My friend ("J") lives in Toronto. She was recently surprised by her husband ("R") moving out and filing for divorce. She has need of guidance/support from knowledgeable people. Level of difficulty: she hasn't had a FT job in around 13 years, and their two middle-school age kids have autism (one low-mid functioning.) [more inside]
Getting divorced in Illinois. I still love my husband, but cannot remain married to him for many reasons, one of which being that I can no longer take care of him emotionally and financially without ruining my own life. My first instinct was to try to settle this using mediation or collaborative divorce (I don't even understand 100% what this is, honestly). Mostly because I feel enormously guilty for leaving, don't want to make it harder on him, and hope that we can still be a part of each other's lives. No kids, so custody isn't an issue. But there are some major financial issues, and some of the things he's said worry me. Sorry, this is kind of a long one. [more inside]
My spouse has long resisted going to couples’ mediation, despite on-going problems in our marriage. After a particularly bad fight a few days ago, my spouse reluctantly agreed to attend two sessions. I’m responsible for selecting the mediator. What’s the best way to extract the most benefit from just two sessions? [more inside]
We're divorcing and in a common property state. I am quite certain that my ex is going to be unhappy once they realizes that household items will be divided equitably. How can we best do this? [more inside]
I'm working on separating from my spouse and need objective help on figuring out how to do this (financially, emotionally, working on co-parenting agreements). What type of mental health (or perhaps legal) help do I need to do this? (Like when I'm choosing from the insurance company dropdown menu or googling for people.) I need more than a mediator, I think.
My spouse won't move with me to the next step in our separation and I don't know what to do. [more inside]
I have a one day mediation set for next week. I have a great attorney and the chosen mediator seems a great choice. What do you wish you'd known, asked for, given in on? All suggestions are welcome. It's been fairly amicable thus far, but the money is causing strife. I'm in Washington, so 50/50 is typical. I was a stay at home mom for 18 years. Separated two years, went back to work as a temp. Kids are over 18, college is paid for already.
YANYL: how do I ask for attorney's fees on a motion that was involuntarily withdrawn? [more inside]
How to find a good divorce lawyer/mediator in San Jose? And what is good? [more inside]
Hopefully-not-too-ugly Divorcefilter: How can I get my (future-ex) wife to finalize our separation agreement? [more inside]
What exactly is the job of a divorce mediator? Do I have unreasonable expectations? Or does our mediator just suck? [more inside]