I’m relatively new in a job (just shy of 1 year) and am trying to figure out the best way to deal with a micromanaging coworker. This coworker, while my peer and not my supervisor has many years experience at this job and in this industry. Still, her involvement often leaks into what should be my role, not hers. [more inside]
Have had some not-so-great previous years, some ongoing struggles, and more anticipated in coming years/decades. All of this has brought me face to face with my worst personality traits as well as given me a chance to work hard on the things I'd really like to change going forward and give myself a fresh start, so to speak. Is there a manual, road map or something for acquiring the most elusive of traits? Interested in anecdotes, from those in their late thirties and beyond, of personal journey in developing maturity. [more inside]
Please give me advice for telling clients that I can no longer keep their appointment times [more inside]
Basically, what happened last night was that during a meeting people were continuing to argue about how to determine the next course of action for an organization. As president, I decided to go with my gut and pushed for a third option, but I did so in a way that sounded like I was trying to push my role as the organization's leader to get my suggestion through. During this time my body language and patience deteriorated and it became a me vs everybody else situation where everybody suddenly had collectively found the solution that they wanted to reach, and at that point I had to concede my opinion and let their's represent the taken direction. [more inside]
I'm getting divorced after 20+ years of marriage. Once everything is official and done and legal, what is the etiquette in terms of ongoing interaction with my ex in-laws? Is it normal (that is, expected or required) to maintain some kind of relationship afterwards (especially as there are kids involved—teens, though, not toddlers)? Or am I free to no longer have to deal with them, and leave all that to my ex-husband?
Are there interviews or essays on how individual people tackled difficult projects: organizing, keeping motivated, editing, and checking back on earlier edits? [more inside]
Defending my thesis next week and need help with turns of phrase to kick off complicated answers to difficult questions. Have flopped in conferences past. [more inside]
I share a house with my oldest and closest friend, and I have found out that he is in love with me and feels intense heartache and jealousy when I date. He is deeply depressed and emotionally dependent on me. We are both late 20s guys and I am straight. I don't know how to deal with this. [more inside]
Is there any good way to tell a dear friend I don’t really want to chat on the phone or spend long periods of time with her when she’s very, very stoned? [more inside]
My husband and I have been married 15 years and we have an 8-year-old daughter. She is incredibly intelligent and receives straight As in school. She participates in the gifted program and reads at a 6th grade level. She has always been an intense child -- one who feels emotions strongly. But after we moved about a year ago, things started to move up a notch and third grade has been very difficult. She has these meltdowns, usually over small things. [more inside]
How do you describe the basic concepts of a difficult subject you know a lot about that makes it "click" for a beginner? [more inside]
I've been agonizing over making a career choice for over a year. Now it's crunch time- I need to commit to a path like NOW and figure out how to live with it and not second guess my decision. Help. [more inside]
How do you dial it back when you've gotten to the point where you seem to be permanently, irrationally annoyed with someone? Imagine that this is a person who you can't avoid completely - a coworker, roommate, in-law, something like that. [more inside]
How do I deal with a difficult colleague who doesn't respect me when I'm getting zero support from my boss? [more inside]
Help me find a devilishly difficult online puzzle that I had worked on ~4 years ago. Difficultly: I remember a few of the levels and not much about the name. It's not the "Impossible Quiz" flash game. [more inside]
Recently promoted...how to handle former peers who are being difficult? [more inside]
In Responding to Someone Being Difficult, Where is Line Between "Assertive" and "Jerk"? [more inside]
How to keep perspective about a coworker that I dislike, and maintain focus on work? [more inside]
I want to get my mom something she'll actually like for Christmas. This is seemingly impossible. What do you get for someone who already has everything they want or need? [more inside]
Co-workers of mine insist on posting little brain teasers and such all around the office: riddles, mazes, jumbles, crosswords, etc. Help me find remarkably difficult (but possible) puzzles that I can use to troll them. Bonus points if they look, at first glance, relatively simple.
I’ve been at my job about three months, and while my performance is great and my colleagues and I get along well, I just don’t click with the overall culture. An offer has come my way from another company, and I’m thinking about switching jobs. Quitting any job is hard enough; how do I have this conversation with my boss without feeling (or making him feel) like my resignation is screwing over him and the organization after they’ve invested in me? [more inside]
Should I try to "understand" what's going on inside rude people? [more inside]
How to deal with a difficult person at work? Main question of the day: Do I cc this particular email to my higher boss? [more inside]
What are the most difficult dishes to cook? What kinds of foods require complex preparation or lots of skill and precision? Savory souffles, beef wellington, stuffed ravioli, croissants... what else? [more inside]
Re-phrasing a difficult email to sound less intense / in-depending relationship doom and more of a no-pressure, open conversation?
Writing a heated *potential* breakup letter, what are some tips to effectively communicate with someone in difficult circumstances? [more inside]
Wife due to give birth, house too small, housing benefit stopped, large arrears, neighbour murdered while we were on honeymoon, case unsolved, people visiting it like it was a tourist attraction. Any positive suggestions ? Any worse early marriage experiences ? Did you overcome them ? How ? [more inside]
How can I make £6000 in a fairly short time by doing something unconventional, difficult or dangerous? [more inside]
Please help! Need advice managing a smart but difficult engineer. It's stressing me out and not sure how to proceed. [more inside]
RelationshipFilter: being patient when your partner is trying to figure things out that we're discovering in couples' therapy. [more inside]
What movies have the most difficult plots to understand? Movies that are mentally challenging and require multiple viewings but aren't nonsensical. [more inside]
I recently moved into a 4 unit apartment building. Across the hall lives a single older woman who is proving to be quite the busy body. The girl downstairs from her and she are friends. The young woman that lives down stairs works for some sort of cash advance operation and when my Daughter got a ride home from a co-worker tonight, this neighbor of mine saw and recognized the driver as someone who borrowed from the cash advance agency, but never paid back, and verbally accosted her in the driveway of the apt. building. It was 8:30 at night and she was wearing a nightgown. I found this very unprofessional, and honestly irritating. What I want to know is how can I handle this without it becoming a building war. I've only lived here a month, but her bulldog approach was very insulting to my guest and very inappropriate. The situation could get sticky since the neighbors are pals. Ugh...what to do!
How can one learn to be more patient and kind with an elderly family member who has a difficult personality?
How can one learn to be more patient and kind with an elderly family member who has a difficult personality? [more inside]
I just started a new job I am happy with as it is interesting and pays great. However there are some people in the department that are really negative. This includes people who are training me! [more inside]
Anti-social cat that needs twice-daily insulin shots and oral meds; solutions for travel? [more inside]
I am looking for advice on how to tactfully deal with difficult family members when it comes to my lifestyle. You know there's [more inside]
SayonaraFilter: I've shared an office with a colleague for 3 years and tomorrow is his last day. I would very much like to get him some sort of sincere gift, but he doesn't drink booze or eat chocolate, so that's both my plans nixed already. To make matters worse... [more inside]
Can someone please point me to an old Metafilter FPP? It was about an annual test or exam given at a university (I believe in the UK) that was supposed to be extremely difficult. It was a general knowledge quiz, and 10 out of 10 is impossible, according to the professor who administers it. Does this ring a bell with anyone?