755 posts tagged with depression by Anonymous.
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Self-acceptance after breakup with asexual, aromantic girlfriend

My girlfriend and I broke up because while I felt unloved and unwanted, she felt I was putting too much pressure on her and setting unreasonable expectations on the relationship. After the breakup, she told me she now identifies as ace + aro, neither of which I am. I feel guilty I didn't know much about this topic while we were together, and the more I read about it the more I get depressed and dwell on mistakes I made unknowingly. How can I respect myself after this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 11, 2015 - 25 answers

My life is empty. Wat do?

19 year old dude here, history of disabling depression and social anxiety, with nothing to occupy his mind. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 10, 2015 - 15 answers

Avoiding (or Re-routing) the Sad Thoughts

In serious need of ways to keep myself from dwelling on recent bad news. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 6, 2015 - 17 answers

I need a job. I want a job. But I don't *want* a job

So I've been out of college ( psych and neuroscience BA) for two years now. I have very little experience beyond the classroom ( VERY little), no salient passions, and a physical disability. I have a history of depression and ADD-like symptoms. It's time for me to work- I can't afford to live on 500 a month from the government. But how do I get a job when even filling out job applications and customizing the resume to each job feels like slow torture? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 1, 2015 - 12 answers

In search of a therapist who is good with creatives in Portland, OR.

I am a working artist and I've been dealing with a ton of anxiety and depression for much of my life, but it's getting particularly rough lately. Portland is a city of creatives, so can someone recommend me an awesome therapist who also understands creative people's problems? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 24, 2015 - 3 answers

Techniques for improving memory in older people

I'm looking for ways an older relative can improve his memory, which has become very poor, probably because of anxiety and post-chemotherapy issues. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 18, 2015 - 9 answers

Online obsession aggravating depression - how to reset brain?

I have recurrent depression, in a bad phase at the moment. (I am in therapy, on meds, and not at risk of self-harm.) Being in a sub-optimal living situation, with no immediate financial need to seek work, few nearby friends and no relationship I have taken to spending way too much time in bed and online. I know what I have to do to recover: how do I handle my mind in the very short term / meantime? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 18, 2015 - 16 answers

Sharing your journal in therapy

About a month ago, I started therapy (for anxiety, possible depression, and relationship issues), and so far I've been frustrated with my inability to express myself to my therapist. Would it be OK to have her read my journal? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 9, 2015 - 12 answers

How to receive a gift that embarrasses me

My parents are about to give me an embarrassing birthday gift. Help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 30, 2015 - 35 answers

Given these snowflakes, is my partner smoking too much?

I found out last night that my partner has been smoking pot about five nights a week, but in such small quantities that they did not think it worthwhile to mention, since I knew about and was not bothered by periodic smoking in general. I am not really drawn to drugs or alcohol, so I have no idea if this is an appropriate amount or not. Details within! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 29, 2015 - 26 answers

I don't want to be her suicide letter.

My long-distance partner is suicidal, and I don't know what to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 24, 2015 - 8 answers

Dealing with lack of everything

Basically, stuff happened in the last 1-2 months and I lost everything. Currently, trying to survive and wait it out. I'm searching for any resources related to unemployment/no income that I may have missed accidentally searching on my own. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 14, 2015 - 14 answers

How to stop negative rumination?

Greetings. I seem to have a terrible case of negative rumination and I cannot impede my negative thoughts at all; this jeopardizing my work ethic and academic studies. I would greatly appreciate some pragmatic tips and positive thinking advice. I'm not sure how to stay optimistic and positive about the world and myself. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 8, 2015 - 16 answers

My sex drive is now a sex leisurely amble in the park

I have been on SSRIs for depression for a bit over a year, and my sex drive has fallen through the floor. I find this extremely distressing. What can I do about it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 7, 2015 - 14 answers

Separated after many years. Help me feel like I haven't wasted my life.

I separated from my ex-husband about a year ago. I am now 40 years old and I feel like I threw my life away on a marriage that never should have happened. Please help me to move on and be optimistic for the future. (Wall of text inside) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 7, 2015 - 26 answers

How Do I Antidepressant? Tracking success/side effects of medication

I'm working with a psychiatrist to try antidepressants for anxiety in combination with my ongoing work with a therapist. He's started me on a low dose of Cymbalta and says I may need to try a variety of antidepressants before I find out what works. If you take medications for mood/anxiety, how do you track their effects on you to figure out if something is working or not? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 3, 2015 - 10 answers

Seattle-area therapist for depression-related problems

I would like recommendations for a Seattle-area therapist for depression/anxiety problems. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 28, 2015 - 1 answer

I'm hitting rock bottom. How do I pull myself back up?

Everything in my life seems to be spiraling out of control. I'm afraid I'll hit rock bottom soon and will need to rebuild my whole life. Help me not go crazy. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 28, 2015 - 17 answers

Please help give me hope that downward spirals sometimes end.

I have a situation with a sibling who has been in trouble with mental health issues and general life stagnation for the past several years, and this year things have taken an ominous turn. Have you ever had a close friend or family member get into a really low functioning state/suffer from treatment resistant depression for a similarly long period of time and emerge from it successfully? If so, was there any particular trigger or thing that helped, or was it basically that they just decided not to live like that anymore? Can you give me anecdotes that might help me have hope for the future? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 9, 2015 - 16 answers

I'm not sad. I just can't. Do. Anything.

I'm so frustrated. I've been depressed for years. Used to have all the classic signs, now I remain with just one big one: I've always complained about being chronically fatigued, and maybe there's some truth to that, but I'm almost never sleepy. I just can't bring myself to do anything that requires any effort whatsoever. The ONLY thing that helps get me over the hump of what really and truly feels like a paralysis is massive amounts of caffeine. What is this and how do I regain functionality before I end up stroking out at 30? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 24, 2015 - 23 answers

I think I internalized my parents' neglect. Now what?

I recently realized that my parents were inattentive to my needs as a child and teenager to a much greater degree than is usual or reasonable, and that my own longstanding patterns of passivity and self-neglect may be due to this. What do I do about it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 13, 2015 - 22 answers

I am feeling stuck in a serious rut. How to reboot?

In my mid-20s, going nowhere, full of shame. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 26, 2015 - 18 answers

stuck in molasses

i'm not even sad, but i can't get moving. help me get out of bed. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 14, 2015 - 7 answers

midlife crisis? minor Major Depression? bad habits?

I have been struggling with lethargy, lack of interest, procrastination, and some sadness after not-so-recent transitions in my life and would like help with diagnosis and suggestions for next steps. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 14, 2015 - 14 answers

Where do I start to sort out my life?

I'm completely lost. I have always suffered from depressive episodes (never discussed it with anyone) and now things have come to a head. I am in my early thirties. I don't know how to carry on. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 22, 2015 - 15 answers

Is my Adderall treating my ADHD?

My Adderall prescription works great for me. But increasingly, it feels like its functional effect on me is less about attention and focus, and more about depressive/anxious tendencies I have. Is this a problem? Does anyone have experience around this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 20, 2015 - 13 answers

How to survive PhD viva with inadequate thesis?

I submitted an embarrassingly weak PhD thesis, elements of which I don't feel able to defend, and am expecting to be told to revise and resubmit. My viva is in three weeks time. How do I prepare for this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 15, 2015 - 13 answers

Staying patient and compassionate with a depressed husband

How can I try to obtain and maintain a sense of caring and compassion for my husband during his depression, when the effects on me are starting to create major resentment? For the second time in the past 12 months, he has fallen into a place of depression and anxiety, resulting in having a short temper, very low energy, mentally checking out, little interest in my life, no sex, and very little empathy. The first time it lasted about 3-4 months. This time, it has been about three months and counting. That is more than half the year. It is exhausting and I am losing hope. I am female and we are both in our late 30s. We have been close friends over 10 years, but not romantically involved that entire time. I recall him having some slight down times back when we first met, but he always seemed to bounce back very easily. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 6, 2015 - 44 answers

Kung Fu Sad Panda

Why would a martial arts school need to know what antidepressants a student is taking? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 1, 2015 - 11 answers

Powering through when it feels hopeless

I am having the worst holiday season of my life. Help me cope. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 29, 2014 - 41 answers

Confrontational Work + Low self-esteem, Body Image Issues = ???!

How do I navigate an environment where I'm expected to challenge power and authority constantly, while struggling with my own deeply-rooted issues with body image, self esteem, depression and anxiety? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 8, 2014 - 11 answers

Un-supersize me. Difficulty: mental health

With anxiety, chronic depression and ADHD (I'm being treated for all), I struggle sometimes to get out of bed and go to work, let alone exercising and making healthy food (I know, I know, 30 minutes daily exercise is the single biggest thing for health). Where do I start? It seems huge and impossible. I have some spare cash to throw at this, but I’m reluctant to buy expensive clothes racks that take up space in my tiny flat and accuse me silently. If you have any ideas/tips/links for an old (50ish) seriously unmotivated introvert with a BMI of 40 and the attention span of a lizard, that’d be good. If you see a (solvable) obstacle that I'm obviously missing, I'd appreciate your insight. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 25, 2014 - 42 answers

Should I take hormonal birth control if I am anxiety prone?

Help me sort out my options. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 12, 2014 - 34 answers

Effective substitute for Valium?

Long shot but here goes. I have an anxiety disorder and use valium as an occasional circuit breaker, essentially to have the odd night off when other coping mechanisms stop working. It works very well and is part of an agreed upon management plan with my GP and a psychiatrist, both of whom are happy with my level of use of the drug. Recent research is making me concerned about the long term effects of occasional use of the drug, however, and I would like to potentially find an alternative. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 27, 2014 - 17 answers

What do you do when you're burnt to a crisp?

I have major "failure to launch" syndrome and it's affecting my life big time. I have been in this situation for some time now and I can't see any way out. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 16, 2014 - 24 answers

Okay, okay. I'm getting therapy. ...How do I do this?

After struggling with a few largely non-crisis issues for the last eight years or so, I've decided to go see a therapist. I've seen a counselor before, and she's lovely, but I feel like I need more cognitive insight now. I found my current counselor by calling the local Pride Center and getting a list of names, then going with the first one who answered their phone. I want to make a more informed decision this time. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 10, 2014 - 5 answers

Asking off from work because you're severely depressed

Two or three times a month, I have really bad days with my depression and want desperately to go home, unable to fathom how I'm going to get through the rest of the wretched day, but of course the stigma is just too great and I can't tell anyone, so I just have to deal with it and push through until 5 o-clock. Is this how it has to be? I can't say I feel physically ill or have an emergency because of the regularity with which I have these days. Thanks everyone for any advice or comments you might have. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 4, 2014 - 25 answers

How to not let negative coworker get me down?

I work in the same department as a very good friend of mine, we'll call him Tom. Tom hates his job and is very vocal about it all the time. I don't know how to deal with this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 27, 2014 - 33 answers

Treating treatment-resistant depression.

My boyfriend attempted suicide recently. He is resistant to help. How do I deal with this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 22, 2014 - 27 answers

When I'm low, I'm low

How do you effectively seek treatment for anxiety and depression when the symptoms come and go? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 20, 2014 - 9 answers

Lifelong struggle with mental illness - what else can I try?

I've been in and out of therapy my entire adult life (over twenty years) and am currently in treatment with a psychiatrist. The past few days I have been plagued with horrible feelings of hopelessness and worthlessness which culminated in crying uncontrollably this morning and unable to leave the house and go to work, and I barely managed to let my office know I wasn't coming in. I haven't been able to focus and I am sure everyone at work can tell how much my performance is slipping. I feel like a complete mess. No matter how good I can wind up feeling for a while, I always wind up back to this state. If I haven't managed to get to a good place in my life by now, how can I ever hope for improvement? Do I need more intensive treatment? What would that even look like? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 17, 2014 - 15 answers

Need a good gay friendly therapist in Seattle

I've been struggling with depression and anxiety for years, and I'm tired of trying to struggle through it on my own. I've decided I need to get help, but I have no idea where to start. I'm gay and in Seattle. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 15, 2014 - 6 answers

How should I handle my hunch that my boyfriend was abused?

How should I handle my hunch that my boyfriend was abused as a child -- when I am unsure about the future of our relationship in general? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 10, 2014 - 36 answers

Is this all there is to Wellbutrin?

I've been taking Wellbutrin for depression for about 5 months now. It helps, but not as much as I hoped. Is this a common experience? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 2, 2014 - 26 answers

How do I conquer my longtime addiction to relationships?

How do I conquer my longtime addiction to relationships, but... also date in Brooklyn? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 15, 2014 - 9 answers

How do I get antidepressants?

Who can prescribe antidepressants, who should, and how should I find/talk to that person? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 13, 2014 - 17 answers

How can I both cure my depression and get my sex drive back?

I used to like all kinds of funky sex. Since depression came into my life a few years ago, I've been far, far less sexual. In the last few months, I can't even find the will to masturbate let alone allow my beloved to penetrate me or otherwise enjoy sexual activity with me. I don't want to be depressed anymore, and I also want to get back to embodying the sexual being I used to be. How? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 29, 2014 - 10 answers

A sad, sad life

I have been isolated and depressed for 10 years. I need help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 27, 2014 - 33 answers

Needed: One Pair Of Big Girl Pants ASAP

I am one of those adults who had to emotionally take care of myself throughout my life due to mediocre parenting. Mom and Dad weren't hugely abusive, but they didn't seem to give a fuck about my brother and I. I'm coming out of a month where I went off my meds and I think I had a hypomanic episode followed by a giant crash. While I am now back on my meds and working with my therapist and pdoc, I am craving someone in my life who would take care of me emotionally. Someone who would understand where I was coming from and why I feel the way I do. The thing is, I do live in reality and know that's not possible for the immediate foreseeable future, if ever. What can I do to self-soothe and give myself that pampered feeling? How do I find someone who gets me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 21, 2014 - 13 answers

not technically depressed but is this as good as it gets?

I believe that popular wisdom holds that contentment or real inner peace is the goal for those who have been depressed and who have pulled out of the hole. But what about people who have been unhappy since childhood, for example. One popularly cited data point for whether someone has diagosable depression is they lose interest in what they've loved doing, and this notion assumes that they've had a chance to develop hobbies or friendships at some point until they became depressed. So short of having had hobbies or friends to return to, at what point do people "stop being depressed"? (I know that there are manuals that professionals use to tally up symptoms, but I am asking not about technical definitions of depressed versus not; I'm asking about the experience. Has anyone experienced a bright line shift in their thinking?) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 30, 2014 - 15 answers

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