Where do you turn for advice in solving life dilemmas?
I know about therapy (been there, done that) and asking the hive mind (and you guys are great btw!) I love my family dearly but I feel like I know what they are going to say before I even ask.
So tell me:
-- where else can I turn for new, fresh advice on big life issues (career, jobs, relocating, relationships etc)?
-- how can I really shake up my way of thinking and challenge my own perceptions?
-- how can I help myself solve my own problems with needing to ask other people?
hope that makes sense!
posted by EatMyHat
on Oct 24, 2012 -
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I have two very different and unique opportunities during the summer, and I don't know how to choose between the two. Help!
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posted by anonymous
on May 24, 2012 -
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Hello. I'm facing a big career dilemma and I would love some feedback. The short question is whether I should call a job I already declined to ask for it back (it's been 5 weeks), but in order to best explain what is causing this dilemma and (hopefully) get some advice, I think I should give some historical context. My apologies in advance for the long question and thank you for any perspective and/or advice.
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posted by curiousone
on Feb 24, 2012 -
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Workplace filter: I feel uncomfortable doing something.. give me a clue as to what to do? Details inside
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posted by xicana63
on Jan 23, 2012 -
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How do I resolve this dilemma where I will feel used if I do a project I'd otherwise enjoy?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 5, 2011 -
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Asking for a friend: My boss is pressuring me to adjust a failing student's grade upwards because the student is from overseas. I don't think it's fair to falsify grades. Please advise.
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posted by scruss
on Aug 22, 2011 -
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If someone was offered a sales position to work for either Oracle or Dell, which would you recommend and why?
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posted by gttommy
on Jun 30, 2011 -
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My boyfriend wants to help with my finances. I've always prided myself on being financially independent, but as of late, I REALLY need some help. How do I handle this?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 8, 2011 -
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Torn about whether to take or pass on this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity because of safety concerns and pressure to do something academic/career oriented with my time.
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posted by Kateruba
on Jun 1, 2011 -
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I have met a girl that I really like but I am going abroad for a half a year in three months. I don't know if I should let myself allow falling in love with her or just distance myself to her emotionally.
Also the history seems to be repeating itself…
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posted by Sexy Motherfucker
on May 6, 2011 -
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Movie/TV filter: Looking for scenes where people have a visible struggle with their conscience. Like the angel and demon popping up on a person's shoulder when faced with an ethical dilemma, but not necessarily limited to this visual depiction.
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posted by peripatew
on May 4, 2011 -
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I can't decide if I should offer any financial assistance to an old HS friend and his family who are facing some heavy duty medical bills also while enduring extended unemployment.
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posted by Jamesonian
on Mar 9, 2011 -
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Who benefits from an unexpected advantage of a purchases on behalf of another?
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posted by Akeem
on Jul 9, 2010 -
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Should I tell my parents that their cat, which I am looking after, has gone missing, considering that they are about to go on holiday for a few weeks and so won't be able to do anything about it except worry?
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posted by larkery
on Apr 23, 2010 -
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Moral dilemma: Should I take this job, considering I might turn around and leave for something better?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 30, 2010 -
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JobFilter - The short version: I've got a job I mostly love, but the company is in a bit of financial danger. I got an [unsolicited] offer for something else, and I can't figure out what to do.
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posted by doompuppy
on Feb 8, 2010 -
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Holiday gift giving going out of my comfort zone but I don't wanna be a scrooge. Please hope me. Longish explanation inside.
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posted by pointystick
on Nov 2, 2009 -
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Should I try to overcome a series of practical obstacles so I can fly to the funeral of a longtime friend? Or just send regrets?
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posted by vickyverky
on Oct 26, 2009 -
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When I was a young girl, my brother's best friend made very inappropriate advances to me. My brother and his family are visiting this friend on the weekend, and I have a concern about how the friend will behave to my young niece. There are complications over what I should do …
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 29, 2009 -
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I just had an MRI and MRA in response to
these issues, and the radiologist's report should be relayed to me in a day or two. I've already had one normal CT scan. I received a copy of all the images from this scan - should I look at them?
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posted by elektrotechnicus
on May 29, 2009 -
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A friend of mine showed me his penis with some concern. I don't think it's anything, but there were two dark brown freckle-looking things on the tip that probably weren't there before, and he claims to feel strange.
Does anyone have any idea what this could be, or if it could be something alarming? The freckles are just minor discolourations and are not raised.
Thank you. Prompt responses are appreciated!
posted by howgenerica
on Apr 17, 2009 -
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How do I express myself in an online dating site when it comes to being gifted with the privilege of passion (overly so) and express that in text with eloquence? So as to convey the message that I am a sensuous and passionate woman in the traditional sense and not a promiscuous whore either. Make sense? whew.
posted by Mersades123
on Sep 20, 2008 -
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Therapist? Professor? Something else? Help me figure out a career/life-direction dilemma.
Dear MeFites: You are wise. Please help me think through a tangle of career thoughts.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 17, 2008 -
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I'm having a bit of an ethical dilemma about a work/pay situation.
An acquaintance and I were hired as consultants by The Company for a 7 day project which required a 2 person team doing 2 different tasks. Task A was less technical than Task B and thus received a lower pay rate than B (with a lower overtime rate also).
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posted by anonymous
on May 1, 2008 -
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I have a bit of a dilemma. I dated this guy last year, and he introduced me to a friend in order to get him hired at my company. Flash forward to now, and he's finally been hired, and a referral bonus is coming my way. More deets inside, natch.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 15, 2008 -
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My 1999 Jeep Grand Cherokee Ltd. is an unreliable, gas-guzzling symbol of all that's wrong with this world. At 78K it performs - the small errand here or the work commute there - but barely, sending warning signs all along that some bigger and more troubling defect is on the horizon. Does it make more sense for me to sell (or more likely) trade it in now while the resale is 5k (at best), or to continue to drive it while I (and it) can do so?
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posted by mizrachi
on Mar 27, 2008 -
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I'm a male in my mid-twenties, active, and have been for the most part healthy. A few months ago I started getting some strange symptoms, and pain in one of my testicles. I was uninsured so I went to the doctor
anonymously and paid cash. His thoughts were it was probably just a standard infection, and gave me some antibiotics and told me to come back if the pain persisted. Around that time I also went to an anonymous city clinic to see if it could be an STD and everything up until then checked out OK. There was a test *Syphilis that I hadn't called back on for results, I did so today and they said the test was negative as well, but there was "something else was going on".. Apparently, the second part of the Syphilis test showed them this. I also asked again about the STD related stuff and they said all that was fine.
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posted by debu
on Jan 22, 2008 -
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A neighbor rented my parking space while I am out of the country. I noticed payments hadn't been made for 2 months so when I contacted him he said he had lost all his contact information in a computer disaster and also, his SUV didn't fit comfortably in the space...then
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posted by lapsang
on Nov 27, 2007 -
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What should I tell my prospective employers about my other concurrent working arrangements? Do I tell them about the other job?
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posted by PuGZ
on Oct 6, 2007 -
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Can I do what I want next summer (namely, be a summer camp counselor) and not kill my options for the future (namely, going to grad school)?
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posted by rhoticity
on Jun 30, 2007 -
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I would like to protect the wild bird population in my neighborhood. Our neighbor keeps feeding the feral cats.
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posted by craniac
on Apr 23, 2007 -
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You're a single mother, with no living relatives except your twin daughters, who are both dying of kidney failure. You have one kidney to donate. Is there a moral/ethical philosophy that deals with such rock/hard place dilemmas?
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posted by grumblebee
on Jun 2, 2006 -
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How do you refuse to do something your boss asks of you without jeopardizing your job?
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posted by Meredith
on Jan 14, 2006 -
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I have a question regarding attending a university but not including it in my law school application.
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posted by SeizeTheDay
on Jun 15, 2005 -
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This evening at a gathering of neighbors, I heard a disturbing story. The neighbor's ex-girlfriend has a brother who was sent to prison for raping her daughter when the child was 2-3 years old. The brother is now out of jail and living with his mother - the child's grandmother. When the girlfriend goes out, she takes all of her children and drops them off at the grandmother - which is where the child rapist lives.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 1, 2005 -
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HIGH SCHOOL BULLY QUESTION.
I'm 30 now and very recently discovered an old school reunion site which brought up a couple of questions for me. When I was 13-15 I had a really nasty bully through the first part of high school (I'm in Australia). She made my life so freaking miserable and then, when we could leave school at 15 she left. My questions are as follows. Has anyone ever had the chance to confront their high school bully?? or (even though I know we're wonderful folk here on mefi), been confronted by someone they bullied?
I don't want to do anything but tell her that she made my life miserable and that it left lasting scars on my childhood.
PS She's not actually on the reunion site but I was toying with the idea of tracking her down.
posted by Civa
on Feb 8, 2005 -
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EPISTEMOLOGICAL INTERPERSONAL DILEMMA AHEAD:
How does on convince someone else, who has many options available to them and who has no serious financial restrictions, to not shop at Wal-Mart? (more inside)
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posted by nyoki
on Apr 6, 2004 -
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