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Impending pet death (probably). How do I take care of the remains?

I think I'm about to have to deal with the loss of a beloved pet cat. I am not sure how to best handle dealing with her remains. I want to keep them. Can anyone help me figure this out? [more inside]
posted by Because on Apr 16, 2014 - 13 answers

Best friend's dad died suddenly. Besides myself, what should I bring?

My best friend called me last night to say that her father had died of a heart attack yesterday. She was clearly still in shock. She and her husband drove in overnight and as soon as she calls I'll leave work to go spend the day with her and her family. I don't want to show up empty-handed. Besides food for lunch, what should I bring with me? [more inside]
posted by SeedStitch on Apr 4, 2014 - 27 answers

How do I get to know my parents as people?

After seeing and reading about the death of parents, one of the biggest regrets seems to be not knowing them better. I have a cordial but distance relationship from my parents and while I don't ever see us being BFFs, I would like to know them better as people and their life. How do I do this, considering I live 6 states away? [more inside]
posted by lpcxa0 on Mar 26, 2014 - 21 answers

Motorcycles, Death and the DMV

Background: I was in the middle of doing a mild restoration on my little brother's bike two years ago (2000 ZX-7R) when he died very unexpectedly. I don't know what to do with it now and just realized that it hasn't been registered since 2008. [more inside]
posted by snsranch on Mar 10, 2014 - 6 answers

What does "I don't want to talk about it" mean, practically speaking?

A dear friend of mine who lives far away has lost two of her three cats to sudden, upsetting illness, in the space of a week. She has implied that she's not interested in talking about it, which I can understand. [more inside]
posted by Sokka shot first on Jan 8, 2014 - 20 answers

End of life planning

My brother and I are sitting down with my parents tomorrow to discuss specifics of what they've put in place for end of life planning. What should we ask? [more inside]
posted by chiababe on Nov 29, 2013 - 23 answers

Helping 7 yo process mother's death

So my sister-in-law had a stroke last week and passed away on Friday. My niece's are 7 and 19. The older one, of course groks it, but I'm not sure how much the younger one is getting. [more inside]
posted by jacy on Nov 19, 2013 - 25 answers

Unexpected Death

My Dad just called and my Mom unexpectedly died in her sleep at 62. We need help in knowing what to do. [more inside]
posted by RoadScholar on Nov 13, 2013 - 21 answers

Are my days numbered because of lup chong?

Will uncooked Chinese sausage end my life? [more inside]
posted by turbid dahlia on Oct 30, 2013 - 17 answers

Life is fatal. Why isn't it easier to die gracefully?

In the event that I have any control over it whatsoever, I want to die well. Recent family events and yesterday's NPR segments (1, 2) on end-of-life issues raise a fresh wave of questions about how to plan now for the best possible end later on. Is there anything in the works that looks like a living will but allows us in our younger healthier years to document the preference "if a, b or c happen, just guide me to the light with morphine"? I want to be able to die as peacefully and (perhaps almost as) easily as my pets can. And perhaps I should reserve this additional loaded question for a separate post, but what the hell: why do people care so much? [more inside]
posted by AnOrigamiLife on Aug 26, 2013 - 20 answers

How do I handle my deceased mother's bank account when there's no Estate

My Mom passed in March. She thought I had a POA. I can't find one. Her will is old, and predates my father's death. I don't believe I am mentioned in it, but I am next of kin. There is no Estate. She does, however, have a smallish bank account that I would like, as her only child, to take possession of. Is there any way for me to do this in NYS without creating an Estate, which would probably eat the cash in the bank account anyway? I can't stand to think of the bank just keeping her money. Thanks for any and all help. If it's important, she passed in OR, and the bank is national.
posted by Meep! Eek! on Aug 8, 2013 - 13 answers

A short film about a horse, possibly featuring the Grim Reaper?

Anybody remember this? A boy rides his horse in the rain, it gets stuck in the mud, the boy screams his horse's name (Philip), a lot, while the figure of Death looks on? [more inside]
posted by Mister Moofoo on Aug 5, 2013 - 18 answers

I need help explaining death and religion to my child.

An older family member has died. We'll be traveling to attend the viewing and funeral, which will be heavily religious. My 7-year-old daughter didn't know this family member, but has reacted very negatively to the idea of death in the past (long stretches spent sobbing in my arms). We are agnostic, with one of us leaning heavily towards atheism. I could use suggestions on how to talk with my little girl about these things. [more inside]
posted by moira on Aug 2, 2013 - 27 answers

Before antibiotics, was every infection fatal ?

A hundred years ago, if you had an infection that we would today treat with antibiotics, what was the typical prognosis ? Death ? [more inside]
posted by k5.user on Jul 1, 2013 - 20 answers

I Can't Get Over the Death of My Birdie. What do I do now?

My parrot Scooby died a week ago. I am still in a horrible state of mourning. My wife is over it. She keeps telling me to get over it too. YANMT. What can I do to move on? I loved Scooby so very much. I have to force myself to eat every day. I've been drinking a lot. I can't stop thinking about her and what she was like and did. I dream about her death every night. I think it's affecting my physical health.
posted by Splunge on Jun 12, 2013 - 47 answers

Family Drama -- Aunt revisited

I wrote this question about my Aunt. As it turned out, I just wrote back a very polite reply -- "thank you for your good wishes" ...I was polite. I felt good about this. Thank you for all the helpful answers. My Aunt wrote me again -- long story inside. Thank you for taking the time to read it. [more inside]
posted by Lescha on Mar 26, 2013 - 26 answers

Authorization for cremation?

Can signing an 'Authorization For Cremation' form somehow make me responsible for my deceased father's debt? [more inside]
posted by KevinSkomsvold on Mar 25, 2013 - 15 answers

My thoughts about death have started making me afraid to live.

For the last 6 or 7 days, I've been fixated on death, and not in a suicidal context. How do people normally handle constant thoughts about their mortality, and how can I stop this from crippling my ability to "live?" [more inside]
posted by Ashen on Mar 19, 2013 - 45 answers

How do I honour my friend?

My friend died last week. We had been living in different countries for the past few months; we were still in contact up until a few weeks ago. His death was sudden and unexpected. He was far too young to die. I can't go to any of the memorials (he was one of those people who knew like, thousands of people, so people seemingly everywhere on earth are doing stuff) and I won't be going to the funeral. I didn't know his family and even though we were roommates, we had very few friends in common. [more inside]
posted by Enchanting Grasshopper on Feb 27, 2013 - 18 answers

Fiction: Fatal encounters between therapist and patient

I am looking for any stories that include a fatal encounter between a therapist and his/her patient. [more inside]
posted by 99percentfake on Feb 5, 2013 - 33 answers

"Dogs' lives are too short... Their only fault, really."

I love my dog. Every once in a while, I feel utterly heartbroken that I will most likely outlive him. While it doesn't happen often and it's not overwhelming, and I realize that it is perfectly natural to be sad about something like that, can you give me advice about how to turn these thoughts into something positive? [more inside]
posted by halogen on Jan 7, 2013 - 42 answers

It's the small blue journal in my second desk drawer down

If you keep a diary or other secret papers, do you have a plan for what happens to it if something happens to you? [more inside]
posted by dawkins_7 on Jan 5, 2013 - 25 answers

Work to get in, work to get out.

Labor of death much like the labor of being born? [more inside]
posted by itsacover on Dec 16, 2012 - 5 answers

COBRA coverage for someone who has already died

What do I do when a person is eligible for COBRA insurance but has passed away before getting papers and signing up? [more inside]
posted by meowzilla on Dec 8, 2012 - 4 answers

Or, how to be supportive without being super annoying?

My husband is losing his father in a few weeks. He is currently spending some time with him at a hospice and is away from home to deal with chaotic family issues surrounding this. When he returns, I imagine he will need time to decompress and I want to make that easy. Please give me suggestions on how I can make that easier for him or what you've appreciated in a similar situation.
posted by dean winchester on Dec 3, 2012 - 10 answers

To send condolences or not?

My ex-boyfriend's dad just passed away. What, if anything, should I do? [more inside]
posted by csox on Nov 16, 2012 - 24 answers

The Final Journey

Help me explain death to my 9 year old. [more inside]
posted by plinth on Sep 20, 2012 - 17 answers

The woods are lovely, dark and deep

In Ontario, can a person be buried in a natural way, so that the body returns to the earth? [more inside]
posted by pseudostrabismus on Sep 4, 2012 - 8 answers

Waiting, waiting, waiting....

My mother is going to die, probably very soon. How do I deal with waiting for it to happen? [more inside]
posted by heurtebise on Aug 27, 2012 - 28 answers

Help me support my dad after the death of both his parents.

My father's parents just passed away, two weeks apart exactly. How do I support my dad through this time? [more inside]
posted by dil.emma on Aug 22, 2012 - 8 answers

I can't think of one, I'm exhausted

My 90 year old grandmother is barely conscious, rarely eating, and is losing her mental faculties. I visit her every lunchtime to try and get her to eat. My mother (her daughter) takes the evening shift for dinnertime. I'm not coping well. Any suggestions to help me make this easier, so I'm not sobbing my heart out every day? [more inside]
posted by malibustacey9999 on Aug 14, 2012 - 41 answers

How can we help our son know his father?

My husband has a few more months before cancer takes his energy, and then his life. We have a 17 month old son. My husband plans to write some letters to our son, but beyond that, I am not sure what to do to help my son know his father. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by Mozzie on Aug 13, 2012 - 62 answers

How to handle estranged father's funeral?

My estranged father passed away last Sunday. I've decided to attend the funeral. Please help me conduct myself with something resembling grace. Overly complex snowflakey stuff inside. [more inside]
posted by Ephelump Jockey on Jul 31, 2012 - 23 answers

Concern over personal information after googling.

I googled someone I've been dating for almost 3 weeks and discovered that they had a sibling die in a work related accident just over a year ago. Now I feel I have deeply personal and traumatic information about them without it having been given freely and not sure what to do with it. [more inside]
posted by Dynex on Jul 13, 2012 - 31 answers

Suddenly Widowed

My husband died recently. We were together for decades and have school-age children. His passing involved severe trauma, and we have social support and frequent therapy appointments to get us through the turmoil. Emotionally, we're holding up. My question is about getting our affairs in order. [more inside]
posted by Fichereader on Jun 16, 2012 - 29 answers

How can I save my love from dying?

Knowledge-based hope is much needed. Since my first plea -- which helped a lot, really, this month of May has been sorrowful for Maria João and for me. A metastatic brain tumor (around 3 cms) was detected and removed. Gamma-knife surgery is next. Tomorrow starts the search for other cancerous tumors in her body. We both feel, against all odds, that we will be lucky. But what should we do? What should we hope for? Statistics are againsts us but we love each other truly. Two months ago we found a beautiful house to move into. We could move in come July, after all the tests are made. What should we do? What should our attitude be? Should we move or stay put? Should we change country? Should we prepare to die? Or live as much as we still can? Desperate questions need realistic answers. We're fighting for our lives here. Please tell us, knowingly, how to behave. For what it's worth - usually nothing - I think this time we'll be lucky enough to survive. Whatever happens.
posted by MiguelCardoso on May 15, 2012 - 25 answers

Firing into crowds

News coverage of the Arab Spring routinely has reports (with audio-gunshots) of state actors shooting at crowds of demonstrators. Often it seems like very few people are injured/killed. Is this confirmation bias on my part, are there mass casualties, or are the folks "shooting" at the crowd (ie not at the actual people) ? [more inside]
posted by k5.user on Apr 16, 2012 - 6 answers

What is it like to have/witness the decline of/lose a dearly loved grandparent?

What is it like to have/witness the decline of/lose a dearly loved grandparent? [more inside]
posted by peppermintfreddo on Apr 10, 2012 - 19 answers

Documentaries, books, I want it all!

Please give me some suggestions for documentaries and books I might like. [more inside]
posted by PeppahCat on Feb 22, 2012 - 23 answers

Private death

An acquaintance from high school recently died at the age of 22. His family decided to keep the cause of death private. Help me out here -- why would they choose to do that? [more inside]
posted by victory_laser on Feb 20, 2012 - 64 answers

In the case of a person dying for whatever reason, why does it take so long for toxicology analysis to be conducted and reports delivered?

Post mortem toxicology tests - why does it take so long for results to be delivered? [more inside]
posted by lampshade on Feb 13, 2012 - 9 answers

A game about (your) death

Help me find the name of that brief interactive “game” where the narrator (speaking aloud, British I think) describes the actions of the player, marching us toward our inevitable demise… until we decide to disobey his narrative. [more inside]
posted by scamper on Feb 11, 2012 - 5 answers

Help me get over being excluded from my father's funeral.

My father passed away recently. We were estranged and I feel really strange about how his family handled his passing. I'm looking for advice about contacting them, or just leaving things be. Help! [more inside]
posted by carmenghia on Jan 24, 2012 - 25 answers

Do hearses make house calls?

In a small city in Illinois, last night we saw a hearse in the driveway of a neighbor down the block. No other cars, police, or activity were in evidence. We know this person is elderly, but we don't actually know her. Because I've seen a cab come to her house, I believe she doesn't drive, and I have seen a second, somewhat less elderly person come by and do yard work for her occasionally. This second person's car wasn't there last night either. We don't actually see our neighbor very often, especially in winter, so if she's still there, we might not see her in passing for a while. I was under the impression that if someone had died at their home, an ambulance would transport them; I don't think I've ever seen a hearse at a private home before. Was this the end for my neighbor, or did her hypothetical niece the hypothetical mortician pop in for supper in a company car or something? Anyone have any knowledge about hearse customs?
posted by Occula on Dec 27, 2011 - 13 answers

I am losing everyone

TLDR: How can I keep from going off the deep end in light of repeated stressors over a compressed period of time? [more inside]
posted by TestamentToGrace on Nov 16, 2011 - 17 answers

Does knowing the cause of death help in coping?

Why do I care so much to know the cause of my friend's recent, unexpected death? [more inside]
posted by cellojoe on Oct 10, 2011 - 14 answers

Babar, Mortality and Me

Which of the Babar books deal with death? This question stems from a childhood anecdote that goes a little something like this . . . [more inside]
posted by jason's_planet on Sep 27, 2011 - 7 answers

Electricity... so magical! So deadly!

Am I going to electrocute myself with my home extension cord repair? [more inside]
posted by amanda on Sep 22, 2011 - 21 answers

It wasn't really that nice knowing you...

How can I comfort the loved ones of a dying person I don't like? And the dying person themselves? Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by katyggls on Aug 19, 2011 - 26 answers

Death finances

URGENT!!! If two people have their name on a bank account and one of them dies, is it acceptable for the other person to continue writing cheques from that account? [more inside]
posted by wutangclan on Aug 6, 2011 - 24 answers

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