I live in a major east coast city and my boyfriend of almost two years lives in a much smaller city 2.5 hours away in another state. We are both in our late 20s. We see each other almost every weekend - he has a car, and I take the bus. We have lived like this for the entirety of our relationship. Our relationship is great and we're very happy together - we agree we want to live together, get married and have kids. We've known this from pretty early on in the relationship, but have always struggled with figuring out how to close the distance gap. At the New Year, we agreed that by the end of this year we would have figured out how to be in the same place if we were not there already, but the same arguments are flaring back up. [more inside]
posted by meb123 on Apr 17, 2013 - 30 answers

when to hang on, and when to bail, when there is a lot of love, but also coldness [more inside]
posted by frequently on Jan 29, 2013 - 11 answers

Hoping for advice, encouragement, discouragement, honesty, etc. I just ended a marriage (shy of one year) last year and am newly single as of four months, I was in a 6 year relationship which ended because I realized my ex was not faithful and continued to question our marriage. [more inside]
posted by love2much on Jan 29, 2013 - 12 answers

My serious partner and I are not going to see each other for about two months, and its causing intense depression for me. Is this period of long distance in my serious relationship an opportunity to work on improving myself and fixing the mental health issues it triggers? Or is the difficulty I'm having a sign that I'm not cut out for this kind of relationship? Help me think this through and make the right decisions! [more inside]
posted by supernaturelle on Sep 12, 2012 - 15 answers

What can I do to make my geographically-distant fiancee feel more emotionally close to me? [more inside]
posted by Scientist on Jul 21, 2012 - 16 answers

My SO and I are going to be on different sides of the Atlantic from March to September. Should we break up? [more inside]
posted by flawsekno on Feb 7, 2012 - 29 answers

Are we incompatible and am I overreacting? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 31, 2012 - 36 answers

My relationship broke down because of the distance. Can it be salvaged, or do I just let it be? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 25, 2011 - 15 answers

How can we ease our long-distance communication woes? [more inside]
posted by queens86 on Dec 16, 2011 - 13 answers

A friend and I have just discovered we've both harboured a mutual, long term attraction for each other. Perfect! Only problem is she's in a long time, very long distance, online relationship. How is it appropriate to approach this, or not? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 10, 2011 - 24 answers

Have you ever successfully fought for a relationship that you knew was worth saving? How did it work out? [more inside]
posted by newlyminted on Apr 28, 2011 - 24 answers

He lives on the west coast. I live on the east coast. Its the most passionate relationship I have ever been in, except we never talk when we're apart. Do I try or do I move on? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 27, 2010 - 14 answers

The woman I am romantically interested in has had an extremely taxing couple of years. Her long term boyfriend disappeared and committed suicide last year, and now her chief support/best friend/roommate has been given only 2 months to live. Both of her pets have cancer and will die soon. And me.. well, I'm moving out of country for at least 4 months in about a week >< Her family is all living overseas until mid summer. She says she doesn't think she can handle the pain and doesn't think she can live after the impending death of her friend. She basically has no one to turn to and I want to be a support for her without trying to replace her past. The question: How can I show my care for her without coming off as a looter during a vulnerable time? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 26, 2010 - 19 answers

How can I explain, to a younger person seeking my opinion, that I don't feel that long distance relationships work? I want to speak honestly but without hurting their feelings. [more inside]
posted by trojanhorse on Jan 2, 2010 - 32 answers

several years ago I met a man and we had a brief relationship. We've maintained a friendship through other relationships. We have both always been honest about our attraction to each other but live a few hours drive away from each other. Recently my circumstances changed and as it happens we are both available. We both are interested in seeing each other and he said he'd be willing to move as an eventuality if things work out. As it stands with our jobs it works out so that technically we could see one another twice a month if we wanted to. I have a few questions for the hive, what are ways people in a long distance relationship can stay close, Has anyone out there had a successful transition after moving in together, and has anyone not tried and regretted it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 5, 2009 - 7 answers

LongDistanceRelationship-Filter: Met, fell in love, knew she had to leave the whole time, now what to do? (long, complicated explanation to follow) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 29, 2009 - 15 answers

I'm graduating. I'm leaving my girlfriend and will be far away from her, and we both don't have the option to be close for the next two years. Hence, it's ending. Any advice for feeling better? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 12, 2009 - 14 answers

[relationship filter] How to manage a "break"/"open relationship"? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 16, 2009 - 17 answers

Sigh* here goes fellow MeFi(ers). It's time for another backstory, thank you in advance for your patience. You guys are the best. So my girlfriend of a little over 2 years just broke up with me. The first year we were in college together, the second year I graduated and she was still in school. We were long distance for about 200miles. Surprisingly, that long distance worked because we got to see each other almost every other weekend. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 4, 2008 - 11 answers

Girlfriend has suddenly lost all feelings for me and doesn't know why. [more inside]
posted by HBomb on Sep 30, 2008 - 35 answers

So, how you do contend with massive, hemorrhaging, overwhelming emotion? This is also sort of a LDR question too. [more inside]
posted by bluenausea on Sep 11, 2007 - 10 answers

My girlfriend wants to spend more time together than I do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 19, 2007 - 18 answers

Relationship Filter: How do I stop myself from tallying stuff up then try to make myself dismiss it because I don't want to make our relationship into a scorecard but not being sucessful and end up feeling confused and emotional? And how do I talk about it with my boyfriend? [more inside]
posted by spec80 on Apr 11, 2007 - 25 answers

Can it be fixed? Long distance heartache question [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 10, 2007 - 15 answers

Relationshipfilter: My 5month girlfriend suddenly realized she needs space to grow on her own, outside of a serious relationship. How the hell do I do it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 21, 2006 - 30 answers

Is this long distance relationship fair to her? [more inside]
posted by coreb on Oct 2, 2006 - 29 answers

Dump my girlfriend before or right after her good friend's wedding? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 14, 2005 - 45 answers

Getting tired of the "Wish you were here!" phenomenon. I need some suggestions for keeping a long-distance relationship healthy, happy, and fun. [MI] [more inside]
posted by fionab on Nov 7, 2004 - 18 answers