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How do I serve papers in Canada?

My friend has an uncomplicated divorce (no assets, no kids, no shared debt, filing taxes singly.) The ex lives in Canada and is a Canadian citizen, my friend who is filing for divorce is in California and a United States citizen. She has free legal help-- they got the papers filled out properly and explained the general process, but didn't explain serving papers. Paying to speak to a lawyer is out of the question. How do we serve papers internationally, to a known address? What if she refuses delivery or can't be found?
posted by blnkfrnk on Jul 21, 2014 - 12 answers

Should I get back together with my ex-wife?

I could really use some input to help me sort through all of this. At 40 years old, she was having a lesbian affair and asked me to move out. I was devastated. But in hindsight, our marriage wasn't a good one. And I suppose it was just a matter of time before something came along to unravel the whole thing. Now she wants me back. I have no clue how I even feel, much less if I even want to try again. Wall of text inside. [more inside]
posted by normal_guy on Jul 17, 2014 - 37 answers

Parent may have cheated the other out of significant money. What to do?

I think one of my (divorced) parents may have withdrawn legally shared assets and the other parent may be unaware. What is my moral responsibility in this situation, or is it none of my business? Complexities inside. [more inside]
posted by corb on Apr 16, 2014 - 19 answers

Dude, you just have to go

Asking for a friend: How do you get your abusive husband to leave your house after you have filed for divorce? [more inside]
posted by dawkins_7 on Feb 3, 2014 - 26 answers

Can we build on soccermom's great post about platitudes?

This post has things that aren't helpful. What can you say to someone that is bullied or abused that does help the situation or bolster someone's self-confidence?
posted by BlueHorse on Feb 2, 2014 - 21 answers

Spousal Support & Taxes

My mother receives spousal support from a divorce, but it was as a separate contract between her and her ex-husband, not included in the divorce order. She's been having sobbing fits, unsure if she owes the government taxes this year. [more inside]
posted by iarerach on Jan 22, 2014 - 14 answers

Can father be legally required or encouraged to improve housing?

Asking for a friend. She is wondering if anything can be done to get her ex-husband to move into larger accommodations and stop sharing a bed with her protesting children. [more inside]
posted by Chaussette and the Pussy Cats on Nov 24, 2013 - 38 answers

How do I thank my lawyer?

My (dramatic) divorce will be finalized in 3 weeks. How do I acknowledge how awesome my lawyer is? [more inside]
posted by spunweb on Sep 23, 2013 - 14 answers

Should I Sign an Informal Child Custody Agreement?

My ex-spouse and I share custody of our son. He is now in kindergarten five days a week, necessitating some adjustments to his weekly schedule. We have come to a basic agreement, and my spouse wants me to sign this agreement. Even though we are principally on the same page, it feels a bit weird. Should I do it?
posted by toots on Aug 27, 2013 - 34 answers

What to expect in an Australian Family Law Court?

What can my SIL expect when going to a custody hearing in a South Australian court? Not seeking legal advice as she has a really good lawyer so much as an idea of what will happen procedure wise. [more inside]
posted by wwax on Jul 7, 2013 - 5 answers

divorce mediation advice sought

I have a one day mediation set for next week. I have a great attorney and the chosen mediator seems a great choice. What do you wish you'd known, asked for, given in on? All suggestions are welcome. It's been fairly amicable thus far, but the money is causing strife. I'm in Washington, so 50/50 is typical. I was a stay at home mom for 18 years. Separated two years, went back to work as a temp. Kids are over 18, college is paid for already.
posted by jennstra on Jun 17, 2013 - 22 answers

Have you had to divorce your best friend?

My husband of 8 years and I have come to an impasse: he wants a free-love, open relationship because he stifled his sexuality as a religious person before we were married, and I want...well, not that. How do I move forward when it means breaking the most important bond I have? [more inside]
posted by SarahBellum on May 7, 2013 - 28 answers

Federal Civilian Pension after divorce. (US)

Asking for a friend. YANHL. A couple has divorced, wife has a local civil service pension and husband a federal civilian pension. The judge ruled they would split each pension 50/50, instead of letting them keep their own. She has sent her court order to his pension board and has received acknowledgement. She has been unable to get any answers from the pension board about what happens now. He has left federal service but has not retired. Does she have to wait until he retires to start receiving her monthly checks from the federal system? Can she start getting them when he reaches retirement age even if he's not retired? Who can she contact that will answer her questions? Would CC'ing her Senators/Rep on her emails help or hurt? Thanks.
posted by 1066 on Apr 4, 2013 - 6 answers

She has options. She should get away, I think.

A person close to me spoke about her relationship with her husband of 25 years. I say the symptoms she described are abuse in prototype form and I'm alarmed about it. Perhaps I am wrong; please help her and me figure out what's going on. Bonus points for next steps. [more inside]
posted by jet_silver on Mar 4, 2013 - 8 answers

Who should be responsible for my ex-wife's birthday gift?

I've been divorced for several years now. My ex-wife and I get along amicably. I am single and she has been involved in an LTR since the divorce became official. Everything's fine, everyone's happy. Our kids are thriving.My ex-wife's birthday is in three weeks and up until now I've been the one to coordinate helping the kids get her something for her birthday. It occurred to me that it's probably time for the New Guy to take this over, right? They're not engaged, he still has his own place, but he does spend a lot of time there in your standard domestic situations. I have no problem discussing this with my ex, I'm just looking for a sanity-check on this idea before I bring it up. Am I missing something? Is this even a good idea? (For the record, I am single and she will probably be responsible for my birthdays (vis-a-vis the kids) for the forseeable future.)
posted by Setec Astronomy on Feb 8, 2013 - 20 answers

Selfish or selfless? I can't tell.

I'm ready to leave my unhappy, borderline-abusive, caretaker-y marriage (details in a series of posts, most recently here). Do I just wait until I've got all my ducks in a row and then go, or should I be kinder, and give my spouse some kind of notice period. [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on Nov 23, 2012 - 69 answers

Oh noes. I'm dead.

Last night, while playing with Find My iPhone, I erased my wife's iPhone. That's right. I erased my wife's iPhone. Apparently, it wasn't backing up to iCloud. Unless I have a good backup on her laptop via iTunes, I am screwed, right? [more inside]
posted by 4ster on Sep 27, 2012 - 13 answers

Fuckin' Maryland Divorces, How Do THEY Work?

Asking for a very dear friend, YANAL/YANHL/TINLA/OMG/WTF: my friend wants to divorce her emotionally-abusive husband. He doesn't want a divorce and intends to fight her tooth and nail. They live in MD. What to do? [more inside]
posted by julthumbscrew on Sep 27, 2012 - 15 answers

Torn between shielding my daughter and needing her help

How can I encourage my adult daughter from my first marriage to voice her opinions in my current divorce proceedings (of my second marriage) without it feeling like I'm dragging her into battle? [more inside]
posted by punocchio on Aug 22, 2012 - 22 answers

divorce settlement hindsight advice

About to start discussing divorce details. What do you wish you known, what would you have done differently, what do you regret, what are glad you did? [more inside]
posted by jennstra on Aug 6, 2012 - 19 answers

Family Lawltimore

Can you recommend a family lawyer in Baltimore? [more inside]
posted by kroshka on Aug 5, 2012 - 1 answer

What can happen in a divorce like this?

My friend's and his ex are divorcing. The ex is being financially irresponsible, which could be influencing the outcome of the settlement. The lawyer has suddenly dropped of the face of the earth. What can my friend do to find out what's going on? [more inside]
posted by chatelaine on Jul 25, 2012 - 18 answers

Back together or bust?

My fiance's parents moved back in together after almost 17 years of being divorced. I know it's really none of my business, but still I'm curious: has anybody else had parents that got back together after a long time apart, or has anybody done this themselves? How'd it go? [more inside]
posted by Rocket26 on May 16, 2012 - 19 answers

Engraved silver, post-divorce?

My in-laws engraved a silver bowl, with our names and wedding date, for our wedding. We're divorced. What the heck do we do with the bowl? My ex-husband doesn't want it. It's not my style. I feel like there must be something better that I can do with it than give it to Goodwill. It's Oneida and silverplate (looks like only the exterior was plated). Ideas?
posted by rednikki on Apr 22, 2012 - 17 answers

Dating after Divorce - Children Intros?

DivorceFilter Colorado: I have been told that there are guidelines for introducing children of a previous marriage to your a new romantic interest. [more inside]
posted by TauLepton on Mar 11, 2012 - 11 answers

Forgotten remembrances

Help me locate an article on divorce and memory loss. [more inside]
posted by TheRoach on Feb 24, 2012 - 4 answers

Movies involving sad dads?

I'm looking for movies in which the main character is a divorced father. [more inside]
posted by Ratio on Jan 25, 2012 - 40 answers

Property issue with my ex-fiancee

Property issue with my ex-fiancee [more inside]
posted by allelopath on Jan 24, 2012 - 37 answers

Dating advice for my best friend

What advice can I give to my best friend about her relationship with a man who is separated. [more inside]
posted by i_wear_boots on Dec 30, 2011 - 14 answers

Baby making

Baby making with a man who was previously married and has young children of his own. [more inside]
posted by i_wear_boots on Dec 22, 2011 - 16 answers

Can I finish my divorce in 2011?

What happens if the "default clerk" kicks back a divorce? [more inside]
posted by morganw on Sep 2, 2011 - 4 answers

Legal wizards: How do I find out if these divorce papers are real?

Legal wizards: How do I find out if these divorce papers are real? [more inside]
posted by tamagogirl on Aug 17, 2011 - 17 answers

They're Right Here, Dad; Why Can't You Call Us?

Is there anything a divorced mom with primary custody of three kids could say to their dad to get him to pay attention to his kids? [more inside]
posted by kinetic on Jul 25, 2011 - 32 answers

Need help with divorce strategies when you have a child you want to move out of state with...

Need help with divorce strategies when you have a child you want to move out of state with... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 19, 2011 - 19 answers

Why are divorce rates higher for those who have lived together before marriage?

Why is the divorce rate higher for those who have lived together before marriage than those who haven't? [more inside]
posted by coraline on Jul 12, 2011 - 17 answers

How do you bring cash to a closing?

How does selling an under water house where you bring cash to the closing actually work? What happens if you come up short? [more inside]
posted by morganw on Apr 27, 2011 - 7 answers

What should my dad do with this house?

How, if it is even possible, can my father get out from under a nearly condemned home without still having a mortgage payment? [more inside]
posted by Quincy on Mar 30, 2011 - 4 answers

My ex treats me like crap... Help me get over it.

I am no longer with the father of my child and he treats me like crap. In person, over email, on the phone. We've got a long way to go here - our kid isn't even three yet. I'm trying to not take it personally and to let it go, but I am struggling... [more inside]
posted by voneil on Nov 18, 2010 - 28 answers

How to support a colleague going through a divorce

A colleague is going through a divorce. He told our boss and me that his wife left him last week. I feel really sorry for him. What should I do to support him through this period? [more inside]
posted by bbyboi on Oct 13, 2010 - 12 answers

Well, that was fun. Now what?

I want to perform some sort of ritual to observe the finalization of my parents' divorce but have no idea where to begin. [more inside]
posted by coppermoss on Oct 10, 2010 - 15 answers

Seeking Austin family law/divorce lawyer familiar with gay legal issues

Can you recommend a family law/divorce lawyer in Austin, TX who is familiar with gay legal issues? Difficulty: house, savings accounts, powers of attorney, medical directives, wills.
posted by dancestoblue on Sep 21, 2010 - 2 answers

Books after divorce to help face being alone

Book Recommendations for Post-Divorce pain and anxiety? Help me help my girlfriend who is recently divorced and consumed with fears about being alone. She needs something positive and empowering to give her some strength to face the future and get comfortable living alone. She's in her early 30s with one child and she initiated the divorce because she was so unhappy.
posted by nancoix on Sep 10, 2010 - 10 answers

The right to control an ex's dating habits?

What legal, moral or ethical rights does ex-spouse A have when it comes to controlling ex-spouse B's dating habits, under the guise of protecting their children? [more inside]
posted by Ziggy Zaga on Jun 16, 2010 - 17 answers

Caveats for married couple about to share their house with divorcing friend?

What should we as a couple be aware of when letting our friend come to live with us during his separation? [more inside]
posted by lilyflower on Jun 1, 2010 - 15 answers

Hum Rel/Law & Gov/Grab Bag: Is there Empirical Evidence of Benefits for the Child who is able to Interact with both Parents daily in a Divorced situation?

I need to find this. Very important to me. Is there empirical evidence relating to this question: Are there advantages for the children of divorced families being able to interact with both parents every day? If so, what are those benefits?--Again, in terms of citable evidence. [more inside]
posted by justrobin on Mar 5, 2010 - 3 answers

Why am I suddenly having these dreams?

Why have I suddenly started to dream about other women? [more inside]
posted by kleenkat on Oct 21, 2009 - 23 answers

You got married at what age?

I’m in the process of divorcing, and starting to date seriously again. The catch: I’m absurdly young to be in this situation. How and when to break the news to dates? [more inside]
posted by ripley_ on Oct 20, 2009 - 24 answers

When getting a divorce, how does a house with an underwater mortgage count towards dividing assets?

You're not my lawyer, but when getting a divorce, how does a house with an underwater mortgage count toward dividing assets? [more inside]
posted by cnc on Oct 11, 2009 - 11 answers

What's in a name?

I'm signing the papers for my divorce this week and moving to a new country (UK) next week. I'll be meeting new people and I'm looking for a word to call my ex-husband. [more inside]
posted by CdnMathTeacher on Aug 2, 2009 - 26 answers

Do I move my kids from their dad?

Would my three kids (17, 15, 10) be happier if we left the same town their dad lives in? I can't figure out if I'm allowing prolonged damage to my kids by letting them stay here because their dad is down the road but NEVER wants to see them. And where he lives bothers them (more later). [more inside]
posted by dzaz on Jul 7, 2009 - 44 answers

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