I started dating a guy who is great but his fashion sense is ruining my buzz. Ill fitting clothes, sort of a "Scarface" aesthetic, age-inappropriate hats--you name it. And I haven't even gotten to shoes that I can only describe as . . . puzzling and vaguely medieval. What should I do with this?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 10, 2012 -
48 answers
Can you help me find this vaguely-remembered creative essay about dating that was published on The Awl (or similar) maybe a year ago?
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posted by oinopaponton
on Jul 10, 2012 -
5 answers
My girlfriend works nights exclusively and I am a high school teacher with summers off. How can we make this work?
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posted by vkxmai
on Jul 8, 2012 -
20 answers
Really, I'm NOT a princess. Successfully navigating the living style/lifestyle differences in the beginning of a relationships. How?
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posted by BlueMartini7
on Jul 8, 2012 -
30 answers
On dating sites/OKCupid: Once I get past the initial introductions, where do I go in the conversation? Alternately, could it be something in my profile that encourages people to not respond past the initial reaction?
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posted by CrystalDave
on Jul 5, 2012 -
20 answers
Getting into dating, but don't have any relationship experience. How, if at all, should I bring this up with the people I date?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 3, 2012 -
20 answers
I have less than a year of PhD left to go, after which I'll be leaving the (Canadian) city I'm in. I've been single and not dating for just over a year, and generally have no problem being single, but now I crave human contact and would like to date, even though I know that it would have to be short-term/casual only, and eventually take a back seat to writing up/preparing to defend. How do I act as ethically as possible and make sure that everyone's on the same page?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 1, 2012 -
9 answers
My experience with OKCupid has been somewhat frustrating. What can I do to improve my profile?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 1, 2012 -
45 answers
I'm a woman in her mid-twenties who is coming to realize that she might like other women in the romantic sense. I'm in NYC. How/where can I meet and date other women and get to know NYC's queer scene?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 29, 2012 -
14 answers
My OkCupid profile--any suggestions? And what's the best way to initiate conversations with women?
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posted by Willpower
on Jun 29, 2012 -
51 answers
Broke up with my gf and I don't know what to make of my feelings. should I get back with her? Should I just move on ? Should I go no contact?
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posted by hildegarde89
on Jun 25, 2012 -
18 answers
I'm not fully attracted to the girl I am dating, but I love her personality and we get along great, what do I do?
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posted by curious-mind
on Jun 24, 2012 -
65 answers
Feeling guilty about breaking things off with a girl I just met. Sex is complicating this for me. Help?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 23, 2012 -
50 answers
For the first time in my life, I feel confident enough to start dating. Thing is, my life situation isn't great at the moment, but should hopefully be better in the next 3-6 months. Should I actually start, or hold off?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 23, 2012 -
23 answers
"You deserve better"...say my boyfriends. What's up with this trend? And if/since that means they won't do it, how can I actually
get better treatment?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 19, 2012 -
119 answers
In what kinds of situations might I be asked, "What do you do for a living?" or similar questions, and what can I say that won't turn people off (in professional or dating contexts) to explain or imply that I'm currently unemployed, disconnected with my field, and not looking for a job due to (an invisible) disability?
posted by mock muppet
on Jun 17, 2012 -
36 answers
Coworker and I are spending time together outside of work, hitting it off, and I think she's interested. She's also on the verge of getting a divorce. Am I setting myself up for something bad?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 17, 2012 -
24 answers
Help me get out of my head so I can let a new relationship actually take place in real time.
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posted by dekathelon
on Jun 12, 2012 -
7 answers
We dated for quite a while, but it didn't work out and we've ended up as good friends. But now I'm entering a serious relationship for the first time since it ended, and the shift in my attention seems to be rattling her. How can I handle this gracefully?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 12, 2012 -
39 answers
There's a girl who works in my university library who I find really attractive. We sometimes catch eyes and smile, although I find myself looking her way quite a lot, so that might not mean anything. The other day she commented on a book I was getting out and recommended me another that she thought I might enjoy. Most days, though, I just walk straight past her to get a desk. She'd recognise my face, but does not know anything about me (apart from what I am reading, sometimes). I know nothing about her apart from what she reads (stuff I also know a bit about). How would you proceed? I've never 'asked out' somebody before. But would it just come across as creepy? Should I ask her out? Or just talk to her more? I feel paralysed! What would be the thing to do, hive-mind?
posted by aaronjames
on Jun 10, 2012 -
31 answers
Does finding a partner really get that much harder after 30? I'm a guy in my early 30s and I am starting to feel it now.
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posted by blizkreeg
on Jun 10, 2012 -
15 answers
First date after a breakup. I am dreading it, and getting back into the dating game in general. I've never felt this way before. Has anyone ever experienced this before? Does jumping back into the dating game help these feelings go away, or would I be better off waiting until I feel excited about dating again?
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posted by tokaidanshi
on Jun 10, 2012 -
14 answers
Middle-aged, relatively inexperienced and kinky in the "wrong" way. Should I just give up hope?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 8, 2012 -
25 answers
Why am I not in love with my girlfriend? I'm 25. She's 28. We're 7 months in and things are fine, but sometimes I wonder if things should be better. Am I over thinking things? Is more time going to change anything? Answers based off a guy's similar experience would be awesome, but all advice is appreciated.
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posted by yeahyeahyeah
on Jun 8, 2012 -
61 answers
It's been years and I can't forget this guy. I don’t know what to do. Please help.
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posted by deeba
on Jun 7, 2012 -
18 answers
What male-dominated activities would be good venues for meeting single men? I'm a single 43-year-old woman, and not interested in the bar scene.
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posted by lex6819
on Jun 5, 2012 -
75 answers
Looking for a little perspective on communication styles to help ease some anxiety about a woman I've been out with a few times. (You guessed it--snowflake inside)
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 3, 2012 -
14 answers
I'm a woman who identifies as queer and is out about it. Until now has mostly dated and had sex with men. I have always been more attracted to women though, and do not want to date guys any more as I just do not have the same romantic feelings and it turns out badly for everyone involved. But I am scared no woman will ever want to date me because of my lack of history dating women and my lack of confidence in talking to them. Apologies for the length.
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posted by Hey nonny nonny mouse
on Jun 2, 2012 -
16 answers
