I'm a male in my late twenties and I consider myself straight. I'm not interested in men or dating a man, and have always had relationships with women. I dated a trans woman for two and a half years. (I'm loathe to specify the 'trans' and to feel like I have to assert that I'm straight but it's relevant to my question.) I'm now not sure about whether to disclose this to my current girlfriend. [more inside]
Yesterday after masturbating my penis was unusually irritated. When I looked at it under a good light, I saw several small bumps on the head that look sort of like the pictures of herpes one finds through a Google image search (if smaller and milder). I have an appointment to get tested on Tuesday. In the meantime, do I just keep my lips and pants zipped with my partner, or should I bring it up? (Bonus question: is there some other thing that this might be, given that it only became apparent after the masturbation?) [more inside]
Looking for people's experiences of disclosing trauma to loved ones and confronting abusers. (trigger warning) [more inside]
Why would a martial arts school need to know what antidepressants a student is taking? [more inside]
Dude, here. 1) My ex-girlfriend of on-and-off three years had periodic oral herpes outbreaks. I've never had an outbreak. Want to kiss new girl. Do I disclose so she can make an informed decision? 2) Two ex-girlfriends in distant past had abnormal pap smears. Do I disclose? [more inside]
I would like to hear stories from people who have "come out" about their lived experience of mental illness. What is it like to simply say, offhand, "Oh, yeah, I had depression" in the same way one might say, "Oh, yeah, I'm queer" - and have that be relatively common knowledge about you, rather than a private matter to be shared only with your closest confidants? How did you make the decision to be open and honest about your experience, and what were the benefits/pitfalls of doing so? Did you worry about professional ramifications down the line? How did it affect your sense of self? Do you ever wish you could un-disclose and stop being the "token crazy person"? I am particularly interested in hearing from people who have "come out" about their experience in order to assist others - for example, using your lived experience in a professional context to work in mental health promotion or peer support work.
Do I need to disclose to someone I'm dating that I briefly dated my coworker who I still work with? [more inside]
I have a cursory understanding of EDM, but I'm obsessed with Disclosure... yet I've played their album to death. Please help me find something new to listen to. [more inside]
I am residing illegally in a country (I would rather not say which one) and am dating. I reached out to a person on a dating site. We have only been on two dates, but I quite like them and the person seems very into me as well. I feel like since I asked them out the onus is more on me to tell them about my status than if they had asked me out. When should I tell? I want to wait in order to protect myself from even the slightest possibility of deportation, but I also want to be as honest and forthright as I can be to honor both the person I am interested in and myself. [more inside]
Would a U.S. health care service provider be required to publicly report the improper disposal and disclosure of health care records and other personal information? [more inside]
Should I disclose my illness? [more inside]
Hey guys, I'm 28 and I have the HSV-1. One outbreak a year or less, got from my mom, etc. Question: when should I disclose this to my partners, considering there's no outbreak? Options I see are: before kissing, before sex, before oral sex, and before engaging a relationship. Knowing about asymptomatic transmission and how most of the population have it I usually don't make a big deal out of this, but I realize different people have different standards, and that culture has some relevance when it comes to this (I'm originally from another country, where I suspect herpes is less of a big deal than in the USA). Anyways - trying to figure out the correct approach here, thanks!
I was exposed to HIV last year, but am not infected. Do I need to disclose this to future partners? [more inside]
Last year I quit my job due to depression and anxiety. I now have an interview with my former employer for the same job. Should I disclose my mental health issues during the interview as an explanation for my progressively lazy work attitude and subsequent quitting? [more inside]
When to tell other people when someone is very very ill? [more inside]
So, I'm trans, have a really horrible job where I can't reveal it and I need to get a new one. There's one issue that I've been struggling with: All of my legal documentation is still under my old name, which means I'm going to have to disclose my trans status at some point. But how and when? [more inside]
NYC filter: How does the bedbug disclosure law end up playing out when one is looking for a new apartment? [more inside]
In my law practice, I regularly encounter clients who are despondent and suicidal. I don't feel that I am well prepared for dealing with this issue. Without considering the ethical issues as to disclosure, what is the best course of action when dealing with a client who tells you that they're considering suicide? What resources are available as a guide to dealing with a suicidal client? [more inside]
I got a letter from the wife of a man I met once off of craigslist back in oct It says that he's married and she found my name and address among others and asks me to email or call her. What should I do? [more inside]
Why do people go on "dates" to "get to know" other people, but not mention that they already have a significant other? [more inside]
Depression filter: At what point (if any) is it appropriate to share with specific family/friends incidents of depression / suicide ideation in my past? [more inside]
At what point should one disclose prior plastic surgery to a significant other even if never asked directly? Is it a breach of trust to not volunteer something material like that after a certain amount of time? [more inside]
Relationship-break-up-post-mortem filter: Did I objectively screw this up or was it just a unique to the person I was with. [more inside]
What does full disclosure really mean in a real estate sale? [more inside]
I recently discovered that my partner of 9 years has been having an emotionally and sexually intimate affair with a man for the last 2+ years. The man is married with two teenage children. Though devastated, I'm glad I now know the truth, and I feel very betrayed by two of our close friends who knew of my partner's infidelity and didn't tell me. Given that, should I tell this guy's wife? [more inside]
How confidential is confidential when applying for a job with a small pool of colleagues? [more inside]
Should I disclose a past suicide attempt (and subsequent hospitalization) on my state Bar application?
Should I disclose a past suicide attempt (and subsequent hospitalization) on my state Bar application? [more inside]
Should I blog about writer's block? What will my clients think? [more inside]
Should I disclose this stuff on my rental application? How far back do they check these things, anyway? [more inside]
What are the ramifications when a real estate disclosure is misleading, and nasty surprises are revealed after sale?
What happens when you buy a house with an unfortunate history (suicide) that has been disclosed, but no one bothers to tell you that the victim's blood is hidden under the new carpeting? [more inside]
Can a prospective employer ask for my previous 2 years tax returns? [more inside]
I just over-disclosed to a work colleague - what now? [more inside]
I disclosed depression at work. Most of the things people tend to do in response to a depressed colleague are things which actually make me sicker. What to do? [more inside]
[ethicsfilter] two of my friends are getting it on. one of them has herpes. should I tell the other?
[ethicsfilter] two of my friends are getting it on. one of them has herpes. should I tell the other? [more inside]
I'm very close to getting hired by the firm I want. They just want me to fill out their employment application now. It says, "Did you receive any formal discipline (warnings, suspensions, resignation at request of employer, discharge) at your former or current place of employment? Do I have to answer "Yes"? [more inside]
We are about four days from closing on our house and just did the final walk-through and came upon a real gut-punch of an issue. The next door neighbor has the framing up for his new garage -- we knew that he was building this and where it would be but we really did not know how tall it would be.... [more inside]
I'd like more information about the practice of not informing patients of the extent of their illness in Japan. [more inside]
Yesterday I got fired from a job I hate, but I'm in the middle of applying for a mortgage and I'm worried this will jeopardize my chances of getting approved. I need to know what I should tell the mortgage broker, if anything, about this whole situation. [more inside]