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I need a job. I want a job. But I don't *want* a job

So I've been out of college ( psych and neuroscience BA) for two years now. I have very little experience beyond the classroom ( VERY little), no salient passions, and a physical disability. I have a history of depression and ADD-like symptoms. It's time for me to work- I can't afford to live on 500 a month from the government. But how do I get a job when even filling out job applications and customizing the resume to each job feels like slow torture? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 1, 2015 - 11 answers

Suggestions for gentle exercises after period of bed rest

I need advice about very gentle exercises and reconditioning after a long period of bed rest. I have a heart condition and have been very inactive for years. Recently my heart problem got somewhat better. Now I can do very light exercises. But even very gentle exercise can be a problem for me. I need advice about reconditioning safely. Also I would like suggestions for websites, books or other resources for people recovering after long periods of bed rest who are severely deconditioned. [more inside]
posted by Cinnamon Bear on Jun 30, 2015 - 15 answers

parents hated my boyfriend, but love my sister's boyfriend

My parents didn't accept my boyfriend for about six of the seven years that we've been dating due to his physical disability. Now my younger sister has a new boyfriend whom my parents wholly and happily accept, and as childish as this is, this is bringing up all sorts of unpleasant feelings. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 29, 2015 - 9 answers

Is the Hitachi Magic Wand right for my wife who has a frozen shoulder?

My partner has a frozen shoulder and cannot self-service. I’d like to help, but is this the right device? Obviously very NSFW details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 9, 2015 - 19 answers

Eldercare in-home physical therapy/massage in Montreal

My mother has an advanced form of dementia that includes severe physical deterioration. She holds parts of her body very rigid and her caregivers say she is getting increasingly stiff. I’ve been thinking that there has to be a niche for a practitioner who would come to her nursing home and administer some kind of massage that would help relax and maybe assuage the stiffness of someone who is essentially bed/chair bound. [more inside]
posted by Salamandrous on May 30, 2015 - 4 answers

How to deal with hostile, but passive-aggressive, coworker?

I recently took some disability-related work accomodations and time off. This pissed off a coworker of mine, who doesn't think I should get accomodations for a disability she doesn't think is that serious. Since then, she's been treating me badly at work and taking passive-aggressive action against me. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by corb on May 21, 2015 - 31 answers

How to survive an urgent home-hunt in LA, as a recently disabled person?

ARGH! MOVING! I have less than 2 months to vacate my apartment, and find a new place in Los Angeles. I've moved about a dozen times over the years, but THIS time I don't even know where to begin, because all the stuff I took for granted before requires physical fitness that I no longer have, and I'm running out of time. Could use some advice! [more inside]
posted by jake on May 15, 2015 - 12 answers

Federal Employment Program for Persons with Disabilities

I'm on a low-level job hunt - I have a decent job, but I'd like to relocate closer to my family sometime in the next couple years. I'm also HIV+. I've never been sick and never considered myself 'disabled.' However, I just learned that being positive might qualify me for non-competitive recruitment for positions I'm applying for under the Federal Employment Program for Persons with Disabilities. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 12, 2015 - 3 answers

Good toys/climby things for newly three-legged cat?

My mum's boisterous siamese The Lola was recently hit by a car, and had to have a broken leg amputated (pinning was deemed unlikely to work). I'm going to be watching her house next week and I'm assuming The Lola's usual physical pastime of climbing on the roof is not going to be very viable anymore. Given she's likely to have recovered from the surgery by then, what are some playthings that might be good to cheer her up/tire her out while she doesn't have full balance back yet? [more inside]
posted by solarion on Mar 24, 2015 - 12 answers

How to pick a wheel chair? [extra challenge: wrist pain]

My boyfriend has ankle pain that prevents him from doing much walking. This has trapped him in our apartment for nearly a year now. We want to buy a wheelchair so he can go do things again, but don't know how to pick one. [more inside]
posted by triscuit on Mar 24, 2015 - 24 answers

Good At-Home Jobs for the Disabled

Hi, I struggle with chronic illness and disability and have one very part-time job that I split my time between attending in person and working from home. I need to bring in some more money, however, though I'm not expecting anything grand income wise. Ideally I'm looking for jobs that have enough work available that you can sign in or pick up an hour or two or three of work without the obligation of sticking to meeting a set schedule each week. It's hard because my illness is so unpredictable. Any ideas would be appreciated. [more inside]
posted by Goldfinch on Mar 20, 2015 - 6 answers

Robotics for simple tasks?

Any suggestions for a commercially available robot that could perform simple delivery tasks? [more inside]
posted by el_lupino on Mar 16, 2015 - 10 answers

Harassment from boss at work. How should my friend go about this?

I am asking this question for my friend, who is in his thirties. He says he is having issues with his boss at work. He works in retail, and has an auditory processing disorder (he got hired because of SSI). He feels she is insinuating that he is incompetent at his job in front of coworkers, and he is never able to say anything back because his brain freezes up. He wants to quit. How should he handle this situation? [more inside]
posted by BuddyBoo on Mar 15, 2015 - 12 answers

I'm pretty sure I'm unemployable. Hope me?

I'm so incredibly tired of using up questions on this topic, but I need a fill-up on motivation and ideas about where to go from here. You'll know from seeing previous questions of mine that I've been looking for my first job for the better part of two years now. I've received wonderful advice each and every time, but I never really started putting it to good use until about six months ago ( depression, ADD, etc etc). The problem? It's been six. damn. months. and I haven't gotten so much as a call or an email back. From anywhere. What am I doing wrong, what reasons are there to keep trying, and how do I keep myself from going insane when it feels like all my resumes, cover letters and emails end up being sucked into a black hole? [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 on Mar 13, 2015 - 38 answers

Demonstrating How Accommodations Help Kids on IEPs

I'm putting together a 1 hour training for new teachers who have little understanding of disabilities and how they affect teens in the classroom. Although I do annual presentations about this, I'd love to mix it up, make it more hands-on and understandable. [more inside]
posted by kinetic on Mar 5, 2015 - 8 answers

How to handle extended illness when your company has no leave policy?

I wrote this question at the beginning of February about how bad my mental health had gotten. Since then, I went to the ER and was voluntarily hospitalized in an inpatient psych unit for a week - I just got out on Wednesday. Since then I've been in a partial hospitalization program, which may go on for another 2-4 weeks. My office has told me that they want me to do everything I need to do to take care of myself and get better, but the official policies are not backing that up. How do I manage my time off? [more inside]
posted by Neely O'Hara on Mar 3, 2015 - 9 answers

Non-boilerplate resume help, on the double!

Yay! Almost a year after taking the NYS Civil Service/Professional exam, I finally got my first canvass letter, from the NYS Insurance Fund, asking me about my interest in being considered for a Personnel Administration traineeship. Going by my previous questions, you might imagine that I'm VERY, VERY interested.. They want a resume before they'll even consider an interview. That's a problem. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 on Dec 21, 2014 - 8 answers

I really am a people person. Really. But go away.

YANMT, but maybe you can help me figure out why I push away the very people I'd like to get to know better, both in romantic and platonic capacities. I'm asking as sort of a follow-up to this question but I really wanted help exploring that specific facet of things a little more deeply. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 on Dec 12, 2014 - 10 answers

Imposter syndrome on a massive scale

I'll be turning 25 in two months' time. For a variety of reasons, some of which can be teased out with a thorough reading of my ask history ( chief among them the fall-out of a cerebral palsy diagnosis, namely a llifelong sense of otherness and a lack of familiarity with what it means to be the author of one's own life), I feel like there's a huge discrepancy between that number and the ccoping skills, initative, emotional balance and vision for the future that I have to show for it ( a lack thereof, in my case). How do I adult when I feel so stunted? Vaguely Freudian wall of snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 on Nov 2, 2014 - 14 answers

The little engine that couldn't.

I have grad school. I have lupus. The two are not friends. Help me to start asking for accommodations when needed despite resistance. [more inside]
posted by batbat on Nov 2, 2014 - 13 answers

Intersecionality and bodies

I'd like to read about the intersection of bodies, disability, race, gender, and class. All writing (and other?) genres welcome. [more inside]
posted by latkes on Sep 25, 2014 - 7 answers

Self- sabotage: A beast with two heads

For the past few years, I've had to deal with what seems like procrastination's more stubborn cousin. It's not just a tendency to put things off- it feels like a visceral, physically-manifested resistance to doing things that should involve no forethought in terms of effort whatsoever, or that do, but that would only serve to help me better myself if I managed to get them done. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 on Sep 18, 2014 - 19 answers

Income or Skills for Disabled Student?

In March, I had a stroke the week before Winter Quarter finals and it resulted in right hemi weakness. I have made lots of good progress in recovery and continue going to physical therapy, but after a summer of my savings being eaten by medical bills, I am trying to figure out ways to make some money. My circumstances make that difficult. Details within. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 17, 2014 - 10 answers

Helping my mom get disability

My mom has been attempting to get disability for a while, and it won't happen. She has a paralyzed leg, and has lost feeling and fine motor control in her fingers. She has finally heard that a retirement account that she can't access seems to be the problem. [more inside]
posted by FireballForever on Sep 8, 2014 - 21 answers

I'm done asking this but.... Hope me with jobs?

The situation that prompted one of my first questions on AskMe is unfortunately still relevant. Logistics have improved, my depression is....eh. I'm 25 now and have been out of undergrad for over a year. This is my resume . Ignore the crappy formatting, but... [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 on Aug 30, 2014 - 11 answers

How to talk to my parents about my special needs brother

I (24yo F) live independently here in DC and have a good life. I have a great full-time job that pays pretty well for someone my age, go to grad school part time, and have a happy social life. I have an excellent relationship with my parents, but I need to talk to them about how my special needs sibling (21yo M) affects my life in the present and the future. I get along very well with my parents, but I'm not sure how to broach this topic in a way that is productive and respectful. [more inside]
posted by schroedingersgirl on Aug 19, 2014 - 24 answers

Disability lawyer fiasco, I need to know my options

I recently moved from one state to another and was in the middle of applying for disability, but that's not where the story begins. It starts with deception and a long wait that didn't need to happen (long story inside). [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 18, 2014 - 11 answers

Travel destinations/activities with a broken collarbone

A last-minute injury put a halt on our planned anniversary travel. What is the most fun/exciting/interesting/relaxing place we can go or thing we can do instead, given our limitations? [more inside]
posted by zadermatermorts on Aug 17, 2014 - 10 answers

Life changes for the... difficult brain.

I'm not happy with the way I look or feel. I haven't been for a long time. I'm severely overweight, have high blood pressure with a family history of heart disease and diabetes, wake up with back pain every morning, have zero energy if it doesn't come in the form of an energy drink or shot, and just generally look like hell. What can I do to lose over 80 lbs and get myself to a healthy BMI for a 24yo 5'8' male when my brain acts like it really, really just wants to have me die of a heart attack by 35? Snowstorm inside. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 on Aug 15, 2014 - 34 answers

Financial crisis when I have awful credit and am too sick to work

I posted here about my financial situation of being on disability for mental health reasons. Right now my PTSD symptoms are huge and all-consuming, so I am not able to accomplish much at all. However, I'm hitting a financial crisis point and need to find some remedy. My credit is too bad to get any kind of loan and I don't know who I could ask for one personally. Do you have any suggestions?
posted by mermaidcafe on Aug 15, 2014 - 9 answers

How To Fly When Walking is a Challenge

Do you have any tips for flying with an injury or pain? What have your experiences been? [more inside]
posted by Eolienne on Aug 12, 2014 - 9 answers

I can put together words so that they sound nice. I can't write. Why?

All my life, people have complimented me on my abiity to write well. In middle and high school, it was writing good chapter summaries, literary analyses and essays for homework using flowery language. In college, it became about construction and the flow of ideas, and I found myself to be reasonably adept at that as well. I'm currently jobless ( looking for my first job at 25), and when people chime in with suggestions on how to fix that, they can't understand why I poo-poo the idea of writing professionally out of hand. Help me develop my writerly mind and get myself out of the English class for good. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 on Aug 7, 2014 - 25 answers

Hands-free Assistive Technology For Technology

I'm looking for suggestions of ways to interact with technology that doesn't use hands. For the past year and a half, I've been suffering from hand and wrist pain. I've seen multiple doctors with no resolution yet. So I'm looking for some suggestions on how to use technology and not aggravate the condition. [more inside]
posted by [insert clever name here] on Aug 6, 2014 - 7 answers

I have only 80 hours left of work, but should I bail early?

I have severe social anxiety and depression, but I've been trying to work part-time with the support of my state's vocational rehab program. I have a natural exit point from this job coming up on August 27th, and I intend to take it. I don't know, though, if I can make it that long. [more inside]
posted by dee lee on Jul 29, 2014 - 25 answers

I need a job yesterday. I'm still stuck. Where do I go from here?

Many of the details in this question still apply. Logistics aren't that big of a deal anymore, and I'm chipping away ever so slowly at my social anxiety and fluency issue, but I'm still without prospects and now about $12k in debt on account of some reckless impulse spending and unpaid debt from college. Can the hivemind help get me out from under this? Snowstorm inside. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 on Jul 28, 2014 - 7 answers

No one will pay for wheelchair repair, even with Medicaid... now what?

YANM medical billing professional, but I need help in getting my very expensive, recently-out-of-warranty electric wheelchair fixed. I live in NY, have (crappy) private insurance ( Oxford Liberty) through my mother's job and Medicaid due to a cerebral palsy diagnosis. My chair ( an Invacare model) was provided through my previous insurance and OL isn't accepted by the contractor that provided it. They take Medicaid, but refuse to put in a claim and keep passing the buck. I can't leave my house. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 on Jul 16, 2014 - 17 answers

Help me understand Disability benefits (social security)?

I am a late 50's year old woman living in Ohio, with chronic diabetes, stroke, and other ailments. I have been employed for the past 20 years, but it is getting exceedingly difficult to do any work. I want to know if I quality for disability benefits (like a monthly check?) even if I own my own home, and I own some other real estate properties. Who can qualify? What are other things that might disqualify me? Will receiving Disability benefits exclude me from receiving Social Security benefits when I reach the age of 65? Tanks.
posted by anonymous on Jul 14, 2014 - 14 answers

where can we mini golf with puppies?

I work with an adult with disabilities in western Mass. I take him out a few times a week, and we're running out of stuff to do! Can you help us find more things to enjoy? [more inside]
posted by chaiminda on Jul 9, 2014 - 9 answers

How do I get "certified" as having a disability?

I'm better now, but I feel that I was disabled before and want to re-file my taxes. Do I need to prove this, and how does that work? What does it take to prove disability, especially retroactively? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 24, 2014 - 6 answers

Learning About Ableism

I'm interested in knowing more about ableism (its central theories, history, politics, etc). Frankly, I'm very ignorant of the subject at present. I've tried researching on my own, but have come up nearly empty in terms of finding thorough sites, blogs, books -- anything, really. Disability rights is also something I'd like to learn about, though I'm so ignorant of that subject as well that I'm not sure of the overlap between that and ableism. [more inside]
posted by rue72 on Jun 12, 2014 - 14 answers

Benign Keylogger

I'm looking for a benign keylogger to record the number of keypresses and button presses I make each day. This would be installed on my laptop running Vista (and is for my own personal edification). There are lots of results via Google, but I trust MeFites more, of course. [more inside]
posted by jocelmeow on Jun 11, 2014 - 2 answers

How can I keep going forward during a series of crises?

My life has been a bit hard for a while now. It has been ruthless #@$* for a few months. I need some strategies to force myself to keep going. Lots of moaning follows. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 10, 2014 - 30 answers

It's time to do this once and for all

So, for a variety of reasons, I was never very good about my dental care regimen. This has come to mean that, at 24, I have one cracked tooth, two chipped ones covered with veneers, two that have been pulled, a mouth full of cavities, gum disease and on-and-off pain in different teeth. I'm so tired of this. I know it's horrible to think this way, but the more time that passes, the less I feel like even brushing my teeth ( I only do it when I have to go out at this point). The guilt and anxiety are wrecking me psychologically as is the constant threat of intractable pain. I've tried to get things done the usual way- one appointment/procedure at a time, when I could afford it and had the emotional fortitude to go through with them. The problem is that my last two or three appointments- for root canals and fillings- have gone terribly. The anaesthetic never, ever worked, even after multiple injections, and even with nitrous. My last visit for a root canal was the first time I ever had the distinct displeasure of knowing what a drill on one's nerve feels like. I now shudder at the mere sound of a drill or anything that sounds like it. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 on Jun 6, 2014 - 13 answers

Possible minunderstanding with SSI back pay... path to a solution?

Social Security filter: got back pay that seemed legit at first, but now am not sure. Thoughts? [more inside]
posted by dubious_dude on Jun 2, 2014 - 7 answers

On getting fired - after my accident

My performance review was terrible and they almost fired me. I was given six months to shape up. But I was on disability for 50% of the work period and I don't want to get fired while I'm still in rehab. What to do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 27, 2014 - 12 answers

An exercise plan that actually makes me sweat

So, I'm currently on a self-improvement kick that I'm looking to turn into a marathon. You might imagine that having cerebral palsy and being in a wheelchair adds a speedbump or two, and you'd be right. One of the things I've wanted to work on for a while has been my weight, flexibility and physical independence. I'm about 100 lbs overweight right now, and I know that much of the decrease in quality of life that I've experienced over the past few years has been my own doing. I either sit in the wheelchair, or a desk chair, or on a couch/bed. I never move. Ever. I know that needs to change, and I've spent considerable time researching wheelchair fitness, but haven't really found anything that fits my very particular needs. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 on May 26, 2014 - 19 answers

Where to get Professional Liability and Disability Insurance

I couldn't find any recent questions on this topic, so I wanted to ask you helpful folks for advice on where to begin researching professional liability and disability insurance. I'm an independent contractor, and it's also my first real job, so I'm trying to get all my ducks in a row. I'm in California, if it matters. Thank you.
posted by madonna of the unloved on May 15, 2014 - 4 answers

Tips and Traps: Supplemental Long Term Disability Insurance?

I have some long-term disability insurance through my employer. I'm thinking I'd like to supplement this with some additional LTD insurance I buy on my own. I have a couple of quotes from highly rated insurers through a broker I like. What should I be looking for when comparing these quotes? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock on May 6, 2014 - 2 answers

PotFilter: The cure for what ails me?

Tokers of Mefi! I'm hoping you can help me make the most educated and effective choice when I go to restock my herb tomorrow. I'm looking to replicate what for me, as someone dealing with cerebral palsy, (and because of it, a pronounced and profoundly isolating stutter), was a life-changing experience with MJ, one that came about a year after my first encounter with the herb. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 on Apr 11, 2014 - 10 answers

A smart phone smart enough to answer incoming calls by voice.

Due to limited mobility from a disability, I'm forced to rely strictly on voice commands to control a cell phone. Over the years, trying to find a solution for reliable hands free functionality in this area has been challenging. Anyone familiar with voice recognition in the past knows the capricious, quirky nature of the beast. It can be VERY frustrating and almost comical at times. Anyway, with today's processing speeds and the advent of Siri and Google Now, I can happily say that it's almost there for me. In fact, I give a 90% approval rating for recent experiences with the latest Iphone and Android products. The biggest obstacle now has been the necessity to hit the home button to trigger the lovely Siri. This last hindrance was overcome by none other than Google with their release of the Moto X -- which waits in standby mode listening for your command. I was so excited by all the reviews that I rushed out to buy my own. It turned out fantastically, but (and there's always a butt in these things) it came with another quirky disappointment. And this one is kind of surprising: The damn thing won't answer incoming calls by voice. I've looked thru all the settings and searched high and low for an app but to no avail. The closest I've come is an app that auto answers after one ring, but who wants that? What if I'm trying to dodge the ex-gf. Lol. Does anyone have any suggestions? Thanks in advance.
posted by dthm42 on Mar 13, 2014 - 7 answers

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