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Depressed and Anxious - Unmotivated unless I take a Tranqulizer

This seems counter-intuitive so I thought I'd search out insight as to why this happens. I have been treated for depression with anxiety for over 20 years and for the most part, my daily medicine helps me function like a normal person. I find that I tire very easily and after having explored and corrected regular medical reasons (Low D) I still feel like coming home after work and doing absolutely nothing. It feels therapeutic to crawl into bed even though my heart and stomach feel full of anxious energy. [more inside]
posted by Snackpants on Sep 23, 2015 - 9 answers

Depression Triggered By Overeating? The Wrong Food?

Before we get going on this....Some will say this is psychological, but I need to say that whatever goes wrong, it's like a switch is thrown and it lasts for days. I seem to have a depression set in when I over-eat, or perhaps ingest the wrong ingredient. There is something physical going on that causes me to drastically not think the same. I start flip-flopping on things I was firm on, I have no strength mentally for socializing, and certainly none for confrontation to the point where I would get taken advantage of without fighting it. That isn't me. when it goes away, it does so fairly quickly, within a half of a day. [more inside]
posted by Shylo on Jul 21, 2015 - 30 answers

Obligated to talk to roomie about potential depression/drinking problem?

While she doesn't get obliterated, my roommate does drink a substantial amount most nights. I think she may be depressed. My friend pointed out that as her roommate I may be the only one aware of her behavior. Am I obligated to talk to her about it? How do I bring it up? [more inside]
posted by efsrous on Jun 20, 2015 - 17 answers

Old friend has dug herself into a pit; I'd like to help her climb out.

A close friend has fallen on hard times; I just found out that she is unemployed, living in poverty and is struggling with a number of addictions. I want to help, but am not sure how; I could use some advice on giving advice. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by CottonCandyCapers on Jan 12, 2015 - 13 answers

He went from 3 nights a week to once a week? Is he losing interest?

I've been seeing a guy for 2.5 months that I've known for a year. I'm 33, he's 38. I ended a 10 yr relationship last year so I apologize ahead of time for having the dating skills of a 23 yr old. We're in a meetup group and participated in weekly events long before we started dating. We spent the first month seeing eachother 1x/week, that built to 2x a week plus Fri or Sat. He seemed to really enjoy lying down with me talking about our day. (similar jobs). Our dates were rarely planned more than 24 hrs in advance. It was usually: "What are you doing tonight/tomorrow? Do you want to do A,B, C?" I did that with prior relationships. [more inside]
posted by lohachata on Jan 3, 2015 - 33 answers

Depressed, distant and asking for space. What to do now?

I've been seeing a guy exclusively for 2 months, sleeping over 3 nights a week with nice dates. We're in a gaming group together. On 2 occasions he murmured I love you while half asleep. We never went a day without texting good morning/good night and we chatted frequently. Our dates were getting longer, and Monday morning he acted enamored. He messaged me as usual to gush about me. By the end of that day, he already seemed distant. By Thur he had still not mentioned seeing me again. When I asked if he wanted to hang out after the party or Fri, he didn't acknowledge the question. He seemed very interested in chatting about everything else but no longer seemed interested in flirting/sexy talk. We were attending a party Thur and normally he says "Excited to see you!" but he didn't even say it back. At the party, he was affectionate & seemed himself at first. When it was time to leave, he was distant, avoidant to the point of being rude, and gave a lame excuse for wanting to hang out Friday instead. [more inside]
posted by lohachata on Dec 20, 2014 - 37 answers

How do I spend my leave of absence from university?

I can finally put my mind away from school for about 8 months, but I feel like these 8 months will be the critical period and my last chance to gain a sense of what I want to do. [more inside]
posted by JYuanZ on Dec 14, 2014 - 9 answers

No job, no friends, no hope in NYC

I'm lonely, unemployed, broke, and absolutely miserable after moving to New York City after finishing school. Please help me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 8, 2014 - 24 answers

Asking off from work because you're severely depressed

Two or three times a month, I have really bad days with my depression and want desperately to go home, unable to fathom how I'm going to get through the rest of the wretched day, but of course the stigma is just too great and I can't tell anyone, so I just have to deal with it and push through until 5 o-clock. Is this how it has to be? I can't say I feel physically ill or have an emergency because of the regularity with which I have these days. Thanks everyone for any advice or comments you might have. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 4, 2014 - 25 answers

I think I'm really depressed , will therapy help?

When dealing with depression, what has worked for you . . medications, etc? I don't want to rely too heavily on friends for this, because I have in the past, and they tend to want to avoid you if you tend to talk about it too much. [more inside]
posted by jeepwrnglrwmn on Jul 11, 2014 - 17 answers

Modern life is bringing me down

Life has been really good to me, yet I feel unfulfilled in this endless cycle of daily routines. Am I expecting something unrealistic or is this a sign I need to change my lifestyle? [more inside]
posted by monologish on May 27, 2014 - 39 answers

I’ve lost all my confidence and don’t know how to act around people

I've faced a lot of rejection over the past year: from jobs, men, my friends, and parents, and it's totally killed my self-esteem. I don't know how to get it back or how to act social anymore. [more inside]
posted by summertimesadness1988 on Mar 16, 2014 - 19 answers

using meds to not feel

I struggled with depression for twenty odd years and have given up on finding medications that seem to hit the mark for other people. I have learned what I need to keep the worst of it at bay and actually feel better depression level wise since I can remember. However I am going through extreme emotional times right now and am wondering if it is ethical to try meds just to numb the pain. [more inside]
posted by kanata on Nov 17, 2013 - 19 answers

How to mend a broken heart after so many years?

There is this guy I've liked for the past four years. I'm 25 and he's 33. We were always good friends, very attracted to each other, but he always told me he never wanted a relationship, not just with me, but with anyone. But I always had very deep feelings for him, he was the first man I ever had sex with, and he cared for me a lot too; even got a little jealous when I had a boyfriend. Anyway, he's been seeing this girl for a few months that he told me tonight he's really serious about her. It's killing me. He said the reason me and him never got together was because of timing, our age difference, and the fact that we are at different stages in life. He said he sees a better match with her than with me. He said I'm amazing and it has nothing to do with me, but this whole scenario killed me. With me, it was casual hanging out, and with her, it's nice vacations,meeting his family, spending holidays together. He also came back to me once over the summer while they were broken up, but went back to her. It hurts so much to see him giving to someone else what I always wanted. How can I feel better? :(
posted by summertimesadness1988 on Nov 14, 2013 - 31 answers

My friend with anxiety won't help himself and I don't know what to do

A friend of mine refuses to address his anxiety issues. I don't want to lose him as a friend, but also don't know how much more I can take. Please help. [more inside]
posted by stedman15 on May 28, 2013 - 15 answers

How do you cheer up when you're sad?

So I'm feeling miserable a lot lately. What do you do when you're feeling bad, to cheer yourself up? Restriction: Must be something I can do alone.
posted by EatMyHat on Apr 25, 2013 - 46 answers

I have 30 minutes to do something nice for my wife. Can you help me?

My wife has had an awful day. I mean awful. She is stressed, upset, feeling pretty depressed about it. Between the kids having a rough day and one of her clients cheating and taking advantage of her, her short term self-esteem and resiliency are shot. Wow... she has every right to feel this bad. I've got 30 minutes to try to do something nice for her before she gets home. What little things would make you feel better after a rough day? [more inside]
posted by Nanukthedog on Feb 21, 2013 - 41 answers

How do you fill the emptiness after a break up?

How do you fill the emptiness after a break up? Its now been two month since the break up and I feel like I have no interest anything anymore. I don't enjoy watching sports, my tv shows or movies like I use to. I still go to the gym and run but even time to time I am not motivated to do them. I use to complain about my job to friends and family (politics, unfairness, too much stress), but now I just go to work and I don't even complain about them anymore since all I think about is my personal stress life. I know I am depressed but do I have a bigger problem?
posted by kser333 on Jan 5, 2013 - 20 answers

Feeling ignored by my loved ones.

How do I deal with feeling ignored? [more inside]
posted by Rosengeist on Dec 25, 2012 - 19 answers


It is quite clear I need therapy promptly, but I do not know how to start having it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 19, 2012 - 12 answers

is something very wrong here ???

I have an ex who seems to be be depressed and has sent me a few emails telling me that we are all programmed by the "Source" that free will does not exist, that nothing depends on us etc and that the "Source" has decided that he would always be unhappy in love ! And that if the "Source" has decided that he would be unhappy, unaccomplished, alone then he must be happy with that decision. (He's 55, pianist/composer, not well known, gets by with the financial help of his parents., never been able to commit or live with a woman. His father is bi-polar, been hospitalised a few times for that). This is contrary to my world view, which I told him but I'm rather worried about where his mind is going. Any thoughts, help much appreciated
posted by hopefulmidlifer on Nov 11, 2012 - 21 answers

Blue? Only in color, Michael. Oh, also in mood.

I have self-diagnosed low-level depression and anxiety-- so low-level and constant that I think of it more like my personality than any disorder. Still, the days where it ebbs are pretty awesome. I've never been on psychoactive pharmaceuticals before. Experimenting with antidepressants (with a MD's supervision, of course): good idea/bad idea? Alternatives? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 17, 2012 - 17 answers

Everything fell apart, again. Now what?

I'll try to make this not too long-winded, but basically I find myself at square one for like the hundredth time in the past 6 years, and I'm just flat out of resilience. Help me form a plan for getting through the impending long dark winter. [more inside]
posted by like_a_friend on Oct 16, 2012 - 25 answers

Am I depressed?

Am I depressed? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 10, 2012 - 15 answers

"It's all in your head." "I don't think it is." "Well you would say that."

I'm dealing with chronic pain and fatigue; after several specialists were unable to find the cause, I was referred to a pain clinic. I had an evaluation with a psychiatrist today, and at the end I asked him about his findings. Among other things, he said there was evidence of Somatization Disorder. But I don't think that is it; I think the pain has a physical cause. But if I do have Somatization Disorder, I would think that anyway. How do I determine if that is the problem or not, and if not, how do I make sure my doctors don't dwell on it. [more inside]
posted by [insert clever name here] on Sep 19, 2012 - 11 answers

sick of being sick, how to keep my chin up?

I'm sick and depressed and I don't know how to stop it [more inside]
posted by lifethatihavenotlivedyet on Jul 20, 2012 - 5 answers

Ailing Father, Neglectful Stepmother, & a Confused Daughter

How do I address my father's illness, marital problems, and general malaise as a child who has long ago flown the coop and has no solid plans to return to her hometown? [more inside]
posted by afabulousbeing on Jun 16, 2012 - 12 answers

I have never disliked school before.

Help me be less sad, plz. [more inside]
posted by bookgirl18 on Jun 14, 2012 - 10 answers

Only qualified for retail jobs...how do I break away?

How do you branch away from a retail career when that's all you're qualified for? How do you cultivate the passion/resolve to find something better? [more inside]
posted by stubbehtail on Jun 3, 2012 - 9 answers

Sad meows.

I think that, thanks to the introduction of a new cat in his life, my 7-month-old kitten is depressed. How do I make him feel better? [more inside]
posted by Trexsock on Jan 4, 2012 - 17 answers

My brain wants me to hate myself. My self wants me to finish college. Help.

Please help me make a plan to deal with the aftermath of this episode of severe depression. For various reasons I would really prefer not to be enrolled in college again next semester. It's long, I'm sorry, but I wrote this too quickly to pare things out. [more inside]
posted by bilabial on Nov 30, 2011 - 12 answers

Im 21 years old, depressed, stressed, and never been in a relationship. Is it all in my mind or do I need to see a doc for this?

Im 21 years old, depressed, stressed, and never had a girlfriend. What am I doing wrong? [more inside]
posted by Parh6512 on Nov 16, 2011 - 19 answers

I've been to school, now I'd like an education!

After years of mulling about, I've come to realize that I want to to go to university and gain a proper liberal arts education. For the first time in what feels like eons, I feel enthusiastic and motivated. Trouble is, my first attempt at doing so was three years ago and under much different and more trying circumstances. It seems that the consequences of my halfhearted younger self have severely damaged my future possibilities. What can this 21-year-old do to demonstrate his new-found ardor for all pursuits academic? [more inside]
posted by shoebox on Oct 5, 2011 - 13 answers

Depressed college student? How original!

Depressed and don't know where my future is headed in college. [more inside]
posted by Evernix on Sep 14, 2011 - 12 answers

Is it ok to choose to (temporarily) not interact with my depressed teen sister? What's the best way to provide very distant support?

Is it ok to choose to (temporarily) not interact with my depressed teen sister? What's the best way to provide very distant support? [more inside]
posted by ad4pt on Sep 12, 2011 - 43 answers

How to accept and be happy with your gender?

How do I learn to accept my gender? [more inside]
posted by trogdole on Jun 30, 2011 - 47 answers

How can we stay afloat when boyfriend is depressed?

How can we stay afloat when boyfriend is depressed? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 22, 2011 - 30 answers

How to make this long distance relationship work?

Long distance relationship: How can we make it work? How can we work it out so that we both feel fulfilled? [more inside]
posted by thegmann on May 29, 2011 - 21 answers

Looking for work in Amsterdam and can't seem to find any.

Looking for work in Amsterdam and can't seem to find any. [more inside]
posted by gonzo_ID on Feb 15, 2011 - 3 answers

Brain freeze, dont know why, hopelessly dissapointing

Help me with this brain feeze? No one visits me, I have no friend or I can get along with anyone socially great first few times. So I decided to let everything go. I cant ask help to anyone in person so this post. I do have a good job, good credit, somewhat healthy, good education {May be I never learned :) } Couple of days in a week I think as follows... I am living a life, lifestyle thats truly less than the true potential. Selling myselves less so called "plucking the low lying apple" Not stretching my comfort zone. Some people have said that may be I get depressed. The problem is I dont always try to change it. Instead I just think about all the chances I screwed up and all the people, relationships I have pissed off. Its like my brain freezes to come up with solution and want to just watch TV and eat pizza(comes later though). For few days I live a very lethargic , lazy life. Dishes lie unwashed, no laundry, no bath, no gym, exercise. I live alone, so need to be ashamed of someone might say something. I am 31 years old, live alone, never been in a relationship, no gf(as I piss off everyone in some way I cant understand). I do have a good job, good credit, somewhat healthy, good education {May be I never learned :) } Help me with this brain feeze?
posted by daveg02 on Feb 9, 2011 - 9 answers

Help! I'm Alive.

My mind is a very dark place at the moment. Please help me find the light switch? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 3, 2011 - 22 answers

How do I get my work mojo back for now and in the future?

How to get confidence back at a job that killed it? [more inside]
posted by stormpooper on Jan 4, 2011 - 15 answers

Don't wanna think!

Activities that are so consuming they don't allow you to think? [more inside]
posted by tweedle on Dec 27, 2010 - 56 answers

How do I break up with someone who is depressed

How do I break up with someone who is depressed? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 11, 2010 - 18 answers

at least she's not a cat lady?

My 38 year-old sister is a bit of a train wreck. A dog-obsessed train wreck. How can I help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 1, 2010 - 26 answers

How do I not feel like a failure?

I failed high school -and- college. How can I not feel like such a failure/cheer myself up? [more inside]
posted by biochemist on Dec 7, 2009 - 29 answers

Lonliness and depression

Lonely and depressed...need advice [more inside]
posted by loser8008 on Nov 20, 2009 - 17 answers

Am I depressed, or just screwed-up?

So I’ve finally made up my mind to talk to my GP about the depression that I think I’m suffering from. I have a few days before my appointment and I’d like to get a clearer handle on things before I see him. Can you help me unpack some of this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 4, 2009 - 14 answers


How do you snap yourself out of a temporary, but fairly deeply depressed state in order to accomplish tasks at hand? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 18, 2009 - 29 answers

How do I stop blaming myself and let go?

After 27 years of being best friends (we had baby pictures together, and were inseparable), mine decided to drop off the face of the planet and never call me again after I moved to Austin. [more inside]
posted by HPag on Feb 28, 2009 - 64 answers

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