How should I buffer a child from the stress of divorced parents' arguments when my ex-wife is extremely open with him about adult stresses and about what she wants? [more inside]
My friend has an uncomplicated divorce (no assets, no kids, no shared debt, filing taxes singly.) The ex lives in Canada and is a Canadian citizen, my friend who is filing for divorce is in California and a United States citizen. She has free legal help-- they got the papers filled out properly and explained the general process, but didn't explain serving papers. Paying to speak to a lawyer is out of the question. How do we serve papers internationally, to a known address? What if she refuses delivery or can't be found?
I could really use some input to help me sort through all of this. At 40 years old, she was having a lesbian affair and asked me to move out. I was devastated. But in hindsight, our marriage wasn't a good one. And I suppose it was just a matter of time before something came along to unravel the whole thing. Now she wants me back. I have no clue how I even feel, much less if I even want to try again. Wall of text inside. [more inside]
I think one of my (divorced) parents may have withdrawn legally shared assets and the other parent may be unaware. What is my moral responsibility in this situation, or is it none of my business? Complexities inside. [more inside]
Asking for a friend: How do you get your abusive husband to leave your house after you have filed for divorce? [more inside]
This post has things that aren't helpful. What can you say to someone that is bullied or abused that does help the situation or bolster someone's self-confidence?
My mother receives spousal support from a divorce, but it was as a separate contract between her and her ex-husband, not included in the divorce order. She's been having sobbing fits, unsure if she owes the government taxes this year. [more inside]
Asking for a friend. She is wondering if anything can be done to get her ex-husband to move into larger accommodations and stop sharing a bed with her protesting children. [more inside]
My (dramatic) divorce will be finalized in 3 weeks. How do I acknowledge how awesome my lawyer is? [more inside]
My ex-spouse and I share custody of our son. He is now in kindergarten five days a week, necessitating some adjustments to his weekly schedule. We have come to a basic agreement, and my spouse wants me to sign this agreement. Even though we are principally on the same page, it feels a bit weird. Should I do it?
What can my SIL expect when going to a custody hearing in a South Australian court? Not seeking legal advice as she has a really good lawyer so much as an idea of what will happen procedure wise. [more inside]
I have a one day mediation set for next week. I have a great attorney and the chosen mediator seems a great choice. What do you wish you'd known, asked for, given in on? All suggestions are welcome. It's been fairly amicable thus far, but the money is causing strife. I'm in Washington, so 50/50 is typical. I was a stay at home mom for 18 years. Separated two years, went back to work as a temp. Kids are over 18, college is paid for already.
My husband of 8 years and I have come to an impasse: he wants a free-love, open relationship because he stifled his sexuality as a religious person before we were married, and I want...well, not that. How do I move forward when it means breaking the most important bond I have? [more inside]
Asking for a friend. YANHL. A couple has divorced, wife has a local civil service pension and husband a federal civilian pension. The judge ruled they would split each pension 50/50, instead of letting them keep their own. She has sent her court order to his pension board and has received acknowledgement. She has been unable to get any answers from the pension board about what happens now. He has left federal service but has not retired. Does she have to wait until he retires to start receiving her monthly checks from the federal system? Can she start getting them when he reaches retirement age even if he's not retired? Who can she contact that will answer her questions? Would CC'ing her Senators/Rep on her emails help or hurt? Thanks.
A person close to me spoke about her relationship with her husband of 25 years. I say the symptoms she described are abuse in prototype form and I'm alarmed about it. Perhaps I am wrong; please help her and me figure out what's going on. Bonus points for next steps. [more inside]
I've been divorced for several years now. My ex-wife and I get along amicably. I am single and she has been involved in an LTR since the divorce became official. Everything's fine, everyone's happy. Our kids are thriving.My ex-wife's birthday is in three weeks and up until now I've been the one to coordinate helping the kids get her something for her birthday. It occurred to me that it's probably time for the New Guy to take this over, right? They're not engaged, he still has his own place, but he does spend a lot of time there in your standard domestic situations. I have no problem discussing this with my ex, I'm just looking for a sanity-check on this idea before I bring it up. Am I missing something? Is this even a good idea? (For the record, I am single and she will probably be responsible for my birthdays (vis-a-vis the kids) for the forseeable future.)
I'm ready to leave my unhappy, borderline-abusive, caretaker-y marriage (details in a series of posts, most recently here). Do I just wait until I've got all my ducks in a row and then go, or should I be kinder, and give my spouse some kind of notice period. [more inside]
Last night, while playing with Find My iPhone, I erased my wife's iPhone. That's right. I erased my wife's iPhone. Apparently, it wasn't backing up to iCloud. Unless I have a good backup on her laptop via iTunes, I am screwed, right? [more inside]
Asking for a very dear friend, YANAL/YANHL/TINLA/OMG/WTF: my friend wants to divorce her emotionally-abusive husband. He doesn't want a divorce and intends to fight her tooth and nail. They live in MD. What to do? [more inside]
How can I encourage my adult daughter from my first marriage to voice her opinions in my current divorce proceedings (of my second marriage) without it feeling like I'm dragging her into battle? [more inside]
About to start discussing divorce details. What do you wish you known, what would you have done differently, what do you regret, what are glad you did? [more inside]
Can you recommend a family lawyer in Baltimore? [more inside]
My friend's and his ex are divorcing. The ex is being financially irresponsible, which could be influencing the outcome of the settlement. The lawyer has suddenly dropped of the face of the earth. What can my friend do to find out what's going on? [more inside]
My fiance's parents moved back in together after almost 17 years of being divorced. I know it's really none of my business, but still I'm curious: has anybody else had parents that got back together after a long time apart, or has anybody done this themselves? How'd it go? [more inside]
My in-laws engraved a silver bowl, with our names and wedding date, for our wedding. We're divorced. What the heck do we do with the bowl? My ex-husband doesn't want it. It's not my style. I feel like there must be something better that I can do with it than give it to Goodwill. It's Oneida and silverplate (looks like only the exterior was plated). Ideas?
DivorceFilter Colorado: I have been told that there are guidelines for introducing children of a previous marriage to your a new romantic interest. [more inside]
Help me locate an article on divorce and memory loss. [more inside]
I'm looking for movies in which the main character is a divorced father. [more inside]
Property issue with my ex-fiancee [more inside]
What advice can I give to my best friend about her relationship with a man who is separated. [more inside]
Baby making with a man who was previously married and has young children of his own. [more inside]
What happens if the "default clerk" kicks back a divorce? [more inside]
Legal wizards: How do I find out if these divorce papers are real? [more inside]
Is there anything a divorced mom with primary custody of three kids could say to their dad to get him to pay attention to his kids? [more inside]
Need help with divorce strategies when you have a child you want to move out of state with... [more inside]
Why is the divorce rate higher for those who have lived together before marriage than those who haven't? [more inside]
How does selling an under water house where you bring cash to the closing actually work? What happens if you come up short? [more inside]
How, if it is even possible, can my father get out from under a nearly condemned home without still having a mortgage payment? [more inside]
I am no longer with the father of my child and he treats me like crap. In person, over email, on the phone. We've got a long way to go here - our kid isn't even three yet. I'm trying to not take it personally and to let it go, but I am struggling... [more inside]
A colleague is going through a divorce. He told our boss and me that his wife left him last week. I feel really sorry for him. What should I do to support him through this period? [more inside]
I want to perform some sort of ritual to observe the finalization of my parents' divorce but have no idea where to begin. [more inside]
Can you recommend a family law/divorce lawyer in Austin, TX who is familiar with gay legal issues? Difficulty: house, savings accounts, powers of attorney, medical directives, wills.
Book Recommendations for Post-Divorce pain and anxiety? Help me help my girlfriend who is recently divorced and consumed with fears about being alone. She needs something positive and empowering to give her some strength to face the future and get comfortable living alone. She's in her early 30s with one child and she initiated the divorce because she was so unhappy.
What legal, moral or ethical rights does ex-spouse A have when it comes to controlling ex-spouse B's dating habits, under the guise of protecting their children? [more inside]
What should we as a couple be aware of when letting our friend come to live with us during his separation? [more inside]
Hum Rel/Law & Gov/Grab Bag: Is there Empirical Evidence of Benefits for the Child who is able to Interact with both Parents daily in a Divorced situation?
I need to find this. Very important to me. Is there empirical evidence relating to this question: Are there advantages for the children of divorced families being able to interact with both parents every day? If so, what are those benefits?--Again, in terms of citable evidence. [more inside]
Why have I suddenly started to dream about other women? [more inside]
I’m in the process of divorcing, and starting to date seriously again. The catch: I’m absurdly young to be in this situation. How and when to break the news to dates? [more inside]
You're not my lawyer, but when getting a divorce, how does a house with an underwater mortgage count toward dividing assets? [more inside]
I'm signing the papers for my divorce this week and moving to a new country (UK) next week. I'll be meeting new people and I'm looking for a word to call my ex-husband. [more inside]
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