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Should I use my real name to write about sex and Asperger's Syndrome?

I've been writing for a year and a half. I'm proud of my work, which is pretty obscure so far but some people like it and I'd like to try to go somewhere with it. (I'm in my late twenties if that makes a difference.) I just got published in an erotic anthology that's kind of a big deal. I also write essays for a high-traffic website. I think I'd have a wider audience if I used my real name. But I'm worried about discrimination because it's pretty sensitive material. [more inside]
posted by tuberose on Feb 1, 2015 - 15 answers

Tips for sanity after moving, sans support group?

I've been feeling like no one would notice if I dropped off the face of the planet. My parents live a town away and they weren't part of my life when I was living with them. Can you give me suggestions for making it through this year? [more inside]
posted by city_park on Jan 25, 2015 - 14 answers

Help me make a bad situation not worse

I'm looking for resources about speaking to my father and dealing with my family in light of his recent mental health issues. [more inside]
posted by FakePalindrome on Jan 15, 2015 - 9 answers

Zoloft: does it get worse before it gets better?

Zoloft: does it get worse before it gets better? YANMD. [more inside]
posted by joeyjoejoejr on Jan 14, 2015 - 14 answers

We Need Words of Encouragement

On anxiety and medication for the modern man. [more inside]
posted by polly_dactyl on Jan 13, 2015 - 17 answers

apartment doesn't allow pets, need one for depression

I've struggled with depression for a long time -- I'm officially diagnosed and medicated for it. Having a cat has helped in the past, but last year I had to move into an apartment that doesn't allow pets. What are my options? Do I have any legal ground to stand on when asking for a waiver since it's due to depression? What if I get a doctor's note? I live in Massachusetts. Thank you for the help.
posted by Ain on Jan 10, 2015 - 16 answers

How do I get my life back together after depression?

Long story short, I've suffered from depression on and off for the past 10 years, with the past 3 years being the worst part of it. How do I take care of the incredible amount of stuff I've let pile up in my life? To add a little spice to the question, I'm also working in a bizarrely abusive, toxic job right now. [more inside]
posted by gehenna_lion on Jan 1, 2015 - 24 answers

Do I have to?

I'm a month-plus into an ambiguous breakup/break/whatever situation, it's freezing cold where I am, I'm broke, and staring down the end of the workday. Is it really so bad to just go home and read a novel until bedtime? Or should I push myself to go to a yoga class or something? [more inside]
posted by magdalemon on Dec 10, 2014 - 25 answers

Red or orange hardcover darkly funny book about mental illness

I saw a book on a "featured" table last winter in a bookstore, which enchanted me, but I don't remember any of the key features that would allow me to buy it; namely author or title. I remember that it was red or orange, hardcover, consisted (mostly) of illustrations, was darkly funny, was written by a British man (?) and contained cartoony scenarios ruminating on anxiety or depression. Any idea what the book was? I assume that it was a new publication around the end of 2013. I think the title had the word "Brain" in it. [more inside]
posted by chesty_a_arthur on Dec 3, 2014 - 13 answers

How to feel the holidays?

How does a happily married couple with no children and tenuous family ties enjoy the holidays? My husband and I have been married for 10 years, and we are happy with each other. It's everyone else we struggle with. [more inside]
posted by hippychick on Nov 15, 2014 - 24 answers

Any tips/methods for breaking out of negative thought spirals?

I have some pretty serious anxiety issues and depression. These have been tremendously exacerbated by some rather overwhelming recent events. I'm seeing professionals for help, but I am getting stuck, for many hours a day, on these thought loops where I imagine in vivid detail the worst case scenario for whatever is bothering me. If I don't have anything to latch onto at the moment, I just feel constant general physical anxiousness. Are there any methods that have worked for you to break out of a similar cycle/pattern? Not looking for medical advice, but for anecdotal advice. [more inside]
posted by polywomp on Oct 16, 2014 - 21 answers

Packing it all away?

I realize this may be a validation post, with the best responses being akin to "Just try it, already!", but has anyone ever just packed up 90% of their belongings and put them in the garage for a time? Just to see how that feels? Moderate wall of text inside. [more inside]
posted by harrietthespy on Sep 24, 2014 - 34 answers

Finding friends in Fresno?

My mother moved to Fresno 4 years ago, to be near her sister. She likes it here, more or less. However, she is 65, single, bored, and I have run out of suggestions. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by ananci on Sep 20, 2014 - 11 answers

Taking a few days for myself… now what?

After a turbulent period in my marriage, I'm taking a few days out for myself. Thing is, I don't know exactly what to do in those few days, or how best to work on things in my marriage whilst I'm away. [more inside]
posted by yasp on Sep 8, 2014 - 32 answers

Will an Rx for antidepressants in China cause future visa probs?

I live and work in China, and for the past few years have been struggling with some personal issues. So far I've been soldiering through, but I'm just about ready to go talk to a doctor/psychiatrist about whether or not I should try a course of antidepressants. [more inside]
posted by duoshao on Aug 19, 2014 - 1 answer

Irritability emergency!

I'm feeling extremely irritable today and every person I'm in contact with is pissing me off. But I need to get in a good mood fast! I'm leading an important meeting this afternoon (3 hours from now) and I cannot be scowling or grumbling. But my chest feels tight and heavy like lead--basically, what feels like an acute and grouchy depression-ish thing. How can I quickly suppress (or deal with) this and power through an intense interpersonal time? [more inside]
posted by magdalemon on Aug 13, 2014 - 31 answers

Am I depressed or just pathetic

Hi. I know I've posted about my depression before. But I just don't know what to do about it. I can't get better [more inside]
posted by anon1129 on Aug 11, 2014 - 15 answers

How to help someone who is on a downward spiral?

My brother has been on a downward spiral for many months now. I would like to help him, but don't know how. [more inside]
posted by rebooter on Aug 11, 2014 - 4 answers

Have you ever managed to break a long-term cycle of self-sabotage?

or repeated mistakes? If you have any insight or personal experience please give it. I'm starting to suspect that I may never make any progress because it keeps happening again and again and the consequences are only getting worse. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by hejrat on Jul 21, 2014 - 17 answers

How do I get my intelligence and identity back after depression?

Hi. I am currently 21 years old, female, and I think I was depressed for a long time, sometimes I think most of my life. I think I'm just starting to get out of it though, and I'm having a lot of realizations lately. I have had a lot of good days where I feel somewhat like myself again but have had bad days too. I really want to continue having good days but I'm struggling. I need help. [more inside]
posted by anon1129 on Jun 30, 2014 - 10 answers

What do I do in Bangkok when I can't really DO anything?

I am in Bangkok for another week and a half. I've been here 18 days already and have been confined to my hotel recovering from surgery. It was fine, but boring, but now my fiance has had to return to the US ahead of me, and I find myself wondering if I can keep it together and maybe even have some fun while here. I've been cleared to leave the hotel as of today, but can't go far. I'm also having anxiety and some post-surgical depression (that's a thing, right?) that's making me wonder what I can do in this situation to stay sane? [more inside]
posted by polywomp on Jun 23, 2014 - 16 answers

Dealing with parental pressures to find a job

I recently graduated, but I'm already feeling pressure to find a job now or else be bombarded with my mom's criticism. How should I deal with this until I get work? [more inside]
posted by bluekazoo on Jun 18, 2014 - 22 answers

How to conquer activity withdrawal depression?

I get depressed when I can't surf. Sometimes it's just a day or two because of work, sometimes its weeks because of an injury or a bout of bad weather. The closest I can find to this on Google are runners who get depressed when they can't run. I realize this is a very first world problem. I'm not going to kill myself and the depression lifts as soon as I can surf again. I can perform my job without getting fired. I have mentioned my depression to my other surfer friends and, while they all itch to surf, they don't seem to get depressed. I would love to get thoughts on: 1. Non-chemical solutions to not being depressed on days without surf 2. Deeper questions as to why my happiness is so linked to this activity [more inside]
posted by puertosurf on Jun 9, 2014 - 10 answers

Seeking New Identity

Somedays I feel like I don't know who I am anymore due to complicated life decisions. How do people find a personal identity with ongoing depression/mental heath problems? [more inside]
posted by chrono_rabbit on Jun 5, 2014 - 10 answers

How can I get my life in order

I'm currently 21 years old (female). I live at home with my dad and his girlfriend of 17 years. I work two jobs (one at a sandwich shop I've been at for 5 years and another at a coffee shop I've been at for 7 months). I also attend community college and this is my third year there, I will have my associates degree at the end of summer in general studies, I want to transfer to a state university in my area but don't even know what I want to go for. [more inside]
posted by anon1129 on Apr 11, 2014 - 12 answers

Quick to anger, implode and then shake really bad

Let me first state that I have started seeing a counselor and take anxiety meds. What I am hoping to learn from fellow mefites : What works for your *if* you are hyperquick to anger even in times when you feel calm? [more inside]
posted by snap_dragon on Apr 2, 2014 - 14 answers

How do you untangle the threads of a beat-up heart?

I'm in the early stages of a relationship with a wonderful woman; it's our second go at this. I'm pretty sure this is love. But my anxiety and depression is holding me back, or making me doubt how I feel, or stopping me from actually expressing how I feel. And I don't know how to navigate this. I don't know whether to push through all these uncertainties or walk away. Help me work it out, mefites. [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on Feb 11, 2014 - 18 answers

Dealing with stress and comparmentalization.

Problems with the SO, family acting irrationally and Career in a turbulent state. Help me find a way of dealing with the stress! [more inside]
posted by perspicaturous on Jan 23, 2014 - 13 answers

Where can I find authoritative medical information about depression?

I'm doing some research about how depression manifests itself as physical symptoms. Do you know any authoritative, academic sources that I should consult to research the link? I'm not very familiar with exploring medical databases, and I don't know what medical journals might carry more weight than others... Thanks, everyone!
posted by travisf on Jan 22, 2014 - 6 answers

Afraid of being fired: how do I keep the fear from crippling me?

I have crippling, perhaps justified fear of being fired. My fear is making my performance suffer, causing me misery and probably making firing more likely. How do I stop thinking like this? [more inside]
posted by Marered on Jan 20, 2014 - 21 answers

Become a buddhist monk to treat my depression?

I'm pretty depressed and want to become a monk temporarily to help me find myself again and be better person. Is this an unethical reason to be a monk? [more inside]
posted by defmute on Dec 22, 2013 - 34 answers

How to deal with disappointment and sadness?

I've been involved in a long distance relationship for years. I live on one side of the country and he lives on the other. We don't see each other as often as I'd like for us to and I constantly deal with sadness and disappointment because of that. What can I do to combat these feelings? [more inside]
posted by BrianJ on Nov 27, 2013 - 18 answers

Motivation to exercise when there are no goals, or they are vague?

I have read in numerous places that exercise can sometimes help with mood and concentration. My only exercise goal is to help alleviate these possible issues, but I couldn't keep any motivation and stopped after only a few weeks. Specific considerations: [more inside]
posted by polywomp on Nov 26, 2013 - 38 answers

CBT or RET/REBT Worksheets or Own Methods that Work for You

I have struggled with intense anxiety and depression for many years. My counselor who still uses RET (REBT) is helpful. I have read Feeling Good (CBT) along with other books of RET author Albert Ellis...but I have difficulty finding a way that makes sense in disputing my thoughts that I stick with. I am willing to put the time in but I am curious is anyone here is willing to share their own style of doing CBT or RET homework that works for them. I'm not asking for shortcuts but unique ways you may have tweaked either layout or jotting down things. I am open to whatever you might suggest. (For what it is worth, I find Albert Ellis' writing rather strange but understand the philosophy of REBT and CBT.)
posted by snap_dragon on Nov 8, 2013 - 12 answers

Even meditating overwhelms me with fear and rage.

I have anxiety and depression, and I'm starting to realise that underneath that is a bubbling fount of rage. I need some suggestions for coping with and dismantling the anger I'm feeling. I didn't realise it before, but I'm angry pretty much all the time, except when I'm with my boyfriend, scared, or distracting myself via escapism. And even then, it's still there. I'm looking in to going back to therapy, and I'm currently on antidepressants. I've tried meditating, but it just stresses me out or gives me panic attacks- to be honest, I hate it. What are some suggestions for coping with this?
posted by windykites on Nov 7, 2013 - 27 answers

Constantly tired: like depression without the hopelessness. What gives?

I'm constantly tired to the point of not being able to get out of bed until early afternoon, napping frequently and generally feeling lethargic, apathetic and kind of nauseous. I finished a contract job 5 weeks ago & assumed my tiredness was a result of wrapping up the project. Then I went on a very chilled 3 week holiday and put the exhaustion on return down to jet lag. I've seen my doctor and my bloodwork is fine. My diet is decent, minimal alcohol, one coffee a day, so I'm fairly sure this is a psychological thing. I take an SSRI for anxiety but was actually talking to my doctor about tapering off as I've been really well for the past year. Physically, it feels like the bout of depression I had four years ago, but my mood isn't low (more flat) and I don't feel hopeless, just like everything's a massive effort, even helpful things like exercise and socialising. Obviously, YANMD, but has anyone else been there? What can I do to shake this?
posted by rockpaperdynamite on Oct 28, 2013 - 21 answers

What to tell gossips about my husbands psych admission

My husband is spending some time in hospital to deal with his depression. This is a good thing and means he will be getting help. But I need help in framing how, and what, I tell different people. In particular gossipy people who ask what hospital he is in. [more inside]
posted by t0astie on Oct 28, 2013 - 16 answers

Suicidal ideation support group?

Do you think starting a suicidal ideation support group (in the flesh, not chat groups or hotline numbers) would be helpful or detrimental? [more inside]
posted by mingo_clambake on Oct 15, 2013 - 13 answers

Tool kit for treating mental illness.

You are familiar with what things are effective in treating someone who is bipolar, paranoid, and/or schizophrenic. Please tell me about these things. If the person is willing to accept help, what type of help are they likely to receive? If medications help, what is the nature of the medications and where could one go to learn more about them? If there are behavioral options, where can one begin to learn about these? What else is out there? [more inside]
posted by sock me amadeus on Oct 8, 2013 - 15 answers

Can you recommend good books on developing assertiveness?

I've spent nearly all my life people-pleasing and recently have become aware of some very serious consequences affecting nearly all my relationships. I have been discussing this with a therapist, and in short, I need to learn to stand up for myself at home and at work. My therapist said that there are a gazillion books on the subject, and I thought I'd consult MeFites for your recommendations. [more inside]
posted by angiep on Oct 2, 2013 - 12 answers

My Magic Wand...Well, It's Not Working

I'm the special education teacher in a therapeutic high school and I've got an amazingly smart male student with an assortment of behaviors (sleeping, work refusal) and diagnoses (depression, selective mutism) who needs help and I'm looking for some suggestions. Have you ever successfully worked with a kid like this? How? [more inside]
posted by kinetic on Sep 11, 2013 - 34 answers

Ask Your Metafilter If Zoloft Is Right For You

You are not my doctor. I have a doctor, and clinical depression. Am I not tolerating the Zoloft he prescribed? Is it not working? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by Native in Exile on Aug 31, 2013 - 17 answers

What the hell do I do?

My friend just told me she is planning on killing herself in a week. I know her name and address. What the fuck am I supposed to do? She's in another state so I can't do anything myself. Do I just call 911 and get her locked in a psych ward? I'm more okay with the fact of losing my friend by betraying her wishes than by letting her die, obviously, but I still want to do what is best for her. She's in GA, I'm in KS. Thank you.
posted by trogdole on Aug 14, 2013 - 49 answers

I want a new job. I'm not well qualified. What can I do?

I've been working a data-entry job for almost two years now. I got it as a temp position shortly after finishing college. It became full-time a year later. I graduated from a good school, but late, and with mediocre grades in journalism, my major. I stuck to the temp job because I bombed out of freelance work. This failure aggravated my self-loathing and convinced me to abandon journalism, for which I have shown little talent. I abandoned it for a dead-end job. I would like a job with better chances for promotion and with better pay. How, if at all, do I find such a job, considering my mental health, which sabotages each stage of the hunt, and my poor qualifications, which don't help? [more inside]
posted by Rustic Etruscan on Aug 13, 2013 - 13 answers

Bored and constantly worrying about my future

I have too much time on my hands and, apparently, a lot of internal pressure, so I spend all day worrying about how my life is going to turn out... Can someone help me break out of it? [more inside]
posted by myitkyina on Aug 10, 2013 - 14 answers

Is it really too late?

I am not happy to be using my sock this morning. I hoped it would wither and die unused, but instead it is filled with angst and sadness. Deets: 34yo female, never married, this is my second long term relationship, but first where we have lived together. Last night, in bed, I turned to my boyfriend and jokingly said "Do you love me?" And then I immediately asked another dumb question that had nothing to do with us (I honestly can't even remember what it was at this point). His response was not a jokey statement back, or even yes. [more inside]
posted by it's always too late on Aug 9, 2013 - 36 answers

How to save my brother from himself

My 33 year old older brother is sponging off my parents and isn't getting a job, I'm worried that he's going to get kicked out of my parents' house. He got fired a while ago and I'm pretty sure his main problem is depression/having given up; I'm pretty sure he's better than this though. [more inside]
posted by GoingToShopping on Jul 29, 2013 - 62 answers

Celexa's not working anymore. Should I give Prozac a shot again?

I've been taking Celexa for a year and 9 months. It doesn't work as well anymore, and due to FDA warnings, I don't want to up my dosage anymore (currently at 40mg/day). I took Prozac a dozen years ago and it worked well. Should I switch back to Prozac? [more inside]
posted by Val_E_Yum on Jul 7, 2013 - 13 answers

How can I nip a depressive episode in the bud?

The past few weeks I've been starting to feel the sorts of things that I associate with previous depressive episodes, and I am hoping that there might be some way I can stop it before it really becomes a problem again. [more inside]
posted by madelf on Jun 13, 2013 - 28 answers

I Can't Get Over the Death of My Birdie. What do I do now?

My parrot Scooby died a week ago. I am still in a horrible state of mourning. My wife is over it. She keeps telling me to get over it too. YANMT. What can I do to move on? I loved Scooby so very much. I have to force myself to eat every day. I've been drinking a lot. I can't stop thinking about her and what she was like and did. I dream about her death every night. I think it's affecting my physical health.
posted by Splunge on Jun 12, 2013 - 47 answers

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