3 posts tagged with dating by Lovecraft In Brooklyn.
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How do I either learn to love animals or make my dislike of them a non-issue? Last month on AskMe, somebody asked how to filter out creeps on OkCupid. I realized that I displayed some of the creepy behaviors, but most of them (insecurity, neediness, etc) are things I'm aware of and actively, consciously dealing with. However, one line that came up was a dislike of dogs and domestic animals. I've never liked animals. I never had pets growing up, so I don't know how to deal with them. I cross the street when I see a dog coming, and even my friends' cats will scratch and attack me. I'm certainly not as vehement about it in real life as I am on MeFi, but anyone who knows me for any length of time will realize that I dislike animals. This, combined with my other issues, will probably be a serious problem. How do I mitigate or change my dislike and fear of animals? Or make it a non-issue? I live in an apartment, so buying a dog would not work.
How do I learn to take myself less seriously and be less earnest and self-absorbed? I've been slowly trying to improve my personality, and I've mostly focused on dialing down my general air of creepiness and intensity through the usual methods of therapy and meds. However, I haven't really tried to change my general air of self-seriousness. I still write/perform poetry and mope around listening to Bright Eyes (which is apparently unattractive). It seems, reading through various sites, that this is the next thing I should change. I'm just wondering if there are any general tips? I go out, I drink, I have fun, and I'll laugh at Peep Show and Misfits and old Simpsons episodes. But I'm wondering how I can start to laugh at myself, or if its even desirable.
What warning signs do you look for when you Google a potential date? Things were going well with a girl, and after she Googled me it seemed like things changed. I was wondering if there was any way to spot obvious red flags and either minimize or hide them. If there is a way that I could link to a search for my name on this page without it showing up in Google I'll add that to it. I can tell you that a search leads to my Twitter feed, a bunch of music reviews, old blogs, and some scattered message board comments. Any advice would be appreciated.