This seems petty, but I am sincerely and exorbitantly bummed out (with some jealousy and hurt feelings to boot) that MY best friend didn't choose me to be her maid of honor. I'm clearly the next-in-line bridesmaid, but I haven't as of yet achieved many positive feelings about the honor I've received, but would like to, and as quickly as possible.
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posted by lovingkindness
on May 13, 2013 -
54 answers
I feel like I'm at the bottom of a deep pit, and it will take a long series of successful maneuvers to get out of the pit. Other people's lives don't seem to be pit-shaped. Help me make this pit go away.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 9, 2012 -
22 answers
US Marine Corps: Active Duty vs. Reserves: My partner wants to be an active duty Marine but his only option may be to join the reserves. Mefites, what is your expierence with active duty vs. reserves, and how can I help him cope with his disapointment?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 21, 2012 -
8 answers
Is it
true, what Ricky Gervais says, about how in contrast to Americans and their high hopes, British people are taught to expect disappointment? British people: What life advice along these lines are British people given, that might differ from such U.S. ideas as
Back to the Future's "you can do anything if you put your mind to it?"
posted by steinsaltz
on Nov 30, 2011 -
56 answers
Is this how a manicure is supposed to look? I've never had one before, but I am sorely disappointed.
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posted by vytae
on Sep 15, 2011 -
28 answers
I'm 33 and I feel like a hopeless failure professionally. To an outsider it would not seem so - I've gone to prestigious undergrad and grad (MBA) schools and have had decent to very good job opportunities and experiences. However, the pattern of my career has been: stress about finding a good job, land one eventually, do ok and enjoy it in the beginning, then begin a downward slide into frustration, anger, and general dissatisfaction and start to think about getting out - maybe this isn't the right function, this isn't the right industry, this isn't the right company, more school? I've chopped and changed industries & roles (grass is always greener syndrome) and consequently don't really have deep experience in anything. I have never been promoted, never gotten a raise, never gotten a really good review. I've never voluntarily left a job - never fired per se but either laid off, close to it or my employer wasn't sad to see me go. Most of my peers are plowing full steam ahead into senior positions and handsome compensation; meanwhile I'm struggling to hang on to a job. My professional life has always been and continues to be a source of anxiety, frustration, anger, shame - agony - for me and I desperately want peace, and a plan for moving forward.
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posted by goalie
on Jan 27, 2011 -
27 answers
After 15 years of disappointing dating, how do I hold on to my optimism and avoid apathy in my relations with others?
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posted by everydayanewday
on Nov 15, 2010 -
17 answers
Should I talk to my new superior “B” (also my friend who this question is about) about what I’ve found out about her clandestine strategic maneuvering? I’ve done nothing so far, but I’d love to query the hive mind for suggestions.
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posted by lonemantis
on Oct 12, 2010 -
35 answers
I thought we were friends, apparently I don't fit into his list of priorities though. How should I have responded?
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posted by ergo
on Oct 1, 2010 -
30 answers
Now that I'm having sex I'm finding that it doesn't live up to the hype. What can I do to overcome my disappointment, and more likely, my dysfunction? NSFW.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 1, 2010 -
55 answers
How do I motivate myself when studying for my college exams, when all I can think about is not disappointing people?
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posted by anonymous
on May 18, 2010 -
7 answers
I'm hypersensitive to societal politeness. I return phone calls and emails promptly, arrive early to all appointments and go out of my way to help friends. How do I deal with the disappointment when it is not reciprocated?
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posted by kanata
on May 12, 2010 -
31 answers
how to deal with canceled plans and disappointment in long-term relationships?
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posted by sucre
on May 25, 2009 -
17 answers
I feel like I'm going through a breakup - only it isn't with a person, it's with an intangible thing. I know intellectually that I'll get better, but it's just been the first few days and I'm hurting so much. How do I heal?
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posted by divabat
on Jul 1, 2008 -
13 answers
Help me with gender disappointment. My wife and I just had an ultrasound and found out our baby will be a girl. I was hoping for a boy because I never knew / met my father. My dad was a completely absent f*ck-up. I was hoping to somehow fill that void by giving my son what I never had and teaching him the things I had to learn on my own. I know I will be overjoyed when my daughter is born, but right now, I am feeling quite sad. What is a good way to look at this, and what can I look forward to with having a girl
posted by jasondigitized
on Jun 23, 2008 -
69 answers
Would anyone in their right mind eat vegetable ghee, or any kind of ghee, straight from the can?
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posted by spoobnooble
on Apr 20, 2008 -
32 answers
What "can't miss" movies actually missed?
I need help coming up with a list of movies that have been "Hollywood-ized". A promising film with a great story gets transformed into something worse during the film making process. Such as the ending gets changed, an obvious mis-cast of key characters, poor editing, whatever.
I would like to keep the list of movies contemporary (within the last 25 years or so) Explanations for each movie listed is encouraged.
posted by unceman
on Jan 8, 2008 -
74 answers
How can I learn to deal with disappointment in a healthy, adult way? or: Help! My boyfriend's babymama is ruining my life!
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posted by kerfuffled
on Dec 26, 2007 -
37 answers
I'm dealing with the fallout from coming out to my deeply religious immediate family. For years, I had prepared for their tears, their anger, their remonstrances, their appeals to the Bible, and all of those have come. What I hadn't prepared for was how disappointed I would be, and how fundamental and lonely that disappointment would be. Help?
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posted by grrarrgh00
on Oct 16, 2007 -
38 answers
How do you get over specific disappointments in your life? I don't mean general depression, but dealing with the aftermath of a particular failure.
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posted by Falconetti
on Apr 10, 2005 -
28 answers
RelationshipFilter: In a new relationship where you fell for each other rather quickly, how do you get the other person over the hump when they find out that you're not their perfect, ideal knight in shining armor?
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posted by SpecialK
on Feb 10, 2005 -
27 answers
