I’ve had a small crush on a co worker that later turned into a pretty big one. It’s gotten to the point where I couldn’t get her off my mind and it was hard focusing on school work. I’m 25 and haven’t had much dating experience. In my younger years, middle school throughout high school, I had self esteem issues with being overweight and then with acne. I’ve come here seeking advice from a wide verity of experiences of both genders. I found a similar case to mine on here and found the answers very useful so I hope to get great advice from this community. I apologize in advance for a long winded background story but I wanted to make sure I get enough information out to aid you guys.
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posted by uberkrn
on Apr 15, 2013 -
21 answers
I am only approached by men who are much older than me. I approach men my age, and it doesn't go so well. How do I stop this?
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posted by koucha
on Mar 6, 2013 -
30 answers
21 year old college student with past relationship experience, but I can't get a date to save my life. I believe I know the problem(s) but I'm unsure how to get started in term of solving things.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 25, 2013 -
20 answers
I know the general practice for women is to date guys who seem into you, but what if guys don't seem into you?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 22, 2011 -
31 answers
I've recently made chit-chat with an attractive barista at a coffee shop I frequent, mostly about the writing group I meet with there and a band we both like that she was playing over the sound system one day. This past weekend I signed into OKCupid for the first time in awhile, and she's one of the first matches that comes up for me. So now not only do I know that she's single, but that we both like several other bands, authors, shows and movies. We actually have a good bit in common. Do I exploit my new-found knowledge of her to make conversation in person (which is publicly posted, and it's not like I went looking for it), or do I message her on OKC in a "fancy meeting you here" sort of way? Which is less creepy?
posted by Zorz
on Jul 26, 2011 -
40 answers
Does it make sense to ask someone out even when there aren't any signs that the other person is interested?
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posted by rwatson
on Mar 23, 2011 -
24 answers
How do men and women flirt differently? I'm a straight man who often comes off as feminine or gay, and I don't like it. I think it's ruining my success with women. Help?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 21, 2011 -
53 answers
Should I try online dating or stick to hoping to meet someone in the outside world? More details inside.
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posted by Polgara
on Feb 5, 2011 -
29 answers
I've realized that I can only relax and be myself around men I'm attracted to if I believe they are unavailable. How do I break through this mental barrier so I can relax with men who are available?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 11, 2011 -
11 answers
Given that I know my defence mechanisms are still operating on high after leaving an emotionally abusive relationship, and I keep getting cold feet with anyone who tries to get close to me, and yet still crave small doses of intimacy, how can I ethically conduct myself with people who are/could be interested in me?
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posted by Chrysalis
on Dec 21, 2010 -
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I'm a straight 29-year old male, who for various reasons has never dated and now is trying to get started. The problem is that I never learned how to flirt, and I'm totally clueless about how to either generate interest or recognize interest in others. What's worse, the standard "Martian's guides to dating" are almost useless to me because my primary social activities are forms of partner dancing, in which the norms of physical contact are different enough that I can't use the standard signals to judge someone's interest. So, what can I do to attract the ladies or notice when they're attracted to me?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 30, 2010 -
19 answers
How can I best deal with the unwanted romantic advances of someone I will be seeing on a regular basis? Special snowflake details inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 18, 2010 -
26 answers
All right. How difficult is it for women to flirt with men *really*? I often hear that just smiling at a dude is good enough, but how true is that? What tactics have been successful for you, ladies? What is it you gentlemen out there wish a woman would (reasonably) do in a social situation? I've read the SIRC guide to flirting, but I'm looking for some real world anecdotes to supplement that.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 12, 2010 -
38 answers
Mind-reading Filter: What does this mean - "Well, I'm totally booked up this week... I don't know what my schedule is next week."
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posted by XMLicious
on Aug 10, 2010 -
21 answers
What's the best way to keep things light and limit embarrassment for both people if the other person rejects you when you make a move?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 28, 2010 -
25 answers
Great with online dating, not so much in the real world. How can I better recognize when it's okay to ask someone out?
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posted by photo guy
on Jun 13, 2010 -
13 answers
Help a late-blooming dating newbie figure out the mysteries of entering a relationship.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 25, 2010 -
11 answers
I'm a twenty year old gay woman. For 2010, I want to learn how to flirt with other women.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 24, 2009 -
15 answers
I haven't had a crush since I was 14 and now I have a HUGE one. I have never had to be the pursuer before, but now I think I need to be. AskMeFi, teach me to flirt and pursue while still keeping me cool!!
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posted by SkylitDrawl
on Nov 16, 2009 -
19 answers
How do you tell the difference between someone who's an extrovert and someone who's romantically interested in you?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 21, 2009 -
23 answers
Previously dated men, now wants to date women. Problem: I can't tell when women are interested in me or if they just want to be friends.
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posted by Eleutherios
on Oct 13, 2009 -
17 answers
I recently read about a study on what body language women use as perceived by men. Essentially, it said that there was no observable difference between a woman trying to flirt with a man and the same woman just being polite for the first four or five minutes of their first conversation together. I'm trying to find out if this actually happened, and if so whether it was a reliable, scientifically done study, but I lost the link right after reading it.
posted by sandswipe
on Sep 27, 2009 -
8 answers
Please help a fella out with the next stage of his Courtship Reeducation Program: How to stay cool when you can't stay ambivalent?
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posted by EatTheWeak
on May 25, 2009 -
13 answers
Teach-a-Martian-to-socialize-filter: moving from flirting to "hey, come back to my place."
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 9, 2009 -
25 answers
Please explain the basic principles of flirting to me as if I were an alien who had recently landed on Earth trying to describe the phenomenon for my anthropological records or something.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 23, 2009 -
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RelationshipFilter & BizarreSituationFilter: Turns out this Co-worker I have been flirting with seems to like me BUT is going through a separation (thinking about divorce). She is in a delicate situation and I have no experience with this level of (possible) relationship. Should I proceed? How? THERE IS MUCH MORE.
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posted by DetonatedManiac
on Nov 12, 2008 -
28 answers
MeFites, I have a bit of a problem.
I'm a twenty-year-old heterosexual college female with, it seems, a nerd problem. I have never dated or kissed anyone in my life, and I'm starting to wonder if it's my personality that's the issue.
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posted by themaskedwonder
on Aug 25, 2008 -
80 answers
Help me Don Juan Kenobi, you're my only hope; or How do you stay flirtatious, witty, and mysterious when you REALLY like someone?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 4, 2008 -
12 answers
Does it sound like this guy is interested in me or not? I'm getting mixed signals here.
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posted by zembla3
on Feb 14, 2008 -
27 answers
AttractiveRetailWorkerFilter: If someone would like a date with someone they only see at retail/checkout, is there any acceptable way to communicate this, that doesn't impose on the worker or make their job harder/unpleasant if they're not interested?
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posted by -harlequin-
on Aug 26, 2005 -
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