I met a guy online and I'm interested in him. The feeling seems to be mutual, but I feel like we're stuck in an awkwardly unclear moment that leaves at least one of us (me) in limbo. How can we crawl out of this limbo and progress to something meaningful?
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posted by lilacp
on May 23, 2013 -
28 answers
I'm on OkCupd, and I've been chatting with someone who seems pretty cool and cute. We made plans to meet on Sunday, but she said she was busy but wanted to meet up later. I had a free ticket to a movie yesterday, so I asked if she wanted to come out. Again, busy, so I said "Hey, I'm free on Thursday and Sunday if you want to meet, but if not it's cool". I got a message back saying "I did want to, just got busy. Not into the attitude though so lets leave it there."
The logical thing is just to leave it at that and not pursue her any more, but part of me wants to try and figure out if I can fix my mistake and at least meet up for a coffee to see if there's any chemistry there. Is it possible?
posted by Charlemagne In Sweatpants
on Apr 15, 2013 -
45 answers
Have you (or someone you know) been successful with individuals who are a low match for you on OKC?
I consider low to be below '80% Match'. This is assuming you've both answered at least a 100 questions. Success I consider to be at least a few months of going out. I'm trying to get a sense of whether it is reasonable to ignore contact from low-matching individuals or if those scores are just meaningless once you get to know someone in person. Should you give that person a shot or is it a waste of time? I'm not so much concerned with the friend or enemy score.
posted by who squared
on Mar 31, 2013 -
32 answers
So I met this guy online, we recently spoke over the phone for the first time and have spoken one other time after that. First conversation was about 20 minutes and the next was maybe 10 and took place this morning. We met on the type of dating site where people are matched for long-term relationships - what I'm trying to say here is we know we're not trying to just find friends. I am trying not to waste my time here and want to get to know what he is thinking so that if we're not on the same page I can move on, preferably before my membership online ends.
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posted by lilacp
on Mar 24, 2013 -
24 answers
It doesn't show up in pictures. I don't want to make a big deal out of it, but don't want it to seem like I'm trying to hide something. What should I do?
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posted by mermily
on Feb 27, 2013 -
25 answers
An 18-year-old girl I met online who I'm interested in dating's parents (who, I should note, are still financially supporting her) want all sorts of my info before they'll let her meet me and I believe they want it regardless if she meets me here or if I meet her there. Her parents want, among other things: My address and addresses and phone numbers of various family members of mine; scans of pieces of my ID; to check if I have a criminal record.
Is it wrong of me to want to withhold this info from them?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 27, 2013 -
96 answers
I met a guy through an online dating website who I like but am not attracted to. I'd like to meet with him again, but how do I manage this without leading him on? And is online dating always going to be like this?
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posted by starcrust
on Feb 21, 2013 -
29 answers
Don't worry, I'm not about to ask anyone 'But whyyyyy don't you like meeeee??'. I totally get that someone can be not-into-me for the colour of my t-shirt if they want: no harm, no foul. But I would like to know how much follow-up is normal after a first date, and also if anyone has any idea how I could get this so wrong?
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posted by Salamander
on Feb 17, 2013 -
39 answers
It's been 2 months. You have a great first date with a guy from internet. Chemistry! Romance! Sexual Attraction! Best first date ever. But the female has undesirable qualities. After a few more dates the female confronts the male about his intentions. He then calls her back in a passionate telephone call and says he's willing to have a go. Sadly, he seems to not really be that into her. He then again a few weeks later reiterates his fondness for the female, despite hang ups and she's now rethinking her position.
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posted by Danithegirl
on Jan 15, 2013 -
28 answers
Over the past 5 months, I've fallen into a deep relationship. I'm not sure where to go next and would like your thoughts.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 11, 2012 -
20 answers
Proposed a long-distance "meeting" trip with someone I've been interested in dating for several months. I agreed to pay for everything but now I'm feeling awkward about the entire thing. Details inside.
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posted by audio
on Sep 5, 2012 -
31 answers
My OkCupid profile--any suggestions? And what's the best way to initiate conversations with women?
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posted by Willpower
on Jun 29, 2012 -
51 answers
Dating dilemma - The type of people I want to date always seem to live in New York. I'm happy in my small town and don't want to move. How do I best approach this?
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posted by audio
on Apr 17, 2012 -
55 answers
Another online dating etiquette question: Is it ever acceptable to contact someone two times before hearing back from them? Or is that creepy?
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posted by seesom
on Apr 15, 2012 -
23 answers
Online dating never seems to progress past the smalltalk stage. What am I doing wrong? Most men who message me never ask me out. I've sometimes done the asking, but nothing has come of it. I've had to repel a lot of unsavory advances, but other than that, I get no offers. And lately, nobody has messaged me at all.
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posted by windykites
on Apr 9, 2012 -
22 answers
(TL;DR): He’s still online after 2 1/2 years. Now he’s engaged to my friend. I made the match. Do I do anything?
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posted by Lettuce_Leaves
on Mar 11, 2012 -
34 answers
Match.com-what is going on with his profile?
I can send him an email BUT can not click to view his profile
;(
This guy and I have been emailing bac and fourth -(would have been 3rd email from him) When I went to check my emails. Saw his default photo was taken off. I tried clicking on his profile... but I can't
*when I do try* the information reads: this profile information is "Addtional profile information is not avaliable''
BUT it shows he was actie with in 24 hrs.
Also, I can send him an email, as I drafted something and the email setting had no issue letting me do so.
What is going on with his profile?
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posted by titforatat33
on Feb 3, 2012 -
12 answers
Girl I am dating just admitted to me that her family was abusive and her older brother is still abusive towards her.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 20, 2012 -
29 answers
Reviewing my 8 month GAY dating experiment. What is causeing me to get these results?
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posted by ryker
on Jan 3, 2012 -
34 answers
Did I do a bad thing and ruin a good thing or be assertive and stand up for myself? Either way, what's the best way to handle things now?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 2, 2011 -
47 answers
I moved/relocated four months ago to a small island in SE Asia. I never really thought much about dating before this - I always seemed to have a partner if I wanted one - but there are so few single guys here looking for Western women that it might become a bit of an issue. But if I try online dating, my matches are likely to be from hundreds of miles away which could end up with me not meeting anyone that way either. Should I give it a go?
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posted by mudkicker
on Jul 27, 2011 -
10 answers
I've recently made chit-chat with an attractive barista at a coffee shop I frequent, mostly about the writing group I meet with there and a band we both like that she was playing over the sound system one day. This past weekend I signed into OKCupid for the first time in awhile, and she's one of the first matches that comes up for me. So now not only do I know that she's single, but that we both like several other bands, authors, shows and movies. We actually have a good bit in common. Do I exploit my new-found knowledge of her to make conversation in person (which is publicly posted, and it's not like I went looking for it), or do I message her on OKC in a "fancy meeting you here" sort of way? Which is less creepy?
posted by Zorz
on Jul 26, 2011 -
40 answers
From reading everything on Metafilter and from my own experience, it seems online dating is a game of numbers. With that in mind, I have been trying to meet a large number of men who seem to be a good match for me. My last relationship ended 6 months ago after 1.5 years together. Before I started dating him, I spent nearly 3 years single. I rarely feel attracted to men when I first meet them, but in the past two weeks, I have met two very interesting fellows who I would like to get to know better.
The issue is that my mind is completely monogamous.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 22, 2011 -
12 answers
I'm a below average looking guy to start with. In photos, though, I look like the troll from under the bridge. I'm going to sign up for online dating soon. How can I obtain a picture of myself that doesn't scare small children and pets—or, more importantly, 18-25 year old girls?
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posted by anonymous
on May 31, 2011 -
47 answers
If you Google your dates before meeting through online sites, how do you handle the knowing the answers to the mundane areas of their life before being told?
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posted by anonymous
on May 18, 2011 -
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I met a guy through OKC a couple of months ago. We've gone out five times and I'm still not feeling a spark. While it's not a complete "no", I'm beginning to worry that waiting to come around might not be a good idea either. When do or should you cut things off with someone when you're so unsure?
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posted by patientpatient
on Apr 6, 2011 -
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Online Dating Filter: I seem to be getting attention from every guy, but the ones I want, what am I doing wrong?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 23, 2010 -
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OnlineDatingEtiquetteFilter: I'm somewhat new to the online dating scene, opting for free sites such as OKCupid. As a guy interested in women, there's a few points of etiquette that I'm just not exactly sure how to handle. A series of questions after the cut.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 14, 2010 -
30 answers
Is this kind of thing a harbinger of worse things to come?
(I wish I could summarize this for TL;DR issues, but can't seem to do it in a way that makes sense!)
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 20, 2010 -
40 answers
I didn't think the whole "if you're persistent it'll work" thing would work, but it did and now I have a chance to get to know her better...what do I do? She's gorgeous and smart...now if I can just get her to laugh some more with me, I'll be on the right path. Or do I boast, or compliment?
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posted by talljamal
on Jul 15, 2010 -
25 answers
How would you approach dating, online and off, as a business problem? If you had to consider sales, marketing, consumer research -- what would you be doing to sell the product (i.e., the single you)? What are creative approaches to helping a girl find a guy?
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posted by AmitinLA
on Jun 21, 2010 -
23 answers
Adventures in online dating. Found someone on a personals site. She is sorta famous here in Seattle, and I know who exactly who she is. Should I contact her via the dating site (last login 3 months ago) or go straight to Facebook? Yes, I'm probably bean-plating this...
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posted by O9scar
on Jun 7, 2010 -
15 answers
Online dating: Often when I've met someone on an online dating site and emailing them back and for, it's hard to switch from emails to phone calls, or phone calls to an actual date. I'd say the vast majority of women I talk to just disappear at some point during this process. If I do manage to get a phone call, they won't respond after the first phone call, even when it seems like it was a really good conversation. Is this pretty typical? I'm wondering if I should be doing anything different. It's taking like months of work to get a single date and it's very frustrating.
posted by anonymous
on Feb 15, 2010 -
38 answers
