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What are the most revealing signs you're not into someone?

Besides the very obvious that leave no space for doubt, I'm mainly talking about those ambivalent situations when you're not quite sure if it's you, them or the timing. [more inside]
posted by ariadne_88 on Apr 23, 2016 - 36 answers

Is "What's your sign?" a sign to move on?

On a second date that generally seemed to be going very well, she asked: "What's your sign?" I care a lot about skepticism and rationality, and I think astrology is a baseless pseudoscience. Should this one thing be such a dealbreaker as to make me walk away from a connection that would otherwise seem to have potential? [more inside]
posted by jejune on Apr 17, 2016 - 101 answers

Should I bother trying to find a submissive partner while I'm poor?

Should I bother trying to find a submissive partner while I'm poor? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 15, 2016 - 8 answers

Early Online Dating: How Upfront?

Online dating is horrible and feelings fleeting. How to deal? How aggressively upfront can I be? [more inside]
posted by minoraltercation on Apr 14, 2016 - 18 answers

New relationship good practices

Please give me your best practices for starting a relationship off on the right foot. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 13, 2016 - 10 answers

What do you like to do for fun?

I started online dating recently and this is the question that I get asked often. Or "what do you do in your spare time?". I actually don't do much. I "think" rather than "do". How to even answer this? [more inside]
posted by sockiety on Apr 10, 2016 - 28 answers

New "relationship" moving too fast

I started seeing this guy 2.5 weeks ago. He's great. We click really well, he's incredibly nice and funny and sweet and all else. But in that time we've gone from just meeting to knowing a ton of intimate details about each other's lives (mental health problems, his father's alcoholism, his sister's self-harm) and cuddling and kissing at his place for eight hours straight. It's not like it's horribly unreasonable but I'm overwhelmed and scared and need help setting limits/managing my emotions. [more inside]
posted by Amy93 on Apr 9, 2016 - 20 answers

Flirting? Via messaging? ...help?

Well this is new to me: I actually contacted a real-life crush online (!), but have no idea what to do next. Please advise. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 8, 2016 - 7 answers

How do you know if a woman really likes you and is open to dating you?

This is probably something I should have figured out at 17 rather than 27, but here I am. My own experiences with women haven't been really positive. I was always a bit shy when I was younger. My dad was abusive so I ended up clinging to my mother. My mom is a good woman but she can be a bit controlling and overbearing at times. Plus she was a conservative muslim so it's not like she ever encouraged me to date and indeed actively discouraged me from doing so. [more inside]
posted by Dynamo05 on Apr 8, 2016 - 40 answers

Help me not be a kissing bully, because I really want to kiss you.

I really want to kiss someone NOW. I don't want to make the same impulsive, intense (?) mistake that I made in the past, but I'm also too old (late 40s) to wait around passively and wonder. I worry that I'm developing feelings that may not actually be reciprocated despite obvious attraction and personal interest. So I need to find out. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 7, 2016 - 21 answers

I'd love to spend SOME time with you.... Introverts and dating?

I'd like to hear from other introverts about your experiences with dating and burn-out. Is having it at all (or even a few months in) a bad sign for long-term compatibility? Or just a sign that the relationship is moving too fast for you? Or do you set strong boundaries on your time and just trust that the right person will understand? [more inside]
posted by seraph9 on Apr 6, 2016 - 19 answers

Should I Even Date?

I don't know if I even want a relationship. How do I find out? [more inside]
posted by zchyrs on Apr 5, 2016 - 11 answers

Gay man in a relationship which could be going better

I'm a gay man in a relationship with a closeted man. We've been dating for a few months, going out to dinner and to movies, texting each other for an hour or two every night, talking about all sorts of things ... but things could be going better. (NSFW) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 3, 2016 - 20 answers

wanting to want me ain't the real thing

Help me define and communicate my own needs with my sporadically emotionally unavailable new girlfriend. [more inside]
posted by missmary6 on Mar 29, 2016 - 16 answers

Dear Crush: Did you notice that I initated?

"Hi! Just wanted you to know that if you ask me to coffee, I would say yes." [more inside]
posted by RaRa-SpaceRobot on Mar 28, 2016 - 18 answers

Is my anxiety ruining things or is something really off (dating)?

About a month ago I started seeing a guy with whom I felt an instant spark (very rare for me). Almost immediately my anxiety kicked in and I started worrying that he wouldn't like me, was taking days to return my emails, etc. Then he told me he really likes me and my anxiety switched around to maybe I don't like him and almost compulsively looking for flaws / red flags. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 28, 2016 - 10 answers

Could I ask out a girl on ride-shares like lyft without sounding weird?

I have hard time meeting people. While driving for lyft, I am very professional and have good reviews and at times I strike up a nice conversation with the riders especially women and feel like getting to know more about the girl(about 5% of time). But I chicken out in the end and just stay professional, wondering if it would be appropriate to ask a girl her number, or if she has a bf etc. Is it okay to ask people out? If so, how you do it without sounding weird? what is a good exit strategy if it doesn't work out?
posted by daveg02 on Mar 28, 2016 - 71 answers

GF is more successful than me, how do I deal?

My girlfriend is more successful than me. How do I keep myself from turning into a jealous weird guy? I want to celebrate and support her success, without getting bummed out and feeling emasculated. Looking for strategies (non-redpill) on how to not let this get to me, not blow my budget, and maintain my sense of masculinity. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 28, 2016 - 31 answers

He stopped talking to me abruptly and with no warning, now what?

I am utterly baffled and confused by the behavior of this person I've been seeing for the past 2,5 months, who has not contacted me in a week, and I am not sure how to proceed from here. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 23, 2016 - 79 answers

How do I cope with not being #1 with my g/f who has 2 young kids.

All my past relationships were ones which we could both selfishly be top of the totem pole to the other, now I've been dating a woman with 2 children under 10 and I'm struggling with being too needy or feeling like I want more of her time than I guess she wants to/can give. I understand I'll never come before her kids and I do care for them as well but it's very challenging lately to cope with since there's been a dramatic drop in intimacy lately too (not just sex but random acts of kindness; the "honeymoon period" type affection stopped almost at the same time as moving in with her). [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 14, 2016 - 20 answers

Dating in a Foreign Country While Gay

I've really been enjoying living in China, but I've been wanting to get out of the house and go on dates. I would love advice on dating across language and culture barriers, especially for LGBT people. [more inside]
posted by Trifling on Mar 12, 2016 - 2 answers

Academia/small world dating

Dating across professor/student or supervisor/supervisee lines is clearly out of bounds. However, dating colleagues can also present opportunities for things to blow up in messy and dramatic and hard-to-fix ways, given the small world of many academic disciplines. If you're interested in a colleague in your department, what are some rules (or rules of thumb) to keep in mind when approaching them, beginning to date, and - if necessary - ending a relationship?
posted by clawsoon on Mar 9, 2016 - 35 answers

How to be friends when you wanted more

I have a lot of female friends, but no guy friends. So it's already a little harder for me to navigate this. I have a few questions: 1. Is it normal behavior for a guy to text everyday and only go on one-on-one hangouts with a girl? 2. Is it even possible to be friends with someone you have some sort of feelings for? 3. Do I tell him I feel confused? [more inside]
posted by flowy on Mar 5, 2016 - 15 answers

Online dating at a certain age. Need some help.

I am one of those professional women of a certain age who never married and who hasn't been on a date since my 20s. I have decided to give it a try. And I have no idea what I am doing. [more inside]
posted by AMyNameIs on Mar 5, 2016 - 18 answers

Getting over someone while stuck between a rock and a hard place...

I need some concrete suggestions for moving on from a person in my life, but I feel like I'm creating barriers for myself in doing this. I have a busy life: a kid, a full-time job, multiple creative projects and athletic endeavors. But I'm stuck on this person and kind of "afraid" of dating (explanation to follow). HELP. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 3, 2016 - 15 answers

Finding a connection in the big city

So, I got my divorce finalized recently after having been separated for 1.5 years. I think I am ready to try meeting and knowing new people. The challenge is I moved to US about 3 years ago and don't really have any experience with dating here. [more inside]
posted by TheLittlePrince on Mar 1, 2016 - 12 answers

How can I develop sparks while dating Mr. Sparkless But Right?

I finally met a guy who's perfect for me on paper: he's kind, polite, and considerate, and he shares many of my interests. He seems to be looking for something serious. We both want to get married and start a family (not necessarily with each other... yet). But we don't have fun together and there aren't ANY sparks. I think it's because we're both mild-mannered introverts who need a more outgoing and sexually aggressive dating partner. Help! Do I need to morph into a different kind of person to keep this relationship going? [more inside]
posted by Guinevere on Mar 1, 2016 - 63 answers

My guy does not like dogs the same. Comments? Advice?

My new guy does not like dogs the same way I do. Mainly he believes large dogs should be outside at all times because then if they poop he doesn't have to clean up large poop. He states he's a dog lover. [more inside]
posted by LadyAerin on Feb 28, 2016 - 107 answers

Help me get along with my bf's perfectly decent family

I (F, early 30s) have been together with my bf (mid 30s) for 2 years and have spent many a weekend together with his family. They are always really nice and welcoming to me and yet I still don't feel comfortable around them because of: difference in family background (his family is extremely close-knit and generally happy, mine is a painful emotional mess), my own tendency to feel like an outsider, my not really liking who he is when around his family, and my not-entirely-baseless insecurity about him always choosing his family over me (more explanation about the last two inside). My questions: 1. How can I learn to be more comfortable around his family? I am interested mainly in advice on how I can manage my insecurity about him always choosing his family over me. 2. Is there any point of doing (1) at all or are we just incompatible? [more inside]
posted by thecampushippo on Feb 28, 2016 - 24 answers

Like, fifty green-eyed monsters.

My fiance just helped my--to be as melodramatic as possible about it--archnemesis into the same elite career/institution he's in, so that now I have not one, but two people to pathetically peer at, looking in with my nose pressed to the glass. He also had a thing for her before we started dating (and during). I'm freaked out and bitter. Help me figure out how not to be a huge evil baby while I taste the many acrid flavors of the jealousy rainbow. [more inside]
posted by bugperson on Feb 26, 2016 - 131 answers

Folding without breaking: define long-term relationship compatibility?

Help me define long-term relationship compatibility. How do /you/ define it, or, what do /you/ think compatibility is all about? [more inside]
posted by dubhemerak3000 on Feb 25, 2016 - 23 answers

Is this Ok, Cupid?

Hello, hivemind. Please use my personal website link on my MeFi user page to see my OkCupid profile. I would really appreciate any advice or criticisms! [more inside]
posted by I'm Only Happy When It Rains On Your Wedding Day on Feb 25, 2016 - 29 answers

What's the skinny on spliffs?

A friend of mine, who is someone I might potentially want to date, rolls and smokes a spliff every day before going to bed (and occasionally up to 3 or so on special occasions). I don't know anyone else who smokes this way, and I'd like to learn more about the effects of this kind of smoking, both because I have been joining in when I am with my friend, and because I want to know what I'm getting into if I try to date this person. Specific questions inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 23, 2016 - 18 answers

What do I do with this relationship?

I met this guy several years ago. We had a fantastic friendship, which was temporarily torpedoed by a failed attempt to make it romantic. We are now friends again, on a long distance basis, but I am worried that his attitude is shifting and he may want to give the couple option another try. Should I say or do something? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 22, 2016 - 18 answers

Friendship right after a break-up?

Hi everyone, I recently broke up with a guy (met online) I dated for 4 months. We were never officially bf/gf and we never slept together. Our dates felt platonic because we never went past 2nd base. It was a mutual breakup because we both wanted different things. I wanted a committed relationship and he wasn't ready for that. When we broke up about a week ago, he said he'd like to be friends and I told him I didn't want that. I feel like I'm in a clear mindset now and I realize things ended for the right reasons but I still enjoy his company and we got along great. Is it too soon for me to suggest that we be friends and continue to hang out platonically?
posted by missybitsy on Feb 18, 2016 - 8 answers

Should I date?

My life is busy. Over the past decade, I have kept saying to myself, "I'll start seriously dating again a little... later. After all this... stuff... blows over." But it has never blown over; it just keeps piling on. Should I spend the couple of hours a week I can make free on dating? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by clawsoon on Feb 16, 2016 - 24 answers

How to stop dating after a couple dates?

I'm 32, date women and men, and am just getting back into dating. After two-three dates, what's the polite way to let someone know that you're not interested in dating further (because of lack of chemistry or whatever)? Does it change based on how naked you got with them? These are mostly internet dates where we text a little, don't talk on the phone, and don't see one another outside dating.
posted by anonymous on Feb 16, 2016 - 27 answers

How can I be vulnerable with a woman without coming off as insecure?

Be confident is probably the most common advice that is given to men who want to do better with women. It's basically the gold standard advice. I myself have been working on myself for a while now. I finally have a job, am losing weight, and am trying to get my life together. Having said all that there are still parts of my life that I'm not proud of. I mean I don't think anybody is 100% confident. [more inside]
posted by Dynamo05 on Feb 11, 2016 - 33 answers

How do I trust myself with affirmations after a recent breakup?

How do I trust myself with affirmations if I constantly seek validation from external sources, especially intimate relationships? I am coming out of a recent breakup that triggered severe anxiety and dependency. I am keeping busy after the breakup (it has been 2.5 weeks) but I still feel like there is something missing from my recovery process. I am seeking professional help soon (I have an appointment scheduled) but I find anecdotal examples of others' experiences to be extremely helpful. [more inside]
posted by modernman on Feb 10, 2016 - 7 answers

Should I Date a Younger Man?

A few weeks ago I started seeing a guy I am now completely smitten with. We met through mutual friends and it started out as a drunk hookup (hah), but the following weekend I saw him again in a sober hang out context, and we ended up both canceling our evening plans and talking well into the night. I didn’t expect to have such an intense and wonderful connection with him. I feel like he is alive in the same way that I am. We can talk about anything, and we spend a lot of time just laughing about nonsense. Like I said, we’ve only been seeing each other for a few weeks, but I already feel like he could be someone who is very very special in my life. [more inside]
posted by alipie on Feb 8, 2016 - 48 answers

Should I break up with my cold-footed boyfriend? If so, how?

I am 28, female. My boyfriend is 27. We’ve been dating for almost 2 years. He has consistently talked about marriage, “someday when we’re married” etc. and I don’t doubt he really meant it in the moment. But, as seems pretty typical, I get the feeling that his “someday” really means “after you’ve dated me for 5-6 years and we’re both 31.” I don’t want to wait that long. [more inside]
posted by stockpuppet on Feb 4, 2016 - 72 answers

The big, scary world of sexytimes

I'm 26 and gay. In a wheelchair. Never been kissed ( ha! ), been on only one date, which went poorly. How do I make inroads with regards to my crippling fear of intimacy- physical and emotional? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 4, 2016 - 9 answers

Seeking romantic compatibility anecdata

Deep in limerence, but the first attempt at sex was disappointing. [more inside]
posted by hellameangirl on Jan 31, 2016 - 21 answers

Midlife dating and how to cope with a sudden break up?

I'm in my early 50s and divorced for three years. For the last two years, I have been dating (but not living with) a man who is long-term separated from his wife who lives in a different country. This is an open relationship, not an affair. She is aware of me, and knows we are together. I have met her several times (we get on well) and I am introduced to the family as "Dad's good friend". He has two children, one at University and the other (16) lives with his Mom. During his last trip home, his 16 year old begged him to return home. My partner will likely do so. I know I can't play a part in this decision, but how do I take care of myself now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 27, 2016 - 13 answers

How do I end two relationships in a positive note?

Need help in ending two relationships in a way that is not too hurtful for any of those involved. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 21, 2016 - 15 answers

If a guy isn't ready to commit to me, should I give him time?

I've been seeing a 23 yo guy for 3 months and been on about 14-16 dates. We haven't been intimate yet and he hasn't tried. He tells me he likes me and he's looking for a relationship. When I brought up the "what are we" conversation, he tells me he isn't sure if he's ready to commit. His reason is that he'd like to spend more time together and it's been hard since we're both busy with school and we see each other about once per week. I'm at the point where I'm starting to like him a lot and I'm just wondering if I should stick around or MOA. If I do stick around, what can I do to help him decide?
posted by missybitsy on Jan 19, 2016 - 25 answers

moving to a new city for a "girlfriend"

I met this girl from an online dating site from Peru, and we have been chatting by text and on skype for seven months. Now she has moved to Toronto in Canada for school, but I live in Boston, and we agreed to do a long distance relationship for some time while I look for jobs in Canada or Buffalo, NY (which is close to Toronto). I only know this girl through 7 months of skype and texting, and she came to visit me one weekend recently and we got to hang out, and we had a really good time together. But I am having doubts about moving to a brand new city for someone I hardly know but I am still attracted to her, and as far as I know she has a really nice personality. Would it be worth it to leave everything behind to move to Toronto just to be close to her? The other thing is that I really like Toronto as a city, and I have a close friend who lives there.
posted by pieceofcake on Jan 19, 2016 - 24 answers

How forthcoming should I be about my sexual inexperience?

Hard as it may be to believe I have reached the age of 27 without ever having had sex with a woman. Thinking about sex may even be getting too ahead of myself since I've never even kissed a woman before either. I'm not proud of any of this but unfortunately circumstances have led to where I am today. [more inside]
posted by Dynamo05 on Jan 19, 2016 - 27 answers

I think I'm doing initial dating-site contacts wrong

I've been finding dating online frustrating. Everyone finds dating online frustrating. However - for me (as a guy contacting women), I seem to be doing especially badly at writing initial messages that lead to women responding, or even viewing my profile. What are those supposed to look like, anyway? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 16, 2016 - 39 answers

Feel unhappy...what do I do next?

I’m in a low point because I know I am unhappy, but I feel paralyzed with indecision about what to do with my life. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 15, 2016 - 10 answers

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