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Help me get out of this wedding

So, back in February or so, we were invited to a friend's September wedding in Cape Cod (both us and the friend are in LA). It sounded great; my fiancée and I RSVPed. Now, due to a passel of unforeseen circumstances, we can't really do it. Can you help us get out of it without being giant assholes? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 6, 2014 - 18 answers

Is it worth it to confront your flaky friends about their flakiness?

If they don't care enough to show up, does it mean they don't care if they hurt my feelings? [more inside]
posted by winterportage on Apr 29, 2014 - 29 answers

What do you say to your boss when you feel unsupported?

Help me communicate my dissatisfaction with a business decision that impacts my professional development. Related: is this even a good idea? [more inside]
posted by jph on Apr 29, 2014 - 25 answers

Gender Disappointment

We're having our first child and I am terrified that it will be a girl. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 12, 2014 - 108 answers

Job application anxiety and disappointment

At the beginning of this year I finished my courses and exams to become an emergency medical technician. I finally have the certification I that allows me to work in the field, but I’m fighting against paralyzing anxiety that’s making it hard to apply for jobs. This is something that I've struggled with the past, but the stakes feel a lot higher this time and I’m looking for advice on how to proceed. [more inside]
posted by arcolz on Jan 22, 2014 - 11 answers

How to deal with disappointment and sadness?

I've been involved in a long distance relationship for years. I live on one side of the country and he lives on the other. We don't see each other as often as I'd like for us to and I constantly deal with sadness and disappointment because of that. What can I do to combat these feelings? [more inside]
posted by BrianJ on Nov 27, 2013 - 18 answers

My coconut flour pancakes taste like dirt and disappointment

In an attempt to embrace my gluten intolerance, I purchased some coconut flour. Things have not gone well. I've had problems with another GF flour mix I have. WTF is going on. [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson on Nov 21, 2013 - 19 answers

Dealing with disappointing friends.

I have a really hard time putting a positive spin on people, friends especially, that under-deliver. I'm worried about overreacting and burning bridges. How do I deal with this situation? [more inside]
posted by phaedon on Oct 12, 2013 - 35 answers

NOT the Maid of Honor disappointment--swallow or confess

This seems petty, but I am sincerely and exorbitantly bummed out (with some jealousy and hurt feelings to boot) that MY best friend didn't choose me to be her maid of honor. I'm clearly the next-in-line bridesmaid, but I haven't as of yet achieved many positive feelings about the honor I've received, but would like to, and as quickly as possible. [more inside]
posted by lovingkindness on May 13, 2013 - 54 answers

Hello from the bottom of a pit.

I feel like I'm at the bottom of a deep pit, and it will take a long series of successful maneuvers to get out of the pit. Other people's lives don't seem to be pit-shaped. Help me make this pit go away. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 9, 2012 - 22 answers

Name this music video with a freight train in it

Name this music video with a freight train in it [more inside]
posted by WalkingAround on Jul 15, 2012 - 3 answers

How can I expect nothing and appreciate everything?

How do I learn to live by the maxim "Expect nothing, appreciate everything?" [more inside]
posted by sockermom on Jun 8, 2012 - 16 answers

Active Duty vs. Reserves + Coping with Disappointment

US Marine Corps: Active Duty vs. Reserves: My partner wants to be an active duty Marine but his only option may be to join the reserves. Mefites, what is your expierence with active duty vs. reserves, and how can I help him cope with his disapointment? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 21, 2012 - 8 answers

disappointment trap

Stuck in an emotional trap- how do I deal with this friendship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 26, 2012 - 22 answers

How are British people taught to expect failure and disappointment?

Is it true, what Ricky Gervais says, about how in contrast to Americans and their high hopes, British people are taught to expect disappointment? British people: What life advice along these lines are British people given, that might differ from such U.S. ideas as Back to the Future's "you can do anything if you put your mind to it?"
posted by steinsaltz on Nov 30, 2011 - 56 answers

Did I get a crappy manicure, or is this normal?

Is this how a manicure is supposed to look? I've never had one before, but I am sorely disappointed. [more inside]
posted by vytae on Sep 15, 2011 - 28 answers

Oh diary, why doesn't he write to me?

Should I contact him? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 8, 2011 - 19 answers

Minor Family drama, fight with parents. Run or stay?

Minor Family drama, fight with parents. Stay until conflict dies down, or leave early? [more inside]
posted by faux fabric entertainment device on Mar 31, 2011 - 27 answers

How do you stop comparing your status with everyone else?

How to truly accept that it is what it is and stop comparing your life to others? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 6, 2011 - 30 answers

Mentally exhausted by my professional situation (and I'm the reason)

I'm 33 and I feel like a hopeless failure professionally. To an outsider it would not seem so - I've gone to prestigious undergrad and grad (MBA) schools and have had decent to very good job opportunities and experiences. However, the pattern of my career has been: stress about finding a good job, land one eventually, do ok and enjoy it in the beginning, then begin a downward slide into frustration, anger, and general dissatisfaction and start to think about getting out - maybe this isn't the right function, this isn't the right industry, this isn't the right company, more school? I've chopped and changed industries & roles (grass is always greener syndrome) and consequently don't really have deep experience in anything. I have never been promoted, never gotten a raise, never gotten a really good review. I've never voluntarily left a job - never fired per se but either laid off, close to it or my employer wasn't sad to see me go. Most of my peers are plowing full steam ahead into senior positions and handsome compensation; meanwhile I'm struggling to hang on to a job. My professional life has always been and continues to be a source of anxiety, frustration, anger, shame - agony - for me and I desperately want peace, and a plan for moving forward. [more inside]
posted by goalie on Jan 27, 2011 - 27 answers

I don't want to give up on people or myself: how do you deal with persistent impermanence?

After 15 years of disappointing dating, how do I hold on to my optimism and avoid apathy in my relations with others? [more inside]
posted by everydayanewday on Nov 15, 2010 - 17 answers

Can people really be friends at work - disillusioned here.

Should I talk to my new superior “B” (also my friend who this question is about) about what I’ve found out about her clandestine strategic maneuvering? I’ve done nothing so far, but I’d love to query the hive mind for suggestions. [more inside]
posted by lonemantis on Oct 12, 2010 - 35 answers

When to be gracious, when to react?

I thought we were friends, apparently I don't fit into his list of priorities though. How should I have responded? [more inside]
posted by ergo on Oct 1, 2010 - 30 answers

Oh Fred, it's up to my head!

Updating Mr. Rodgers for the grownups: "What do you do with the mad that you feel?" [more inside]
posted by Cold Lurkey on Jun 20, 2010 - 14 answers

I wasn't supposed to lose the spark this young!

Now that I'm having sex I'm finding that it doesn't live up to the hype. What can I do to overcome my disappointment, and more likely, my dysfunction? NSFW. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 1, 2010 - 55 answers

Motivation and expectations.

How do I motivate myself when studying for my college exams, when all I can think about is not disappointing people? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 18, 2010 - 7 answers

How to get over disappointment?

I'm hypersensitive to societal politeness. I return phone calls and emails promptly, arrive early to all appointments and go out of my way to help friends. How do I deal with the disappointment when it is not reciprocated? [more inside]
posted by kanata on May 12, 2010 - 31 answers

The healthy way to deal with those little petty disappointments in a relationship?

The healthy way to deal with those little petty disappointments in a relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 17, 2009 - 18 answers

moving past feelings of disappointment.

how to deal with canceled plans and disappointment in long-term relationships? [more inside]
posted by sucre on May 25, 2009 - 17 answers

managing my expectations with no shows

Friendship-filter: How can I manage my expectations better when people cancel at the last minute? [more inside]
posted by so much modern time on Mar 12, 2009 - 37 answers

I spent EIGHT months for you! And for WHAT?!

I feel like I'm going through a breakup - only it isn't with a person, it's with an intangible thing. I know intellectually that I'll get better, but it's just been the first few days and I'm hurting so much. How do I heal? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Jul 1, 2008 - 13 answers

Baby Daughter Daddy

Help me with gender disappointment. My wife and I just had an ultrasound and found out our baby will be a girl. I was hoping for a boy because I never knew / met my father. My dad was a completely absent f*ck-up. I was hoping to somehow fill that void by giving my son what I never had and teaching him the things I had to learn on my own. I know I will be overjoyed when my daughter is born, but right now, I am feeling quite sad. What is a good way to look at this, and what can I look forward to with having a girl
posted by jasondigitized on Jun 23, 2008 - 69 answers

Should I be happy with a partial salary increase?

How should I deal with being given a raise, but not given the agreed upon amount? [more inside]
posted by aftermarketradio on Jun 17, 2008 - 22 answers

OK, that's fantastic. Not.

What are the benefits of camouflaging or down-playing disappointment? [more inside]
posted by strawberryviagra on Jun 2, 2008 - 14 answers

Lost my passport. Keep my boyfriend?

Help me reconcile losing my passport and disappointing my new SO. [more inside]
posted by frumious bandersnatch on May 23, 2008 - 18 answers

Me And Bobby Eat Ghee (freedom's just another word for 'nothing left to eat')

Would anyone in their right mind eat vegetable ghee, or any kind of ghee, straight from the can? [more inside]
posted by spoobnooble on Apr 20, 2008 - 32 answers

What "can't miss" movies actually missed?

What "can't miss" movies actually missed? I need help coming up with a list of movies that have been "Hollywood-ized". A promising film with a great story gets transformed into something worse during the film making process. Such as the ending gets changed, an obvious mis-cast of key characters, poor editing, whatever. I would like to keep the list of movies contemporary (within the last 25 years or so) Explanations for each movie listed is encouraged.
posted by unceman on Jan 8, 2008 - 74 answers

how do i learn to deal with disappointment?

How can I learn to deal with disappointment in a healthy, adult way? or: Help! My boyfriend's babymama is ruining my life! [more inside]
posted by kerfuffled on Dec 26, 2007 - 37 answers

A sad coming-out story

I'm dealing with the fallout from coming out to my deeply religious immediate family. For years, I had prepared for their tears, their anger, their remonstrances, their appeals to the Bible, and all of those have come. What I hadn't prepared for was how disappointed I would be, and how fundamental and lonely that disappointment would be. Help? [more inside]
posted by grrarrgh00 on Oct 16, 2007 - 38 answers

What's going on with my brain?

Is this depression, or is it something else? And what should I do to make it better? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 1, 2006 - 34 answers

Getting over specific disappointments

How do you get over specific disappointments in your life? I don't mean general depression, but dealing with the aftermath of a particular failure. [more inside]
posted by Falconetti on Apr 10, 2005 - 28 answers

How can we get past her figuring out that I'm not perfect?

RelationshipFilter: In a new relationship where you fell for each other rather quickly, how do you get the other person over the hump when they find out that you're not their perfect, ideal knight in shining armor? [more inside]
posted by SpecialK on Feb 10, 2005 - 27 answers

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