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sharing costs in a new relationship?

I'm in a fairly new relationship with my girlfriend. We've been dating 2 months and exclusive for the last month now. How can I bring up the topic of money to her in a mostly non-awkward way? I'm uncomfortable about talking about it, but I would definitely like some help on occasion with dating. She's 28, a registered nurse. I'm 30, work in IT Helpdesk. We both really like each other so far and I'd like to start bringing up topics like this in particular in our relationship. I really don't know how to word it or even when on a date to ask it? I've looked all around the internet, and there's a lot of advice on BRINGING it up but not what to say. I'm more than a little awkward with these things and almost want an EXACT scenario and script to go by. [more inside]
posted by isoman2kx on Oct 8, 2016 - 69 answers

GF is more successful than me, how do I deal?

My girlfriend is more successful than me. How do I keep myself from turning into a jealous weird guy? I want to celebrate and support her success, without getting bummed out and feeling emasculated. Looking for strategies (non-redpill) on how to not let this get to me, not blow my budget, and maintain my sense of masculinity. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 28, 2016 - 31 answers

What does it look like for financial values to fundamentally change?

My SO & I are in our 30’s, have been dating over a year and have been talking about marriage. We are having a crisis over our differing financial values. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 1, 2015 - 21 answers

Healthy ways of working with financial imbalances in relationships?

I grew up in a lower-middle-class family. Through a combination of hard work, opportunity and luck, I find myself in my 30's with a very decent net worth. It's enough to allow me to feel very secure about retirement, job/career changes, health issues, supporting family, etc. and this security is probably the most important aspect of money to me. For me, money means security, safety, freedom. I maintain a very middle-class lifestyle, continue to work full-time and save at a reasonable rate. I've started to realize how much this factors into my thinking about long term relationships, especially marriage (and its attendant family joining) and financial co-mingling, and am looking for some perspectives on positive ways of managing these kinds of issues. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 27, 2013 - 21 answers

Not another relationship questions!

Really, I'm NOT a princess. Successfully navigating the living style/lifestyle differences in the beginning of a relationships. How? [more inside]
posted by BlueMartini7 on Jul 8, 2012 - 30 answers

Money is power. Power corrupts.

I've realized there's a hole in my new-relationship toolkit, and it has to do with money - specifically, substantial income imbalances. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 4, 2012 - 26 answers

Does 'Miranda and Steve' really ever work?

Hey Succesful-ish Career Ladies! Have you ever dated a man who is much less successful/ambitious/well-remunerated or otherwise is in a much lower tax bracket than you? Can you tell me how you made it successful, or why it never will be? [more inside]
posted by Kololo on Dec 27, 2011 - 51 answers

He makes more but wants us to pay equally

How to fairly split expenses in a relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 10, 2011 - 50 answers

Romance drives people crazy but I'm kind of in the mood for it.

Have you ever gone through a long period where you wanted to be dating but couldn't? Looking for tips on how to re-frame being single. [more inside]
posted by venividivici on Jan 12, 2011 - 19 answers

How to meet people in the big city without spending a ton of money?

How to meet people in the big city without spending a ton of money? [more inside]
posted by JoannaC on Mar 26, 2010 - 13 answers

Craigslist Sugar Daddies have piqued my curiosity

What is the deal with men offering to be generous to a young college student who needs help or guys who claim they're normal and want a girlfriend but like paying for things? [more inside]
posted by thebazilist on Mar 21, 2010 - 23 answers

Keep the Money? Share the Money? Stupid Money.

I have a bit of a dilemma. I dated this guy last year, and he introduced me to a friend in order to get him hired at my company. Flash forward to now, and he's finally been hired, and a referral bonus is coming my way. More deets inside, natch. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 15, 2008 - 69 answers

Is there any way I can get back the money my girlfriend owes me?

Is there any way I can get back the money my girlfriend owes me? [more inside]
posted by abkadefgee on Feb 22, 2007 - 101 answers

How can a young stud meet a rich old lady?

How, and where, does a twenty-something guy find a rich sugar momma? [more inside]
posted by ThePinkSuperhero on Feb 27, 2005 - 39 answers

How to go Dutch in a Relationship

After reading this thread, a similar question came to mind. I have always been raised with the notion that you pay a girl's way as a gentleman, but as a student (and a poor one at that) this is often not entirely possible. My current girlfriend makes far more money than I do acting and modeling, and so she pays for the vast majority of our 'go out' experiences. This was fine for the first few months, but it's been over a year now and I feel like it somehow emasculates me to be taken out to dinner on a regular basis by my girlfriend. I know this seems sexist, but in all honesty I would love to just be able to pay my way (half) and not feel guilty/less-of-a-man. At times this feeling has gotten to the point that we've fought about what she can buy me, because of the way it makes me feel indebted (although she never holds it above me in any way). I do feel, though, that she uses her ability to buy me things as a way to make herself indispensable, to ensure I would never find 'anything better'. Should I tell her to stop taking me out and buying me extravagant gifts I can never repay (she took me to Amsterdam for my 21st birthday, for example), or just realize I'm the luckiest man in the world and stop bitching? Somehow I suspect the latter...
posted by anonymous on Feb 6, 2005 - 31 answers

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