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How to kick ass when you're depressed

My depression seems to have come roaring back all at once this weekend. I know how to take care of myself in the long-term scale, but I have an important and difficult life event in two days, and a lot of work to do in the interim. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 18, 2013 - 13 answers

Life is awesome. I'm depressed. How do I become ok?

I think I've been plagued by this low-grade, corrosive depression for a while now. Maybe over a year. You think, "Ah ok if I do this and achieve this and fix this in my life maybe things will be okay again." And they don't turn out that way. I've reached goals, I've exercised, I've tried CBT. I don't enjoy living. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 18, 2013 - 18 answers

Combating SAD with a light therapy box - suggestions?

My mood has always taken a downturn around November and picked up again mid-April for as long as I can remember. I've been getting particularly depressed this year, so I talked with my therapist and was diagnosed with SAD. She recommended a light therapy box to help, but with my circumstances I am unsure of which to purchase. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by BuddyBoo on Nov 18, 2013 - 10 answers

Please help me snap myself out of this

I am depressed/anxious and self-sabotaging by doing little to no work at my job. My boss has not yet said anything to me about my un-/non-productivity, but I have to think she'll cotton on sooner or later. Help me figure out a) how to start working again and b) whether I should say anything to my boss. Predictably, there is more inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 13, 2013 - 9 answers

Should I consider a new therapist?

My ongoing problems with my therapist have reached a head, but she is urging me not to leave. Having received humane and insightful responses from AskMeFi about another MH issue, I would really appreciate some perspective on this. [more inside]
posted by beyondthepale on Nov 12, 2013 - 59 answers

Struggling to forgive my SO's emotional cheating

How can I forgive my SO (and myself) for emotionally cheating on each other? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 12, 2013 - 12 answers

How can I best help my depressed friends & also take care of myself?

I watch many people who I care a lot about suffer from depression. I would sincerely do anything to help them, and do whatever I can think of: conversations, little notes and random texts, hanging out, offering help with thinking through options if they want it, etc. But, as someone who is lucky to not have 'been there', it's hard to know when I'm crossing a line and what's really needed. In fact, I think most of my efforts translate to "I know you mean well, but..." even though I'm also one of the few people these friends go to when things get bad. On top of worrying and trying to help, I also spend (probably too much) time thinking about what they're going through and what would be most helpful. It's exhausting for me and stressful, but it's personally not an option not to care. I end up internalizing this stuff and it affects my normal activities, even though at the end of the day, I'm not the one suffering. I want to be as good a friend and resource as possible to these people I truly care about and also want to avoid falling victim to anxiety or depression myself because of it. Any tips from either the 'been there' - depressed and knows what's helpful - perspective or the sincerly-caring-friend side of this equation would be much appreciated. Thanks.
posted by anonymous on Nov 12, 2013 - 15 answers

Yeah, you're ill, but you're still being a nightmare...

I posted this question back in May, about my father's strange (and awful) behaviour that seems to be driven by some kind of illness. Things have not improved. Part of me says, "you should be there for him, it's your dad and he's obviously ill"; another part says "he's behaving like a monster, cut him out of your life." How do I determine which part to listen to? [more inside]
posted by smockpuppet on Nov 11, 2013 - 19 answers

Everything looks very bleak

I am trying to fight low grade depression. Things haven't been going well on all fronts so I feel it's more circumstantial than anything. I have lately lost passion for life and I am not sure how to get it back. [more inside]
posted by sabina_r on Nov 10, 2013 - 21 answers

What's my next step in dealing with depression?

I have rapid and extreme mood swings and am generally empty and anxious. I've got all the time in the world. What should I try, medication, self-help or therapy wise to get better and find happiness? [more inside]
posted by awesomathon on Nov 10, 2013 - 18 answers

Pre-Shrink My Bi-Polar

What should I do to prepare for my first visit with a Psychiatrist? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 9, 2013 - 5 answers

Age 25. Huge college debt. Can't land a better job. What should I do?

I have $40,000+ in debt, a bachelors degree in criminal justice, an EMT-B license, a basic computer tech certificate, 4 years of customer service experience as a banquet server, a bad driving history, and one misdemeanor - how can I find a better job than being a banquet server? What can I do to be competitive? Should I attend police academy or not? What are my options - what can I do to improve my life? [more inside]
posted by usersname on Nov 9, 2013 - 49 answers

CBT or RET/REBT Worksheets or Own Methods that Work for You

I have struggled with intense anxiety and depression for many years. My counselor who still uses RET (REBT) is helpful. I have read Feeling Good (CBT) along with other books of RET author Albert Ellis...but I have difficulty finding a way that makes sense in disputing my thoughts that I stick with. I am willing to put the time in but I am curious is anyone here is willing to share their own style of doing CBT or RET homework that works for them. I'm not asking for shortcuts but unique ways you may have tweaked either layout or jotting down things. I am open to whatever you might suggest. (For what it is worth, I find Albert Ellis' writing rather strange but understand the philosophy of REBT and CBT.)
posted by snap_dragon on Nov 8, 2013 - 12 answers

I'm underweight. How do I stimulate my appetite?

I'm depressed and anxious and dropping weight like crazy (my highest weight ever is 108, I'm probably 90-95 now). How can I eat more when I don't feel like eating? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 8, 2013 - 31 answers

How do I deal now?

After getting severely depressed in Japan, I quit my fabulous grad school and left my friends and boyfriend behind to go back to Germany last month. I am getting treatment, but what can I do to make sure I won't get worse again? [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood on Nov 8, 2013 - 8 answers

Even meditating overwhelms me with fear and rage.

I have anxiety and depression, and I'm starting to realise that underneath that is a bubbling fount of rage. I need some suggestions for coping with and dismantling the anger I'm feeling. I didn't realise it before, but I'm angry pretty much all the time, except when I'm with my boyfriend, scared, or distracting myself via escapism. And even then, it's still there. I'm looking in to going back to therapy, and I'm currently on antidepressants. I've tried meditating, but it just stresses me out or gives me panic attacks- to be honest, I hate it. What are some suggestions for coping with this?
posted by windykites on Nov 7, 2013 - 27 answers

Why is it so hard to find a therapist in NYC?

I've been trying to book an appointment for weeks, but everyone is booked up. How do you go about finding a therapist in the city? [more inside]
posted by shotinthedark on Nov 6, 2013 - 10 answers

Looking for a support group in Los Angeles

Looking for a support group in Los Angeles for girls/women with depression [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 6, 2013 - 4 answers

I'm sad.

So, I've had depression issues off and on for the last 25 years or so. [more inside]
posted by jen14221 on Oct 29, 2013 - 25 answers

Constantly tired: like depression without the hopelessness. What gives?

I'm constantly tired to the point of not being able to get out of bed until early afternoon, napping frequently and generally feeling lethargic, apathetic and kind of nauseous. I finished a contract job 5 weeks ago & assumed my tiredness was a result of wrapping up the project. Then I went on a very chilled 3 week holiday and put the exhaustion on return down to jet lag. I've seen my doctor and my bloodwork is fine. My diet is decent, minimal alcohol, one coffee a day, so I'm fairly sure this is a psychological thing. I take an SSRI for anxiety but was actually talking to my doctor about tapering off as I've been really well for the past year. Physically, it feels like the bout of depression I had four years ago, but my mood isn't low (more flat) and I don't feel hopeless, just like everything's a massive effort, even helpful things like exercise and socialising. Obviously, YANMD, but has anyone else been there? What can I do to shake this?
posted by rockpaperdynamite on Oct 28, 2013 - 21 answers

What to tell gossips about my husbands psych admission

My husband is spending some time in hospital to deal with his depression. This is a good thing and means he will be getting help. But I need help in framing how, and what, I tell different people. In particular gossipy people who ask what hospital he is in. [more inside]
posted by t0astie on Oct 28, 2013 - 16 answers

When to take leave of absence for depression?

I am in a depressive episode and my symptoms are getting worse. They manifest themselves almost exclusively at work or when thinking about work. Should I ask my psychiatrist for a leave of absence to get my symptoms under control? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 27, 2013 - 12 answers

How do you show yourself that you love yourself?

I've pretty much always hated myself. I'd like that to change at some point, and am willing to go the "fake it til you make it" route. How do you show yourself that you love and value yourself? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 17, 2013 - 41 answers

Help me find this comic about depression/anxiety

Can y'all help me find this comic about depression or anxiety. Three stages that I can recall: the first part is the narrator talking about how depression (or anxiety, can't remember which it was specifically) is like a devil on your shoulder and it follows you around telling you lies and falsehoods. In the middle the narrator talks about how he/she finds other people to share things with - I remember specifically "watching shows" and a picture of Heisenberg. Last panel is the narrator at a bus stop (or similar) with the anxiety/depression devil much smaller and the text something like "and now it isn't so loud" or "and now I can ignore it." [more inside]
posted by ish__ on Oct 17, 2013 - 11 answers

Maintaining healthy friendships while struggling with a mental illness.

Trying to figure out how to manage both a mental illness and a set friendships at the same time - balance between opening the can of worms that thoughts of a depressed mind can be and closing in, keeping things to myself appears to be incedibly hard to strike, and being unable to figure it out for 4 years now has been costing me plenty of sleepless nights and otherwise good friendships along the way. All input appreciated; more backstory inside. [more inside]
posted by 9080 on Oct 16, 2013 - 6 answers

Suicidal ideation support group?

Do you think starting a suicidal ideation support group (in the flesh, not chat groups or hotline numbers) would be helpful or detrimental? [more inside]
posted by mingo_clambake on Oct 15, 2013 - 13 answers

There must be something I can do to help

Is there anything I can possibly do or say to ease my Dad's emotional suffering caused by his terminal prognosis? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 13, 2013 - 25 answers

Depressed people who ask for advice and angrily shoot it all down: Why?

A question for those who have suffered severe depression: Did you have circular conversations where you asked for help and then shot down all suggestions/offers? What did you get out of those conversations? What were you really trying to achieve? What did you really need to hear? [more inside]
posted by ROTFL on Oct 11, 2013 - 60 answers

Dead ends everywhere I look

That I've posed this question more than once before in various forms doesn't say very many good things, but the circumstances being what they are, I have to hope the answer is yet to be found. That's all I've got really- hope.I'm a 23 year old recent college grad ( in May, with a BA in psychology from Stony Brook University in NY), looking for love, a job, a journey and a purpose. I'm also in a wheelchair, unable to speak fluently in an increasing percentage of life situations, grossly overweight, unmotivated and uninspired. Help me build a life away from my couch and outside of daytime TV, Facebook and lies. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 on Oct 10, 2013 - 25 answers

Tool kit for treating mental illness.

You are familiar with what things are effective in treating someone who is bipolar, paranoid, and/or schizophrenic. Please tell me about these things. If the person is willing to accept help, what type of help are they likely to receive? If medications help, what is the nature of the medications and where could one go to learn more about them? If there are behavioral options, where can one begin to learn about these? What else is out there? [more inside]
posted by sock me amadeus on Oct 8, 2013 - 15 answers

How can I help my depressed friend when he's keeping it a secret?

Hi all, I need your advice. My friend Todd recently told me that he's suffering from depression, and that he has been for many years. He says sometimes it's not too bad, but sometimes he feels so rotten that he doesn't even leave his room to get food and goes hungry for days. That sounds like a dangerous level of depression to me, and I am afraid for him. Todd is a really close friend and super important to me, and I want to help him as much as I can. We live thousands of kilometers apart these days. How can I help from so far away? Snowflakey complications inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 7, 2013 - 10 answers

Is my SSRI working? Too much or not enough to increase the dose?

I was just prescribed Zoloft for anxiety and possible depression. After I've been taking it for 1, 2, 4 weeks or whatever milestones make sense, how can I determine whether it's actually working., and how do I decide whether a dose increase might help me more? I'm looking for specific challenges - exposure exercises, though experiments, daily logging maybe? - to attempt and compare with previous results to quantify my improvement. [more inside]
posted by mock muppet on Oct 4, 2013 - 13 answers

Anti-depresssants after many, many years of depression

I'm interested in people's experiences with medication for very long standing depression, especially positive ones, but I'm curious about negative attempts too. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 4, 2013 - 30 answers

Can you recommend good books on developing assertiveness?

I've spent nearly all my life people-pleasing and recently have become aware of some very serious consequences affecting nearly all my relationships. I have been discussing this with a therapist, and in short, I need to learn to stand up for myself at home and at work. My therapist said that there are a gazillion books on the subject, and I thought I'd consult MeFites for your recommendations. [more inside]
posted by angiep on Oct 2, 2013 - 12 answers

Overcoming loneliness...

I've been dependent for most of my life, and I now find myself in a situation where I'm completely alone for huge spans of time. It's depressing. How can I overcome this? Any good resources, means to helping? [more inside]
posted by MMALR on Oct 1, 2013 - 11 answers

When to give up

Following my previous questions, I went back home during my summer break of grad school in Tokyo and felt a lot better, while still anxious about going back to Tokyo. I have been back at grad school for four days out of which I have spent every single one crying. Or actually weeping and sobbing like a child. I can't take this any longer, but I don't know what to do. [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood on Sep 29, 2013 - 37 answers

I can't eat. Please advise.

My depression took a turn for the worse a couple of weeks ago and I've barely been able to eat anything. This is bad for my psychiatric as well as physical health. I could really use some advice on how to take care of myself despite my loss of appetite. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 29, 2013 - 27 answers

ex tried to kill himself and now wants to see me: what to do?

My ex attempted to committ suicide three months ago; I've come to know about this just today as I've been made aware of the fact he asked about me to a friend of his. I'm torn between not going and keeping him and our relationship in the past to protect myself or going and risking having him think that means we can become close again. [more inside]
posted by opalshards on Sep 26, 2013 - 24 answers

fear and self-loathing in medium-sized city USA

New(ish) city, new jobs, still at home, mental health issues: I'm at a very transitional place right now, and can't seem to get any traction. I recognize the value in stability for stability's sake, but feel like I'm doing it for somebody else (my family, an idea of what I should do) versus what I want. How do I go forward without sputtering out? [more inside]
posted by elephantsvanish on Sep 26, 2013 - 6 answers

Little Miss Sunshine

How do I start smiling and laughing more? [more inside]
posted by dinosaurprincess on Sep 25, 2013 - 16 answers

How do I make the best use of a month-long personal retreat?

I've been off work for a number of months with severe depression. My spouse is allowing and encouraging me to go away for a month to get away from daily family life. How can I best make use of this time? [more inside]
posted by spiraldown on Sep 24, 2013 - 14 answers

Help me overcome sleep inertia

If I don't have to be somewhere by a certain time, I turn my alarm forward in increments between ten minutes and an hour and a half until mid-afternoon, never waking up enough that I don't feel like I couldn't and don't want to fall immediately back to sleep. On days when I do have something to do, I set my alarm an hour early, reset it to the real time when it goes off the first time, and wake up immediately after that. [more inside]
posted by wrabbit on Sep 22, 2013 - 12 answers

Healthy habits for anxiety?

I'm looking for suggestions for healthy habits to help fight anxiety. [more inside]
posted by bluecore on Sep 17, 2013 - 28 answers

Too old for babysitting, so what now?

What do you do when you can't (but have to) leave a 15 year old alone overnight, but he has no friends/family to stay with? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 12, 2013 - 36 answers

Help me get my shit together work-wise

This is a work question, but probably is more psychological than practical. I’m 32 years old, currently unemployed. That’s no big deal given the economy. What is a big deal is that despite my “best” efforts, I’ve been in and out of work or dissatisfied for my whole working life. [more inside]
posted by UncleCaveMan on Sep 12, 2013 - 20 answers

Trichotillomania, rumination, and the possibility of change.

If you have or have had any BFRDs (body-focused repetitive disorders) or similar, what's worked for you in combating them? Relatedly, what are some successful ways you've stopped ruminating? I know the hard work's on me. I just don't know where to start. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 11, 2013 - 12 answers

My Magic Wand...Well, It's Not Working

I'm the special education teacher in a therapeutic high school and I've got an amazingly smart male student with an assortment of behaviors (sleeping, work refusal) and diagnoses (depression, selective mutism) who needs help and I'm looking for some suggestions. Have you ever successfully worked with a kid like this? How? [more inside]
posted by kinetic on Sep 11, 2013 - 34 answers

How do I cope with living alone?

Every period in my adult life where I've lived alone has coincided with moderate-severe depressive episodes. I'm being laid off and am facing 6 more months of living alone... how do I cope? More questions and more details inside. [more inside]
posted by stubbehtail on Sep 10, 2013 - 17 answers

How to heal with what I've learned?

I’ve been doing some heavy lifting lately involving my mental illness. For the first time in my life I think I’m finally facing the root cause of my problem, rather than the symptoms of depression, low self-esteem, lack of initiative, etc. More details [more inside]
posted by fredmounts on Sep 9, 2013 - 5 answers

How do I believe in myself again and make a choice I can truly own?

After years of parental pressure and self-conflict, I no longer know: do I want to be a doctor or not? I am paralyzed with self-doubt and indecision and have repeatedly shot myself in the foot. How can I stop spinning my wheels, climb out of the deep rut I dug myself, make a choice and act on it with conviction? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 6, 2013 - 24 answers

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