My girlfriend, who is lonely, used a dating site to make a "friend" which I'm having difficulty coping with. What should I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 14, 2013 -
80 answers
A few weeks ago I, a hetero male in his early 30s,
asked about dating and using OKCupid with some restrictions: no kids, no religion, no alcohol being the main ones. This is a follow-up to that AskMe, but going beyond OKCupid.
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posted by moonlit walk on the sun
on Jun 8, 2013 -
70 answers
Jumping back into the dating pool and hoping for some hacks and advice specific to finding the kind of people that interest me...
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posted by justonegirl
on May 29, 2013 -
25 answers
I've just started talking to this (really neat!) guy on OKCupid; I like him a lot & we seem to have a ton in common. However, we won't be in the same place until August. How do I gently steer him away from a penpal-esque situation while still keeping him interested?
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posted by anonymous
on May 26, 2013 -
12 answers
I'm childfree, meaning I don't have kids and don't want them. I'm also on the far end of the loner scale. I have some questions about finding a partner and using OKCupid to do it.
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posted by moonlit walk on the sun
on May 19, 2013 -
48 answers
I’m a late-30’s woman trying OKCupid for the first time. Can you give me general advice, some tips on keeping my expectations realistic, and suggestions to avoid getting too much of my self-esteem tied up in whether or not Random Dude responds to me?
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posted by Ms.Stocking
on May 8, 2013 -
31 answers
I'm on OkCupd, and I've been chatting with someone who seems pretty cool and cute. We made plans to meet on Sunday, but she said she was busy but wanted to meet up later. I had a free ticket to a movie yesterday, so I asked if she wanted to come out. Again, busy, so I said "Hey, I'm free on Thursday and Sunday if you want to meet, but if not it's cool". I got a message back saying "I did want to, just got busy. Not into the attitude though so lets leave it there."
The logical thing is just to leave it at that and not pursue her any more, but part of me wants to try and figure out if I can fix my mistake and at least meet up for a coffee to see if there's any chemistry there. Is it possible?
posted by Charlemagne In Sweatpants
on Apr 15, 2013 -
45 answers
Have you (or someone you know) been successful with individuals who are a low match for you on OKC?
I consider low to be below '80% Match'. This is assuming you've both answered at least a 100 questions. Success I consider to be at least a few months of going out. I'm trying to get a sense of whether it is reasonable to ignore contact from low-matching individuals or if those scores are just meaningless once you get to know someone in person. Should you give that person a shot or is it a waste of time? I'm not so much concerned with the friend or enemy score.
posted by who squared
on Mar 31, 2013 -
32 answers
I've slept with a lot of guys and only enjoyed it with like 10% of them. Are my standards too high, or too low, or what?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 18, 2013 -
21 answers
27 year old straight male living in Pittsburgh.
I'm doing the OkCupid thing. I would like to go on a few dates, but I don't know where to go for a first date. Elsewhere on AskMe, people have said that a first date with someone you met on Okcupid should be brief compared to a first date with someone you've known in person for a while. Makes sense. I could put together an awesome date that was three hours long, but when I try to think of something short and sweet, I'm at a loss.
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posted by UrbanEye
on Feb 5, 2013 -
18 answers
What are your tips to keeping the lines of communication open in the first few weeks of dating someone new?
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posted by toerinishuman
on Feb 3, 2013 -
6 answers
I arranged a date with one guy, then had another absolutely fantastic date in the interim, & really want to focus on that. Should I cancel the other date?
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posted by littlegreen
on Jan 24, 2013 -
19 answers
Someone "chose" me (rated 4 or 5 stars) on OKCupid. What should be my next move?
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posted by 3FLryan
on Sep 28, 2012 -
26 answers
Should I (and if so, how should I) reveal to my upcoming quasi-blind quasi-date that I look different than he expects me to?
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posted by mauvest
on Aug 21, 2012 -
44 answers
On dating sites/OKCupid: Once I get past the initial introductions, where do I go in the conversation? Alternately, could it be something in my profile that encourages people to not respond past the initial reaction?
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posted by CrystalDave
on Jul 5, 2012 -
20 answers
My experience with OKCupid has been somewhat frustrating. What can I do to improve my profile?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 1, 2012 -
45 answers
My OkCupid profile--any suggestions? And what's the best way to initiate conversations with women?
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posted by Willpower
on Jun 29, 2012 -
51 answers
Advice needed to transition back into casual and not-so casual online dating after a long time.
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posted by anonymous
on May 25, 2012 -
8 answers
Last fall, I
asked you guys for some help with my OkCupid profile. Your advice worked really well for me! I've changed a fair bit since then and now that I'm getting back into dating full-time I'm going back for round 2 with the hive mind.
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posted by modernserf
on May 2, 2012 -
18 answers
How important is it to have the perfect OKCupid profile? What might be wrong with mine?
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posted by veryblue1
on Apr 16, 2012 -
74 answers
Please teach me the etiquette of online dating/meeting people when there are just too many choices.
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posted by tryniti
on Mar 6, 2012 -
14 answers
PhillyGayPhilter: Online dating through OkCupid hasn't been working out well for me, but I'm not quite sure how else to do it now that I'm out of college. How do I meet other young-ish gay men in Philadelphia, in either meat-space or alternative digital pastures? Anxieties, personal details, and candy within!
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 20, 2012 -
10 answers
This is kind of a follow-up to
this question about seeing people on OkCupid that one knows offline in some capacity. I have a similar situation but an added wrinkle: I work with my potential match. Is this a good idea to pursue him or not?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 29, 2011 -
16 answers
I've recently made chit-chat with an attractive barista at a coffee shop I frequent, mostly about the writing group I meet with there and a band we both like that she was playing over the sound system one day. This past weekend I signed into OKCupid for the first time in awhile, and she's one of the first matches that comes up for me. So now not only do I know that she's single, but that we both like several other bands, authors, shows and movies. We actually have a good bit in common. Do I exploit my new-found knowledge of her to make conversation in person (which is publicly posted, and it's not like I went looking for it), or do I message her on OKC in a "fancy meeting you here" sort of way? Which is less creepy?
posted by Zorz
on Jul 26, 2011 -
40 answers
When I email people on dating sites, half the time they just disappear and stop responding, even if it seems like it's going well. What's going on?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 4, 2011 -
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Online dating question for the women of Metafilter : if a guy asks you out in the first email, do you automatically assume that he's a player, a creep, or otherwise undesirable? What if you email him first, and he asks you out in his first reply?
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posted by Sloop John B
on Feb 25, 2011 -
48 answers
Online Dating Filter: I seem to be getting attention from every guy, but the ones I want, what am I doing wrong?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 23, 2010 -
45 answers
How to become friends (not a romantic interest) with someone you just went on a date with through OkCupid?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 28, 2010 -
30 answers
