Asking for a friend. YANHL. A couple has divorced, wife has a local civil service pension and husband a federal civilian pension. The judge ruled they would split each pension 50/50, instead of letting them keep their own. She has sent her court order to his pension board and has received acknowledgement. She has been unable to get any answers from the pension board about what happens now. He has left federal service but has not retired. Does she have to wait until he retires to start receiving her monthly checks from the federal system? Can she start getting them when he reaches retirement age even if he's not retired? Who can she contact that will answer her questions? Would CC'ing her Senators/Rep on her emails help or hurt? Thanks.
posted by 1066 on Apr 4, 2013 - 6 answers

Husband's mental health problems led him to compulsively spend over £27,000 (about $44,000) while I supported both of us for three years. I know he'll work hard on therapy, but I don't know if I should divorce him. Should I try and forgive? [warning, long!] [more inside]
posted by TriparteGoddess on Apr 29, 2012 - 62 answers

How do I become comfortable with how my father chooses to be involved in my life (minimally, not of his own initiative) as an adult? What are the limits between healthy and compassionate effort on my part and a realistic acknowledgment of both of our limitations? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 24, 2012 - 8 answers

Adult staying at home to help financially support parents, parents split up, total financial chaos ensues... NOW how/when am I going to become an independent, grown-up adult? [more inside]
posted by so_gracefully on Dec 15, 2010 - 11 answers

RelationshipFilter: Kind of at my wits end here, so turning to the collective for some perspective. My wife and I have been together for 10 years, living together for eight and married for six. Now I'm considering a divorce... much more inside. [more inside]
posted by skaffen42 on Sep 7, 2010 - 50 answers

Is it a good idea for two divorced women and our (total of three) little kids to move in together for safety, companionship and financial savings? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 16, 2010 - 22 answers

How Am I Supposed To Feel About My Mom Cheating On My Dad? And Draining Family Money? (desperate for any help or advice) [more inside]
posted by xopaigexo on Apr 7, 2010 - 29 answers

My new husband has an ex-wife and daughter who live in Colorado. They've been divorced a long time, not exactly on "friendly" terms, but certainly civil, for their daughter's sake. Recently, the kid's grades have been slipping (she's in 8th grade) and Mom decided she needed some tutoring. She signed her up for $10,000 worth of tutoring, without telling my husband in advance, then turned around and demanded half the tuition from him. My husband pays child support, has never been late, even though he's currently unemployed. He told her he couldn't afford $5,000 and even if he could, he doesn't think he should have to pay since she didn't consult him in advance or discuss the matter with him. I was wondering if anyone had any experience with this kind of thing. Does he have to pay her?
posted by redhaired_girl on Mar 31, 2009 - 21 answers

Are there any circumstances in (UK) law that would allow a friend to 'sue' his wife for what he considers the money she stole from their joint account. [more inside]
posted by daveyt on Jan 26, 2009 - 15 answers

divorce-filter: protect friend from his wife financially, her secret bank accounts, hostility, etc [more inside]
posted by evanrodge on Aug 26, 2008 - 13 answers

LegalFilter: My ex-wife is trying to screw me out of claiming my daughter on my taxes. What are my options? [more inside]
posted by raddevon on Feb 7, 2008 - 21 answers

I'm about to receive $40,000. How do I deal with this much money? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 7, 2008 - 19 answers

Beyond the obvious (Google and MeFi searches have been done), what can I do to restore my credit over the next 2 and half years? [more inside]
posted by The Deej on Jul 7, 2007 - 9 answers

Help me turn in a deadbeat dad. [more inside]
posted by j_gd00 on Jun 4, 2007 - 22 answers

About half of billion-dollar divorces seem to involve a "metals trader". I'm not hoping to divorce, but how does one become a "metals trader"?
posted by londongeezer on Jul 20, 2006 - 8 answers