878 posts tagged with dating by Anonymous.
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Working things out: already broken up edition.

How do you date with an eye towards reconciliation while you know the other party is also dating someone else? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 11, 2016 - 13 answers

Dating with herpes - how do I go about this?

Need advice on how to feel less awkward about having herpes and disclosing it to people I am dating. More inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 6, 2016 - 12 answers

Dating Filter: Something feels off

I've been dating someone long distance for a few months and have noticed a sudden shift in our conversations the last two weeks. He is still in contact daily but has subtly become less affectionate. I feel like he is no longer emotionally invested and I don't want to continue. How do I extricate myself gracefully from an undefined relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 30, 2016 - 10 answers

How to seduce my boyfriend?

Our sex life is dying, and my usual tricks don't work. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 29, 2016 - 39 answers

How do I bumble? FB coordination edition

I decided to try Bumble, but I wasn't sure whether it would be posting things to my Facebook, or drawing unwanted information into my dating profile. So I created a fake facebook with a fake name to try it out. Now I can't undo that. Use fake FB profile or undo it somehow? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 21, 2016 - 7 answers

Unsure how to handle this relationship issue

I've been dating another man for about six months. He's had the same roommate for over a decade but they've never dated, though his roommate has a crush on him. My boyfriend and I have been going on a date every Friday and sometimes spending a few hours together on Sunday. He informed me today that he's spending his birthday--Friday--with his roommate, which apparently is something they've been doing for years, and that I am not invited. I'm not sure how to handle this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 17, 2016 - 34 answers

How to let my defenses down?

I am 48. I had avoided relationships and women generally for several years after a long-term GF cheated on me. I was also emotionally abused for years by my mother, smothered and forced to be her confidant and emotional support even though I was a child. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 11, 2016 - 10 answers

Dating a guy who expressed one thing that bothered me

The "Are you disgusted by the extremely obese?" question on okcupid: he answered Yes and marked No as unacceptable. Help me work with this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 4, 2016 - 52 answers

How to do casual sex?

I'm interested in exploring my sexuality with multiple partners. (37, F, straight-ish). However, I'm a sensitive, over-thinking type with a moderate case of vaginismus. How do i find patient and understanding partners? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 2, 2016 - 11 answers

Call me the cattle modifier, because I need to change the stakes.

For a variety of reasons I haven't been in a romantic relationship in 3+ years. I'm trying to change that now but finding the emotional ramifications really challenging to deal with. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 8, 2016 - 7 answers

Drinking problem – stay or separate?

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 3 months now. Early on I’ve noticed he’d drink excessively on occasion, and pretty much each time we saw each other he would drink at least some. This became a problem between us, he wants to quit drinking, and I don’t know if it’s more helpful to continue the relationship and try and support him through this, or for us to separate. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 30, 2016 - 35 answers

Why can't I be angry?

I was dating someone I really liked for a few months. He ended things by saying via text we needed to talk, and then ignoring my texts (one in which which I agreed to talk and one in which, after several days had passed, I reiterated that I was available to talk). I know he is alive because I saw him once when I was out (we did not acknowledge or speak to each other, though I'm sure he saw me too). [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 28, 2016 - 12 answers

How do you cope with feeling inadequate while dating with a disability?

As a disabled person, how do you keep your head up when you're dating, and deal with negative self-talk and feelings of inadequacy? Essentially, how do you cope with - or even stop - feeling like, basically, no matter how awesome you might be or how much you accomplish, you're nobody's first choice? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 12, 2016 - 24 answers

Disclosing mental illness in a new relationship

I am mentally ill and dating someone new. When do you disclose mental illness in a new relationship and how do you do it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 3, 2016 - 7 answers

Only the Lonely Can Play

I’m suffering from excruciating loneliness, and it’s grinding me down. I haven’t had a real relationship in more than six years, and I simply don’t need any more “me” time. Please, could you help me think up some ideas for where I could meet real, live, reasonably youthful, reasonably mentally healthy, reasonably intellectual guys … in person? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 28, 2016 - 25 answers

I'm stuck to a "type" in online dating. How can I break out of it?

I like to talk, discuss, debate, make puns, be intentionally clever, gesticulate extensively, and so on. That doesn't mean that I only want to date women who are the same way, but those are the only women I get on with. How do I expand my horizons? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 28, 2016 - 18 answers

How to think about a partner and what matters long term

My girlfriend and I have been dating for a bit over 2 years and are in our late twenties. She's ready for marriage, I'm not quite sure what factors matter. I'm a pretty intellectually motivated person, while she is much more care-free and day to day. I know she would be a reliable partner, but I'm afraid I'll always want more than she can give. More details inside! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 8, 2016 - 73 answers

Help me be brave

I've got a friend that I do almost everything with. I have realized I'm very attracted to him. Help me be brave and ask him out. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 5, 2016 - 44 answers

LDR breakup logistics?

I think it's time for me to breakup with my long distance GF. The "if I should" questions aside, when should I do this, and should I do it in person? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 9, 2016 - 17 answers

Help a guy keep his eyes on the prize in dating and romance

I'm a straight man in his mid-40s who has lost the ability to romantically fantasise. After a late start with the business of touching other people, and some relationships with awesome people where I just wasn't having fun, I've gone too cynical and lost sight of the fact that intimacy makes people happy. Are there stories or dramas that will help me imagine a fulfilling love life? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 7, 2016 - 6 answers

How to date ethically when you're at the top of a hierarchy?

Everyone says not to do it, but you're going to do it anyway: how to approach dating ethically within a hierarchical community, when you're at the top? I'd like to protect myself, the person I'm interested in, and the other community members who may be affected as much as possible. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 4, 2016 - 15 answers

How to ask out my TA? … when we’ve already made out?

How to ask out my TA? … when we’ve already made out? My judgment may be slightly clouded by, um, hormones. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 10, 2016 - 14 answers

Too exhausted/hung over/wrecked for a date?

Short version: Started seeing great gal, we're 3 dates in and have a 4th coming up. Banter is great, sexy talk awesome, pretty frequent texting (every 2-3 days, initiated by either). Thing is, she's now canceled/re-scheduled 2 dates on account of being... too tired. Really? Long version inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 27, 2016 - 33 answers

Should I bother trying to find a submissive partner while I'm poor?

Should I bother trying to find a submissive partner while I'm poor? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 15, 2016 - 8 answers

New relationship good practices

Please give me your best practices for starting a relationship off on the right foot. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 13, 2016 - 10 answers

Flirting? Via messaging? ...help?

Well this is new to me: I actually contacted a real-life crush online (!), but have no idea what to do next. Please advise. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 8, 2016 - 7 answers

Help me not be a kissing bully, because I really want to kiss you.

I really want to kiss someone NOW. I don't want to make the same impulsive, intense (?) mistake that I made in the past, but I'm also too old (late 40s) to wait around passively and wonder. I worry that I'm developing feelings that may not actually be reciprocated despite obvious attraction and personal interest. So I need to find out. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 7, 2016 - 21 answers

Gay man in a relationship which could be going better

I'm a gay man in a relationship with a closeted man. We've been dating for a few months, going out to dinner and to movies, texting each other for an hour or two every night, talking about all sorts of things ... but things could be going better. (NSFW) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 3, 2016 - 20 answers

Is my anxiety ruining things or is something really off (dating)?

About a month ago I started seeing a guy with whom I felt an instant spark (very rare for me). Almost immediately my anxiety kicked in and I started worrying that he wouldn't like me, was taking days to return my emails, etc. Then he told me he really likes me and my anxiety switched around to maybe I don't like him and almost compulsively looking for flaws / red flags. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 28, 2016 - 10 answers

GF is more successful than me, how do I deal?

My girlfriend is more successful than me. How do I keep myself from turning into a jealous weird guy? I want to celebrate and support her success, without getting bummed out and feeling emasculated. Looking for strategies (non-redpill) on how to not let this get to me, not blow my budget, and maintain my sense of masculinity. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 28, 2016 - 31 answers

He stopped talking to me abruptly and with no warning, now what?

I am utterly baffled and confused by the behavior of this person I've been seeing for the past 2,5 months, who has not contacted me in a week, and I am not sure how to proceed from here. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 23, 2016 - 79 answers

How do I cope with not being #1 with my g/f who has 2 young kids.

All my past relationships were ones which we could both selfishly be top of the totem pole to the other, now I've been dating a woman with 2 children under 10 and I'm struggling with being too needy or feeling like I want more of her time than I guess she wants to/can give. I understand I'll never come before her kids and I do care for them as well but it's very challenging lately to cope with since there's been a dramatic drop in intimacy lately too (not just sex but random acts of kindness; the "honeymoon period" type affection stopped almost at the same time as moving in with her). [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 14, 2016 - 20 answers

Getting over someone while stuck between a rock and a hard place...

I need some concrete suggestions for moving on from a person in my life, but I feel like I'm creating barriers for myself in doing this. I have a busy life: a kid, a full-time job, multiple creative projects and athletic endeavors. But I'm stuck on this person and kind of "afraid" of dating (explanation to follow). HELP. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 3, 2016 - 15 answers

What's the skinny on spliffs?

A friend of mine, who is someone I might potentially want to date, rolls and smokes a spliff every day before going to bed (and occasionally up to 3 or so on special occasions). I don't know anyone else who smokes this way, and I'd like to learn more about the effects of this kind of smoking, both because I have been joining in when I am with my friend, and because I want to know what I'm getting into if I try to date this person. Specific questions inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 23, 2016 - 18 answers

What do I do with this relationship?

I met this guy several years ago. We had a fantastic friendship, which was temporarily torpedoed by a failed attempt to make it romantic. We are now friends again, on a long distance basis, but I am worried that his attitude is shifting and he may want to give the couple option another try. Should I say or do something? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 22, 2016 - 18 answers

How to stop dating after a couple dates?

I'm 32, date women and men, and am just getting back into dating. After two-three dates, what's the polite way to let someone know that you're not interested in dating further (because of lack of chemistry or whatever)? Does it change based on how naked you got with them? These are mostly internet dates where we text a little, don't talk on the phone, and don't see one another outside dating.
posted by anonymous on Feb 16, 2016 - 27 answers

The big, scary world of sexytimes

I'm 26 and gay. In a wheelchair. Never been kissed ( ha! ), been on only one date, which went poorly. How do I make inroads with regards to my crippling fear of intimacy- physical and emotional? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 4, 2016 - 9 answers

Midlife dating and how to cope with a sudden break up?

I'm in my early 50s and divorced for three years. For the last two years, I have been dating (but not living with) a man who is long-term separated from his wife who lives in a different country. This is an open relationship, not an affair. She is aware of me, and knows we are together. I have met her several times (we get on well) and I am introduced to the family as "Dad's good friend". He has two children, one at University and the other (16) lives with his Mom. During his last trip home, his 16 year old begged him to return home. My partner will likely do so. I know I can't play a part in this decision, but how do I take care of myself now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 27, 2016 - 13 answers

How do I end two relationships in a positive note?

Need help in ending two relationships in a way that is not too hurtful for any of those involved. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 21, 2016 - 15 answers

I think I'm doing initial dating-site contacts wrong

I've been finding dating online frustrating. Everyone finds dating online frustrating. However - for me (as a guy contacting women), I seem to be doing especially badly at writing initial messages that lead to women responding, or even viewing my profile. What are those supposed to look like, anyway? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 16, 2016 - 39 answers

Feel unhappy...what do I do next?

I’m in a low point because I know I am unhappy, but I feel paralyzed with indecision about what to do with my life. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 15, 2016 - 10 answers

I want to hook up. Trying to hook up is becoming exhausting.

Trying to hook up/get laid and failing. Hard. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 13, 2016 - 69 answers

How to find a husband in the San Francisco Bay Area

I'm a woman in San Francisco. Where should I go and what should I do do to find a man who wants marriage and a child in the near future, say 1 - 3 years? Specific examples of worked for you and for the people you know as well as concrete advice would be great. Thanks! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 13, 2016 - 30 answers

Dating a good friend's ex-girlfriend

Two friends of mine broke up a few weeks ago. I've been friends with the man for something close to a decade but became good friends with his then girlfriend over the last year, as well. So it was only natural that me and her continued to hang out, unexpectedly (for both of us) getting closer to each other. We're now at the beginning of a relationship ourselves - not knowing what to do with her ex/my good friend? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 6, 2016 - 31 answers

do ladies of the night see wedding nights? (life after escorting)

Will anyone want to date and have a long term relationship with a former escort/full service sex worker? Should I disclose my occupation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 25, 2015 - 26 answers

GF's ex-fling offered her a job (and he's the boss)

Before we met, they had a thing. He's offered her a (admittedly amazing) job, but I'm freaking out because she'll report to him. How do I deal? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 12, 2015 - 48 answers

Why aren't I furious about how this man treated me?

I was seeing a dude off and on for several months. We really liked each other (or so I thought), but I ended things because he snapped at me a few times. This was followed by a couple heated declarations of "feelings" on his end ... but while the passionate displays were flattering, he never backed them up with action--so I faded away. Tonight, we ran into each other at a bar. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 6, 2015 - 39 answers

Remedial Dating Tips for Newbies in Small Cities

I separated from my husband earlier this year after over a decade of marriage and have been living alone for a few months. I went to a party last night and a guy caught my eye - he's a friend of mutual friends and I realized later on that I had seen him at another event previously this year. But I didn't really have a chance to chat with him. Asked a friend what his story was via text after I got home and she said he was really great and "recently not engaged". This friend pointed me to his FB profile and it seems like we might have a lot in common. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 23, 2015 - 6 answers

Anxious girlfriend bringing me down - can this be stopped or prevented?

My girlfriend has anxiety. My last girlfriend did too, as did the one before her and the one before her. What is it about me that's attracting anxious people, and how can I change it? And how can I best handle my girlfriend's anxiety without getting caught up in a caretaker role? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 19, 2015 - 34 answers

Nice guy is nice. Also, texting a lot.

A guy I started talking to on a dating website texts me continually after I leave work in the evenings, and now wants to talk on the phone before our first date. He's been SUPER nice and he's clearly psyched. But I feel suffocated, and our first date isn't even for another 3 days. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 14, 2015 - 44 answers

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