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Laziness, fleas and urine, oh my!!

I'm trying to bitch myself up and put my foot down...but I don't know what to say or do in this situation. Please help me, MeFites...apologies for the dissertation.... [more inside]
posted by Amalie-Suzette on Jul 20, 2015 - 40 answers

What they say is true: HR is never, ever on your side.

I was fired for what I (and several lawyer friends) believe to be a bogus reason. But what should I tell potential employers, given that I don't trust my former HR department? It's going to be long but the detail is necessary. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 4, 2015 - 22 answers

How to work out what to do with too many "eggs"?

I applied for a scholarship to do a Masters program starting next April, but I might also be offered an internship that starts then. If offered the scholarship, I'm 90% sure that I would be able to start the Masters in October instead, but I'm not certain. Can you help me decide what to do? Details within. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 24, 2014 - 7 answers

Learning from a hateful master?

The person I want to learn from is one of the best. The teachings will be extremely useful—they could even save my life someday. But the speaker might spend their earnings on hate. What to do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 9, 2014 - 59 answers

As an agnostic, how can I successfully work with a religious client?

I'm the only copywriter at a mid-sized advertising agency. We just landed a huge job that's going to require a lot of work on my end. Here's the problem: I'm agnostic, and religion (namely Christianity) makes me really cranky and frothy. The client is a faith-based company that makes things (I don't want to say what) for churches. How can I make it through unscathed? [more inside]
posted by shiggins on Aug 20, 2014 - 47 answers

NeedHelpWithaHorseFilter: Inherited a horse in Vermont. What to do?

I inherited a riding horse when my father died a few years ago. Until recently I was able to provide for it at a relatively low cost, but that is changing and I am in a dilemma as to what to do. Looking for possible solutions, especially from resident Vermont Mefites. [more inside]
posted by jeremias on Aug 20, 2014 - 13 answers

Rock, meet hard place.

I have no idea what to do. Eight months ago, I accepted an offer from Job A. Job A is limited in duration. I have a standing offer from Job B, which I am free to accept after Job A ends. Both jobs are in the same field, albeit geographically remote from one another. Sounds great, right? Well, just you wait. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 25, 2014 - 21 answers

How do I process my emotions when I'm bound by confidentiality rules?

How do I process my emotions when I am bound by confidentiality rules and can't talk with anyone about what happened? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 15, 2014 - 26 answers

What is right and what is wrong?

Should I try fixing it, or just leave the man alone? [more inside]
posted by Strangepassenger on Mar 9, 2013 - 17 answers

Solving life's problems - how do you do it?

Where do you turn for advice in solving life dilemmas? I know about therapy (been there, done that) and asking the hive mind (and you guys are great btw!) I love my family dearly but I feel like I know what they are going to say before I even ask. So tell me: -- where else can I turn for new, fresh advice on big life issues (career, jobs, relocating, relationships etc)? -- how can I really shake up my way of thinking and challenge my own perceptions? -- how can I help myself solve my own problems with needing to ask other people? hope that makes sense!
posted by EatMyHat on Oct 24, 2012 - 17 answers

one stone, one or two birds?

I have two very different and unique opportunities during the summer, and I don't know how to choose between the two. Help! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 24, 2012 - 10 answers

Passion vs. Security in Career - Which should I pursue?

Hello. I'm facing a big career dilemma and I would love some feedback. The short question is whether I should call a job I already declined to ask for it back (it's been 5 weeks), but in order to best explain what is causing this dilemma and (hopefully) get some advice, I think I should give some historical context. My apologies in advance for the long question and thank you for any perspective and/or advice. [more inside]
posted by curiousone on Feb 24, 2012 - 13 answers

I don't want to get in trouble!

Workplace filter: I feel uncomfortable doing something.. give me a clue as to what to do? Details inside [more inside]
posted by xicana63 on Jan 23, 2012 - 27 answers

Used enjoyment or enjoyed usement?

How do I resolve this dilemma where I will feel used if I do a project I'd otherwise enjoy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 5, 2011 - 15 answers

Being forced to pass a failing student

Asking for a friend: My boss is pressuring me to adjust a failing student's grade upwards because the student is from overseas. I don't think it's fair to falsify grades. Please advise. [more inside]
posted by scruss on Aug 22, 2011 - 50 answers

Sales job at Oracle or Dell, which would you take

If someone was offered a sales position to work for either Oracle or Dell, which would you recommend and why? [more inside]
posted by gttommy on Jun 30, 2011 - 9 answers

Should I swallow my pride and not look a gift horse in the mouth?

My boyfriend wants to help with my finances. I've always prided myself on being financially independent, but as of late, I REALLY need some help. How do I handle this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 8, 2011 - 33 answers

Got a Fulbright scholarship to live in Malaysia for 1 year

Torn about whether to take or pass on this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity because of safety concerns and pressure to do something academic/career oriented with my time. [more inside]
posted by Kateruba on Jun 1, 2011 - 23 answers

Is falling in love before going away a good idea?

I have met a girl that I really like but I am going abroad for a half a year in three months. I don't know if I should let myself allow falling in love with her or just distance myself to her emotionally. Also the history seems to be repeating itself… [more inside]
posted by Sexy Motherfucker on May 6, 2011 - 13 answers

Looking for scenes depicting the inner struggle of good/evil?

Movie/TV filter: Looking for scenes where people have a visible struggle with their conscience. Like the angel and demon popping up on a person's shoulder when faced with an ethical dilemma, but not necessarily limited to this visual depiction. [more inside]
posted by peripatew on May 4, 2011 - 27 answers

Chump or Heel? Giving money to an old friend or not?

I can't decide if I should offer any financial assistance to an old HS friend and his family who are facing some heavy duty medical bills also while enduring extended unemployment. [more inside]
posted by Jamesonian on Mar 9, 2011 - 40 answers

My colleague swallowed his teeth during a snowball fight. Now what?

Snowball fight ethical dilemma - who is responsible to fix something that breaks [more inside]
posted by MighstAllCruckingFighty on Dec 2, 2010 - 26 answers

moral dilemma - who benefits a sales error

Who benefits from an unexpected advantage of a purchases on behalf of another? [more inside]
posted by Akeem on Jul 9, 2010 - 23 answers

Write a history thesis or learn Chinese?

Should I major in history or learn Chinese? [more inside]
posted by flawsekno on May 5, 2010 - 37 answers

Honesty, or Deception for the Greater Good

Should I tell my parents that their cat, which I am looking after, has gone missing, considering that they are about to go on holiday for a few weeks and so won't be able to do anything about it except worry? [more inside]
posted by larkery on Apr 23, 2010 - 31 answers

Stick or twist?

Metafilter, help me decide whether to move flat. (Sorry if this gets long.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 9, 2010 - 5 answers

Should I take this job?

Moral dilemma: Should I take this job, considering I might turn around and leave for something better? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 30, 2010 - 17 answers

This is supposed to be a good problem to have...

JobFilter - The short version: I've got a job I mostly love, but the company is in a bit of financial danger. I got an [unsolicited] offer for something else, and I can't figure out what to do. [more inside]
posted by doompuppy on Feb 8, 2010 - 10 answers

It's almost holiday time - let the neroses begin!

Holiday gift giving going out of my comfort zone but I don't wanna be a scrooge. Please hope me. Longish explanation inside. [more inside]
posted by pointystick on Nov 2, 2009 - 36 answers

Do I try to fly home just for a funeral?

Should I try to overcome a series of practical obstacles so I can fly to the funeral of a longtime friend? Or just send regrets? [more inside]
posted by vickyverky on Oct 26, 2009 - 37 answers

Puppy and Baby?

Puppy and Baby? [more inside]
posted by brevator on Oct 10, 2009 - 10 answers

My inappropriate attention spidey sense is tingling

When I was a young girl, my brother's best friend made very inappropriate advances to me. My brother and his family are visiting this friend on the weekend, and I have a concern about how the friend will behave to my young niece. There are complications over what I should do … [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 29, 2009 - 43 answers

It's what's inside that counts.

I just had an MRI and MRA in response to these issues, and the radiologist's report should be relayed to me in a day or two. I've already had one normal CT scan. I received a copy of all the images from this scan - should I look at them? [more inside]
posted by elektrotechnicus on May 29, 2009 - 10 answers

What is Wrong with his Penis?

A friend of mine showed me his penis with some concern. I don't think it's anything, but there were two dark brown freckle-looking things on the tip that probably weren't there before, and he claims to feel strange. Does anyone have any idea what this could be, or if it could be something alarming? The freckles are just minor discolourations and are not raised. Thank you. Prompt responses are appreciated!
posted by howgenerica on Apr 17, 2009 - 15 answers

How to tell a guy a your Passionate!!!

How do I express myself in an online dating site when it comes to being gifted with the privilege of passion (overly so) and express that in text with eloquence? So as to convey the message that I am a sensuous and passionate woman in the traditional sense and not a promiscuous whore either. Make sense? whew.
posted by Mersades123 on Sep 20, 2008 - 16 answers

Therapist? Professor? Something else? Help me figure out a career/life-direction dilemma.

Therapist? Professor? Something else? Help me figure out a career/life-direction dilemma. Dear MeFites: You are wise. Please help me think through a tangle of career thoughts. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 17, 2008 - 9 answers

How do I ethically/morally justify getting paid the higher rate?

I'm having a bit of an ethical dilemma about a work/pay situation. An acquaintance and I were hired as consultants by The Company for a 7 day project which required a 2 person team doing 2 different tasks. Task A was less technical than Task B and thus received a lower pay rate than B (with a lower overtime rate also). [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 1, 2008 - 6 answers

Keep the Money? Share the Money? Stupid Money.

I have a bit of a dilemma. I dated this guy last year, and he introduced me to a friend in order to get him hired at my company. Flash forward to now, and he's finally been hired, and a referral bonus is coming my way. More deets inside, natch. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 15, 2008 - 69 answers

Sell now or pay later?

My 1999 Jeep Grand Cherokee Ltd. is an unreliable, gas-guzzling symbol of all that's wrong with this world. At 78K it performs - the small errand here or the work commute there - but barely, sending warning signs all along that some bigger and more troubling defect is on the horizon. Does it make more sense for me to sell (or more likely) trade it in now while the resale is 5k (at best), or to continue to drive it while I (and it) can do so? [more inside]
posted by mizrachi on Mar 27, 2008 - 13 answers

If you hate cats, just move on, pard.

Catfilter: be my conscience, be my muse... [more inside]
posted by dawson on Mar 9, 2008 - 18 answers

Mid twenties male with medical dilemma needs some collective advice.

I'm a male in my mid-twenties, active, and have been for the most part healthy. A few months ago I started getting some strange symptoms, and pain in one of my testicles. I was uninsured so I went to the doctor anonymously and paid cash. His thoughts were it was probably just a standard infection, and gave me some antibiotics and told me to come back if the pain persisted. Around that time I also went to an anonymous city clinic to see if it could be an STD and everything up until then checked out OK. There was a test *Syphilis that I hadn't called back on for results, I did so today and they said the test was negative as well, but there was "something else was going on".. Apparently, the second part of the Syphilis test showed them this. I also asked again about the STD related stuff and they said all that was fine. [more inside]
posted by debu on Jan 22, 2008 - 26 answers

What to do about non-payment of car parking rent?

A neighbor rented my parking space while I am out of the country. I noticed payments hadn't been made for 2 months so when I contacted him he said he had lost all his contact information in a computer disaster and also, his SUV didn't fit comfortably in the space...then [more inside]
posted by lapsang on Nov 27, 2007 - 11 answers

What should I write my paper about?

I need a topic for a paper concerning a dilemma in gender/heterosexism [more inside]
posted by nimkip on Nov 14, 2007 - 14 answers

Do I tell my boss about the other job?

What should I tell my prospective employers about my other concurrent working arrangements? Do I tell them about the other job? [more inside]
posted by PuGZ on Oct 6, 2007 - 9 answers

Should I resist the bug juice?

Can I do what I want next summer (namely, be a summer camp counselor) and not kill my options for the future (namely, going to grad school)? [more inside]
posted by rhoticity on Jun 30, 2007 - 17 answers

feral cats are decimating the local songbird population

I would like to protect the wild bird population in my neighborhood. Our neighbor keeps feeding the feral cats. [more inside]
posted by craniac on Apr 23, 2007 - 26 answers

Help Sophie Make a Choice

You're a single mother, with no living relatives except your twin daughters, who are both dying of kidney failure. You have one kidney to donate. Is there a moral/ethical philosophy that deals with such rock/hard place dilemmas? [more inside]
posted by grumblebee on Jun 2, 2006 - 24 answers

Roommate predicament, should I pay or not?

Roommate predicament, should I pay or not? [more inside]
posted by thefinned1 on Apr 10, 2006 - 28 answers

My boss wants me to do shady things.

How do you refuse to do something your boss asks of you without jeopardizing your job? [more inside]
posted by Meredith on Jan 14, 2006 - 24 answers

What should I do with old piggy banks?

What should I do with old piggy banks? [more inside]
posted by jeremias on Aug 20, 2005 - 14 answers

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