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Starting online dating when you're still a bit a broken inside

I'm 30, male, British. Over the last few weeks I've felt the clouds of my latest depression begin to part and some sunlight poke through. I'm contemplating trying online dating again. How can I take advantage of this improvement whilst being careful not to over-tax myself and do an emotional crash-and-burn? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 20, 2014 - 12 answers

Dating while depressed?

Due to various life happenings, I am not in a great place mindset-wise and have more than a tinge of depression. I am also more than ever rather lonely, and would like a partner. I worry that subconsciously I am looking for someone to help "fix" and take care of me during this depression, which is not the best reason to date and would be unfair to whatever partner I might find. Then again, this loneliness could very well be contributing to my depression. Would it be a bad idea to date under these circumstances? Has anyone dated while depressed with positive results? Or should I wait until I am in a better frame of mind to search for a partner?
posted by CottonCandyCapers on Jan 29, 2014 - 14 answers

hurting over past relationship now more than when the break up happened

I feel like I'm going backwards with the break up over my past relationship which occured over six months ago. I was fine for months afterwards and, in the past couple of weeks, I've been feeling increasingly guilty over my behaviour toward my depressed ex and it hurts to think about memories together and him in general much more than it used to. Is it normal, could it be because our one year anniversary would have been in a few days? Why is it happening, when I feel like I care more about my current bf than I did him? Am I betraying him? What should I do? [more inside]
posted by opalshards on Sep 3, 2013 - 5 answers

dying alone with cats/fear of intimacy

I need to get over my fear of intimacy. I need help recognizing self-sabotaging behavior, when dealing with the opposite sex and otherwise, that is preventing me from having a grown-up healthy heterosexual relationship. [more inside]
posted by DayTripper on Aug 4, 2013 - 18 answers

Date or wait?

I'm a man in his mid-twenties. I've never been in a relationship. I've never even taken anyone out on a date. I want to rectify this, but I think my mental health and my living situation prevent me from doing so. Should I even try to date? If not, what should I do? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 10, 2013 - 35 answers

My friend with anxiety won't help himself and I don't know what to do

A friend of mine refuses to address his anxiety issues. I don't want to lose him as a friend, but also don't know how much more I can take. Please help. [more inside]
posted by stedman15 on May 28, 2013 - 15 answers

Dating and OKCupid as a childfree loner

I'm childfree, meaning I don't have kids and don't want them. I'm also on the far end of the loner scale. I have some questions about finding a partner and using OKCupid to do it. [more inside]
posted by moonlit walk on the sun on May 19, 2013 - 49 answers

Taking time off from a relationship

My boyfriend and I have been dating for five months. After a big fight this weekend, we've decided to take a week off from seeing each other. Has this strategy EVER improved a relationship? &How do I best manage anxiety this week? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 3, 2013 - 21 answers

dating a depressive - post mortem

I've been dating a depressive for about 4 months and just recently called things off with him because I couldn't handle all the baggage that comes with dating one - like withdrawal or detachment, in communication or otherwise. It was fine for the first couple months but when he got given longer hours at work, we communicated/saw each other less to the point where I sounded like I was practically begging him for time to meet. [more inside]
posted by brokenwitch on Nov 15, 2012 - 30 answers

Is there a place for me and my sexuality?

Middle-aged, relatively inexperienced and kinky in the "wrong" way. Should I just give up hope? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 8, 2012 - 25 answers

Can't not be friendzoned

(23-year-old straight male) After moving to a new city 2 1/2 years ago and suffering a series of setbacks which I've mostly rebounded from, I've found it impossible to make any progress at all with anyone of the opposite gender. I have my shit together, am well-liked by most despite having always been pretty socially awkward and anxious, and am thought of by my friends as smart, funny and charming, but I just can't get beyond the friendzone. What am I doing wrong? Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by denmarkstreet on Mar 3, 2012 - 17 answers

Hung up on a hook-up

Help, I'm still depressed about a woman that stopped calling me ages ago [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 6, 2012 - 13 answers

How do I break jealous thought patterns?

Ex-girlfriend jealousy, my-own-brain-originating-type. How do I break jealous thought patterns? [more inside]
posted by ArgyleMarionette on Dec 16, 2011 - 17 answers

Too sad to be good convo partner?

Ok, so I've been having this problem lately (and I think it's related to my recent depression) where I meet new people and kind of expect that I'll never develop any friendship with them, but then it actually does happen, and I realize in horror that when they bring up previous conversations we've had, I act completely clueless because I didn't bother to remember it in the first place, and they say something like, "Remember we were talking about how my mom lives literally right next door to you?" (seriously, that happened today) and I remember suddenly, but clearly have already made it obvious that I didn't remember it in the first place... That's been happening a lot lately, and I want to know how to recall what I talked about with people more. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 1, 2011 - 8 answers

Please help me find a purpose in life.

Please help me find a purpose in life. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 16, 2011 - 15 answers

How anonymous got his groove back

I have lost all of my motivation to do even a modicum of a half-decent job at work. Has anyone dealt with this? How do I get back into the groove of things? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 1, 2011 - 23 answers

Bikes, books, Brooklyn, and boredom: help me normalize my expectations of OkCupid.

Please help me manage my expectations about online dating! [more inside]
posted by sideofwry on Jun 19, 2011 - 24 answers

Is this what it's like to date while depressed?

I feel depressed and completely unmotivated by school. I think its correlated with the fact I'm in a new relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 7, 2011 - 8 answers

Should I continue to date while struggling with depression?

Should I date/continue to date someone while trying to deal with my depression? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 1, 2011 - 24 answers

How do you tell someone you're dating their lifestyle is hurting them?

[relationship filter] How do I tell the person I'm seeing they drink and sleep too much without sounding demanding or preachy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 11, 2010 - 16 answers

How should I move forward?

The New Year is approaching and I need some guidance on how to move forward with my life. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 26, 2009 - 13 answers

I was so horny it made me sad.

Depressionfilter: Help me understand a sudden increase in libido and its emotional aftermath. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 5, 2009 - 9 answers

RelationshipFilter: How do I convince her I'm not scared?

RelationshipFilter: How can I convince this girl that her issues don't scare me and I really do want to be with her? Rambling details and soul-baring inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 1, 2009 - 48 answers

Expressing concern without seeming preachy

Help me come up with a (very tactful) way to entreat my boyfriend to seek treatment for depression/anxiety. (long background story) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 19, 2008 - 8 answers

Please help me sort out my anxiety-related relationship problems and help me to have an open heart.

Please help me sort out my anxiety-related relationship problems and help me to have an open heart. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 30, 2008 - 6 answers

Out with the old, in with the new

Shortly after we moved to a new town, my partner fell into a deep depression. She shot me down every time I suggested that we go out and do something fun, or made amorous advances. That precipitated my own, milder depression. We're both better now, and love each other very much, but we're still in a rut, and I'm gun-shy. How can we get over this hump? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 3, 2008 - 11 answers

Dating for the relatively grounded?

I know a great deal about how romantic relationships develop with insecure people, but very little about what happens when the participants are already comfortable in their own shoes. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 18, 2008 - 13 answers

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