How soon is too soon to start dating after the death of a spouse? All the websites I've read have been for widows and widowers and tell them not to feel guilty for moving on with their lives after the passing of their loved one. But surely there really *is* such a thing as too soon? [more inside]
Processing and dealing with a sudden death. [more inside]
Our 18 year old cat died this afternoon. Would it be beneficial to my 6 1/2 year old daughter to have a full "pet funeral", or should I just quietly bury him in the backyard before she gets home from school today? [more inside]
QuoteFilter: Who coined the phrase, "death is the great equalizer"?
How can I deal with anger/fear over a senseless death? [more inside]
I have a hard time talking to my friends about other people's terminal illnesses and/or deaths. I'd like to get better at this. [more inside]
SarinGasFilter: in the Aum Shinrikyo sarin gas attack on the Tokyo subway in 1995, 5 team members released a total of 5.5 litres of liquid sarin at 5 different locations. According to this Wikipedia article, "a single drop of sarin the size of the head of a pin can kill an adult," yet the total deaths = 12. Were Aum Shinrikyo aware that their sarin was spectacularly bad/ impure/ degraded, or were they aiming for significantly more fatalities?
I know someone's date of birth, date of death, the U.S. state they died in (Washington) -- but not the county -- and their SSN. How do I find out what happened to them? [more inside]
Can my computer kill me without warning? [more inside]
How do I support my dad in his grief? [more inside]
Have you considered writing your own obituary? [more inside]
My grandfather has been diagnosed with a liver/pancreatic cancer that can't be operated on. How is this likely to play out? How do we deal with my grandmother afterwards? [more inside]
I once saw/heard something on horses that were used underground in (coal?) mines... the reference was short and was phrased as something like this "... it's like those horses used in the (coal?) mines, they are underground in the dark for so long (years?) that when they are brought up from the mines and get to see far away into the horizon they die of shock." [more inside]
HardDriveFilter: I'm getting some weird behaviour from my external drive. Help! And I don't mean it's wearing funny stockings and a mask! [more inside]
Share your personal stories about explaining euthanasia to a preschooler. [more inside]
Do reports of hauntings exist in atheist or non-Christian countries to such an extent as they do in America? I'm fascinated by the myriad of documentaries that appear every week regarding hauntings/ghosts/etc. Do atheistic countries with no particular spiritual influence (i.e. Sweden vs. China) have such high reports of hauntings or reports of ghosts? What about Islamic cultures?
my mother was recently diagnosed with terminal cancer. do any of you have ideas for little things i can do for her to remind her how awesome she is? girls especially. what are some of the best, most thoughtful things loved ones have done for you? [more inside]
My cat died in October, and I fell headlong into depression. I'm better now, but I'm still struggling with a bluesy feeling in the evening. Coping strategies, including mindfulness techniques? [more inside]
What is a good book to buy for a bright, elderly man who: a.) has probably read everything, and, b.) is experiencing some level of despair due to his rapidly deteriorating body (he has motor neuron disease)? [more inside]
WTF filter: My grandmother died in November. My uncle flew out to "help out"; he sifted through the belongings, and shipped a bunch of furniture back to his home in another province. Recently he presented my mom with a "bill" for all the expenses he incurred during the process of attending my grandmother's death, expecting to be paid back out of the estate, even though my grandfather (demented and unaware of everyday reality) is in a care facility, still living on that money. What now? [more inside]
How do I expose my 2 1/2 year old son to people who have handicaps, or chronic illnesses like CP or MS? [more inside]
Is there a big list (with general descriptions, optional) of jobs in the death industry? [more inside]
My stepfather passed away suddenly on Friday. He didn't leave the passoword to Quicken 2006 Deluxe for my mom. I have looked every where to see if he wrote it down, but no luck in finding it so far. Any way to figure out his password? [more inside]
Grieffilter: Is he still grieving his wife, even though it's been so long? Need advice on my relationship with a widower... [more inside]
What things should I be doing now, in my early 20s, to be sure I live the longest, healthiest life possible?
How long does rodent rigor mortis -take- anyway? The roommate woke me up before my alarm this morning to confirm that she was not, indeed, hallucinating the demise of her beloved hamster, Boo. And for good reason - extended explanation inside. [more inside]
My Indian (Bangalore) co-worker's father just passed away. How do I offer him the proper condolences and support? [more inside]
I can't stop thinking about death. [more inside]
What to write in a condolence note to the boss? [more inside]
My friend is dying of cancer. It's just a matter of time before she goes since she has stopped receiving treament. She is bedridden, can't see and is too weak to talk but she can still hear. What can I do for her on our visits to help her get through the day? Are there massage services out there (NYC)? Should I read her a book - what's a good title? Should I ask her family if they will allow me to play some CDs for her - any suggestions? Your input is greatly appreciated.
What are the worst (natural) ways to die as an old person in terms of how it must feel for them? Are there ways to die for which the symptoms cannot be alleviated by medical means and it's just a completely dreadful existence until death? What fraction of people die old horribly? [more inside]
Doctors, nurses, therapists, social workers, health professionals of any and all flavors: how do you dissociate yourselves from the misery, suffering, and death of your patients or clients? [more inside]
How many people (if any) have died at the Playboy Mansion?
What should be done/said when the family gathers to witness someone's passing? I need planning to distract me. [more inside]
My mother's dog (part of our family for 10 years) passed away last night of major sudden medical problems. My mother is in her late 50s, divorced, and lives alone - and considered the dog practically one of her children. How can I help her through this better? [more inside]
Here is a tough one : the girlfriend has been seeing two men simultaneously. Me and another one. Now the other man she's been seeing is dead. Should I drop her or should I forgive her ? [more inside]
Books/writing on death, loss and grief. [more inside]
Are there any books you think a smart, grieving preteen would find comforting or of use? More details inside. [more inside]
My mother passed away last week and now I'm lost. [more inside]
My office manager just emailed me that detectives will be visiting my office mate soon. According to the message, "There has been a death. That is all I know and I was told not to say anything to her." What do I do? [more inside]
Can anyone suggest films in which a main character has a close confrontation with death and as a result undergoes a dramatic change in personality?
At a younger age I vaugely remember watching an animated movie which greatly disturbed me for years as I didn´t understand it, and could not understand what was being portrayed other than the film appeared to be EVIL. (Note: I don´t remember very much of the film visually but I do remember alot emotionally, as such I am really groping trying to piece together what I saw as opposed to what might have been imagined.) [more inside]
NYCFilter: If my landlord dies, does that death void my lease? [more inside]
How are you preparing your digital life for posterity? [more inside]
Metaphysical Filter: Can you help me to find information related to this metaphysical experience? [more inside]
Please help me find movies that end with the main character dying. WARNING: Question and answers may contain spoilers, in case it's not obvious. [more inside]
Calling all DeadHeads: I'm going through some bad, hard-to-deal-with shit right now, and am looking for some music to help see me through. [more inside]
PsychExperimentFilter: Suggest some funny and sad death scenes from recent (last 15-20 years) films. Bonus points for equally funny and sad non-death scenes to use as control. [more inside]
I'm looking for some data about the most common causes of death in Canada; recently available statistics aswell as pre-1980 statistics. Any statscan gurus? [more inside]
How often is a human body completely "new"? Or: No cell composing my body existed a month, a year, [the time I'm looking for] ago. [more inside]