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Family Drama -- Aunt revisited

I wrote this question about my Aunt. As it turned out, I just wrote back a very polite reply -- "thank you for your good wishes" ...I was polite. I felt good about this. Thank you for all the helpful answers. My Aunt wrote me again -- long story inside. Thank you for taking the time to read it. [more inside]
posted by Lescha on Mar 26, 2013 - 26 answers

 

Authorization for cremation?

Can signing an 'Authorization For Cremation' form somehow make me responsible for my deceased father's debt? [more inside]
posted by KevinSkomsvold on Mar 25, 2013 - 15 answers

My thoughts about death have started making me afraid to live.

For the last 6 or 7 days, I've been fixated on death, and not in a suicidal context. How do people normally handle constant thoughts about their mortality, and how can I stop this from crippling my ability to "live?" [more inside]
posted by Ashen on Mar 19, 2013 - 45 answers

How do I honour my friend?

My friend died last week. We had been living in different countries for the past few months; we were still in contact up until a few weeks ago. His death was sudden and unexpected. He was far too young to die. I can't go to any of the memorials (he was one of those people who knew like, thousands of people, so people seemingly everywhere on earth are doing stuff) and I won't be going to the funeral. I didn't know his family and even though we were roommates, we had very few friends in common. [more inside]
posted by Enchanting Grasshopper on Feb 27, 2013 - 18 answers

Fiction: Fatal encounters between therapist and patient

I am looking for any stories that include a fatal encounter between a therapist and his/her patient. [more inside]
posted by 99percentfake on Feb 5, 2013 - 33 answers

"Dogs' lives are too short... Their only fault, really."

I love my dog. Every once in a while, I feel utterly heartbroken that I will most likely outlive him. While it doesn't happen often and it's not overwhelming, and I realize that it is perfectly natural to be sad about something like that, can you give me advice about how to turn these thoughts into something positive? [more inside]
posted by halogen on Jan 7, 2013 - 42 answers

It's the small blue journal in my second desk drawer down

If you keep a diary or other secret papers, do you have a plan for what happens to it if something happens to you? [more inside]
posted by dawkins_7 on Jan 5, 2013 - 25 answers

COBRA coverage for someone who has already died

What do I do when a person is eligible for COBRA insurance but has passed away before getting papers and signing up? [more inside]
posted by meowzilla on Dec 8, 2012 - 4 answers

Or, how to be supportive without being super annoying?

My husband is losing his father in a few weeks. He is currently spending some time with him at a hospice and is away from home to deal with chaotic family issues surrounding this. When he returns, I imagine he will need time to decompress and I want to make that easy. Please give me suggestions on how I can make that easier for him or what you've appreciated in a similar situation.
posted by dean winchester on Dec 3, 2012 - 10 answers

To send condolences or not?

My ex-boyfriend's dad just passed away. What, if anything, should I do? [more inside]
posted by csox on Nov 16, 2012 - 24 answers

The Final Journey

Help me explain death to my 9 year old. [more inside]
posted by plinth on Sep 20, 2012 - 17 answers

The woods are lovely, dark and deep

In Ontario, can a person be buried in a natural way, so that the body returns to the earth? [more inside]
posted by pseudostrabismus on Sep 4, 2012 - 8 answers

Waiting, waiting, waiting....

My mother is going to die, probably very soon. How do I deal with waiting for it to happen? [more inside]
posted by heurtebise on Aug 27, 2012 - 28 answers

Help me support my dad after the death of both his parents.

My father's parents just passed away, two weeks apart exactly. How do I support my dad through this time? [more inside]
posted by dil.emma on Aug 22, 2012 - 8 answers

I can't think of one, I'm exhausted

My 90 year old grandmother is barely conscious, rarely eating, and is losing her mental faculties. I visit her every lunchtime to try and get her to eat. My mother (her daughter) takes the evening shift for dinnertime. I'm not coping well. Any suggestions to help me make this easier, so I'm not sobbing my heart out every day? [more inside]
posted by malibustacey9999 on Aug 14, 2012 - 41 answers

How can we help our son know his father?

My husband has a few more months before cancer takes his energy, and then his life. We have a 17 month old son. My husband plans to write some letters to our son, but beyond that, I am not sure what to do to help my son know his father. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by Mozzie on Aug 13, 2012 - 62 answers

How to handle estranged father's funeral?

My estranged father passed away last Sunday. I've decided to attend the funeral. Please help me conduct myself with something resembling grace. Overly complex snowflakey stuff inside. [more inside]
posted by Ephelump Jockey on Jul 31, 2012 - 23 answers

Concern over personal information after googling.

I googled someone I've been dating for almost 3 weeks and discovered that they had a sibling die in a work related accident just over a year ago. Now I feel I have deeply personal and traumatic information about them without it having been given freely and not sure what to do with it. [more inside]
posted by Dynex on Jul 13, 2012 - 31 answers

Suddenly Widowed

My husband died recently. We were together for decades and have school-age children. His passing involved severe trauma, and we have social support and frequent therapy appointments to get us through the turmoil. Emotionally, we're holding up. My question is about getting our affairs in order. [more inside]
posted by Fichereader on Jun 16, 2012 - 29 answers

How can I save my love from dying?

Knowledge-based hope is much needed. Since my first plea -- which helped a lot, really, this month of May has been sorrowful for Maria João and for me. A metastatic brain tumor (around 3 cms) was detected and removed. Gamma-knife surgery is next. Tomorrow starts the search for other cancerous tumors in her body. We both feel, against all odds, that we will be lucky. But what should we do? What should we hope for? Statistics are againsts us but we love each other truly. Two months ago we found a beautiful house to move into. We could move in come July, after all the tests are made. What should we do? What should our attitude be? Should we move or stay put? Should we change country? Should we prepare to die? Or live as much as we still can? Desperate questions need realistic answers. We're fighting for our lives here. Please tell us, knowingly, how to behave. For what it's worth - usually nothing - I think this time we'll be lucky enough to survive. Whatever happens.
posted by MiguelCardoso on May 15, 2012 - 25 answers

Firing into crowds

News coverage of the Arab Spring routinely has reports (with audio-gunshots) of state actors shooting at crowds of demonstrators. Often it seems like very few people are injured/killed. Is this confirmation bias on my part, are there mass casualties, or are the folks "shooting" at the crowd (ie not at the actual people) ? [more inside]
posted by k5.user on Apr 16, 2012 - 6 answers

What is it like to have/witness the decline of/lose a dearly loved grandparent?

What is it like to have/witness the decline of/lose a dearly loved grandparent? [more inside]
posted by peppermintfreddo on Apr 10, 2012 - 19 answers

Documentaries, books, I want it all!

Please give me some suggestions for documentaries and books I might like. [more inside]
posted by PeppahCat on Feb 22, 2012 - 23 answers

Private death

An acquaintance from high school recently died at the age of 22. His family decided to keep the cause of death private. Help me out here -- why would they choose to do that? [more inside]
posted by victory_laser on Feb 20, 2012 - 64 answers

In the case of a person dying for whatever reason, why does it take so long for toxicology analysis to be conducted and reports delivered?

Post mortem toxicology tests - why does it take so long for results to be delivered? [more inside]
posted by lampshade on Feb 13, 2012 - 9 answers

A game about (your) death

Help me find the name of that brief interactive “game” where the narrator (speaking aloud, British I think) describes the actions of the player, marching us toward our inevitable demise… until we decide to disobey his narrative. [more inside]
posted by scamper on Feb 11, 2012 - 5 answers

Help me get over being excluded from my father's funeral.

My father passed away recently. We were estranged and I feel really strange about how his family handled his passing. I'm looking for advice about contacting them, or just leaving things be. Help! [more inside]
posted by carmenghia on Jan 24, 2012 - 25 answers

Do hearses make house calls?

In a small city in Illinois, last night we saw a hearse in the driveway of a neighbor down the block. No other cars, police, or activity were in evidence. We know this person is elderly, but we don't actually know her. Because I've seen a cab come to her house, I believe she doesn't drive, and I have seen a second, somewhat less elderly person come by and do yard work for her occasionally. This second person's car wasn't there last night either. We don't actually see our neighbor very often, especially in winter, so if she's still there, we might not see her in passing for a while. I was under the impression that if someone had died at their home, an ambulance would transport them; I don't think I've ever seen a hearse at a private home before. Was this the end for my neighbor, or did her hypothetical niece the hypothetical mortician pop in for supper in a company car or something? Anyone have any knowledge about hearse customs?
posted by Occula on Dec 27, 2011 - 13 answers

I am losing everyone

TLDR: How can I keep from going off the deep end in light of repeated stressors over a compressed period of time? [more inside]
posted by TestamentToGrace on Nov 16, 2011 - 17 answers

Does knowing the cause of death help in coping?

Why do I care so much to know the cause of my friend's recent, unexpected death? [more inside]
posted by cellojoe on Oct 10, 2011 - 14 answers

Babar, Mortality and Me

Which of the Babar books deal with death? This question stems from a childhood anecdote that goes a little something like this . . . [more inside]
posted by jason's_planet on Sep 27, 2011 - 7 answers

Electricity... so magical! So deadly!

Am I going to electrocute myself with my home extension cord repair? [more inside]
posted by amanda on Sep 22, 2011 - 21 answers

It wasn't really that nice knowing you...

How can I comfort the loved ones of a dying person I don't like? And the dying person themselves? Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by katyggls on Aug 19, 2011 - 26 answers

Death finances

URGENT!!! If two people have their name on a bank account and one of them dies, is it acceptable for the other person to continue writing cheques from that account? [more inside]
posted by wutangclan on Aug 6, 2011 - 24 answers

support for boy whose mother died at childbirth

Does anyone know of a book or article that might be of help to a child and his family (he will soon be 12) whose mother died at childbirth. He is the nephew of a dear friend, the boy really values family and as he is maturing, realizes more and more, that each birthday also marks the anniversary date of his mothers' death. He is was adopted by a paternal aunt and is being raised in a loving family. If anyone has suggestions on how best to support the boy and his family, it is much appreciated. If anyone has first hand experience with this, your knowledge would be much appreciated. The issue is clearly much bigger than his birthday, but is there any way to help him emotionally to deal with this reality as he matures.
posted by jennstra on Jul 23, 2011 - 10 answers

Sandman story where Death closes up shop?

Is there a Sandman story depicting the end of the universe? [more inside]
posted by yellowbinder on Jul 3, 2011 - 10 answers

How to find a birth/death record

I'm looking for a NJ birth/death record for a baby who only lived a short time during the 50's. [more inside]
posted by runnergirl on Jun 9, 2011 - 5 answers

Contracts with Death, German style?

Help me find this relatively recent German film about an old man who tricks his way out of a contract with Death. [more inside]
posted by small_ruminant on May 19, 2011 - 3 answers

Help me find a career working with the dying

Help me find a career working with the dying and/or those close to them. [more inside]
posted by Waldo Jeffers on Apr 10, 2011 - 6 answers

Short Modern Poem To Comfort Grieving Family?

Could you help my friend find a poem to comfort the family of a friend who has just died? The young man had gone through some bumps in his life and was just starting to turn it around, and then, tragically, he died an accidental death. She’s looking for something fairly short (under 10 lines), modern, nothing too literary, and something that celebrates the immortality of family love. I’ve looked on previous Ask MeFi posts, but most of the poems I see there are unsuitable for various reasons. She doesn’t want anything tailored to a funeral; she would like to send this poem directly to the family for them to reread in the coming months (perhaps put on a fridge to turn to for comfort).
posted by Amy NM on Mar 24, 2011 - 19 answers

How I Learn To Stop Worrying and Love the Dog?

First time dog owner here: How do I deal with the fact that my dog will die (eventually)? [more inside]
posted by Gucky on Mar 22, 2011 - 24 answers

I hit a dog with my car and feel really bad about it.

I hit a dog with my car and I feel terrible. Is there anything I can do? [more inside]
posted by treeshar on Mar 17, 2011 - 20 answers

Incorporating the Rosary into a funeral service? Some guidance?

Calling all Roman Catholics, Nuns, and Priests! Help me incorporate the Rosary into a Funeral Service for my best friend! (kinda long) [more inside]
posted by Tchad on Mar 16, 2011 - 14 answers

Collection for coworker

Coworker's relative passed away. Our small office would like to start a collection for coworker. What are the rules here? What's appropriate as far as amounts? Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by ttyn on Mar 8, 2011 - 20 answers

"Angel of Death" does seem a bit too convenient

Is the "angel of death" hallucination a real medical phenomenon? [more inside]
posted by devotion+doubt on Mar 4, 2011 - 5 answers

My friend's mom died - I want to have pre-made meals delivered to his house TODAY. How?

My friend's mom died - I want to have pre-made meals delivered to his house TODAY. How? [more inside]
posted by jander03 on Jan 13, 2011 - 10 answers

My friend's dad just passed away. How can I help him?

My friend's dad just passed away. How can I help him? What can I do? I live couple thousand miles away from where he is. Can you give me some suggestions? Is it bad if I start compiling list of government agencies or funeral homes for them to call? What else I can do?
posted by Carius on Jan 2, 2011 - 16 answers

My Christmas sucked, how was yours?

Dad is on life support. He has no advance directive/living will. How do we make end-of-life decisions when none of us are capable of thinking clearly? [more inside]
posted by kella on Dec 24, 2010 - 23 answers

Death by Water Bomb

How fast would a water balloon have to be going to kill you? Assume it hits you in the head or chest.
posted by lore on Dec 13, 2010 - 25 answers

Help remembering an old quote about China

While reading about how people tend to care less about deaths that do not directly impact them, I came across a quote that I'm hoping someone here would recognize. I can only remember the basic idea of the quote. It is presented to a European audience, I think sometimes in the last century or two, but not in our recent era, as follows: If all of China were swallowed up whole, Europeans would go on with life without much change. This is all I can remember.
posted by mulligan on Nov 6, 2010 - 8 answers

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