I'm going through a bout of depression and while it isn't affecting my work, it is affecting how I behave at work. I realised today that some of my colleagues have picked up on this change in behaviour. How can I maintain my dignity and privacy?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 19, 2013 -
7 answers
About 8 weeks ago I sliced the flexor profundus tendon that allows the tip of my right pinky to function. I had surgery and have now subsequently re-severed the healing tendon, requiring ANOTHER round of surgery to try to repair again. Should I go through with this? Issues related to post-operative depression, unemployment, and general existentialist angst inside. See
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posted by jnnla
on Apr 16, 2013 -
11 answers
Please help with a complicated work situation.
Some context: Mid-twenties, female, graduated from a top-ranked university in liberal arts (I know, I know, but it worked out in the end. Sort of.) I work in sort of a niche, new media-y entertainment field, for which I am extremely grateful. I love this industry and I love the company I work for. And yet, snowflakes abound…
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posted by themaskedwonder
on Mar 19, 2013 -
10 answers
I'm depressed and overwhelmed. I think this is primarily due to work pressures. Are these reasons to quit a job? What are some valid reasons? What should I be asking myself?
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posted by ArgyleMarionette
on Feb 26, 2013 -
19 answers
Before I start, I'd like to point out that I'm not spoiled or lazy. I've been dealing with the very real problems of depression and anxiety for most of my life, and for the past five years I've been working from home.
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posted by Cybria
on Feb 26, 2013 -
9 answers
Hey all. Posting my questions to this community has been very helpful. I'm thankful so far for the advice I've been getting.
This question has to do with something I've been struggling with my whole adulthood. I was diagnosed with clinical depression in my teens, and since then it's really limited a lot of what I can do. It didn't help much that I married a very overbearing person when I was 19 who basically took over my life for me. I left him two years ago and I've been recovering from my depression thanks to medication and a lot of self help techniques. I've started exercising and eating right, and I've lost weight, which I'm happy about. My next goal is to become self sufficient. My work ethic needs help though because I have a lot of trouble getting things done. I believe it stems from all those years I spent in deep depression and not being able to take care of myself. I procrastinate out of being overwhelmed and fearful of outcomes. I wouldn't call it laziness. It's just tough for me to learn a new way of living. Any advice on how to deal with this and improve my work ethic? I believe it's due time I start getting out of my own way.
Thank you MeFi community. :)
posted by Cybria
on Jan 24, 2013 -
12 answers
Please help me articulate and figure out the help I am looking for, from my boss, at work. General tips on how to ask friends for the help you need (depression/ADD/anxiety related) are welcome.
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posted by ArgyleMarionette
on Jan 2, 2013 -
2 answers
Coworker/friend/mentor really, really depressed... and with good reason. Can/should I help? How? Wall o' sadness inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 13, 2012 -
11 answers
Last year I quit my job due to depression and anxiety. I now have an interview with my former employer for the same job. Should I disclose my mental health issues during the interview as an explanation for my progressively lazy work attitude and subsequent quitting?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 24, 2012 -
15 answers
I am so overwhelmed and struggling right now that it feels like I have no options and I'm intractably stuck. I know logically that I do have options but I can't sort out what I could do from what I shouldn't, what might work from Just Don't Go There, and getting objective, realistic advice is difficult.
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posted by noxetlux
on Oct 23, 2012 -
16 answers
How can I reframe my thinking so that I stop comparing myself to coworkers who do all they do AND have families to take care of at home?
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posted by ArgyleMarionette
on Oct 15, 2012 -
16 answers
I'm badly depressed and anxious. And I've got the worst job of my life - I'm 42, so that's saying a lot - complete with a boss I despise and who seems to despise me. My therapist thinks I should quit. Um, hello? Realistically, what can I do? Special flower BS inside.
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posted by Jaie
on Sep 22, 2012 -
26 answers
I want to quit my job.. but I can't. I'm unhappy. I'm lonely. And I don't know what to do.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 1, 2012 -
21 answers
Back in May I cosigned a lease for an apartment with a friend of a friend running from July to July. Thanks to changing circumstances since then, I can't afford it and I have no choice but to get out of the whole arrangement by September, before university starts back up again. The province I'm in has extremely pro-tenant rental laws, so transferring the lease will not be a problem. What concerns me is dropping this bomb on the cosigner, who is 4000 km away until, well, just when I'd have to leave. Since we were introduced in April for the purposes of being roommates, he's also shown himself to be far more naive than he appears when it comes to stuff like this. But I've also committed a huge error in judgement by signing for this place, and I feel guilty for helping to convince him. I've accepted I'll have to burn more than one bridge. But I'm way too overwhelmed by the hundreds of responsibilities have piled up on my shoulders, and need to tell him very soon. How do I make this as quick, painless and guilt-free as is possible? More on the "changing circumstances" inside: read just the bold bits if you're short on time.
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posted by denmarkstreet
on Jul 21, 2012 -
6 answers
My depression is getting out of hand. I’ve started therapy, and will probably soon be on meds. But I’m having trouble coping, during the in-between times. Help?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 16, 2012 -
10 answers
I got fired from two of my three jobs for absenteeism. For some reason, when I get stressed out in life, I get so down that it's hard to go in. I get sick to my stomach and anxious, it's like I have a panic attack at just the thought of going in.
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posted by Autumn
on Jul 14, 2012 -
22 answers
My clinical depression is getting worse and I think I need to quit my job, but really need the income. I'm in Massachusetts.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 18, 2012 -
16 answers
Hi everyone. I've got a problem and wondered if anyone could give me some help and advice. I've been signed off work for a week because my old recurring problem of depression has reared its crappy head. It was very sudden. I went to the doctor on Tuesday basically in tears, exhausted and pretty much unable to function. You know; the usual.
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posted by Tiltedwindow
on May 25, 2012 -
12 answers
I have depression. I was just fired from my part-time job at my university for "inconsistent attendance" during shifts for the past two semesters. I realize that I can't get my job back, but how can I prevent this in the future?
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posted by anonymous
on May 11, 2012 -
24 answers
I feel really fed up and I don't know why or what to do about it. My current situation may be the best one for me at the moment, so why do I feel unhappy? (A lot of long snowflakiness inside.)
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posted by anonymous
on May 2, 2012 -
16 answers
I'm the boy who cried wolf! (or 'ouch'!) Help me stop, especially in light of the fact that this behavior has been positively reinforced at some points.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 9, 2012 -
5 answers
Boss wants to talk about why I haven't been in the office that much these past few months and why my work is not up to par. I've been struggling with depression. How can I talk to him about this?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 3, 2012 -
28 answers
There's nothing wrong with my job. There's something wrong with me. Please help me to choose what to do.
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posted by b33j
on Mar 28, 2012 -
15 answers
We have a close friend who needs a job solely for the benefits. The catch: he has been out of the work force for five years and isn't particularly social or skilled. Any thoughts?
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posted by Madamina
on Mar 20, 2012 -
13 answers
How can I motivate myself to work? What did you do to help kick yourself in the posterior and get going? Special snowflake details inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 31, 2012 -
12 answers
How do I explain a university medical withdrawal to a prospective employer without damaging my chances of being hired?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 21, 2012 -
17 answers
How should I structure my gradual return to full-time work after two months off for a psychiatric illness? Have you actually done this, and if so, do you have tips? Have you even known or heard of someone who did a part-time transition after disability leave? All advice sought in creating my return-to-work plan.
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posted by Fee Phi Faux Phumb I Smell t'Socks o' a Puppetman!
on Oct 30, 2011 -
5 answers
Dealing with depression, and I went AWOL from work on Friday - Damage control?
I'm suffering from extreme apathy/depression (ie it may take up to an hour to work myself up enough to go to the bathroom), and I didn't turn up to work on Friday. I have Saturday & Sunday to decompress, and savings I am willing to blow in pursuit of being functional 'enough' over the next few weeks to
not lose my job.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 1, 2011 -
28 answers
I tried starting over. It failed. I am feeling hopeless. I have a small group of friends in my new city, but I don't want to wear them out by being negative or constantly in crisis. I've been in therapy off and on for 15 years and am not in it right now because I don't know if more of it is even what I need.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 19, 2011 -
15 answers
Feeling burnt out recently, but cannot go on a vacation or anything right now. How do I deal with this without stepping off the hamster wheel? I do have the Labor Day weekend off.
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posted by greatalleycat
on Sep 2, 2011 -
14 answers
I have lost all of my motivation to do even a modicum of a half-decent job at work. Has anyone dealt with this? How do I get back into the groove of things?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 1, 2011 -
23 answers
Am I depressed because I hate my job? or do I hate my job because I'm depressed? Quitting is a bad idea, right? What about going to a psychiatric hospital? (warning: long)
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posted by sarahj
on Sep 1, 2011 -
29 answers
I'm a depressed not-incredibly-recent college grad with less than a year's experience under my belt and I'm still clueless. More snowflake-y annoying first world problems inside.
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posted by themaskedwonder
on Jul 12, 2011 -
9 answers
I can't be bothered with life anymore. Does anyone else feel the same?
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posted by fry
on Jun 6, 2011 -
42 answers
I royally screwed up at work. This isn't the first time. Depression may be partially causing it. What do I say to my boss? Can I change? How?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 29, 2011 -
12 answers
My annual review at work is coming up in three days. I’ve messed up, really bad. I feel like my life is about to be over. How do I get through this?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 12, 2011 -
39 answers
All of the places I trust to provide comfort and security, in any form, are imploding. I've already been existing in coping mode; what can I do now (particularly day-to-day)?
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posted by Madamina
on Feb 15, 2011 -
10 answers
I'm 33 years old. I obtained my BA in English from a respected college in 2001. Since then I have worked in nonprofits, retail, education, and in an administrative capacity. I have never made more than 32,000 a year. Currently I make 12/hour in NYC metro area as a temp, doing data entry. All of my previous jobs lead to nothing...the one promising job fell apart because I was suffering from major depression at the time and I quit so that I could be hospitalized.
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posted by urania
on Feb 3, 2011 -
27 answers
[Life Path/Career Advice Filter]: How can someone a person with diagnosed depression work in the field of human rights and social justice?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 12, 2011 -
5 answers