to enable my ex to contact me over any issue but the property. I don't want him to have my email address or that of an alias/other account in case he uses that address to send abuse, threats, or any other kind of unnecessary and unwanted correspondence. [more inside]
My ex and I have been divorced for years, but apparently the service we paid to file the papers hasn't and I'm just completely confused about all the paperwork and crap that goes with it. The ex is visiting my city in the next couple weeks - can we just walk into a lawyers office and get it knocked out? Anyone have a lawyer recommendation in Seattle, WA that will just take care of it so we don't have to do anything? [more inside]
Should my wife and I, who still want to be married, get a divorce to better pay some LARGE bills that will be coming? [more inside]
I'm looking for some input on how best to proceed regarding my divorce and whether group therapy or an individual therapist would be best. [more inside]
I asked the love of my life to marry me this weekend, and he said yes! But what's the best way to tell the other love of my life, my 6 year old son? [more inside]
I am in the process of getting a divorce. I have separated from my wife, have filed for a divorce but have not been able to serve her summons because she has been avoiding that. So, in a sense, the divorce process has not really started. Now I need to figure out when I should start dating or meeting new people again. [more inside]
I found out today that the divorce I filed two years ago did not, in fact, go through. However, I've been filing my taxes as a single person during that period. What should I do? Are there other legal issues I may not be considering? Neither of us want and did not want alimony and we have no children, so that's not a concern. Thanks.
I am about to start a divorce process. I was in NY for couple of year and got my marriage certificate from NYC clerk. As part of separation I moved to NJ last October. Now, as I start the divorce process, I am wondering how strict are the courts about residency requirement. [more inside]
I am in the beginning stages of separation and divorce. I am the initiator and it is completely one-sided. How do I survive the various feelings I'm going through? Bonus: with tween children. [more inside]
Hi, I am looking for some information and advice about getting a divorce in NYC. I am hoping for a no-contest mutual agreement divorce but there is a chance that it might be contested if my spouse starts having second thoughts. Both of us are from India and are here on work visa, with she being on my dependent work visa. Due to time, job and corruption considerations, going to India and getting a divorce there would be problematic. [more inside]
How should I buffer a child from the stress of divorced parents' arguments when my ex-wife is extremely open with him about adult stresses and about what she wants? [more inside]
Basically, he needs to pony up $23k a year ago and it doesn't look like he has any intention of doing so. [more inside]
My friend has an uncomplicated divorce (no assets, no kids, no shared debt, filing taxes singly.) The ex lives in Canada and is a Canadian citizen, my friend who is filing for divorce is in California and a United States citizen. She has free legal help-- they got the papers filled out properly and explained the general process, but didn't explain serving papers. Paying to speak to a lawyer is out of the question. How do we serve papers internationally, to a known address? What if she refuses delivery or can't be found?
I could really use some input to help me sort through all of this. At 40 years old, she was having a lesbian affair and asked me to move out. I was devastated. But in hindsight, our marriage wasn't a good one. And I suppose it was just a matter of time before something came along to unravel the whole thing. Now she wants me back. I have no clue how I even feel, much less if I even want to try again. Wall of text inside. [more inside]
I think one of my (divorced) parents may have withdrawn legally shared assets and the other parent may be unaware. What is my moral responsibility in this situation, or is it none of my business? Complexities inside. [more inside]
Asking for a friend: How do you get your abusive husband to leave your house after you have filed for divorce? [more inside]
This post has things that aren't helpful. What can you say to someone that is bullied or abused that does help the situation or bolster someone's self-confidence?
My mother receives spousal support from a divorce, but it was as a separate contract between her and her ex-husband, not included in the divorce order. She's been having sobbing fits, unsure if she owes the government taxes this year. [more inside]
Asking for a friend. She is wondering if anything can be done to get her ex-husband to move into larger accommodations and stop sharing a bed with her protesting children. [more inside]
My (dramatic) divorce will be finalized in 3 weeks. How do I acknowledge how awesome my lawyer is? [more inside]
My ex-spouse and I share custody of our son. He is now in kindergarten five days a week, necessitating some adjustments to his weekly schedule. We have come to a basic agreement, and my spouse wants me to sign this agreement. Even though we are principally on the same page, it feels a bit weird. Should I do it?
What can my SIL expect when going to a custody hearing in a South Australian court? Not seeking legal advice as she has a really good lawyer so much as an idea of what will happen procedure wise. [more inside]
I have a one day mediation set for next week. I have a great attorney and the chosen mediator seems a great choice. What do you wish you'd known, asked for, given in on? All suggestions are welcome. It's been fairly amicable thus far, but the money is causing strife. I'm in Washington, so 50/50 is typical. I was a stay at home mom for 18 years. Separated two years, went back to work as a temp. Kids are over 18, college is paid for already.
My husband of 8 years and I have come to an impasse: he wants a free-love, open relationship because he stifled his sexuality as a religious person before we were married, and I want...well, not that. How do I move forward when it means breaking the most important bond I have? [more inside]
Asking for a friend. YANHL. A couple has divorced, wife has a local civil service pension and husband a federal civilian pension. The judge ruled they would split each pension 50/50, instead of letting them keep their own. She has sent her court order to his pension board and has received acknowledgement. She has been unable to get any answers from the pension board about what happens now. He has left federal service but has not retired. Does she have to wait until he retires to start receiving her monthly checks from the federal system? Can she start getting them when he reaches retirement age even if he's not retired? Who can she contact that will answer her questions? Would CC'ing her Senators/Rep on her emails help or hurt? Thanks.
A person close to me spoke about her relationship with her husband of 25 years. I say the symptoms she described are abuse in prototype form and I'm alarmed about it. Perhaps I am wrong; please help her and me figure out what's going on. Bonus points for next steps. [more inside]
I've been divorced for several years now. My ex-wife and I get along amicably. I am single and she has been involved in an LTR since the divorce became official. Everything's fine, everyone's happy. Our kids are thriving.My ex-wife's birthday is in three weeks and up until now I've been the one to coordinate helping the kids get her something for her birthday. It occurred to me that it's probably time for the New Guy to take this over, right? They're not engaged, he still has his own place, but he does spend a lot of time there in your standard domestic situations. I have no problem discussing this with my ex, I'm just looking for a sanity-check on this idea before I bring it up. Am I missing something? Is this even a good idea? (For the record, I am single and she will probably be responsible for my birthdays (vis-a-vis the kids) for the forseeable future.)
I'm ready to leave my unhappy, borderline-abusive, caretaker-y marriage (details in a series of posts, most recently here). Do I just wait until I've got all my ducks in a row and then go, or should I be kinder, and give my spouse some kind of notice period. [more inside]
Last night, while playing with Find My iPhone, I erased my wife's iPhone. That's right. I erased my wife's iPhone. Apparently, it wasn't backing up to iCloud. Unless I have a good backup on her laptop via iTunes, I am screwed, right? [more inside]
Asking for a very dear friend, YANAL/YANHL/TINLA/OMG/WTF: my friend wants to divorce her emotionally-abusive husband. He doesn't want a divorce and intends to fight her tooth and nail. They live in MD. What to do? [more inside]
How can I encourage my adult daughter from my first marriage to voice her opinions in my current divorce proceedings (of my second marriage) without it feeling like I'm dragging her into battle? [more inside]
About to start discussing divorce details. What do you wish you known, what would you have done differently, what do you regret, what are glad you did? [more inside]
Can you recommend a family lawyer in Baltimore? [more inside]
My friend's and his ex are divorcing. The ex is being financially irresponsible, which could be influencing the outcome of the settlement. The lawyer has suddenly dropped of the face of the earth. What can my friend do to find out what's going on? [more inside]
My fiance's parents moved back in together after almost 17 years of being divorced. I know it's really none of my business, but still I'm curious: has anybody else had parents that got back together after a long time apart, or has anybody done this themselves? How'd it go? [more inside]
My in-laws engraved a silver bowl, with our names and wedding date, for our wedding. We're divorced. What the heck do we do with the bowl? My ex-husband doesn't want it. It's not my style. I feel like there must be something better that I can do with it than give it to Goodwill. It's Oneida and silverplate (looks like only the exterior was plated). Ideas?
DivorceFilter Colorado: I have been told that there are guidelines for introducing children of a previous marriage to your a new romantic interest. [more inside]
Help me locate an article on divorce and memory loss. [more inside]
I'm looking for movies in which the main character is a divorced father. [more inside]
Property issue with my ex-fiancee [more inside]
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