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How do two depressed, stressed people have a sustainable relationship?

My partner and I both struggle with mental illness in different ways. We have been dating for a year and a half and do pretty well together but sometimes we aren't able to be there for each other or hold back out of fear of burdening the other. How do you practice self care and be a good partner in this kind of an arrangement? How do you confront a partner about habits and actions that might result from their depression, while being cognizant that they are struggling? What's a reasonable expectation for emotional support in a relationship? [more inside]
posted by mmmleaf on Jul 18, 2016 - 4 answers

Mirena: Am I crazy or is this IUD really giving me the blues?

I think my Mirena IUD may be the ultimate explanation for my drop off in mood, motivation and energy levels over the last sixteen months. I need some insight from other Mirena users, both past and current. [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings on Jul 15, 2016 - 18 answers

can it be over now

How did it take you to fully recover from a significant betrayal by someone(s) you trusted? [more inside]
posted by a strong female character on Jul 13, 2016 - 59 answers

Should I change therapists? Do you know a good one in Portland, OR?

Is therapy burnout a thing? I think I has it, but I don't know if the problem is me (uncomfortable, withholding, sometimes worried that a lifetime of therapy has made me immune to it) or my therapist (lovely but non-challenging; it feels like we're treading water.) I'd like to talk to someone super-smart who can shake up my previous notion of sit-and-talk-and-nothing-changes therapy. Can you recommend a counselor in the Portland area (or, alternately, tell me if I'm approaching this the wrong way)? Much snowflake below. [more inside]
posted by adastra on Jul 4, 2016 - 16 answers

Last night my girlfriend told me that she has no sex drive

I'm 24 and she's 20, last night she told me she doesn't enjoy sex at all and doesn't see the point. She said she likes how people look and likes how I like but doesn't feel desire towards them. I've tried to ask her more about it, like when it started, but she said she genuinely didn't know, it's been causing her a lot of stress and upset and she was afraid to tell me. [more inside]
posted by fallingleaves on Jul 3, 2016 - 40 answers

What self help workbooks would you recommend for me?

I am looking for a book that will help me work through issues with intimacy and being emotionally distant, anxiety surrounding myself and my life, self esteem issues, getting in touch with my emotions, and just dealing with a lot of latent frustration. Overall, a book on tools to develop emotional maturity is what I need. If anyone knows of a workbook with exercises that would be best since they tend to keep my attention, but if not a regular self help book would be awesome. [more inside]
posted by tomtheblackbear on Jun 30, 2016 - 9 answers

Why is depression so seductive?

When I feel depression creeping on, there's almost always this voice in my head that tries to convince me not to do the things that I know will make me feel good (like go out with friends or exercise). Except that the voice doesn't feel at all external - it feels like me all the way down. Except that it wants me to feel worse, even when I know there are things that will make me feel better. Why is this? Is there a name for this experience? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 28, 2016 - 24 answers

I think you need therapy...

I really want my partner to try therapy but she really doesn't want to. How do we resolve this? [more inside]
posted by myitkyina on Jun 23, 2016 - 35 answers

Told my boss I'm depressed, what now?

Since December I have been struggling with depression (and increasing anxiety). I told my boss today and now I'm freaking out and don't know what to do. [more inside]
posted by Dwardles on Jun 14, 2016 - 17 answers

How to get help for brother who seems depressed?

My brother seems depressed - how do I suggest he get help? [more inside]
posted by thelivingsea on Jun 12, 2016 - 5 answers

Exercise @ Gym for Severe Depression & Brain Shift

I am looking for input or even some plans that might help me keep on track and ultimately get my brain and body in better shape. My main goal is the brain shift and habit and then if I lose weight that is awesome. [more inside]
posted by chicaboom on Jun 8, 2016 - 14 answers

Manning up isn't going that hot.

I'm a transmasculine transgender person, who was assigned female at birth. I got my first shot (50 ml?) 10 days ago in the Endocrinologist's office, on a Friday. I'm scheduled to take shots every two weeks. If I get no more shots, how long will the testosterone currently last in my body, and when will my hormones balance out again? [more inside]
posted by spinifex23 on Jun 6, 2016 - 10 answers

Can I fix my depression to save my relationship?

I'm 26 years old, my fiance is 27. I'm not sure how much information to give, I don't want to post a wall of text. I'm mainly posting this question to hear about other people's experiences, good and bad, with working on their depression while being in a relationship. [more inside]
posted by Leaves22 on Jun 5, 2016 - 25 answers

Surviving pain, physical and psychological

I'm in a shitty life situation I have no control over and cannot escape. I am also dealing with the flare up (obviously stress related) of a chronic illness. I wake up crying from stress, can barely keep food down, and shuffle through each day trying to get to go back to bed and be unconscious for a while. I don't know how to cope with this pain. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 1, 2016 - 12 answers

Why do I wake up from, er, bathroom needs every morning?

Almost every morning, I wake up earlier than I want/need to because I have to empty my bowels. Why? [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood on May 29, 2016 - 13 answers

Tell academic supervisor about depression?

I want to disclose to my (former) supervisor that I've been struggling with depression this year, but I'm hesitating. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 27, 2016 - 7 answers

Blowback after expressing concerns of co-worker's suicide risk

A friend from work (Rachel) disclosed to one of her close friends (Monica) that someone on her team (Phoebe) had expressed suicidal ideation that was becoming seriously concerning. Monica works at another location, so Rachel talked with Monica in order to get advice on how to report her concern while remaining anonymous, avoiding blowback, and keeping the trust of her team-mate. Instead, Monica immediately reported her concern to the regional manger, Phoebe was immediately suspended and told Rachel reported her. Blowback has ensued. How does my friend deal with this perceived lack of professionalism? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 25, 2016 - 13 answers

St. John's wort recommendations, please?

In the past, I've had excellent results with Kira-brand St. John's wort for mild depression. It appears to have been discontinued since I last used it. Can anyone recommend a high quality replacement, hopefully one that undergoes a reputable third-party assay for active ingredients? I'm in the US. [more inside]
posted by a box and a stick and a string and a bear on May 24, 2016 - 4 answers

How to be a partner to a person with cancer?

I don't know what I can do to help my partner come to terms with his illness. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 22, 2016 - 15 answers

Severe depression and job search

Feeling serious despair. I left a toxic work environment, yet not in the smartest way and that was a year ago. I've done some PT work before moving to another state. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 21, 2016 - 14 answers

Low Libido... Nooooooooo

I’m a 35-yr-old cis woman married to a wonderful man. I’m attracted to him in every way, and we’ve been together for 10 years. This is the first time I’ve needed to reach out for this problem… [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 21, 2016 - 18 answers

Being my...self? Or, hanging a wet blanket out to dry.

After years of isolation and with no clear sense of self, how do I start and maintain real, substantive relationships, both romantic and platonic? I've tried Meetups, wine and art nights, etc. Help me avoid becoming a hermit. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 on May 16, 2016 - 23 answers

Summer blues

I hate being home from school so much that I have spiraled back into depression and panic attacks. Help! [more inside]
posted by myitkyina on May 16, 2016 - 11 answers

How to fill time during depression

My question is depression-related, but I am *NOT* looking for advice about getting out of it (like meds/therapy/exercise). I simply do not know what to do with my time aside from lie in bed and occasionally attempt my usual favorite activities (art and writing). Again, I am not looking for health tips as I have those angles covered. More inside. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe on May 16, 2016 - 30 answers

Bipolar Triggers - Person to Person

I've been diagnosed bipolar for around 15 years now. I've been relatively stable on medication for the last 5 or so years, I deal with some depressive episodes but I haven't gone into a hypo-manic or mixed state in quite a while, but upon visiting a college friend dealing with Bipolar/Schizoaffective recently I found myself losing my mind in a mix of hypomanic glory and mixed state despair. Do you trigger off of other people? More details past the break. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 16, 2016 - 6 answers

Does making melancholy art make you sadder?

I put away my pencils, paints, and Wacom tablet a couple years ago due to intense depression. The work wasn't going well and I had nothing to say. I'm still intensely depressed and I still have nothing to say, but I decided to waste a few hours with some portrait sketches yesterday. But everything I make wants to be sad, and I'm not sure that sadness art is good for me. [more inside]
posted by xyzzy on May 10, 2016 - 26 answers

How do I find a good group home/sober house in the Phoenix area?

I'm trying to find a group home/sober house for my 31 year old brother. See inside for more details. [more inside]
posted by speedoavenger on May 10, 2016 - 5 answers

How to handle insane financial/school situation

I go to a good school on a merit scholarship, but I'm massively in debt because of past mistakes and everything depends on my doing well now. I'm fighting mental health problems, and if my GPA gets below 3.5, I stand to lose everything. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 9, 2016 - 15 answers

Help me help my mother

My father died about 6 months ago. Mom's been trying to carry on as best she can, but she's having a hard time and isn't really open to some of the traditional responses. [more inside]
posted by jackbishop on May 8, 2016 - 17 answers

Tears are Words that Need to be Written

There are things that make me sad, and things that make me sad about being sad. For example, some things don't really merit a lot of sadness (especially when it is ill-informed or useless), but consistently and sincerely break my heart all the same... [more inside]
posted by Dressed to Kill on May 6, 2016 - 19 answers

Mindfulness that doesn't make me want to crawl out of my skin?

I want to be more mindful, in the sense of the general "Mindfulness" ethos. But meditation drives me out of my gourd. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar on May 2, 2016 - 37 answers

How long should I stay with an ailing parent, if I'm deeply depressed?

...Jeez, even typing that sounds bad. My mother has been given 2-3 weeks to live, based on a diagnosis of Acute Leukemia. She's also got a compromised immune system, due to a liver transplant over 20 years ago. I flew out immediately when she was given the diagnosis, and it is now going in to our 3rd week. She's a fighter, and I knew that. But I'm a continent and several time zones away from my life and my job and so very depressed. She's still going strong - - tired, but strong. And I don't know what to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 1, 2016 - 23 answers

Any experience with progesterone cream?

Suffering from long-time depression and now more frequently, anxiety. I am a 48 year old female possibly going through perimenopause. OB recommended Zoloft in addition to a topical versabase progesterone cream. Some concerns because the majority of what I'm reading online (yeah, I know : / is really kind of frightening! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 30, 2016 - 7 answers

How do I get through the next 4 months in a dysfunctional workplace

I'm looking at exiting my job (in a HIGHLY dysfunctional, but famous, organization) after a big event in 4 months that its important for me to see through. Help me figure out how to get through it, with many snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by socktastic on Apr 29, 2016 - 9 answers

Help me find a therapist in NYC before I cry myself into oblivion.

I need to see a therapist but I have NO idea how to find one. I live in Brooklyn and would go anywhere in Queens/Brooklyn/Manhattan (but mid/down town and northeast Brooklyn would be best.) I would prefer to see a woman, maybe someone who specializes in emotionally abusive relationships. I have Oxford insurance but I dont know if that even covers therapy. I could pay up to $100 a session out of pocket, I guess. I need to see someone as soon as possible. [more inside]
posted by Everythingsalrighteverythingsfine on Apr 28, 2016 - 13 answers

What is like MetaFilter, but not brutally depressing?

MetaFilter is one of my main inputs. I get a lot of news and thinking about the world here. The problem is that it can make me feel terrible about everything, which is already kind of my baseline. Friends and family often express concern when I have been reading MeFi a lot. I am curious what sites you read that have similar properties, but are not as heavy and challenging, so that I can balance my consumption of MetaFilter and MetaFilter-like things. [more inside]
posted by brennen on Apr 27, 2016 - 25 answers

When are the robots going to take my job?

So it occurs to me that my entire household is supported by two jobs vulnerable to automation. How long do we have, in your opinion? What steps can we take to make sure we don't end up begging in the street? [more inside]
posted by Frowner on Apr 26, 2016 - 43 answers

Accio happiness! 2016 Divorce Recovery Edition

Recently divorced, I filed. Having so much trouble dealing with how I lost financial security, a decent place to live and general happiness. Looking for help/ideas on how to recover and want to go on through life. There are days when it's dragging me over gravel to get up and get going. Sidenote, treated for Bipolar I and medicated. Likely going to adjust. Seeing therapist. [more inside]
posted by Draccy on Apr 24, 2016 - 10 answers

TMS For Depression - Experiences

Does anyone have any experience personally with Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation as a treatment for depression/anxiety? [more inside]
posted by spicynuts on Apr 18, 2016 - 11 answers

Social anxiety has been ruining me for way too long

Most typical treatments for anxiety and depression don't work for me: therapy doesn't work, SSRIs don't work and atypical anti-depressants such as Wellbutrin don't work. What other options do I have? [more inside]
posted by GlassHeart on Apr 17, 2016 - 20 answers

How to start doing literally anything.

The past two years have been pretty damn rough for me, but I feel like I'm ready to start being an adult again. Indecisiveness has turned me into a stagnant recluse and I simply can't live like this any longer. The problem is that I don't know where to start, so that's why I'm here. [more inside]
posted by omgkinky on Apr 10, 2016 - 35 answers

How messed up am I, exactly?

I would like to know whether I am a hopeless mess or simply too strict with myself. [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood on Apr 8, 2016 - 16 answers

Lifelong Depression - considering another stab at medication

I've had lifelong depression. I tried meds and therapy for years. I got little to no relief and awful side effects. I had awful withdrawal and all of it cost a ton of money. I've still having a hard time - snowflakes inside [more inside]
posted by kbbbo on Apr 5, 2016 - 17 answers

Pregnant, Husband with Depression...

My husband has been struggling with depression. Complication: I am three months pregnant and not quite feeling like myself either. I need some coping strategies. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 3, 2016 - 14 answers

Did I push away my soulmate?

I ended it with a man I loved, he hates me. Do I leave him to cool off and try again in a few months? I want to make him understand the reasons why I ended it. [more inside]
posted by newthirdworld on Mar 30, 2016 - 21 answers

You Are Not My Therapist, but... Grief: Am I Doin' It Right?

Hey, remember me? My family is still dead! It's two months later and I'm past the dead-eyed shock, numbness, and denial, and well into the "life is not worth living and I just want to stay in bed all day" portion of the rest of my life. Is it reasonable to give in to that urge, or should I be forcing myself to write and play the autoharp and generally Give A Crap? [more inside]
posted by missrachael on Mar 28, 2016 - 23 answers

Another depression question! Give me strategies to help.

I have tended toward depression for much of my life, and it’s been really bad for the past several months. What do I try next? [more inside]
posted by metasarah on Mar 28, 2016 - 12 answers

Is it OK to take a break from my education?

Mental health issues are derailing my education. I feel extreme pressure to stay in school. Logic is telling me I should take a break but I have no idea what to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 28, 2016 - 17 answers

If itching is torture (it is) than my body is torturing itself.

I am itchy all over. And now, from scratching in bed, entirely covered in hives. My body is throbbing and I feel like my brain will snap if I don't scratch the incessant creeping itchiness that is simply everywhere. YNAMD - but also, my doctor won't be in until Tuesday and I feel this issue isn't worth taking up time in urgent care or emerg. [more inside]
posted by Dressed to Kill on Mar 25, 2016 - 27 answers

Atypical Depression/Dysthymia = unmotivated?

Have you been diagnosed with atypical depression or dysthymia? What is it like for you? What has helped? [more inside]
posted by Questolicious on Mar 23, 2016 - 18 answers

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