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How to find death information for deceased family members?

I have deceased family members who came to America a few decades ago and died, but would not have been on Social Security rolls. A living family member wants me to find out where they are buried. How to do this? [more inside]
posted by corb on May 6, 2014 - 13 answers

How do I get to know my parents as people?

After seeing and reading about the death of parents, one of the biggest regrets seems to be not knowing them better. I have a cordial but distance relationship from my parents and while I don't ever see us being BFFs, I would like to know them better as people and their life. How do I do this, considering I live 6 states away? [more inside]
posted by lpcxa0 on Mar 26, 2014 - 21 answers

What should my MIL do with this money to ensure a steady retirement?

After the untimely death of my soon-to-be-father-in-law, my future mother-in-law is expecting to receive a fairly large life insurance pay out. What should she do with this money to ensure a comfortable retirement without her husband? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 24, 2013 - 7 answers

Family Drama -- Aunt revisited

I wrote this question about my Aunt. As it turned out, I just wrote back a very polite reply -- "thank you for your good wishes" ...I was polite. I felt good about this. Thank you for all the helpful answers. My Aunt wrote me again -- long story inside. Thank you for taking the time to read it. [more inside]
posted by Lescha on Mar 26, 2013 - 26 answers

Authorization for cremation?

Can signing an 'Authorization For Cremation' form somehow make me responsible for my deceased father's debt? [more inside]
posted by KevinSkomsvold on Mar 25, 2013 - 15 answers

Dealing with family when someone is dying

It appears my Dad is in the process of dying - I'm mostly okay with that, but really struggling with the rest of my family. Could use some words of wisdom. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 12, 2013 - 21 answers

Helping a family member of the 1st anniversary of their spouse's death

My mother and father were married over 50 years. Dad passed early this year (Feb) and now is the 1st anniversary is upon us. I have been helping mom out quite a bit since then, but could use some pointers about what to do or look out for over the next couple of months. A little more inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 16, 2012 - 6 answers

How to handle estranged father's funeral?

My estranged father passed away last Sunday. I've decided to attend the funeral. Please help me conduct myself with something resembling grace. Overly complex snowflakey stuff inside. [more inside]
posted by Ephelump Jockey on Jul 31, 2012 - 23 answers

How can we get people to tell us stories about my mother-in-law?

My (beloved) mother-in-law died after a year with lung cancer and we will be having a big memorial for her this weekend. What can we do to capture stories and memories from her family and friends? [more inside]
posted by Alison on Jul 31, 2012 - 7 answers

Elderly grandparents and young children

How do I best manage a visit to my elderly/dying grandparents with my young children? [more inside]
posted by Lulu's Pink Converse on Jun 13, 2012 - 12 answers

Help me get over being excluded from my father's funeral.

My father passed away recently. We were estranged and I feel really strange about how his family handled his passing. I'm looking for advice about contacting them, or just leaving things be. Help! [more inside]
posted by carmenghia on Jan 24, 2012 - 25 answers

How bad is owning half a house?

What's the legal liability ramifications of owning half a house? (I already have a lawyer. I wanted a second/English opinion.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 28, 2011 - 17 answers

Death in family – should I postpone my wedding?

We were going to elope to Las Vegas in less than two weeks, but my sister just passed away. I didn't have a close relationship with my sister. Is the timing of the wedding bad? [more inside]
posted by zosime on Aug 26, 2011 - 21 answers

It wasn't really that nice knowing you...

How can I comfort the loved ones of a dying person I don't like? And the dying person themselves? Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by katyggls on Aug 19, 2011 - 26 answers

Needing cold hard facts and logistics for after mom dies.

What happens and what to do when I hear my mom dies 1,500+ miles away. What will the landlord do in the short term? Where does her body go? What happens to the cat? The medical bills? How do I unload fine art? [more inside]
posted by AnOrigamiLife on Jul 27, 2011 - 26 answers

lying is a sin, but it'll probably make them happy

My father unexpectedly passed away last weekend from a heart attack. I am not religious. Part of my family, and most of our community of friends & extended family, are. Help me navigate the religious talk without either going on the defensive, or being complacent. [more inside]
posted by raztaj on Jul 20, 2011 - 8 answers

You gave me life but it belongs to me now

How do I stop feeling responsible to my family for keeping myself safe and guitly for taking risks? [more inside]
posted by Chrysalis on Apr 26, 2011 - 19 answers

My Dad Needs a Better Son or Daughter

There will soon be a death in my family. I'm worried this one's going to be especially hard and I'm not sure what to do. [more inside]
posted by EatTheWeak on Apr 19, 2011 - 19 answers

Short Modern Poem To Comfort Grieving Family?

Could you help my friend find a poem to comfort the family of a friend who has just died? The young man had gone through some bumps in his life and was just starting to turn it around, and then, tragically, he died an accidental death. She’s looking for something fairly short (under 10 lines), modern, nothing too literary, and something that celebrates the immortality of family love. I’ve looked on previous Ask MeFi posts, but most of the poems I see there are unsuitable for various reasons. She doesn’t want anything tailored to a funeral; she would like to send this poem directly to the family for them to reread in the coming months (perhaps put on a fridge to turn to for comfort).
posted by Amy NM on Mar 24, 2011 - 19 answers

What do you do at a funeral?

Funeral Question: So my grandmother died. The wake is on Thursday and the funeral is on Friday. I've never been to a funeral before and not any Catholic services before. What's expected of me? What can do to help? Or at least not make things worse? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 21, 2011 - 32 answers

My Christmas sucked, how was yours?

Dad is on life support. He has no advance directive/living will. How do we make end-of-life decisions when none of us are capable of thinking clearly? [more inside]
posted by kella on Dec 24, 2010 - 23 answers

Last Birthday Present

What to give someone for their last birthday? [more inside]
posted by sav on Oct 27, 2010 - 39 answers

Please help me find out what happened.

I need to find out how my father died. It's not possible for me to contact relatives to get this information. Please help. [more inside]
posted by MiaWallace on Sep 27, 2010 - 16 answers

Too much agony over simple essays.

Because of the death of my mother just before finals I have an extension on three essays from one class-- that I've put off the entire summer. Should I brace myself and write them, or do I tell the professor that I just want the last semester to disappear even if I receive an F grade? [more inside]
posted by SallySpades on Aug 16, 2010 - 20 answers

How do I deal with multiple out-of-state family illnesses?

I can't stop feeling guilty about not being able to visit sick family members or help them more. I'm scared of others dying or being sick. [more inside]
posted by KogeLiz on Aug 12, 2010 - 5 answers

How to prepare a 4.5 year old for his grand father's passing?

How to prepare a 4.5 year old for his grand father's passing? [more inside]
posted by trbrts on Jul 19, 2010 - 14 answers

I've never experienced this kind of grief.

How do I help my boyfriend through a death in his family? (Longish, apologies) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 17, 2010 - 7 answers

How to support a grieving family.

Sadly I lost a friend to a long battle with cancer last night, her husband and teenage children are without any extended family in the area and will rely on some of us for the next while. Two things: 1 - Can you tell me of things that friends and family have done for you in similar circumstances that really helped at the time: large, small, immediately, over days, weeks, months, whatever. We'll sort out food, the pets and cleaning the house but what else can we do? 2 - Any advice on striking the right balance between giving them their space to grieve and being there to support to them?
posted by HopStopDon'tShop on Mar 21, 2010 - 22 answers

How do I prepare for my mother's passing?

How do I prepare for my mother's passing? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 15, 2010 - 17 answers

Fuck death

Both of my wife's parents died. Her dad first in January, now her mom in September. My wife is the oldest child. No will was left. What do we do? [more inside]
posted by Bageena on Nov 18, 2009 - 24 answers

Can I have your tips about entering into the holiday season right after my dad's death?

Death, mourning, family, and holidays: How to prepare for the holidays in a post-Dad world? [more inside]
posted by NikitaNikita on Nov 10, 2009 - 13 answers

Facing Death: Breaking the News

Facing death: I have received a medical estimate of dying within a year, but this is known only to me (within my circle of family and friends, including my wife). I am so lost as to how to break the news in a caring, non-stressful way. [more inside]
posted by potato on Sep 7, 2009 - 37 answers

Help me help them now that she's passed on

My grandmother died this morning. I'm going home to help out the family, but I would like to make a list of things I might not remember before I leave so that we don't forget anything. [more inside]
posted by Unicorn on the cob on Aug 12, 2009 - 23 answers

Dying relative - what to say?

My uncle has one week to live. I'm visiting him tomorrow. What am I supposed to say? What am I supposed to do?
posted by jennyhead on Apr 21, 2009 - 19 answers

I feel like I've been hit by a Mac truck.

Coming-of-age Filter: My world is coming crashing down. Is this a sign? Should I just soldier on? How? Trying to be a rock-em sock-em robot and get back on the horse. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by big open mouth on Mar 11, 2009 - 37 answers

Social discomfort, family obligation

Cousin Zach is a sweetheart, but I don't have the time or inclincation to attend everything he invites us to. How to say no tactfully? Guilt is involved. [more inside]
posted by frosty_hut on Jan 27, 2009 - 21 answers

what will I do without my parents?

I can't stop obsessing about my parents' mortality. Yes, I will probably seek therapy at some point, but for now it would be nice just to hear how others have dealt with this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 13, 2008 - 16 answers

How do I do what I am supposed to do, and will it make me feel any better to do those things?

The new normal sucks. How am I supposed to cope after my father's suddenish death? [more inside]
posted by bash on May 19, 2008 - 29 answers

During a potentially long-term illness, how do you know when you're supposed to drop what you're doing and go be with the sick person?

My dad is dying, but how do I know how quickly, and how do I know which "scares" I should travel across the country for? [more inside]
posted by bash on Mar 26, 2008 - 31 answers

Am I a bad person for not grieving over my grandfather's death?

Two years ago, my grandfather suffered a rare stroke in his brain stem that rendered him in what could only be called a waking coma. Think The Diving Bell and the Butterfly but without any capability of communicating. He died two weeks ago in Israel, where he lived with my grandmother. [more inside]
posted by bondgirl53001 on Feb 1, 2008 - 20 answers

Dad, may I have your DNA?

Would it be worthwhile to preserve a sample of my parents' DNA, with their permission, in case I ever need it for genetic testing of myself or my family? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 26, 2008 - 9 answers

How do I discreetly research a family member's suicide?

Earlier this year, my cousin shot himself. I'd been estranged from him for several years, but we used to be close. How do I go about getting information about his death and about the last few years of his life? [more inside]
posted by desjardins on Dec 28, 2007 - 7 answers

How do I deal with death?

I've reached my late 20s without ever facing death. How do I deal with death when I know I will face it sooner or later? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 10, 2007 - 25 answers

I don't want to walk you up to the casket!

How do I tactfully avoid having to accompany people to the casket at a family member's funeral? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 6, 2007 - 17 answers

Does anyone know the kind of book I'm aiming for?

Are there any books you think a smart, grieving preteen would find comforting or of use? More details inside. [more inside]
posted by Ash3000 on Dec 17, 2006 - 15 answers

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