95 posts tagged with death by Anonymous.
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I'm not ready to lose my father, I don't want to be alone

My father has been diagnosed with cancer and will probably die within the next year (two years if we're lucky), all I think about is about his impending death. I'm an only child and, to me, his death will mean that I'm completely alone in the world. I am so scared of losing him, but I am literally helpless. I feel like I'm waiting for him to die and I don't know how to cope with it. Any advice? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 2, 2016 - 12 answers

Surviving pain, physical and psychological

I'm in a shitty life situation I have no control over and cannot escape. I am also dealing with the flare up (obviously stress related) of a chronic illness. I wake up crying from stress, can barely keep food down, and shuffle through each day trying to get to go back to bed and be unconscious for a while. I don't know how to cope with this pain. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 1, 2016 - 12 answers

So Much Anger-Don't Know What To Do

For the single year that my brother was alive, my Dad ran off and left our family. Now my Dad insists on sending the family notices on the anniversary of my brother's death. This is so painful, how can I make it stop? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 1, 2016 - 36 answers

How long should I stay with an ailing parent, if I'm deeply depressed?

...Jeez, even typing that sounds bad. My mother has been given 2-3 weeks to live, based on a diagnosis of Acute Leukemia. She's also got a compromised immune system, due to a liver transplant over 20 years ago. I flew out immediately when she was given the diagnosis, and it is now going in to our 3rd week. She's a fighter, and I knew that. But I'm a continent and several time zones away from my life and my job and so very depressed. She's still going strong - - tired, but strong. And I don't know what to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 1, 2016 - 23 answers

How to start caring again

He died and I'm feeling stuck. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 25, 2016 - 14 answers

Catastrophizing about what could be a catastrophe

The next week is going to be a rough one for me. My father is going in for cancer tests this week. He'll be seeing a oncologist on Friday before getting a biopsy for what could possibly be lung cancer on Tuesday. He clearly hasn't been diagnosed with anything yet (so who knows, it could be nothing, I guess), but I have been a wreck since Monday. I cannot stop imagining the worst case scenario. I am so afraid of my father being seriously ill and dying and these thoughts are just consuming me. I am completely petrified. How can I cope with this uncertainty? And if the news is bad, can I even survive? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 21, 2016 - 24 answers

Resources for dealing with the loss of an alcoholic parent

My father is in end-stage liver failure due to alcoholism, and I'm having trouble finding good books/websites/forums/etc. for dealing with the emotional component of this situation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 28, 2016 - 10 answers

How to send condolences to a coworker

My co-worker's sibling died. What's the best way to send my condolences? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 8, 2015 - 15 answers

Contesting a will

My mother recently died. I acted as her live-in carer, to varying degrees, over the last 11 years (mainly the last few years). Do I have a reasonable case upon which to contest the will's equal apportionment of the estate? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 16, 2015 - 24 answers

While I was in a coma, you suggested I die

While I was in a coma earlier this year, one of my in-laws suggested my plug should be pulled. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 17, 2015 - 71 answers

Deathbed support for 30 year old friend - what can we do?

A dear friend (female, early 30s) is at the end of her battle with cancer. Our circle of close friends is spread out all over the country. We've been sending gifts, visiting, pooling money together for cleaning and dog walking, etc for a year. But we're in the final month or two, she's in pain (just now starting to turn to palliative care) and I'd love some ideas on how we can support her and her husband. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 29, 2014 - 14 answers

Grief and the elderly

How do the elderly process loss? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 31, 2014 - 16 answers

How can I take over a car loan after the death of a relative?

It's okay with the estate, but now I need to deal with the car company. How do I make sure that I can take over the car loan of a dead relative in order to keep the (sentimental) car, keeping in mind bad credit and not enough money to pay it off entirely? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 20, 2014 - 10 answers

I feel like the only insane person for being sane.

My girlfriend, her parent, and her entire family are 100% convinced that one of her parents has an incurable terminal disease. The catch? None of the test results have come back. In fact, none of the tests have even been done. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 18, 2014 - 24 answers

What will it take to make me feel better?

After a particularly bad holiday season, I am feeling unhappy and dissatisfied with my life. I want things to change, but can't bring myself to actually do anything to help that change occur. This is a long one, so I apologize in advance... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 5, 2014 - 11 answers

Guess vs Ask, grieving edition

Dealing with grief, unsure how to ask friends for support, if at all. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 15, 2013 - 13 answers

Resources for dealing with company after death of the owner.

My 40-something boss passed away very suddenly on Friday--young enough that while he'd brought up the notion of succession planning, to the best of my knowledge there was no set plan of what happens next. He was the sole owner of the CPA firm that employed me (a staff accountant) and another CPA. The other CPA is meeting with the attorney this morning, I believe, and friends of his are coming in to help us out in whatever way they can. But I'm hoping to find a few more resources for this coming week. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 9, 2013 - 7 answers

What should my MIL do with this money to ensure a steady retirement?

After the untimely death of my soon-to-be-father-in-law, my future mother-in-law is expecting to receive a fairly large life insurance pay out. What should she do with this money to ensure a comfortable retirement without her husband? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 24, 2013 - 7 answers

How can I help my friend cope and accept her dogs death?

One of my best friends is having a really hard time with her dying canine. She has had this dog since I have know her (14 years) and since the dog was a puppy. She has had some tough times in the years I have known her, and this dog has been her constant companion and helped her power through those times when she struggled even to get out of bed in the morning. She is (rightfully) having a really hard time letting go, though at this point it is the right thing to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 17, 2013 - 28 answers

Now what?

The story: wife gets breast cancer. Double mastectomy, chemo, radiation. Two young kids. Nine years of remission. Then, recurrence. Three years of more chemo, then three months of hospice and she dies at home in my arms. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 30, 2013 - 39 answers

How to help a grieving student?

I am a (new) professor at a small, rural university. One of my students has had to take an emergency leave due to a death in their family. Aside from assuring them that they need not think about their schoolwork at all, and that we'll work it out when they're ready, is there anything else I can do to support them? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 26, 2013 - 19 answers

Dealing with family when someone is dying

It appears my Dad is in the process of dying - I'm mostly okay with that, but really struggling with the rest of my family. Could use some words of wisdom. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 12, 2013 - 21 answers

How do (or should I) find out how a classmate died?

Someone I went to high school with died a year or so ago. I never learned what the cause of death was, and I'm curious. I drive by an adopt a highway sign dedicated to their memory often, and it confuses and bums me out. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 11, 2013 - 28 answers

Helping a family member of the 1st anniversary of their spouse's death

My mother and father were married over 50 years. Dad passed early this year (Feb) and now is the 1st anniversary is upon us. I have been helping mom out quite a bit since then, but could use some pointers about what to do or look out for over the next couple of months. A little more inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 16, 2012 - 6 answers

Tell the whole truth, and nothing but the truth?

Is it wrong for me to share details about a deceased ex-boyfriend with his parents? Specifically, that he was my boyfriend at all. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 5, 2012 - 38 answers

In lieu of flowers?

Wrongful death in the family. In lieu of flowers / Memorial donations? Help me, hive mind. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 23, 2012 - 17 answers

How to explain mortality to a 4 year-old

How to explain mortality to a 4 year-old. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 13, 2012 - 15 answers

How can I stop traumatic flashbacks linked to my pet's death?

My pet died suddenly. How can I stop traumatic flashbacks and focus on happy memories? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 1, 2012 - 26 answers

Do not go gentle into that good night

What do I need to experience before I die? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 8, 2012 - 68 answers

What do I need to do to prepare for my own death?

What do I need to do to make sure all my affairs are in order in case I die? I have no kids and don't own property. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 28, 2012 - 19 answers

Alert the next of kin. And Netflix.

How do I make my passwords available to loved ones if I die suddenly, but keep them secure while I'm alive? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 22, 2012 - 25 answers

How bad is owning half a house?

What's the legal liability ramifications of owning half a house? (I already have a lawyer. I wanted a second/English opinion.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 28, 2011 - 17 answers

Is it her? Is it not her? Is it sort-of her? What do we do?

My grandmother in the process of dying is suffering through a sudden dementia?... delirium?... from her medical condition that is causing her to be extremely belligerent and hurtful to those around her. We know this "isn't her," but we don't know what to do, what time to spend with her, what is going on. I'm looking for perspectives on this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 26, 2011 - 18 answers

Need help with managing a memorial page on a Wordpress site.

I run a Worpress site, hosted by Dreamhost. We are about to make a memorial announcement. This will drive a lot of traffic to the site, including hundreds of comments and potentially thousands of hits. I am the only one who runs the site and I need to be prepared. What do I need to do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 24, 2011 - 7 answers

A merry question about funerals and late-stage Alzheimer's :(

How to handle the funeral/remberance of my father, with my mother who has late-stage Alzheimer's? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 2, 2011 - 14 answers

Supporting a friend who may lose a pet

How to support and comfort a friend through the illness/loss of their pets? What helped you? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 5, 2011 - 19 answers

What do you do at a funeral?

Funeral Question: So my grandmother died. The wake is on Thursday and the funeral is on Friday. I've never been to a funeral before and not any Catholic services before. What's expected of me? What can do to help? Or at least not make things worse? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 21, 2011 - 32 answers

How can I ask my uncle to hurry up dividing up inheritance?

My maternal grandmother passed away 5 months ago and my uncle has taken charge of handling her inheritance with her lawyer. He hasn't given any updates or information on how the process is going since his initial email 5 months ago, in which he told me that my grandmother had passed and that I would receive inheritance. How can I ask him to hurry up? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 27, 2011 - 18 answers

Three's Company Too

Need financial/legal info about buying a house with someone else. I know YANML and YANMA but wanted starting points, advice, and any stories from people who have been through this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 24, 2011 - 5 answers

So now what do we do?

So we are in an icky situation involving a friend dying of AIDS. Advice? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 22, 2011 - 35 answers

Dealing with death...as an atheist.

How can I help my wife deal with the death of a loved one? I am an atheist and I find it hard. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 19, 2011 - 28 answers

How to cope with a fear of death? I

I'm terrified at the thought of dying and don't know what to do. I am not actually dying or sick in any way but sometimes I can't stop worrying about it. How can I stop, or feel better about it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 12, 2011 - 40 answers

Odd after-death arrangement: how to?

Two questions. How do I write a last will and testament when it involves those I know across the internet? And, how do I ensure that certain...eccentric requests involving my funeral and/or body be carried out? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 5, 2011 - 25 answers

How can I show my boyfriend my love/support on our 5th anniversary - only a couple days after his father's death?

How can I show my boyfriend my love/support on our 5th anniversary - only a couple days after his father's death? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 17, 2011 - 10 answers

How to console someone in a new relationship

How do you console someone without being to pushy or at the other extreme too aloof? Especially with a new partner that you don't know too well. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 10, 2011 - 8 answers

What is it like to be a hospice volunteer?

What is it like to be a hospice volunteer? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 30, 2010 - 23 answers

Advice for a struggling grandson

Help me decide what to do about visiting my dying Grandfather. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 3, 2010 - 23 answers

Our Creepy Condolences

Our customer's mom died. Is it appropriate to send a card? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 24, 2010 - 29 answers

Planning ahead for a pet's passing

I want to plans to deal with the eventual death of my pets. They're healthy and happy but I know small animals don't live too long, and I'd like to know what to do before I lose them. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 9, 2010 - 13 answers

My Dad passed away and I don't know what to do.

How best can I support my Mom and brother from so far away, other than calling them frequently? How can I stop thinking about the last days of my Dad's life and get over his physical "absence"? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 30, 2010 - 9 answers

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