I had a large non-cancerous tumor removed a few years ago. The tumor and the two surgeries required to remove it left me unable to work for a year and $50,000 in debt. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 19, 2009 - 5 answers

My mother is dying. How can I forgive myself for the guilt of leaving her bedside? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 9, 2009 - 35 answers

How do I write a thank-you card to a sister-in-law who is dying? [more inside]
posted by stenoboy on Oct 4, 2009 - 13 answers

What might have caused black spots to form and grow on my mother-in-law's eyes as she was dying from pancreatic cancer and the inevitable infections that go along with cancer and its treatment? I'm hoping someone with a similar experience or someone in the medical field might be able to tell us something that the doctors here couldn't. [more inside]
posted by ElDiabloConQueso on May 14, 2009 - 4 answers

Does someone with a dying relative better understand what someone who has lost a relative is going through? Explanation inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 4, 2009 - 12 answers

Breast Cancer took her mother from her 2 years ago (October 3rd, 2006)- what can I do for her anniversary? [more inside]
posted by eleongonzales on Oct 1, 2008 - 11 answers

My dad is dying, but how do I know how quickly, and how do I know which "scares" I should travel across the country for? [more inside]
posted by bash on Mar 26, 2008 - 31 answers

I'm spending my Thanksgiving in Malaysia, visiting my one of my aunts, along with others in my extended family. I'm almost certain that this will be the last time I'll ever see her. [more inside]
posted by Weebot on Nov 16, 2007 - 7 answers

My grandfather has been diagnosed with a liver/pancreatic cancer that can't be operated on. How is this likely to play out? How do we deal with my grandmother afterwards? [more inside]
posted by twine42 on Apr 10, 2007 - 17 answers

my mother was recently diagnosed with terminal cancer. do any of you have ideas for little things i can do for her to remind her how awesome she is? girls especially. what are some of the best, most thoughtful things loved ones have done for you? [more inside]
posted by andywolf on Mar 19, 2007 - 27 answers

My friend is dying of cancer. It's just a matter of time before she goes since she has stopped receiving treament. She is bedridden, can't see and is too weak to talk but she can still hear. What can I do for her on our visits to help her get through the day? Are there massage services out there (NYC)? Should I read her a book - what's a good title? Should I ask her family if they will allow me to play some CDs for her - any suggestions? Your input is greatly appreciated.
posted by anonymous on Jan 22, 2007 - 28 answers

My friend's father just died after a very short battle with cancer. My friend's sometimes a little unstable. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by MeetMegan on Sep 4, 2006 - 15 answers

What do you say to someone who is in Palliative Care? [more inside]
posted by smcniven on Jun 23, 2005 - 12 answers

I'd like to switch from smoking cigarettes to smoking a pipe... [more inside]
posted by cmonkey on Apr 26, 2005 - 8 answers

Tonight the father of a close friend of mine passed away. In the last month this is the third relative he has lost and his mother is in cancer treatement : more inside [more inside]
posted by elpapacito on Jan 11, 2005 - 11 answers